agabaI23:
Yesterday I finished a work out routine and was having a break when I saw a lady spotting a low cut which I find really attractive on girls.
Had a little discussion and collected her number and promised to call her later. I had genuine intentions.

Because I saw her in a fitness arena, I felt she might be interested in swimming. So when I was going to swim in the evening, I asked her if she wanted to come along and swim with me. She said yea, I should pick her up somewhere opposite a supermarket.

I got there and waited a while before she appeared. She was now wearing a wig and I was like hmmmm?

Immediately after exchanging greetings, she said she wanted to shop. Wanted to buy so so perfumes and stuff and was looking at me to give her money. I looked at her and studied her as her value crashed and the interest plummeted. I asked her how much? She said 2-3K.

I gave her 3K and she added that she doesn't even have a bikini and bla bla.
I waited for her to finish her shoppin. When she came out, I did not care about what she bought. When she stepped into the car, I told her that I wanted to go alone since she had no bikini to swim with. She was like huh?? I said yea. Deleted her number immediately she stepped out.

Why do some ladies think that every guy that show interest is after their kitten and they start from the word go to extort as much as they can?

Jeeez . . . . so belittling. When did women lose their pride?

Even though I don't even know this lady, I'm do ashamed to be of same gender with her . . . kai, so annoying!

And you too why did you ask for her number? If you didn't have any interest in her perhaps you should just have complimented her looks and waited for your paths to cross again before going so far as asking calling her for a 'date'. Let's assume the tables were turned and she collected your number and called you later for a 'swim', wouldn't you have naturally assumed she was interested in you romantically? Maybe even try to cop a feel at the pool or somethings

And seriously, you need to improve your discerning skills . . . how on earth did you not pick up on what kind of person she was

hahn:

Guy, you are a MUGU! Period.
You no even get swag sef

I am disappointed at your comment.

agabaI23:
Yesterday I finished a work out routine and was having a break when I saw a lady spotting a low cut which I find really attractive on girls.
Had a little discussion and collected her number and promised to call her later. I had genuine intentions.

Because I saw her in a fitness arena, I felt she might be interested in swimming. So when I was going to swim in the evening, I asked her if she wanted to come along and swim with me. She said yea, I should pick her up somewhere opposite a supermarket.

I got there and waited a while before she appeared. She was now wearing a wig and I was like hmmmm?

Immediately after exchanging greetings, she said she wanted to shop. Wanted to buy so so perfumes and stuff and was looking at me to give her money. I looked at her and studied her as her value crashed and the interest plummeted. I asked her how much? She said 2-3K.

I gave her 3K and she added that she doesn't even have a bikini and bla bla.
I waited for her to finish her shoppin. When she came out, I did not care about what she bought. When she stepped into the car, I told her that I wanted to go alone since she had no bikini to swim with. She was like huh?? I said yea. Deleted her number immediately she stepped out.

Why do some ladies think that every guy that show interest is after their kitten and they start from the word go to extort as much as they can?

She is a very yeye person.

Empiree:
You did the right thing at the minimum. She would probably change for good if she gets sense by the way you treated her with respect. Don't mind people asking why you gave her money. By law of nature men nurture women. So what's the big deal

Now this is it. You understand where I am coming from.

agabaI23:
Lol, How would you know a student and all that ish from a fitness arena? She had the classy outlook of someone independent. And you know it takes some independence for a lady to go out with a low cut. I always see such people as people who don't care about the crowd. You can imagine my disappointment when I saw her on a wig.

I gave her the money. There was no plan to see her again. So it was a way of telling her off but in a respectable way assuming she has the brain to understand that.

All the same I have helped a sister/beggar in need

Ha bros forget classy, this are make believe just to catch maga. you see some of the hanging around gulf club,lodging in an expensive hotel, etc just to get what they want.

Anyway sometimes you win sometimes you loose. just take am like say you don pay for all the other kpanash wey u dey knack for free lol.

Florblu:
Are you sure this was all that happened? Audi alteram partem(Hear both sides)
On a lighter note,if the accused is on Nairaland let's hear your side of the story.

