olarwhumy6:
There is nothing God can't do sis. firstly, I applaud u for running for ur life dats d smartest fin to do, secondly, there's no divorce in God's dictionary u've got to b determine to fight for ur marriage take his picture and go to MFM prayer city for deliverance... Tell God to change his hrt Ezekiel 36 v 26 and deliver him from every form of impotency, pray on ur marriage dat God should intervene and fight for u. I believe u shall laugh last sis, dnt give up. It's well.

TrueHeart365:
an abusive husband, impotent and doesn't want to seek cure, decietful, irresponsible, not caring and a beater.

which advise do you need again to know you married the wrong man

NothingLikeLove:
Hello fam, I need advice please. I met this man two yrs ago and we got married last year January. During our courtship, he portrayed himself in a good light. A week after our marriage, his true colors started coming out. It's been one problem or the other. He nags a lot, he doesn't forgive even when I plead for forgiveness if I offend him. It was a month after our marriage, he started revealing shocking things about himself, how he was told by a doc that he can never father a child, tho it could be cured, and many others. I got tired of the marriage because of his ill attitude towards me plus these shocking revelation, but because my faith kicks against divorce except on the ground of adultery, I try all I can to save my marriage. He's very jealous to the extent that he suspects every call I receive. He feels I'm cheating on him because according to him, his previous experience made him not to trust any female.

There was a day he beat me because he was suspecting that the phone call I had was from a man, yet that day it was my mum who called, but because I was pissed by his distrust, I refused to tell him who I was talking with on phone. He even threatened to shoot me if he had a gun.

That apart, he refused to go for treatment to cure his impotency, despite the pressure I mount on him. He keeps blaming it on lack of fund, so I had to give him money, since I'm a salary earner, he used the money for something else instead.

To cut the story short, the last straw, was when he converted to a Muslim and has been pressuring me to do same. And this is highly against my religious belief and I will never do it. He's been threatening fire and brimstone since then. I reported all that has been going on to his people and then mine, so they can help us. He denied all. Even denied that he's impotent and that I never gave him money to go for cure.

I had to leave my matrimonial home because I was scared. Right now am considering filling for divorce, since his attitude is very bad, he cannot impregnate me and has refused to seek help, he cannot take care of my needs financially because of his poor status and worse off, has joined a faith I will never be part of no matter his pressure. I don't know if divorce is the right action to take or I should give him time to change. Am confused please.

Mods please put this on front page so many will see it.

NothingLikeLove:


Yes, I told him more than once that I'll divorce him if he doesn't change, most times he'll promise to work on himself, but after one week, he'll go back to his former self. This last one, he threatened that no one can separate us, not even me. Somebody told me to stop telling him about the divorce thing because he might harm me.

irondome:


If your story is 100% true, you have to be careful with the next step you take. It's all about self preservation now, as your life may be in danger. Breaking up with an emotionally imbalanced person like that usually breed a level of violence, especially when he is financially dependent on you and is unable to father a child.

Physically removing yourself from that environment may be key, either separation or divorce (which ever rocks your boat). It's better you enjoy your life in peace and good health, single, than live in hell under the guise of one yeye marriage.

Finally, what ever you decide on doing, let it be your own decision, but personally, I would care about my life now than my marriage.

asuustrike2009:

Divorce isnt the solution remember at the altar you said for better for worse till death do apart. So you have to gain his trust by applying wisdom. Try to please your husband by doing those things he likes but not at the detriment of your belief. With this you easily convince him for impotency test if at all it exist because there might be something he's hidding from you that is yet to be revealed. Perhaps he might be watching to see how you will react if he drops the bombshell so you have to win him over to get to the root. There's nothing prayers can't do in this kind of situation

wailing:

This is a one sided Story.

Op,you have started seeing someone else already

permanentgrace:


Is that why ur moniker reads "nothinglikelove"?

As for religious aspect, pls don't ever convert to any other. This is your challenging moment and God implores us to be steadfast in a time like this. Hold unto God and the storm shall be over.

NothingLikeLove:


Yes, I told him more than once that I'll divorce him if he doesn't change, most times he'll promise to work on himself, but after one week, he'll go back to his former self. This last one, he threatened that no one can separate us, not even me. Somebody told me to stop telling him about the divorce thing because he might harm me.

dare2differ:
Are you an oloriburuku?

fexyrich:
This is what you get when you jump into marriage with a total stranger..You met a man today and in less than a year you got married to him.Did you seek Gods face before going into marriage with himDid you consult your pastor before taking that decisionAbi you just saw a handsome man and jumped into marriage with him like you ladies always do..So what do you want us to do now..Tell you to divorce himGod forbid..I won't be a party to that cos I don't want to go to hell for giving som1 a wrong advice..marriage is for better for worse..carry your cross and find a solution to your marital problems.Its time to run to God and seek his face for ur marriage.It is well with you

TrapQueen77:
Nextime you will have an argument plz record secretly all the conversations u both have...
This can be use as a proof to everything u need in the next step.

Arrange a family meeting to discuss everything and If he denied such allegations, you can let them listen to ur arguments.

There's always 2sides of the coin. Play urz well and have some receipts to back u up.

Never threat him or blackmail him tat if he doesn't change, u will file a divorce. Instead, Serve it to his plate

francisbiz:

I[b]f she was your sister would have given her this type of advise?
If she dies you would change your line of advise, abii?

The husband is obviously not able to take care of his home financialy, religiously and sexually.
He is insecure and lacks self-esteem.
He is an incurable lier, grossly untrustworthy and mentally unstable.
He nags and is unforgiving.
He changed religion without discussing with his wife, he is likely to join secret-cult and occult group.
If things are as the women narrated, then he obviously a threat to life.

Would you still allow your sister to be with such a man.
Its time to move on.

OVER-EATING IS A SIN!
OVER-DRINKING IS A SIN! why are they sins? THEY ARE SINS WHEN YOU DON'T KNOW WHEN TO STOP.[/b]
IN EVERYTHING ONE SHOULD KNOW WHEN TO STOP!

Ishilove:
I don't understand. Is it that people don't seek to know the will of God again before marrying?

dare2differ:
Are you an oloriburuku?

NothingLikeLove:


Yes, I told him more than once that I'll divorce him if he doesn't change, most times he'll promise to work on himself, but after one week, he'll go back to his former self. This last one, he threatened that no one can separate us, not even me. Somebody told me to stop telling him about the divorce thing because he might harm me.

NothingLikeLove:


He is not completely financially dependent on me. He has a job tho the job is not stable, hence, I assist at such times. All the same, I have noted your point. Thanks.

FlawlesRebirth02:
Open family meeting for him head(mtesshhhh what a Rubbish )...if he dosnt changed after that.... threaten hem with a divorce