HemmanuelRichy:
My thought exactly. I would gain nothing by exposing her to my friend rather I would scatter a four years relationship at first contact. I would go look for her tomorrow and try to talk sense into her skull. if she doesn't bulge, I will have no choice than to spill the beans.

Thank you Boss.

Keep off man, what's your own in it?
It's your friend that you need to talk to codedly (that's if he's a smart one who does not let his emotion to get the better of him)
Love is not by force.
She may or may not be into your friend

my Man will always say " you don't lose a friend for your girlfriend because your friend will always be there (needed or not) while the girlfriend will move on when the weather is no longer favourable " I get angry whenever he says this but it is true.. if I were you I do tell my friend that night or the next morning cos he trust me that's why he entrusted his gf to my care.. A word is enough for the wise!!! I drop my pen

HemmanuelRichy:
To be sincere, I wanted to confirm if she was the babe in question. He is coming around tomorrow. I seriously don't want him to loose his girlfriend. I would talk to her and see if she can turn a new leaf.

How long will you continue to talk to her?
She's just in 100level, and she's going to meet other dudes after you have left the school.
My candid advise (as a married man) is to codedly let you friend to accept the reality of the situation.

harlayoh:
my Man will always say " you don't lose a friend for your girlfriend because your friend will always be there (needed or not) while the girlfriend will move on when the weather is no longer favourable " I get angry whenever he says this but it is true.. if I were you I do tell my friend that night or the next morning cos he trust me that's why he entrusted his gf to my care.. A word is enough for the wise!!! I drop my pen

Another food for thought here.
Thank you harlayoh

I see nothing wrong in what the bae did, that's a typical university Bae for u, the guy she was dating b4 she enter school is ' at home boyfriend ' ,the one in school is 'department bf' along the line there would be ' mishai boyfriend ' ,anti boredom bf ( this one get all the sweet gist for this world, any time she is bored she calls this guy) , fun bf, and many more, they all come handy x

Make your guy just enjoy the category wey e dey, make e nor too put feelings, Dem nor they give award put like " MOST CARING BOYFIREND

harlayoh:
my Man will always say " you don't lose a friend for your girlfriend because your friend will always be there (needed or not) while the girlfriend will move on when the weather is no longer favourable " I get angry whenever he says this but it is true.. if I were you I do tell my friend that night or the next morning cos he trust me that's why he entrusted his gf to my care.. A word is enough for the wise!!! I drop my pen

His friend is not in iminiet danger, so there is no need of getting emotional about this.
Tell him, yes, but at the right time.
This is probably not her first-time 'flings', and i doubt if it's going to be her last
The saving his friend needs is for him to accept the reality of the situation.
We all lose bea/boos, it's not the end of the world.

even married men don't monitor their wives this way, not to talk of boyfriend

Trina0936:
Best comment so far! You try!

Lol. President of US indeed

Ajusshi:

How long will you continue to talk to her?
She's just in 100level, and she's going to meet other dudes after you have left the school.
My candid advise (as a married man) is to codedly let you friend to accept the reality of the situation.

Okay sir.

Thank you for your advise.

Tell your friend please. Such girl who will hastily get a new bf within a short time is not worth it. If u really call d guy your friend please save him from the trauma ahead n from wasting his time on her. Best way is to invite your friend over and have him trail d said gf for a while himself and see things also for himself. But make sure that he doesn't alert the gf he is coming.

Go to school, no. Now you can't even understand a simple write up.

Brother, tell your friend. No need to hide anything. Whores everywhere

TrapQueen77:
it's very long story... I don't get it anyway

You should tell im datz d ryt tin to do..tho u shouldn't av confronted d gal dat minute..u for jxt take pics or record d convo between u two..cuz ur frnd may nt believe u..cept u also bring her coursemate as evidence...but tell me pls wat if tz ur friend datz being unloyal..wil u tell d gal?..like wil u even come here to yarn us..u guys may jxt joke over it

Relationships these days are just becoming too stressful haba
I feel for both the girl and the guy sha.
She doesn't know she's just being used, thats how those so-called student leaders/politicians are.
Eventually things will come crashing down

Tell your friend, then also tell him that he shouldn't say anything to the girl. He should if he likes consider himself single and feel free to get another babe.

The girl has broken up with him by having another boyfriend, which she didn't hide.
So your guy doesn't need to breakup or do anything as the girl has already broken up with him.

E go pain wella, but make him just save himself from the heartache.

Left for me I won't advice or say anything to the girl, experience is the best teacher. Let her learn the brutal way so that she'll respect the next man (prolly her husband) that she dates. She's old enuf to make decisions and face the consequences of her actions.

God bless her and your friend and you.