Babe, I can lie for Africa but in this case, everything written is true.

JBL316:


Y u go believe?....u dey there?....oh....i forget na the same racket u dey like the babe

You must be very dull. I've got way too much pride for that bullshit.

claremont:
In summary, this whole argument is about the $10/£8 the OP freely donated to a beggar.

You are wicked. lol
Less than $10/£8 to be honest..

lol @donated to a beggar

Coldfeets:


You definitely have a point MrBrownJ

But the thing is, you have to understand that people are different and it is not everyone that will see things the way you see it

I don't know for sure, but I think Mr. agaba123 is a man who values his pride so much so to him, what the eff is three kay compared to saying good riddance to such a bad rubbish of a girl?

But agaba nnaa, biko, just take a moment and listen to MrBrownJ because he's right. Nothing on earth will make that girl to stop. Believe it or not, you might be thinking the girl will realize her mistakes but I'm telling you right now that there's every possibility the girl believes she was 100% right in collecting that money from you

O yes! She thinks it's her right. So many girls are like that. They always think it is their right to collect from guys and the guys should be okay with that.

But like you and I know, so many guys are not just OK with that

Which means it is now left for us guys to teach these girls how it should be

And you will be doing so many men out there and the entire MANosphere so much favor if you can be firm enough to tell any girl who tries to mugurize you NO at any given time

It's not a matter of you being a gentleman or smart or something. These girls really need to learn. They need and must be forced to learn that it's not and never their right to demand from guys. They must be forced to learn and accept that it is not right to be making unnecessary demands from guys.

They need to learn that they will earn more respect for themselves if they can learn to depend on themselves rather than on guys. They need to learn that they can actually add some other other values to a guy's life apart from puŝsy value. Simply put, they really need to learn how to start making their own money

I believe the girls who are like this are so because the guys allowed it in the first place

And like the Igbos say, arụ gbaa afọ, ọ bụrụ omenaala

So if we must put an end to this unholy exploitative behaviorial tendencies exhibited by so many girls once and for all, it must be a collective effort from all guys who are not just comfortable with the status quo

And agaba nwa nnaa, it begins with you

Yada yada yada . . . Please you guys are such hypocrites.

The same well men are always expecting women to sleep with them is the same way women will always expect cash from you . . . whether they work or not. I am a big advocate of women demanding HUGE amounts of cash from men . . . but only from those who expect you to sleep with them.

Do you guys ever think that women are becoming much more demanding these days because they are tired of 'giving it away for free'

While I was single, I really detested guys who approach me and start wanting some sort of sexual relationship without going through the proper channel of dating, wooing, getting to know one another e.t.c. So when you ask for sex, I ask for cash and I don't mean 3k. Na you do carry your two left legs run!

Now I'm married, I am even bolder with my demands. Shebi you saw my wedding band clearly and still expect me to send you 'a romantic picture' through whatsapp . . . I will ask you to buy me a car and we go see who go tire first!

Magicdon:

So you ask a girl out and she still has to pay for her food?

Nigga smh

i thought am d only one dat observed it oo. How will u invite a gal out and u expect her to pay for her food. Dis guy is funny

Outside this country, especially in the west, it is about the norm.

agabaI23:
Babe, I can lie for Africa but in this case, everything written is true.

But it's okay for you guys to ask for sex on the first date ryt, why d double standard huh... She might be a good girl sha.

@tosyne2much, I don't need you to marry me 'cos I'm married. Now let me open your eyes on something. There are guys out there who can do anything for a woman they like/love at first sight.
See,women are intelligent and want men to love ❤ them n not to see them as whatever. I'm not saying that what d lady did was right o. But generally speaking some men need to at least show some respect to women.

Now to op, why did you choose to take her to swim,where she'll show some skin. what do you have in mind?.

tosyne2much:
Why must ladies embellish immoral and shameful act? Assuming I want to marry you, this emboldened will make me feel you're also a shameful being as the accused and will definitely cancel the wedding.. Would you raise your daughter this way? So if your daughter does the same, you will always justify such barbaric act as a rightful act.. It's your kind that keep breeding gold diggers on the streets of Lagos. Shame on you!!!

