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Is It Safe To Marry A Lady I Slept With On The First Date? I’m Confused by dammy13(m): 7:02pm On Jun 19
I met a young lady on Twitter about seven months ago. An issue was trending on twitter back then and we had opposing opinions, we kept attacking each other to the point that she insulted me and called me a novice.

I finally entered her DM with the aim of advising her…but she was waiting with an apology which I accepted and we became pals.

After thirty days of chatting non stop we decided to meet! She lives in Port Harcourt while I’m based in Lagos, she arranged my flight, booked my hotel, without asking for money. She told me to give her when we see. I was touched.

So I met Dara, 29, she is not drop dead gorgeous, not beautiful by the standard of many but the most unusually beautiful girl I have seen. Chatty, funny and charming.

She took me to the hotel and long story short, we had sex. She didn’t spend the night with me but returned the next day to see me.

I returned to Lagos with nothing in my heart but the accomplishment of ‘catching’ another girl. I told my friends everything about her, and they laughed at how easily I laid her.

I stopped chatting with her, avoided her calls for two weeks until I realized I was hooked, not infatuation, not the sex, I was in love. I talked to my friends and they thought I was a fool. They called her ‘cheap’ ‘slut’ and all that, they said she’d sleep with everyone like that.

The thing is I don’t think Dara is like that, I think I seduced her and gave her no room to really resist. I called her and apologized for being MIA. We’ve been good since then, but my greatest regret is talking to my friends about her.

They don’t treat her well, they are convinced she is bad. “No one marries the girl they slept with on the first date” they keep telling me.

I love her, I want to marry her, she has given me no cause to worry… I want to believe my friends are wrong on this! Is there a guy here who married a lady he slept with on the first date? Am I safe? I haven’t proposed but I know I want to marry her…

https://goldmyne.tv/featured/matters-heart-sex-first-time-make-bad/

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Re: Is It Safe To Marry A Lady I Slept With On The First Date? I’m Confused by dingbang(m): 7:07pm On Jun 19
Your friends are bad eggs... Someone has s3x with you on the first date doesn't mean the person is cheap or too easy going. Please warn your friends to desist from such mentality.

If you like her then marry her..

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Re: Is It Safe To Marry A Lady I Slept With On The First Date? I’m Confused by Saff(f): 7:10pm On Jun 19
This is it.

They will tell you “ It doesn’t matter, if you sleep with me on the first date it doesn’t mean anything, we’re all mature”

Behind your back it’s a different story. And it has everything to do with their ego and pride. Never listen to their words, always their actions smh. She even paid for your hotel and flight, and you had the nerve to mock her to your friends? Ungrateful cow, you’re not even ashamed.

Listen, you’re a grown man and if you can’t learn to make decisions without the influence of your friends, you won’t go far in life. If you can’t deal with the shame, spare the babe and let her live her life. All these sissy boys sef, can’t make a simple decision for anything. Always gossiping and crying later like bitches. Spits.

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Re: Is It Safe To Marry A Lady I Slept With On The First Date? I’m Confused by MariaLavina: 7:12pm On Jun 19
This is why I advise ladies against sex on first dates. undecided

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Re: Is It Safe To Marry A Lady I Slept With On The First Date? I’m Confused by Saff(f): 7:19pm On Jun 19
MariaLavina:
This is why I advise ladies against sex on first dates. undecided
exactly, but then these guys will shout against it completely to get what they want. But behind your back they’re laughing at you. I even think this situation is better because at least they were speaking for a month before they met up. So they were already familiar with each other before having sex. The guy is just an idiott.

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Re: Is It Safe To Marry A Lady I Slept With On The First Date? I’m Confused by BiafranBushBoy: 7:22pm On Jun 19
Saff:
This is it.

They will tell you “ It doesn’t matter, if you sleep with me on the first date it doesn’t mean anything, we’re all mature”

Behind your back it’s a different story. And it has everything to do with their ego and pride. Never listen to their words, always their actions smh.