HemmanuelRichy:
I would stick with the latter...
Thank you Boss

U welcome bro

Guy, for me na waka pass! If your friend decide to mumu for where woman de, na him wahala be dat. Never come between a man and his woman, ever! Friendship no de for woman matter, I have nothing further!

chocolateme:
Ok.. is it that she begged you not to tell your friend with promises to break out the relationship she just started with the guy or not to tell your friend while she continues to enjoy the new guy?which one? Because ndi igbo si na "ekwue anughi na egbu umuazi but na ahu ekwughi na egbu okenye"
Call her to attention, give her options to either forget your friend now and continue with the campus guy before things gets messier or forget about campus live, focus on her studies and retain her man..
Let her know that you are not a fool too. Then let your friend know before he spends his life savings on someone that is not worth it. Thsts if he is truly your friend. We all know that predators will continue coming for her while in school but she should read a lot about how such relationships ended.



Always me

FTC
CHOCOLATEME

You spoke well.

CaraJewel:
You should tell im datz d ryt tin to do..tho u shouldn't av confronted d gal dat minute..u for jxt take pics or record d convo between u two..cuz ur frnd may nt believe u..cept u also bring her coursemate as evidence...but tell me pls wat if tz ur friend datz being unloyal..wil u tell d gal?..like wil u even come here to yarn us..u guys may jxt joke over it

You don't expect him to tell the girl, neither will you expect a girl to tell her friends bf if she's fooling around.

Right now sef I'm in a dangerous situation. Cos I'm loving my bae with all the love I can give.. And it will be very disheartening if I get heartbroken... Again...

Nawa o

Is not a matter of telling your friend or not. My own is, why coming on this platform? Do you want to tell me you friend do not visit nairaland? Or are u indirectly telling your friend? Which will make you a coward. I fault you guys that bring up matters like this here and they make front page. Even if you do not post it directly. Your ask someone to do the posting. There no how if I am your friend, I read this story I will not know it concern me. Why telling the world? Please we should be mature.

HemmanuelRichy:
I'm seriously confused on what o do. The worse part of it is that I chat with my friend on daily basis. I just dey shake my head in self pity for him any time he uses her picture on his dp.

Bro you have to tell him. Thats not how we roll .
My friend/brother did something similar for me
he was working in the same town with a girl I was seeing.
He told me straight up.bI suspected sha but he confirmed it plus names etc. I will remain grateful for that intel

HemmanuelRichy:
I will try to make this very snappy.

I have a childhood friend who is so very much in love with his girlfriend of 4-5years. (Whom I have never met) Fortunately, the girl in question got admission to the school I currently am and she was offered the course I am also studying.

My friend called me and told that his Bae was given admission to study the same course I am studying, and he begged me to keep tabs on her. I assured him that I would try. (me wey no get time)

He sent me her pictures and told me to look for her at her where she receive lectures and get to know her better. I assured him that would i will of which I never did due to the distance of her lecture hall. I was optimistic that I would eventually see her one of these days.

Two weeks ago, my friend called me, after exchanging pleasantries he gave the phone to his Bae. I greeted her and congratulated her on getting admission to study the best course on campus. She begged me for past exam questions and handouts, I promised to give her the ones I would lay my hands on. I also advised her not be carried away with guys on campus, she thanked me and promised not to disappoint my friend.

I got to meet another girlfriend of my friend Bola (not her real name) who happened to be the same class she was. I asked her if she knows Joy (my friend's girl friend..not her real name too) I showed her the pictures my friend sent to me on my phone for easy identification. She immediately told me that she was their course rep and the most popular figure in her class.

Fast forward that same night in my course mate birthday party, Bola came to where i sat and told me that Joy was dancing with a guy in the middle of the hall. (It was quite dark and I couldn't really notice the faces of the people dancing)

I stood up and wanted of meet her for the first time, I got a shocker when the guy she was dancing with (I know the guy very well, he is my senior and I was one of his main man in his electioneering campaign team) sighted me and hugged me, he introduced her to me as his girlfriend and shook hands with her I was dumfounded and returned to my seat.

A girl I spoke with two weeks ago.. having a boyfriend already. I was perplexed. I wanted to confirm if she was truly the person, she went outside and I followed her. I stopped her and she responded with a smile. I asked her if they guy was truly her boyfriend, she said yes and confirmed my my fears. I asked her how long they were dating , she said she met him when she was doing her registeration. She asked why I was asking, I told her that I was feeling for my friend. She asked what i meant by that. I brought out my phone and showed her my friend picture. she started begging me and I pleaded that I should not tell my friend nothing.

I avoided her like a plague till the party ended.

This incident happened on Sunday night and I have been thinking on what to do.

should I tell my friend?

Either you tell your friend this night or the girl tells him but in her own version you will be the guy trying to date her after getting her number from your friend.


You have already committed a blunder by going to her

yorex2011:


You don't expect him to tell the girl, neither will you expect a girl to tell her friends bf if she's fooling around.

Right now sef I'm in a dangerous situation. Cos I'm loving my bae with all the love I can give.. And it will be very disheartening if I get heartbroken... Again...