Just read ur comment over again and ask yourself if it's sensible at all

that's too much

Some girls sef

skimpychick:
@tosyne2much, I don't need you to marry me 'cos I'm married. Now let me open your eyes on something. There are guys out there who can do anything for a woman they like/love at first sight.
See,women are intelligent and want men to love ❤ them n not to see them as whatever. I'm not saying that what d lady did was right o. But generally speaking some men need to at least show some respect to women.

Now to op, why did you choose to take her to swim,where she'll show some skin. what do you have in mind?.

Spending money on a lady is normal, no one argues about that. No matter how you try to embellish this act, it will never change the fact that no reasonable and responsible lady will hop on a man at the sight of money.

I don't know about you but as for me, I wouldn't like to see my sister or daughter unleashing such a demeaning habit

supernet4:
that's too much

Are u serious?

agabaI23:
It is a random girl that becomes an acquaintance or do you only associate from close range?

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I do both, but I don't complain when I meet that kinda girl.

If she ask for money and u can afford it give it to her but if you can't afford just tell her NO.

Every demand must nt be about a gal taking advantage of you. Sometimes they need those things genuinely.

Ezeego1:
Broke ass niggas everywhere!

Common 3k you are complaining??

Stop going after beautiful girls if you don't have money. They don't maintain their beauty with saliva please.

Nonsense!

God punish your mentality

Coldfeets:


You definitely have a point MrBrownJ

But the thing is, you have to understand that people are different and it is not everyone that will see things the way you see it

I don't know for sure, but I think Mr. agaba123 is a man who values his pride so much so to him, what the eff is three kay compared to saying good riddance to such a bad rubbish of a girl?

But agaba nnaa, biko, just take a moment and listen to MrBrownJ because he's right. Nothing on earth will make that girl to stop. Believe it or not, you might be thinking the girl will realize her mistakes but I'm telling you right now that there's every possibility the girl believes she was 100% right in collecting that money from you

O yes! She thinks it's her right. So many girls are like that. They always think it is their right to collect from guys and the guys should be okay with that.

But like you and I know, so many guys are not just OK with that

Which means it is now left for us guys to teach these girls how it should be

And you will be doing so many men out there and the entire MANosphere so much favor if you can be firm enough to tell any girl who tries to mugurize you NO at any given time

It's not a matter of you being a gentleman or smart or something. These girls really need to learn. They need and must be forced to learn that it's not and never their right to demand from guys. They must be forced to learn and accept that it is not right to be making unnecessary demands from guys.

They need to learn that they will earn more respect for themselves if they can learn to depend on themselves rather than on guys. They need to learn that they can actually add some other other values to a guy's life apart from puŝsy value. Simply put, they really need to learn how to start making their own money

I believe the girls who are like this are so because the guys allowed it in the first place

And like the Igbos say, arụ gbaa afọ, ọ bụrụ omenaala

So if we must put an end to this unholy exploitative behaviorial tendencies exhibited by so many girls once and for all, it must be a collective effort from all guys who are not just comfortable with the status quo

And agaba nwa nnaa, it begins with you

Yes Pastor. I get your drift.

Excuse me @ tosyne2much. Why was I in a hurry to read thru ur last post. Did you insult me or something?.
Why would you not breed prostitutes, kidnappers, armed robbers or even boko haram when you are poverty stricken.
Idiots like you go about chasing women when you know you can't take care of them. If you are responsible,you wouldn't talk to me like that. If I swear for your generation ehh, ode.

Ezeego1:
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I do both, but I don't complain when I meet that kinda girl.

If she ask for money and u can afford it give it to her but if you can't afford just tell her NO.

Every demand must nt be about a gal taking advantage of you. Sometimes they need those things genuinely.