Listen, you’re a grown man and if you can’t learn to make decisions without the influence of your friends, you won’t go far in life. If you can’t deal with the shame, spare the babe and let her live her life. All these sissy boys sef, can’t make a simple decision for anything. Always gossiping and crying later like bitches. Spits.

Easy... Easy... Easy...

The story is fiction.

Now breath in and out...

Nice!

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Re: Is It Safe To Marry A Lady I Slept With On The First Date? I’m Confused by Lalas247(f): 7:22pm On Jun 19
after some will say it's modern day women.. Be Bold. Get what u want, I guess she was bold


see result..... smh

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Re: Is It Safe To Marry A Lady I Slept With On The First Date? I’m Confused by BiafranBushBoy: 7:24pm On Jun 19
MariaLavina:
This is why I advise ladies against sex on first dates. undecided

Madam counsellor, easy! Easy! Easy!

The story is fiction. No need for your advice.

Now breath in and out.

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Re: Is It Safe To Marry A Lady I Slept With On The First Date? I’m Confused by SoapQueen(f): 7:24pm On Jun 19
Saff:
This is it.

They will tell you “ It doesn’t matter, if you sleep with me on the first date it doesn’t mean anything, we’re all mature”

Behind your back it’s a different story. And it has everything to do with their ego and pride. Never listen to their words, always their actions smh.

Listen, you’re a grown man and if you can’t learn to make decisions without the influence of your friends, you won’t go far in life. If you can’t deal with the shame, spare the babe and let her live her life. All these sissy boys sef, can’t make a simple decision for anything. Always gossiping and crying later like bitches. Spits.


You killt eet! Brilliant!

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Re: Is It Safe To Marry A Lady I Slept With On The First Date? I’m Confused by Saff(f): 7:24pm On Jun 19
BiafranBushBoy:


Easy... Easy... Easy...

The story is fiction.

Now breath in and out...

Nice!
lol even if it is, it happens all the time in reality.

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Re: Is It Safe To Marry A Lady I Slept With On The First Date? I’m Confused by Preshy561(f): 7:24pm On Jun 19
but it's safe to marry you that had sex on first date?undecided

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Re: Is It Safe To Marry A Lady I Slept With On The First Date? I’m Confused by IamD18: 7:24pm On Jun 19
TWO QUICK THOUGHTS.

First; Your friends are jealous of you because you met a rich lady who was plain and straightforward enough to fvck you on the first date without forming and pretending. FACT!

>If she's cheap, you are cheaper: A lady financially transported you from Lagos state to Rivers state just to count census on your preeeq, you node shame?


She paid for your flight, lodged you in a hotel, took care of you on her bills, she didn't even sleep there with you but had to come the next day to visit you probably because she couldn't stoop so low and your friends had the guts to tag her cheap.

Bruv,be sincere, between you and the lady, who's cheap?

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Re: Is It Safe To Marry A Lady I Slept With On The First Date? I’m Confused by BiafranBushBoy: 7:26pm On Jun 19
Saff:
lol even if it is, it happens all the time in reality.

It doesn't happen... It doesn't.

Same way they tell us in movies...

"Happily ever after"

You know it isn't real.

Just calm down dear... The blogger is looking for traffic.

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Re: Is It Safe To Marry A Lady I Slept With On The First Date? I’m Confused by UyaiIncomparabl(f): 7:28pm On Jun 19
Wait up! I hope that you are not a wannabe blogger using this medium to gain traffic, huhn?

Back to the matter, that's all done and dusted now. You both had sex. It was consentual, and you both enjoyed it. End of story.
In as much as 'Having sex on a First date' goes a long way to speak volume about a person, especially a Lady, it happened, and that's not reversible. Stop crying over spilt milk.

I always tell any lady who deems it fit to hear from me that guys aren't the same everywhere. There is no timetable for keeping a man. What works for her, might not work for another. A man who respects you will NEVER disrespect your body. I've heard and read dastardly and shameful comments about women having sex on their first dates, terming them as sluts, and I must confess, I wallow in pains. On the other hand, This also doesn't define and make a loyal woman. She can keep her body for as long as 'Rapture' comes, and still goof around.
Just do that which defines 'Self-Dignity'. Opinions differ.

