Thandobaby:


U are right dear its ur choice,but how many will u sleep with if things don't work out btwn u and ur boyfriend

My dear every relationship must not lead to marriage, if eventually things don't work out you guys break up, it'll hurt for a while but life will go on. I don't know how many I will sleep with before I get married but to me that's not a problem but I take my relationships seriously and put my all into it, I don't just hop from one to another,if I end a relationship there is a very concrete reason why it ended. I only have sex when I'm dating and only with my bf, if I'm not in a relationship I'm not having sex and I won't die if I don't have sex. Also, sex has not beclouded my sense of reasoning, I can't say I will stay with a guy just cos of sex, other qualities have to add up as well, sex is just one of them and not the final determinant.

Splendour4845:
Trash. Some stupid girls will pick these advices and run with them. Take these advice and run 99 risk of dieing single. As wise,educated and civilized Europians and d west have become,these trash of advice will not sell to their women. SEX IS NOT SOMETHING U GIVE TO A MAN.

I don't know o, OP is talking as if women don't enjoy sex as well.

sekxy:

yep dear

I missed Owerri dearly. Did my youth service in Imo state. I had lots of fun then.

Dancevile dont spoil market for guys na

My dear ur write up iz a complete waste of tym.. all these ladies that are desperate to get married after school dont u think d r workin hard to make it happen. U knw how d country is so pls dnt come here pointin out rights nd wrongs 4 us cos diz country hav gone way beyond dat.. smh

I don't think you this OP is matured at all. When you cant gain all this things except from visiting your family and depending on you, how would one get closer to a potential wife. ODE go and read your book and make money.. all girls will do this willingly

Daslim180:
If she avoid all that, I will avoid giving her my money. 'Lobatan'

Are you saying you would not ask a woman for sex as long as she does not ask you for money...well that is nice? then how come men are fund of asking working class women for sex even when the womenn have not demanded anything from them?..yet they some how get upset and disappointed when they are turned down ,...I am an example..what do you say to that?

Cutezt:
I See Nothing Wrong With No 3, I Have Slept On The Same Bed With My Gf For 3 Days, And Nothing Serious Transpired Between Us, BTW, I Will Outrightly Dump Any Lady Who Does'nt Give Me PDA, Warrafuk??

9ja gah gv u PDA? U no like CTM or INVOICE?

uzolexis:


My dear every relationship must not lead to marriage, if eventually things don't work out you guys break up, it'll hurt for a while but life will go on. I don't know how many I will sleep with before I get married but to me that's not a problem but I take my relationships seriously and put my all into it, I don't just hop from one to another,if I end a relationship there is a very concrete reason why it ended. I only have sex when I'm dating and only with my bf, if I'm not in a relationship I'm not having sex and I won't die if I don't have sex. Also, sex has not beclouded my sense of reasoning, I can't say I will stay with a guy just cos of sex, other qualities have to add up as well, sex is just one of them and not the final determinant.

Yeah l hear u though l think sex is a sacred thing u won't be literally hoping from one relationship after e other yes,but it beats me hey as to why l would have sex with every other guy l get into a relationship with.Its just that e kind of generation we live in has become fast l mean what happened to enjoy someone's company without getting under e sheets.l had a friend who was involved with a gud guy who never initiated sex with her but she wanted to rush e guy into bed.

Valid points

Okay

teebillz:


I missed Owerri dearly. Did my youth service in Imo state. I had lots of fun then.

Wow nice

It's DanceVille...

The funny thing is that some ladies will read this and still go ahead and do contrary to this, anyway who am i to judge.....

Maybe if the "real guys" set a limit or define their relationships with the ladies, i bet such wouldn't happen....

In other words, i'm not a relationship expert!

ChristieDeBaker:
The write up is very okay. But those of you saying ladies give sex in relationship because their boy friends spend for them, it's not true o some boyfriends are broke asses yet they want oiling more than anything. what I noticed is that Naija men are too obsessed with sex that even if they dnt spend one naira on a lady they will expect sex from her. I wonder if you guys haven't heard that a poor man does not deserve to oil.

Guys! Stop looking for sex wen u dnt have money to pay brideprice look for money first, when u have it marry and have sex at the right time. You people are the ones who force most of us ladies into premarital sex.

You really poured out my mind....No money,No hard on.

Iseoluwani:


A friend sent it to me on twitter

Coincidentally, its happening to a girl I have feelings for right now, I don't know how I can secretly make the snapshot reach her. If I fwd it myself, it will look insulting to her, if I give you her number to fwd it to her, she may suspect my hand in axtion . Moreover, you may be dangerous as well since I don't know ur status. Can you suggest any other thing?

Richiy:
Mingle with his friends: Be polite and respectful to them. A real man would not let the opinion of his friends be the basis of decision making in his relationship. If he solely follows the opinion of his friends, he is not even worth it

Do his laundry: While you are not a drycleaner, there is nothing wrong with occasionally helping him wash, especially if he is washing or you are washing, you might just out of your current mood decide to help him or not...as long as you do not overdo it.

Spend the weekend at his place: I don't get this. Apart from regular dates and hangouts, don't one usually feel the need for privacy and companionship with your partner? When I date, I don't find it weird at all to want to spend some days over. So, I will just say that this is inconclusive. Whatever rocks one's boat.

