NothingLikeLove:


Yes, I told him more than once that I'll divorce him if he doesn't change, most times he'll promise to work on himself, but after one week, he'll go back to his former self. This last one, he threatened that no one can separate us, not even me. Somebody told me to stop telling him about the divorce thing because he might harm me.

he just might kill you. According to you he said ' no one can separate you two', just divorce him

Ishilove:
I don't understand. Is it that people don't seek to know the will of God again before marrying?

they seek their will not that of God

justmenoni:
tosyne2much come here with immediate speed i won't call that irunobo cos he she's over experienced in issues such as this one.

This one no be my ministry oooo

NothingLikeLove:
Hello fam, I need advice please. I met this man two yrs ago and we got married last year January. During our courtship, he portrayed himself in a good light. A week after our marriage, his true colors started coming out. It's been one problem or the other. He nags a lot, he doesn't forgive even when I plead for forgiveness if I offend him. It was a month after our marriage, he started revealing shocking things about himself, how he was told by a doc that he can never father a child, tho it could be cured, and many others. I got tired of the marriage because of his ill attitude towards me plus these shocking revelation, but because my faith kicks against divorce except on the ground of adultery, I try all I can to save my marriage. He's very jealous to the extent that he suspects every call I receive. He feels I'm cheating on him because according to him, his previous experience made him not to trust any female.

There was a day he beat me because he was suspecting that the phone call I had was from a man, yet that day it was my mum who called, but because I was pissed by his distrust, I refused to tell him who I was talking with on phone. He even threatened to shoot me if he had a gun.

That apart, he refused to go for treatment to cure his impotency, despite the pressure I mount on him. He keeps blaming it on lack of fund, so I had to give him money, since I'm a salary earner, he used the money for something else instead.

To cut the story short, the last straw, was when he converted to a Muslim and has been pressuring me to do same. And this is highly against my religious belief and I will never do it. He's been threatening fire and brimstone since then. I reported all that has been going on to his people and then mine, so they can help us. He denied all. Even denied that he's impotent and that I never gave him money to go for cure.

I had to leave my matrimonial home because I was scared. Right now am considering filling for divorce, since his attitude is very bad, he cannot impregnate me and has refused to seek help, he cannot take care of my needs financially because of his poor status and worse off, has joined a faith I will never be part of no matter his pressure. I don't know if divorce is the right action to take or I should give him time to change. Am confused please.

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you can divorce him because you were never married to him. marriage under pretense is false. had it been you are aware of his disability before marriage it is understandable. he was aware of this and he kept it to himself then you never do any marriage my sister. start searching for your husband.

HOW THE HELL DID YOU GET MARRIED TO HIM IN THE FIRST INSTANCE?? IF YOU'VE BEEN A VERY GOOD CHRISTIAN LIKE YOU ATTEMPT TO CONVINCE ME HERE, DID YOU NOT SEEK THE FACE OF THE LORD BEFORE EVEN COURTING HIM? IF YOU ARE BEEN LED OF THE HOLY SPIRIT YOU WILL NEVER BE IN SUCH. BUT SINCE THE DEED IS DONE ONE THING ONLY IS LEFT FOR YOU TO DO WHICH IS; DIVORCE

My say on this issue,is for you to quit. Because your so called husband did not realise that you have freedom of worship and so he thinks he can control every sphare of your life,which is not suppose to be so.

It is wth so much grieve and heartfelt I joined in this woes called marriage of yours.Though I hardly comment on any forum but I was moved in your own situation. I'm not going to put any blame on you because we are blinded by our desires leaving us onesided to facts and truth. I really like your strong heart which shows of how emotionally intelligent you are in the face of marriage blows joined with distrust,abuse, sexual failing and not able to conceive due to his impotency. This is not one of the worst situation in marriage but the least breaks a marriage if not handled in good faith and communication. However, it is high time to draw closer to God and hear from him for next action with underneath plans for your safety. Your next line of action should be how to secure your life and seek the face of God, I know God has the best solutions to every mankind problems. This is my 10 cent for a sister behind the screen. I pray God intervention to come your way as soon as possible. I know you will be strong,for God is your strength.

U should thank god the marriage has not produced any child yet, better run .

I'm sure that there is something fundamental that the man saw in you that he didn't notice before the marriage. All those talk about I'm impotent, I'm now a Muslim are met to push you out of his life. Divorce him so that you can still have some dignity.

Ishilove:
I don't understand. Is it that people don't seek to know the will of God again before marrying?

and wat exactly is d will of God in dis subject matter?

spafu:
Let him try Kegel

lol. Wetin concern kegel and impotency?

