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NothingLikeLove:
Hello fam, I need advice please. I met this man two yrs ago and to cut the story short, the last straw, was when he converted to a Muslim and has been pressuring me to do same. And this is highly against my religious belief and I will never do it. He's been threatening fire and brimstone since then. I reported all that has been going on to his people and then mine, so they can help us. He denied all. Even denied that he's impotent and that I never gave him money to go for cure.

I had to leave my matrimonial home because I was scared. Right now am considering filling for divorce, since his attitude is very bad, he cannot impregnate me and has refused to seek help, he cannot take care of my needs financially because of his poor status and worse off, has joined a faith I will never be part of no matter his pressure. I don't know if divorce is the right action to take or I should give him time to change. Am confused please.

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NothingLikeLove:
Hello fam, I need advice please. I met this man two yrs ago and we got married last year January. During our courtship, he portrayed himself in a good light. A week after our marriage, his true colors started coming out. It's been one problem or the other. He nags a lot, he doesn't forgive even when I plead for forgiveness if I offend him. It was a month after our marriage, he started revealing shocking things about himself, how he was told by a doc that he can never father a child, tho it could be cured, and many others. I got tired of the marriage because of his ill attitude towards me plus these shocking revelation, but because my faith kicks against divorce except on the ground of adultery, I try all I can to save my marriage. He's very jealous to the extent that he suspects every call I receive. He feels I'm cheating on him because according to him, his previous experience made him not to trust any female.

There was a day he beat me because he was suspecting that the phone call I had was from a man, yet that day it was my mum who called, but because I was pissed by his distrust, I refused to tell him who I was talking with on phone. He even threatened to shoot me if he had a gun.

That apart, he refused to go for treatment to cure his impotency, despite the pressure I mount on him. He keeps blaming it on lack of fund, so I had to give him money, since I'm a salary earner, he used the money for something else instead.

[/color]To cut the story short, the last straw, was when he converted to a Muslim and has been pressuring me to do same. [color=#990000]And this is highly against my religious belief and I will never do it. He's been threatening fire and brimstone since then. I reported all that has been going on to his people and then mine, so they can help us. He denied all. Even denied that he's impotent and that I never gave him money to go for cure.

I had to leave my matrimonial home because I was scared. Right now am considering filling for divorce, since his attitude is very bad, he cannot impregnate me and has refused to seek help, he cannot take care of my needs financially because of his poor status and worse off, has joined a faith I will never be part of no matter his pressure. I don't know if divorce is the right action to take or I should give him time to change. Am confused please.

Mods please put this on front page so many will see it.

NothingLikeLove:
Hello fam, I need advice please. I met this man two yrs ago and we got married last year January. During our courtship, he portrayed himself in a good light. A week after our marriage, his true colors started coming out. It's been one problem or the other. He nags a lot, he doesn't forgive even when I plead for forgiveness if I offend him. It was a month after our marriage, he started revealing shocking things about himself, how he was told by a doc that he can never father a child, tho it could be cured, and many others. I got tired of the marriage because of his ill attitude towards me plus these shocking revelation, but because my faith kicks against divorce except on the ground of adultery, I try all I can to save my marriage. He's very jealous to the extent that he suspects every call I receive. He feels I'm cheating on him because according to him, his previous experience made him not to trust any female.

There was a day he beat me because he was suspecting that the phone call I had was from a man, yet that day it was my mum who called, but because I was pissed by his distrust, I refused to tell him who I was talking with on phone. He even threatened to shoot me if he had a gun.

That apart, he refused to go for treatment to cure his impotency, despite the pressure I mount on him. He keeps blaming it on lack of fund, so I had to give him money, since I'm a salary earner, he used the money for something else instead.

To cut the story short, the last straw, was when he converted to a Muslim and has been pressuring me to do same. And this is highly against my religious belief and I will never do it. He's been threatening fire and brimstone since then. I reported all that has been going on to his people and then mine, so they can help us. He denied all. Even denied that he's impotent and that I never gave him money to go for cure.