Nawa o

xo y u wid her wen u knw tz already dangerous..ur already avin headache ontop heartbreak dat hasnt happen....like u already knw it wuld happen...girls get heartbroken too..itz jxt depends on how one manage it...itz bad tho.

yorex2011:
Relationships these days are just becoming too stressful haba
I feel for both the girl and the guy sha.
She doesn't know she's just being used, thats how those so-called student leaders/politicians are.
Eventually things will come crashing down

Tell your friend, then also tell him that he shouldn't say anything to the girl. He should if he likes consider himself single and feel free to get another babe.

The girl has broken up with him by having another boyfriend, which she didn't hide.
So your guy doesn't need to breakup or do anything as the girl has already broken up with him.

E go pain wella, but make him just save himself from the heartache.

Left for me I won't advice or say anything to the girl, experience is the best teacher. Let her learn the brutal way so that she'll respect the next man (prolly her husband) that she dates. She's old enuf to make decisions and face the consequences of her actions.

God bless her and your friend and you.

God bless you too sir.

yorex2011:


You don't expect him to tell the girl, neither will you expect a girl to tell her friends bf if she's fooling around.

Right now sef I'm in a dangerous situation. Cos I'm loving my bae with all the love I can give.. And it will be very disheartening if I get heartbroken... Again...

Nawa o

Girls tellin on dia friends has been happening since 19BC even guys do it too...even wen d pson didnt do anytin.dat one is mostly too much jealousy and anger and envy

HemmanuelRichy:
To be sincere, I wanted to confirm if she was the babe in question. He is coming around tomorrow. I seriously don't want him to loose his girlfriend. I would talk to her and see if she can turn a new leaf.

bro,do u honestly think if shes keeps screwing d other guy she will tell you? Just tell him. How hard is that ? Real men put their friends 1st before girlfriends. If you decide to talk to her again you are not a good friend. Forgive me. Your friend would eventually find out,man up.

I am tired of people.they will never see better thing to tell your bf about you. always this.. she
cheats,smokes,hang out with bad friends,she is not of good conducts.they will not see good stories to say like..she is a good gal,she is prayerful,she socializes responsibly, she is loyal...#reallytiredofbadcomments#

OP, I'm conflicted.

On one hand I want to tell you to stay in your land but I also realize that Bros before HotelOscarEchos

chocolateme:
Ok.. is it that she begged you not to tell your friend with promises to break out the relationship she just started with the guy or not to tell your friend while she continues to enjoy the new guy?which one? Because ndi igbo si na "ekwue anughi na egbu umuazi but na ahu ekwughi na egbu okenye"
Call her to attention, give her options to either forget your friend now and continue with the campus guy before things gets messier or forget about campus live, focus on her studies and retain her man..
Let her know that you are not a fool too. Then let your friend know before he spends his life savings on someone that is not worth it. Thsts if he is truly your friend. We all know that predators will continue coming for her while in school but she should read a lot about how such relationships ended.

I

Always me

FTC
CHOCOLATEME

There's no need for plenty advice and wasting of time. Two of your friends are involved. The one in campus and the other outside the campus.

The girl may never be able to leave the campus guy and if she does and the campus guy finds out you are the cause, this also is another problem.

I think you made a mistake, you shouldn't have revealed your identity to the girl whichever way, if the guy outside the campus is indeed your friend, you just have to find away to make him quit cos that girl is a cheat forever.

7Randall:

Lol. President of US indeed

If you see ordinary local govt councillor post sef,you go grab am with two hands and two legs as I dey look u.

nnamdi1993:
People wey i dey pity na guy wey thier babes dey uni,dem go dey hwz dey beat chest dat she cant do it. At dis level i dey nw,i no fit date babe wey still dey skul ooo, dem go jst use ur heart play pes2016

Lmao very true. If only people know what people are doing..

Kudos to all the faithful guys/baes out there.

Nigga stfu and face your books and your biz. She's just looking for a bigger dck to fill her up till your friend comes. By the way don't you have your own girl to check up on rather than checking up on someone else's girl. Nigga get a life.

That's d more reason u would not hav show urself 2her wen u confirmed it was her. But inspite of all this, u still have to tell ur frnd or loose ur frnd 4ever wen he finds out that u knew, because he's gonna brk up sum day and d gurl would open up 2him dat u knew and u kept quiet.... b wise, man.

HemmanuelRichy:
I be wan give the girl second chance maybe she fit change.

let's look at it this way, if I decide to tell my friend and the two decide to make thing up between themselves, which eye you wan make the babe take look me? I go be her worse enemy.

CaraJewel:
xo y u wid her wen u knw tz already dangerous..ur already avin headache ontop heartbreak dat hasnt happen....like u already knw it wuld happen...girls get heartbroken too..itz jxt depends on how one manage it...itz bad tho.

Lol.. Not like I know it would happen o.. But the possibility does exist and if i find myself in the position again, would be the second time, and it would seem like i don't want to learn