Visit his family regularly: Why a girl would do that is beyond me. Regularly...like regularly? But why? Maintaining a good relationship with them is good enough. You don't have to constantly disturb them.

Depending on him to take care of you and your family: This one is hilarious. What is he? Your saviour or what? Lol. Why would you want to depend on a guy for your survival and even your family's? Don't give anybody your dignity abeg. Nuff said.

Sleep with him: This one is very relative. My philosophy is; It is your body and if you feel comfortable enough to share it with someone, it's okay. Please don't crucify me. A large percentage of us do it already, openly or covertly. If you don't, it is still okay. In all, don't let anyone make you do what you don't feel comfortable doing.

Public display of Affection: This is actually not that bad. Your emotions can make you openly show your partner love. But, it is the excess that is bad. A lot of pda, especially social media display, show esteem issues and insecurity. People that enjoy great relationships are too busy enjoying it to think of uploading photos every 5 minutes.

Generally, each relationship is dynamic and there is no rule for human relationships. Whatever works for the both of you is just fine! Others don't really matter.

So pure, you did well!

Boyooosa:

Coincidentally, its happening to a girl I have feelings for right now, I don't know how I can secretly make the snapshot reach her. If I fwd it myself, it will look insulting to her, if I give you her number to fwd it to her, she may suspect my hand in axtion . Moreover, you may be dangerous as well since I don't know ur status. Can you dugget any other thing?

Trust.

Let me send it to her on fb then.

I can't snatch your girl oooo because I can't spend on girls unnecessarily believe me you

Don't turn yourself to ATM because of love. It gonna fade away

Anyways OYO Z BECOMING YOUR CASE

DanceVille:
Thanks bro..

I concur wit number 6

Thandobaby:


Lol let him make us aware na

aware of what naw, some of what he listed are wat can make a guy know if his lady is qualified to be a wife material

sekem:


Spoiling which market?

He's only spoiling the market for his sistas.

In the real nowadays world, everyone knows that unless a girl does all these things he has listed, nothing, and I mean absolutely nothing for her in terms of marriage.

Danceville is just like every other day preacher. You preach just because of preaching sake and not necessarily because you know those whom you are addressing will listen to you or do as you say.

Because at the end of the day, we all know that people will still do what they want to do.

i dey tell you, thats what i just told someone

Kakamorufu:
aware of what naw, some of what he listed are wat can make a guy know if his lady is qualified to be a wife material

Funny enough when a lady does all that for a guy e lady is regarded as too desperate for marriage

Apelex:




Wow in all the post miss...I must say you cut my attention.

That's a first for me...thumbs up...


Your are so down to earth and smart......gush
Had it been I am ...............

Your just my kinda girl.
.well done Miss.



Ed sheeran..hope u like photograph?

That's my favorite song

Gracias
Of course I know Photograph And I absolutely love it! I think I even wrote about it in my Nairaland dairy. Ed Sheeran is so....thoughtful

NL way anyone who has data can show case rubbish!

Thandobaby:


Yeah l hear u though l think sex is a sacred thing u won't be literally hoping from one relationship after e other yes,but it beats me hey as to why l would have sex with every other guy l get into a relationship with.Its just that e kind of generation we live in has become fast l mean what happened to enjoy someone's company without getting under e sheets.l had a friend who was involved with a gud guy who never initiated sex with her but she wanted to rush e guy into bed.

That you are having sex with your bf does not mean that's all the relationship is all about. Of course you can enjoy each other's company without having sex, if sex is all that defines your relationship then there's a problem. Me I just like getting intimate with who I'm dating but that's my choice and it's my body, not forcing it down anybody's throat as I'm not living anybody's life for them. I can't go into a no sex relationship but again, that's just me.

Op, u gat it wrong ,barring the sex part which is personal decision , u cant expect a lady not to mingle with ur friends,family n expect her to take u serious .*op* i don't think u are in a relationship ,cos if u love someone n u are serious with them ,you show them to the whole world not some covert operation style ....

gretblue:
Because it says all you want to hear.

No, because it's saying what most nairalanders don't agree with.
your mouth sha...... regards to all

uzolexis:


That you are having sex with your bf does not mean that's all the relationship is all about. Of course you can enjoy each other's company without having sex, if sex is all that defines your relationship then there's a problem. Me I just like getting intimate with who I'm dating but that's my choice and it's my body, not forcing it down anybody's throat as I'm not living anybody's life for them. I can't go into a no sex relationship but again, that's just me.

watching in 3D!!

Richiy:


Gracias
Of course I know Photograph And I absolutely love it! I think I even wrote about it in my Nairaland dairy. Ed Sheeran is so....thoughtful

Cool....

Bonjour Madame..
.

Iseoluwani:



Trust.

Let me send it to her on fb then.

I can't snatch your girl oooo because I can't spend on girls unnecessarily believe me you

Don't turn yourself to ATM because of love. It gonna fade away

Anyways OYO Z BECOMING YOUR CASE

Frankly, am feeling ATM right now but have an advantage of being intelligent... Trust me. Am just considering how to work things out with her, I believe in power of possibility. Those Petties she demands for as specified in DAT snapshot cannot actually affect my economy (my job pays) but the situation is detrimental to my status and most esp. My plan for her. (We call them 'ebiano' for my Syd. But seriously, I wish to change her for good.

Ok

rosalieene:

watching in 3D!!

3D is outdated na, you should be watching in 5D.