I had to leave my matrimonial home because I was scared. Right now am considering filling for divorce, since his attitude is very bad, he cannot impregnate me and has refused to seek help, he cannot take care of my needs financially because of his poor status and worse off, has joined a faith I will never be part of no matter his pressure. I don't know if divorce is the right action to take or I should give him time to change. Am confused please.

Mods please put this on front page so many will see it.

Ishilove:
I don't understand. Is it that people don't seek to know the will of God again before marrying?

5minsmadness:
Cc crackhaus, tv01. Me, I'm on sabbatical. And where the hell is pickabeau1? Hope he's still up and running?

I need a stiff drink.


Op sorry, the answer I have for u does not tally with my religious beliefs so I have nothing to say.

tosyne2much:
This one no be my ministry oooo

TV01:
Sup' Sir? Tricky one huh?

The person described in the OP seemingly has a number of issues;

1. A bad character,including lying, deceit, nagging and unforgiving
2. A spousal abuser, who is suspicious and has questionable self-worth
3. Stark religious difference
4. He is also piss-poor

The couple is also living apart. Even if he had super-swimmers, becoming pregnant would still require a miracle of sorts. Sort out all the underlying personal issues, and then, or at once get help for the relatively minor health problems.

To restore this union you need to re-set the foundations. You'll need a sincere and committed heart and everything at your disposal - personal qualities, family and faith. I sincerely hope you have the God of the Bible as your Buckler. All the very best.

Wannaweds, if you have any understanding, you'll go into courtship with high expectations and a clear vision, then ensure you are there, or very close ahead of marriage. Anything less is to court disaster If you are really smart you'll go with God.

Marriage is best avoided by mis-informed people,ill-informed minds or de-formed characters.

So sad.


TV

NothingLikeLove:
Hello fam, I need advice please. I met this man two yrs ago and we got married last year January. During our courtship, he portrayed himself in a good light. A week after our marriage, his true colors started coming out. It's been one problem or the other. He nags a lot, he doesn't forgive even when I plead for forgiveness if I offend him. It was a month after our marriage, he started revealing shocking things about himself, how he was told by a doc that he can never father a child, tho it could be cured, and many others. I got tired of the marriage because of his ill attitude towards me plus these shocking revelation, but because my faith kicks against divorce except on the ground of adultery, I try all I can to save my marriage. He's very jealous to the extent that he suspects every call I receive. He feels I'm cheating on him because according to him, his previous experience made him not to trust any female.

There was a day he beat me because he was suspecting that the phone call I had was from a man, yet that day it was my mum who called, but because I was pissed by his distrust, I refused to tell him who I was talking with on phone. He even threatened to shoot me if he had a gun.

That apart, he refused to go for treatment to cure his impotency, despite the pressure I mount on him. He keeps blaming it on lack of fund, so I had to give him money, since I'm a salary earner, he used the money for something else instead.

To cut the story short, the last straw, was when he converted to a Muslim and has been pressuring me to do same. And this is highly against my religious belief and I will never do it. He's been threatening fire and brimstone since then. I reported all that has been going on to his people and then mine, so they can help us. He denied all. Even denied that he's impotent and that I never gave him money to go for cure.

I had to leave my matrimonial home because I was scared. Right now am considering filling for divorce, since his attitude is very bad, he cannot impregnate me and has refused to seek help, he cannot take care of my needs financially because of his poor status and worse off, has joined a faith I will never be part of no matter his pressure. I don't know if divorce is the right action to take or I should give him time to change. Am confused please.

Mods please put this on front page so many will see it.

NothingLikeLove:
wrong. We dated for a year. During our courtship he was so good. Infact, sometimes I stage problems from nowhere just to see how he will react and he always pass my test. I have been very prayerful while courting. Just pray you don't fall in my shoes because I doubt if you will ever do anything different from me, if your intending spouse is perfect in the act of pretense.

cbi24:
You have just told us his own part alone.

what about your part (part b)

See if a man dont have money and he can not satisfy you
on bed is very worst.

I am talking because I have been there.

I know how i felt when I did not have money
I cant even have good S e x with my wife.