Good advice...

cbi24:
You have just told us his own part alone.

what about your part (part b)

See if a man dont have money and he can not satisfy you
on bed is very worst.

I am talking because I have been there.

I know how i felt when I did not have money
I cant even have good S e x with my wife.

You need to be patience.

You are just new in this game.

Do not nag

do not pick some calls that will make him feel you are
see someone else

Recommend a solution for him

Talk to him calmly even when he shout on you.

Go and read the book I attached to this post
and do what you have there in the next
40days.

For the Low sperm count and other sexual challenge I can help your husband.
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Any man that is capable of beating his wife,can one day kill her....you better run for your dear life before somrthing else happene...an advice though

My sis I feel u pain but my advice for u is dat when thing are going this way, Go on your knees. Tell it to GOD. He owns the heart of everyone.. am sure he will hear and answer u. When all hope is lost. GOD is the answer. Never u think of divorce as the solution. Two wrongs don't amke a right. God be with you.

Madam nothinglikelove, your husband is abusive, deceitful, financially unstable and above all an impotent. With all these, you can divorce him. I mean my Catholic faith is against divorce but divorce is accepted based on deceit, your husband never told you before you got married that he has low sperm count, he waited till he married you thinking by then you will have no choice but to stay, and to top it all he also beats you up, then he converted to a Muslim and he is threatening you to join him, na by force? Madam run with all your might and leave that marriage, it was never meant to be, he lied to you, he wasn't and isn't truthful. With all these evidences especially that of him not telling you about his medical condition before marriage, you can seek for an annulment with it. Good luck

Madam nothinglikelove, your husband is abusive, deceitful, financially unstable and above all an impotent. With all these, you can divorce him. I mean my Catholic faith is against divorce but divorce is accepted based on deceit, your husband never told you before you got married that he has low sperm count, he waited till he married you thinking by then you will have no choice but to stay, and to top it all he also beats you up, then he converted to a Muslim and he is threatening you to join him, na by force? Madam run with all your might and leave that marriage, it was never meant to be, he lied to you, he wasn't and isn't truthful. With all these evidence especially that of him not telling you about his medical condition, you can seek for an annulment. Good luck

Borrow Usain bolt legs to run,rubbish

NothingLikeLove:
Hello fam, I need advice please. I met this man two yrs ago and we got married last year January. During our courtship, he portrayed himself in a good light. A week after our marriage, his true colors started coming out. It's been one problem or the other. He nags a lot, he doesn't forgive even when I plead for forgiveness if I offend him. It was a month after our marriage, he started revealing shocking things about himself, how he was told by a doc that he can never father a child, tho it could be cured, and many others. I got tired of the marriage because of his ill attitude towards me plus these shocking revelation, but because my faith kicks against divorce except on the ground of adultery, I try all I can to save my marriage. He's very jealous to the extent that he suspects every call I receive. He feels I'm cheating on him because according to him, his previous experience made him not to trust any female.

There was a day he beat me because he was suspecting that the phone call I had was from a man, yet that day it was my mum who called, but because I was pissed by his distrust, I refused to tell him who I was talking with on phone. He even threatened to shoot me if he had a gun.

That apart, he refused to go for treatment to cure his impotency, despite the pressure I mount on him. He keeps blaming it on lack of fund, so I had to give him money, since I'm a salary earner, he used the money for something else instead.

To cut the story short, the last straw, was when he converted to a Muslim and has been pressuring me to do same. And this is highly against my religious belief and I will never do it. He's been threatening fire and brimstone since then. I reported all that has been going on to his people and then mine, so they can help us. He denied all. Even denied that he's impotent and that I never gave him money to go for cure.

I had to leave my matrimonial home because I was scared. Right now am considering filling for divorce, since his attitude is very bad, he cannot impregnate me and has refused to seek help, he cannot take care of my needs financially because of his poor status and worse off, has joined a faith I will never be part of no matter his pressure. I don't know if divorce is the right action to take or I should give him time to change. Am confused please.

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Badgers14:
Ife ne eme oooo..

Your answer is in your last paragraph... Just like they say, knowing the problem is half the battle. This dude now knows his problem but refused to solve it... WhT a heartless being he is by the way are you sure he isn't hiding something else

He doesn't make you happy, changed religion and is forcing you to change too... Na wa oooo... Which kin life

Nne run for your life ooo, i usually don't recommend divorce but i think you have a case here and that might be your option..

Dont worry about what people will say.... Always remember that whatever you do in life, people must talk so do what's in your best interest and let them talk...

All the best dear

Cheers!