Which is the reason I gave and then got rid of her. Her approach was not the best.

yuppyman:


forget you be mugu

It actually made me happy being a mugu in this instance
End point?

agabaI23:
Lol@maga

So you must always get something back from a girl you gave money or you cannot give unless there is something to get in return?

Sometimes, it is actually good to be a maga if you decide to be

Would you give a guy you just met 3K if he said he wanted to use it to buy perfume?

Gamesmart:


Would you give a guy you just met 3K if he said he wanted to use it to buy perfume?

See Kweshion?
Would you as a guy with all your pride beg for 3k for buying perfume from a stranger?

skimpychick:
Excuse me @ tosyne2much. Why was I in a hurry to read thru ur last post. Did you insult me or something?.
Why would you not breed prostitutes, kidnappers, armed robbers or even boko haram when you are poverty stricken.
Idiots like you go about chasing women when you know you can't take care of them. If you are responsible,you wouldn't talk to me like that. If I swear for your generation ehh, ode.

Kindly go up there and re-read your comments, better still, show your comments and mine to your neighbour that has a good comprehension skill to tell you whose comments reeks of poverty between mine or yours

Florblu:
Are you sure this was all that happened? Audi alteram partem(Hear both sides)
On a lighter note,if the accused is on Nairaland let's hear your side of the story.

What kind of the side of the story do you want to here from her that would make this acceptable?

"He said I should come looking nice and smelling fresh, so he must buy me perfume na since a relationship should be 50:50 and I already bought the make-up and wig"?

skimpychick:
I once dated a guy who takes care of me like a sister. That was when I was searching for a job. Gives me money for my hair when he notices that its old n stuffs like that. Like a sister I said. I wonder if we still people like that.
Now, I've seen guys who talks to a lady today and would want to go to bed with her today today. Maybe she acted from her past experiences.
But op 3k n you are complaining, supposing she asked for a trip to UK nko

Skimpy

Would you ask someone you just met for money even if it is 1k?

skimpychick:
I once dated a guy who takes care of me like a sister. That was when I was searching for a job. Gives me money for my hair when he notices that its old n stuffs like that. Like a sister I said. I wonder if we still people like that.
Now, I've seen guys who talks to a lady today and would want to go to bed with her today today. Maybe she acted from her past experiences.
But op 3k n you are complaining, supposing she asked for a trip to UK nko

Skimpy

Would you ask someone you just met for money even if it is 1k?
BTW I am not complaining because she did not rob me or steal from me. I was awake when I willingly gave her the money and discharged her.

holluphemydavid:

LOL, I concur with u
Reason is dat, in dis Buhari regime, he will just give d girl 3k without looking back, it's hard to believe sincerely

lol, I must have done something unimaginable then because it happened.

agabaI23:
Which is the reason I gave and then got rid of her. Her approach was not the best.

Lol... Her approach wasn't the best but definitely not the worst.

Guy leave that thing had it been everything works out fine between both of you. You go still ask ur own later.

When it comes to money guys will start forming responsible but when it comes to sex they will expect the lady to give it freely to them.

You judged that girl wrongly bro! Forget all these una tricks wey una take dey deceive gals

agabaI23:
Abeg sir, tamper justice with mercy

Bros, nothing like abeg here.
You will quit sulking. You will go to that gym everyday until you jam her again. And you will smile and continue where you left off, setting the P.
In my experience, a babe collecting money from you the first day is the goddam hail Mary of green lights. Payment before service. She feels comfortable enough to have snagged you her maga. Na maga dey pay, and na maga dey chop. I'd say 3k was a fair deal. You should have skipped the goddam pool and driven her straight to your apartment.

Ezeego1:
Lol... Her approach wasn't the best but definitely not the worst.

Guy leave that thing had it been everything works out fine between both of you. You go still ask ur own later.

When it comes to money guys will start forming responsible but when it comes to sex they will expect the lady to give it freely to them.

You judged that girl wrongly bro! Forget all these una tricks wey una take dey deceive gals

If you only saw my heart, you won't have typed all that tbh. The last thing in my mind then was sex. But then you won't believe and it doesn't matter really.