My brother, if she possesses the core qualities of what you desire in a woman, please marry her. At the end of the day, it begins and ends with YOU. You're the one to take that decision. Don't mind your friends. Talk is cheap, and will linger for a while. Let your heart guide you. Follow your guts. It never fails, and stop being a sissy!

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Re: Is It Safe To Marry A Lady I Slept With On The First Date? I’m Confused by Fesomu(m): 7:33pm On Jun 19
Bro, I couldn't stay in marriage with a girl I disvirgined. Don't be too focused on sexual issues when you decide to get married, focus more on character biko

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Re: Is It Safe To Marry A Lady I Slept With On The First Date? I’m Confused by Headlesschicken(m): 7:34pm On Jun 19
undecided If you really feel that way,then u should go ahead and do what you've in mind, it doesn't really matter how many guys she gave into, buh d fact that it was yuhs that changed her story,so you need yuh friends approval before u settle down,remember they are not gonna be living with you... If i got a one night stand that changed everything i wouldn't mind wifing her God knows...

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Re: Is It Safe To Marry A Lady I Slept With On The First Date? I’m Confused by IdeyFindWife: 7:45pm On Jun 19
Gonna be batting for the ladies on this one because guys sef too dey confuse on the matter. The gals never know which ones guys dey do.

While most guys weirdly would wish to score on first date, at a primal level, they find that, in the end, what you crave mightn't always be the best for you, so they chill.

Some go ahead, bang the girl and get psychological hiccups after. because, they're not emotional intelligent enough to look past it. The first date sex just colors everything till they ruin the whole thing.

It's not advisable for ladies to rush in and risk all like that. The moral taboos are all there, besides, most guys aren't mature enough not to shack finish without useless juxtapositions or kiss & tell games.

So, slay-madam, if you wan last with that guy, if you wan get ur respect, go in ready to zip up & play hard to get.

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Re: Is It Safe To Marry A Lady I Slept With On The First Date? I’m Confused by MrBrownJay1(m): 7:45pm On Jun 19
men like you are the reason why so many people fail in life.... here you are asking strangers for validation, in order to do what you really desire to do. if you indeed felt she was not a hoe (and she only fell to your irresistible charm) then why come here and doubt your own self?

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Re: Is It Safe To Marry A Lady I Slept With On The First Date? I’m Confused by ODeva: 7:46pm On Jun 19
is it your friends' permission you need to get married? if you love her, marry her. did you ask for your friends permission before sleeping with her?

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Re: Is It Safe To Marry A Lady I Slept With On The First Date? I’m Confused by MariaLavina: 9:21pm On Jun 19
BiafranBushBoy:


Madam counsellor, easy! Easy! Easy!

The story is fiction. No need for your advice.

Now breath in and out.
If this is all your reasoning can come up with, you are dismissed. smiley

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Re: Is It Safe To Marry A Lady I Slept With On The First Date? I’m Confused by Apina(m): 9:31pm On Jun 19
It seems you don't have a mind of your own or outlook to life cos this isn't an issue to begin with undecided

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Re: Is It Safe To Marry A Lady I Slept With On The First Date? I’m Confused by Nobody: 9:45pm On Jun 19
no she is cheap ,I mean who fvck on their first date undecided
Re: Is It Safe To Marry A Lady I Slept With On The First Date? I’m Confused by Ire2(m): 9:49pm On Jun 19
You are just a big fool.

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Re: Is It Safe To Marry A Lady I Slept With On The First Date? I’m Confused by Holysucker(m): 9:51pm On Jun 19
D deed has been done already.u made a mistake by telling ur niggas about her therefore giving dem room to mock her and make gest of her..but d truth is even if u bed dis same lady 100yrs after meeting her,is really not a guarantee dat she wont goof..if i were to b in ur shoes i wont waste time in wifeing her cos her kind is very rare to come by.forget abt wat ur friends will say or tink abt u. u are a man for crying out loud..learn to make decisions on ur own,dats one tin dat defines a real man..u've gat a real and unpretencious lady...enough said already. do ur wish

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Re: Is It Safe To Marry A Lady I Slept With On The First Date? I’m Confused by ibkayee(f): 9:56pm On Jun 19
You sound too easily influenced by other people’s opinions, which is fair enough but if you can’t control your friends and the way they treat her now, how will you be when she’s actually your wife. If you think she's cheap, leave her and don't waste her time, if not, stay I guess.