I thought I read the part where she says her religion welcomes divorce only if her partner is involved in adultery. Why are you now recommending divorce for her when she is not ready to change her faith to have excuse for genuine divorce?
Lol. I'm just playing with your head, though logically.

#teamdivorce#... Thank God u earn salary.as a married woman I can't take half of what u just narrated before I will sharply divorce the die.

wot God has joined togeda let no man put assunder. it is nt every marriage that took place dat God has hands in it. urs is a case study. God has no hand in it. it is dead from d begining. my dear,leave him. and start a new life. d ealier u do dat d beta

My friend run!

Someone threatening you with hypothetical gun is very dangerous.

God wants you to be alive and divorced than dead and married.

Vincent41:


for the fact he has converted to the most Peacefull Religion on earth,Run for ur life cos he must either kill u or behead u for their foolish god.......islam is evil,run and divorce him!!!

How old are you because you sure need help ASAP?

Are u saying everything is his fault and u don't have any. U don't abuse him. For him to act that way it means u have abused him with his problem of impotency. If not, May God pls u through.

NosaHenry:
I'm sure that there is something fundamental that the man saw in you that he didn't notice before the marriage. All those talk about I'm impotent, I'm now a Muslim are met to push you out of his life. Divorce him so that you can still have some dignity.

Part of my concern though. He wasn't working before she agreed to marry him, why did she marry him back then? Why is she bringing the issue of working or not working up now? I can relate to other issues that were hidden to you before marriage but his financial status? No!

NosaHenry:
I'm sure that there is something fundamental that the man saw in you that he didn't notice before the marriage. All those talk about I'm impotent, I'm now a Muslim are met to push you out of his life. Divorce him so that you can still have some dignity.

Not true because he would have told me besides he knows everything about me even before the marriage. He knew my weaknesses and my strength before the marriage. I don't pretend for any reason in the world and he knows that. He's feeling insecure according to him because of his past experience. He's actually impotent. I'll keep the details. He's a muslim. Even yesterday when I invited him to service, he categorically told me he'll only attend if I register my name as a muslim first.

Why will he threaten that he will never let anyone separate us including me, that we are stuck for life, if he really wants me out of his life? I even begged him to divorce me, if he's lost interest, he told me he will never do that. Omoh God dey.

Tospark:


Have you married?? She asked for advise not mislead..
Even if she eventually dump the nigga, what assurance that the next nigga is saint..

. How did I mislead her? So if she is your sister you will tell her to wait and endure abi? What am I saying sef,maybe that is how you treat your woman too(by beating her because she received a call).

Thanks guys. I appreciate all the advice given. I've learnt a lot from them. God will see me through this ordeal.

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NothingLikeLove:
Hello fam, I need advice please. I met this man two yrs ago and we got married last year January. During our courtship, he portrayed himself in a good light. A week after our marriage, his true colors started coming out. It's been one problem or the other. He nags a lot, he doesn't forgive even when I plead for forgiveness if I offend him. It was a month after our marriage, he started revealing shocking things about himself, how he was told by a doc that he can never father a child, tho it could be cured, and many others. I got tired of the marriage because of his ill attitude towards me plus these shocking revelation, but because my faith kicks against divorce except on the ground of adultery, I try all I can to save my marriage. He's very jealous to the extent that he suspects every call I receive. He feels I'm cheating on him because according to him, his previous experience made him not to trust any female.

There was a day he beat me because he was suspecting that the phone call I had was from a man, yet that day it was my mum who called, but because I was pissed by his distrust, I refused to tell him who I was talking with on phone. He even threatened to shoot me if he had a gun.

That apart, he refused to go for treatment to cure his impotency, despite the pressure I mount on him. He keeps blaming it on lack of fund, so I had to give him money, since I'm a salary earner, he used the money for something else instead.

To cut the story short, the last straw, was when he converted to a Muslim and has been pressuring me to do same. And this is highly against my religious belief and I will never do it. He's been threatening fire and brimstone since then. I reported all that has been going on to his people and then mine, so they can help us. He denied all. Even denied that he's impotent and that I never gave him money to go for cure.

I had to leave my matrimonial home because I was scared. Right now am considering filling for divorce, since his attitude is very bad, he cannot impregnate me and has refused to seek help, he cannot take care of my needs financially because of his poor status and worse off, has joined a faith I will never be part of no matter his pressure. I don't know if divorce is the right action to take or I should give him time to change. Am confused please.

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Babe, to help with a solution. let me ask. what church do u attend?

You ought not to flaunt his impotency before his people. Be careful, move out of that marriage before he buys you a 6 ft accommodation.

just like yesterday i was teen now i'm graP.