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Angelberry:
What should be the prayer point

byvan03:
Marriage has been ridiculed, things that shouldn't be condoned are now being nurtured. I don't even get how his ex is still his friend. You guys didn't date? I believe everyone knows where the rain started beating them. The foundation of every marriage defines the structure, hope you didn't cause their break-up.

guyXander:
Edit the number of his ex to another of your number or but a new number. Then use his ex's picture as the profile picture.
This way, all chats come to you henceforth.

Miami11:
Warn him sternly, what kind of nonsense is that,

He is not a baby, I would sit him down and lay it out and in the open, I would also give him an option to remain with the girl or let me go.

Wonder where all this people with low self esteem come from,

You teach people how to treat you, and if you are passive about matters of exes and side chicks oh well!

Vision4God:
Pls kip praying for ur husband and respectfully talk to him about it.
He will change. May not b immediate, but he will.

Amelian:
Some people can disturb themselves and their minds..
Why go thru his phone in the first place?
I will never go thru my bf's phone and he doesnt go thru mine too..
What the eyes do not see, the heart do not ache over.. Why snoop around for.trouble??

One thing ,my bf knows is this when my female friends and neigbours compliment his looks and bike, he starts smiling sheepishly at home.. The kind stern look, i give to him when we get home.and also just one word: honey, u know i trust you, pls dont dissapoint me
He will smile and then make a straight face and say, nah dont worry.... I wont ok?
I will say ok, no problem with a straight face too.. End of matter
And i wont bug him again....
Thats all...even after marriage, i wont check... Why check phone

Rehil:
don't delete her number from his phone pls,it will only make him mad*bin there n done it* pls find a convenient time,in d bedroom on d bed after a wonderful section of bedmatics n let him know how u feel.let him know u feel insecure n not comfortable with him saving her pics, its making u think he still feels something for her but pls don't just tell him to delete her number or stop communicating with her.if he respect and value u n your feelings he will make decisions n u will see results.Patience pls,don't attack him ooo,men have their pride.all the best,don't loose sleep over it,be a good wife n God be with u

AZeD1:
I don't know what phone your husband uses, but most phones will save pictures automatically once you view the picture.

byvan03:
@Amelian

This rule can't work for everyone. Some prefer not to live in fool's paradise. About the ranting, some people actually do have solutions that work for them. Everyone can't believe in privacy inside marriage, I don't believe it. There is actually a vast difference between boyfriend and husband, dating is not marriage. OP did nothing wrong by knowing who she is dealing with and has every right to go through her husband's phone. If you believed in the loyalty he swore, why then will you be scared of touching his phone?


Tell me you can't go through a boyfriend 's phone and it's very understandable.

eyinjuege:
Some numbers can never be forgotten no matter how hard you try, talk less of when you're still game.

Meaning , if she deletes her number from his phone, he probably still has her number in his heart.

However, he can make a conscious effort never to contact the number.

Amelian:
Am not scared touching his phone.. Its not about fear but respecting each other's privacy. For me , i dont beleive in it.. I love my privacy alot... Likewise him too. For us ,theres no difference in our relationship and in marriage. And we are not living in fool's paradise. We are both aware of what we require from each other..
What works for us.. Might not work for u.. Its our choice to be faithful to each other , even in courtship..its a mutual agreement, which works perfectly well for us.. And we are happy.

Amelian:
Am not scared touching his phone.. Its not about fear but respecting each other's privacy. For me , i dont beleive in it.. I love my privacy alot... Likewise him too. For us ,theres no difference in our relationship and in marriage. And we are not living in fool's paradise. We are both aware of what we require from each other..
What works for us.. Might not work for another... Its our choice to be faithful to each other , even in courtship..its a mutual agreement, which works perfectly well for us.. And we are happy with our choice... If no one is faithful when courting? Is it in marriage u will then change mindset and start becoming faithful
Some human beings are not automated machine that can switch from unfaithful during courtship and suddenly switch to faithful during marriage..
Well everyone with his or her own.

byvan03:
Am not questioning your decision or choice in life . All am saying is that OP is not wrong going through her husband's phone. Believe it or not, when people yap on how much they love privacy, it's always because they are hiding something, that something mustn't be infidelity. There is a vast difference between dating and marriage, it is not the same to me. You mentioned that it's the same to you, it's Ok .

AZeD1:
I don't know what phone your husband uses, but most phones will save pictures automatically once you view the picture.

CoCoLav:
Which phone does this?

AZeD1:
My phone.

CoCoLav:
Lol...how can that be true?

AZeD1:
My phone.