Lol by the way, same way your friends are giggling at the fact that she slept with you on the first date may be how her friends are laughing at you for having a lady arrange your flight and lodge you lol, not that there's anything wrong with it but a lot of girls care and pay attention to things like that lol

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Re: Is It Safe To Marry A Lady I Slept With On The First Date? I’m Confused by nairaland20: 10:02pm On Jun 19
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Re: Is It Safe To Marry A Lady I Slept With On The First Date? I’m Confused by franchasng(m): 10:03pm On Jun 19
dammy13:
I met a young lady on Twitter about seven months ago. An issue was trending on twitter back then and we had opposing opinions, we kept attacking each other to the point that she insulted me and called me a novice.

I finally entered her DM with the aim of advising her…but she was waiting with an apology which I accepted and we became pals.

After thirty days of chatting non stop we decided to meet! She lives in Port Harcourt while I’m based in Lagos, she arranged my flight, booked my hotel, without asking for money. She told me to give her when we see. I was touched.

So I met Dara, 29, she is not drop dead gorgeous, not beautiful by the standard of many but the most unusually beautiful girl I have seen. Chatty, funny and charming.

She took me to the hotel and long story short, we had sex. She didn’t spend the night with me but returned the next day to see me.

I returned to Lagos with nothing in my heart but the accomplishment of ‘catching’ another girl. I told my friends everything about her, and they laughed at how easily I laid her.

I stopped chatting with her, avoided her calls for two weeks until I realized I was hooked, not infatuation, not the sex, I was in love. I talked to my friends and they thought I was a fool. They called her ‘cheap’ ‘slut’ and all that, they said she’d sleep with everyone like that.

The thing is I don’t think Dara is like that, I think I seduced her and gave her no room to really resist. I called her and apologized for being MIA. We’ve been good since then, but my greatest regret is talking to my friends about her.

They don’t treat her well, they are convinced she is bad. “No one marries the girl they slept with on the first date” they keep telling me.

I love her, I want to marry her, she has given me no cause to worry… I want to believe my friends are wrong on this! Is there a guy here who married a lady he slept with on the first date? Am I safe? I haven’t proposed but I know I want to marry her…

https://goldmyne.tv/featured/matters-heart-sex-first-time-make-bad/
You are mad but you don't have anybody to tell you angry angry

Because a lady slept with u on the first date makes her a bad girl that does not deserve to be married

Seriously, let's put ego aside, men are really the problem with this world, sometimes its not women.

Some men lack sense angry angry angry

We overrate sex....sex is freaking nothing!!!

Americans, Europeans, Australians, Canadians have sex anyhow yet they are more developed, more advanced, more prosperous, happier and healthier than we black monkeys of Africa and pale monkeys of Arab nations.

See how all the African countries are just messing up at the world cup while Europeans and Americas are shinning, yet we keep forming saintly over sex, yeye continent angry

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Re: Is It Safe To Marry A Lady I Slept With On The First Date? I’m Confused by SheikhMuniru(m): 10:03pm On Jun 19
WALLAHI IS NOT SAFE BECAUSE NA DIVORCE GO END YOUR STORY

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Re: Is It Safe To Marry A Lady I Slept With On The First Date? I’m Confused by EdoNation(f): 10:03pm On Jun 19
.Op sorry to say this ..you are mad and don't ask me why

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Re: Is It Safe To Marry A Lady I Slept With On The First Date? I’m Confused by OkpaAkuEriEri(m): 10:03pm On Jun 19
She is a chip beach.
Only.mumu wee marry ha

Mumu.lyk u

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