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agabaI23:
Yesterday I finished a work out routine and was having a break when I saw a lady spotting a low cut which I find really attractive on girls.
Had a little discussion and collected her number and promised to call her later. I had genuine intentions.

Because I saw her in a fitness arena, I felt she might be interested in swimming. So when I was going to swim in the evening, I asked her if she wanted to come along and swim with me. She said yea, I should pick her up somewhere opposite a supermarket.

I got there and waited a while before she appeared. She was now wearing a wig and I was like hmmmm?

Immediately after exchanging greetings, she said she wanted to shop. Wanted to buy so so perfumes and stuff and was looking at me to give her money. I looked at her and studied her as her value crashed and the interest plummeted. I asked her how much? She said 2-3K.

I gave her 3K and she added that she doesn't even have a bikini and bla bla.
I waited for her to finish her shoppin. When she came out, I did not care about what she bought. When she stepped into the car, I told her that I wanted to go alone since she had no bikini to swim with. She was like huh?? I said yea. Deleted her number immediately she stepped out.

Why do some ladies think that every guy that show interest is after their kitten and they start from the word go to extort as much as they can?

hahn:
Guy, you are a MUGU! Period.
You no even get swag sef

agabaI23:
Yesterday I finished a work out routine and was having a break when I saw a lady spotting a low cut which I find really attractive on girls.
Had a little discussion and collected her number and promised to call her later. I had genuine intentions.

Because I saw her in a fitness arena, I felt she might be interested in swimming. So when I was going to swim in the evening, I asked her if she wanted to come along and swim with me. She said yea, I should pick her up somewhere opposite a supermarket.

I got there and waited a while before she appeared. She was now wearing a wig and I was like hmmmm?

Immediately after exchanging greetings, she said she wanted to shop. Wanted to buy so so perfumes and stuff and was looking at me to give her money. I looked at her and studied her as her value crashed and the interest plummeted. I asked her how much? She said 2-3K.

I gave her 3K and she added that she doesn't even have a bikini and bla bla.
I waited for her to finish her shoppin. When she came out, I did not care about what she bought. When she stepped into the car, I told her that I wanted to go alone since she had no bikini to swim with. She was like huh?? I said yea. Deleted her number immediately she stepped out.

Why do some ladies think that every guy that show interest is after their kitten and they start from the word go to extort as much as they can?

Empiree:
You did the right thing at the minimum. She would probably change for good if she gets sense by the way you treated her with respect. Don't mind people asking why you gave her money. By law of nature men nurture women. So what's the big deal

agabaI23:
Lol, How would you know a student and all that ish from a fitness arena? She had the classy outlook of someone independent. And you know it takes some independence for a lady to go out with a low cut. I always see such people as people who don't care about the crowd. You can imagine my disappointment when I saw her on a wig.

I gave her the money. There was no plan to see her again. So it was a way of telling her off but in a respectable way assuming she has the brain to understand that.

All the same I have helped a sister/beggar in need

Florblu:
Are you sure this was all that happened? Audi alteram partem(Hear both sides)
On a lighter note,if the accused is on Nairaland let's hear your side of the story.

JBL316:
Y u go believe?....u dey there?....oh....i forget na the same racket u dey like the babe

claremont:
In summary, this whole argument is about the $10/£8 the OP freely donated to a beggar.

Coldfeets:
You definitely have a point MrBrownJ

But the thing is, you have to understand that people are different and it is not everyone that will see things the way you see it

I don't know for sure, but I think Mr. agaba123 is a man who values his pride so much so to him, what the eff is three kay compared to saying good riddance to such a bad rubbish of a girl?

But agaba nnaa, biko, just take a moment and listen to MrBrownJ because he's right. Nothing on earth will make that girl to stop. Believe it or not, you might be thinking the girl will realize her mistakes but I'm telling you right now that there's every possibility the girl believes she was 100% right in collecting that money from you

O yes! She thinks it's her right. So many girls are like that. They always think it is their right to collect from guys and the guys should be okay with that.

But like you and I know, so many guys are not just OK with that

Which means it is now left for us guys to teach these girls how it should be

And you will be doing so many men out there and the entire MANosphere so much favor if you can be firm enough to tell any girl who tries to mugurize you NO at any given time

It's not a matter of you being a gentleman or smart or something. These girls really need to learn. They need and must be forced to learn that it's not and never their right to demand from guys. They must be forced to learn and accept that it is not right to be making unnecessary demands from guys.

They need to learn that they will earn more respect for themselves if they can learn to depend on themselves rather than on guys. They need to learn that they can actually add some other other values to a guy's life apart from puŝsy value. Simply put, they really need to learn how to start making their own money

I believe the girls who are like this are so because the guys allowed it in the first place

And like the Igbos say, arụ gbaa afọ, ọ bụrụ omenaala

So if we must put an end to this unholy exploitative behaviorial tendencies exhibited by so many girls once and for all, it must be a collective effort from all guys who are not just comfortable with the status quo

And agaba nwa nnaa, it begins with you

Magicdon:
So you ask a girl out and she still has to pay for her food?

Nigga smh

i thought am d only one dat observed it oo. How will u invite a gal out and u expect her to pay for her food. Dis guy is funny

agabaI23:
Babe, I can lie for Africa but in this case, everything written is true.

tosyne2much:
Why must ladies embellish immoral and shameful act? Assuming I want to marry you, this emboldened will make me feel you're also a shameful being as the accused and will definitely cancel the wedding.. Would you raise your daughter this way? So if your daughter does the same, you will always justify such barbaric act as a rightful act.. It's your kind that keep breeding gold diggers on the streets of Lagos. Shame on you!!!