You need to be patience.

You are just new in this game.

Do not nag

do not pick some calls that will make him feel you are
see someone else

Recommend a solution for him

Talk to him calmly even when he shout on you.

Go and read the book I attached to this post
and do what you have there in the next
40days.

For the Low sperm count and other sexual challenge I can help your husband.
If any of you any sexual challenge ...

Let's talk in Private
Call 08152993665,Whatsapp 08152993665

fexyrich:
There is no perfect marriage my dear..same way you were very prayerful during courtship is same way u shld remain prayerful in ur marriage and continue praying for your husband..God would turn things around some day..The issue of changing religion is another very serious issue cos now you are unequally yoked with an unbeliever..That can also be handled through prayer..

funstufz:
Good advice...

NothingLikeLove:
Yes, I told him more than once that I'll divorce him if he doesn't change, most times he'll promise to work on himself, but after one week, he'll go back to his former self. This last one, he threatened that no one can separate us, not even me. Somebody told me to stop telling him about the divorce thing because he might harm me.

NothingLikeLove:
If you read my story well you will see where I said, anytime I offend him, I quickly apologise tho he doesn't forgive. If I err any other time, he'll remind me of the previous error. Ofcourse I can never say I don't do wrong. Am no saint. Even the angels who were called 'holy' sinned against God and made themselves demons. Solomon was directly blessed by God for his goodness yet he sinned, how much more me. Have you yourself never offended anyone? We all know the answer. Does that mean God will no longer be with you? For sure God will see me through. Thanks all the same.

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NothingLikeLove:
Hello fam, I need advice please. I met this man two yrs ago and we got married last year January. During our courtship, he portrayed himself in a good light. A week after our marriage, his true colors started coming out. It's been one problem or the other. He nags a lot, he doesn't forgive even when I plead for forgiveness if I offend him. It was a month after our marriage, he started revealing shocking things about himself, how he was told by a doc that he can never father a child, tho it could be cured, and many others. I got tired of the marriage because of his ill attitude towards me plus these shocking revelation, but because my faith kicks against divorce except on the ground of adultery, I try all I can to save my marriage. He's very jealous to the extent that he suspects every call I receive. He feels I'm cheating on him because according to him, his previous experience made him not to trust any female.

There was a day he beat me because he was suspecting that the phone call I had was from a man, yet that day it was my mum who called, but because I was pissed by his distrust, I refused to tell him who I was talking with on phone. He even threatened to shoot me if he had a gun.

That apart, he refused to go for treatment to cure his impotency, despite the pressure I mount on him. He keeps blaming it on lack of fund, so I had to give him money, since I'm a salary earner, he used the money for something else instead.

To cut the story short, the last straw, was when he converted to a Muslim and has been pressuring me to do same. And this is highly against my religious belief and I will never do it. He's been threatening fire and brimstone since then. I reported all that has been going on to his people and then mine, so they can help us. He denied all. Even denied that he's impotent and that I never gave him money to go for cure.

I had to leave my matrimonial home because I was scared. Right now am considering filling for divorce, since his attitude is very bad, he cannot impregnate me and has refused to seek help, he cannot take care of my needs financially because of his poor status and worse off, has joined a faith I will never be part of no matter his pressure. I don't know if divorce is the right action to take or I should give him time to change. Am confused please.

Mods please put this on front page so many will see it.

NothingLikeLove:
Thanks my bro.

cbi24:
You have just told us his own part alone.

what about your part (part b)

See if a man dont have money and he can not satisfy you
on bed is very worst.

I am talking because I have been there.

I know how i felt when I did not have money
I cant even have good S e x with my wife.

You need to be patience.

You are just new in this game.

Do not nag

do not pick some calls that will make him feel you are
see someone else

Recommend a solution for him

Talk to him calmly even when he shout on you.

Go and read the book I attached to this post
and do what you have there in the next
40days.

For the Low sperm count and other sexual challenge I can help your husband.
If any of you any sexual challenge ...

Let's talk in Private
Call 08152993665,Whatsapp 08152993665