Just read ur comment over again and ask yourself if it's sensible at all

skimpychick:
@tosyne2much, I don't need you to marry me 'cos I'm married. Now let me open your eyes on something. There are guys out there who can do anything for a woman they like/love at first sight.
See,women are intelligent and want men to love ❤ them n not to see them as whatever. I'm not saying that what d lady did was right o. But generally speaking some men need to at least show some respect to women.

Now to op, why did you choose to take her to swim,where she'll show some skin. what do you have in mind?.

supernet4:
that's too much

Are u serious?

agabaI23:
It is a random girl that becomes an acquaintance or do you only associate from close range?

Ezeego1:
Broke ass niggas everywhere!

Common 3k you are complaining??

Stop going after beautiful girls if you don't have money. They don't maintain their beauty with saliva please.

Nonsense!

Coldfeets:
You definitely have a point MrBrownJ

But the thing is, you have to understand that people are different and it is not everyone that will see things the way you see it

I don't know for sure, but I think Mr. agaba123 is a man who values his pride so much so to him, what the eff is three kay compared to saying good riddance to such a bad rubbish of a girl?

But agaba nnaa, biko, just take a moment and listen to MrBrownJ because he's right. Nothing on earth will make that girl to stop. Believe it or not, you might be thinking the girl will realize her mistakes but I'm telling you right now that there's every possibility the girl believes she was 100% right in collecting that money from you

O yes! She thinks it's her right. So many girls are like that. They always think it is their right to collect from guys and the guys should be okay with that.

But like you and I know, so many guys are not just OK with that

Which means it is now left for us guys to teach these girls how it should be

And you will be doing so many men out there and the entire MANosphere so much favor if you can be firm enough to tell any girl who tries to mugurize you NO at any given time

It's not a matter of you being a gentleman or smart or something. These girls really need to learn. They need and must be forced to learn that it's not and never their right to demand from guys. They must be forced to learn and accept that it is not right to be making unnecessary demands from guys.

They need to learn that they will earn more respect for themselves if they can learn to depend on themselves rather than on guys. They need to learn that they can actually add some other other values to a guy's life apart from puŝsy value. Simply put, they really need to learn how to start making their own money

I believe the girls who are like this are so because the guys allowed it in the first place

And like the Igbos say, arụ gbaa afọ, ọ bụrụ omenaala

So if we must put an end to this unholy exploitative behaviorial tendencies exhibited by so many girls once and for all, it must be a collective effort from all guys who are not just comfortable with the status quo

And agaba nwa nnaa, it begins with you

Ezeego1:
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I do both, but I don't complain when I meet that kinda girl.

If she ask for money and u can afford it give it to her but if you can't afford just tell her NO.

Every demand must nt be about a gal taking advantage of you. Sometimes they need those things genuinely.

yuppyman:
forget you be mugu

agabaI23:
Lol@maga

So you must always get something back from a girl you gave money or you cannot give unless there is something to get in return?

Sometimes, it is actually good to be a maga if you decide to be

Gamesmart:
Would you give a guy you just met 3K if he said he wanted to use it to buy perfume?

skimpychick:
Excuse me @ tosyne2much. Why was I in a hurry to read thru ur last post. Did you insult me or something?.
Why would you not breed prostitutes, kidnappers, armed robbers or even boko haram when you are poverty stricken.
Idiots like you go about chasing women when you know you can't take care of them. If you are responsible,you wouldn't talk to me like that. If I swear for your generation ehh, ode.

Kindly go up there and re-read your comments, better still, show your comments and mine to your neighbour that has a good comprehension skill to tell you whose comments reeks of poverty between mine or yours

Florblu:
Are you sure this was all that happened? Audi alteram partem(Hear both sides)
On a lighter note,if the accused is on Nairaland let's hear your side of the story.

skimpychick:
I once dated a guy who takes care of me like a sister. That was when I was searching for a job. Gives me money for my hair when he notices that its old n stuffs like that. Like a sister I said. I wonder if we still people like that.
Now, I've seen guys who talks to a lady today and would want to go to bed with her today today. Maybe she acted from her past experiences.
But op 3k n you are complaining, supposing she asked for a trip to UK nko

skimpychick:
I once dated a guy who takes care of me like a sister. That was when I was searching for a job. Gives me money for my hair when he notices that its old n stuffs like that. Like a sister I said. I wonder if we still people like that.
Now, I've seen guys who talks to a lady today and would want to go to bed with her today today. Maybe she acted from her past experiences.
But op 3k n you are complaining, supposing she asked for a trip to UK nko

holluphemydavid:
LOL, I concur with u
Reason is dat, in dis Buhari regime, he will just give d girl 3k without looking back, it's hard to believe sincerely

agabaI23:
Which is the reason I gave and then got rid of her. Her approach was not the best.

agabaI23:
Abeg sir, tamper justice with mercy

Ezeego1:
Lol... Her approach wasn't the best but definitely not the worst.

Guy leave that thing had it been everything works out fine between both of you. You go still ask ur own later.

When it comes to money guys will start forming responsible but when it comes to sex they will expect the lady to give it freely to them.

You judged that girl wrongly bro! Forget all these una tricks wey una take dey deceive gals