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The OP needs to receive sense

tyson98:
I smell two frustrated peeps on this thread

waledudu:
I knew this girl back in university days. She turned down most even till after school. Fast forward 8 years later, all the guys I knew who asked her out are all married with families. She is still single at 33.. I spoke to her recently, I guess she ain't bothered still waiting on Mr right.

my brother, read my post above. It's same thing with a girl my friend really loves.

She is 32 and last time my friend try initiate a convo regarding their initail talks she still used words like "I am in a relationship an it LOOKS LIKE IT IS WORKING" looks like? Damn!

remedick:
Not really, Nne. It's just a case of girls making mistakes that hurt them. They reject the ones that truly love them and accept the ones that use and dump them. Why isn't there girl referred to in the OP still married by now despite dating numerous guys? I mean one should have been able to ATLEAST marry her. Doesn't that show that something is wrong? Even if the guy she has been with does have money, he should make effort to talk marriage plans and at least pay the bride price ONLY to take her home while celebration can come later.

There comes a time when you have to dump some standards and look out for that guy who really cares about you.

I know of a guy we serve together who really love a certain corper. As in real love, no games. He is values her worth and wanted to start something with her after NYSC when he noticed they guy she dated in that time didn't value her or wanted to make plans that could lead to marriage.

Guess what? She rejected him. Mind you she even gain much attention from this guy in that time than the one she dated.

Till now, she still rejected him and not yet married. To think that the one she was with was much younger than her. I and the guy are still in touch and he said the girl told him she is in a relationship already. What surprised me was the kind of phrased she used to describe her current relationship which means there is NO concrete evidence the current guy will marry her.

What if he doesn't marry her eventually? She would have wasted time with 2 guys while one who really wanted her was rejected.

I have told my friend to just let her be and considering her age (32), it's her lose.

She is good in all ramification which is why my friend really wanted her. When I guy is persistence it means something. But the guys she has been with does not see the value my friend sees.

What could make a beautiful, well mannered lady remain unmarried till 32 if not that something is wrong somewhere-- her choice!

Remember we are free to make choices but we do not make the right choice most times!

P.S: BTW I am long time crush of you.

True talk ohh!

Typical naija women start having sense at the age of menopause but too late.

That's one keep forming hard to get and keep rejecting people until she hit the 3.0. Now she has turn to give away plate.


Nonsense women.

remedick:
Not really, Nne. It's just a case of girls making mistakes that hurt them. They reject the ones that truly love them and accept the ones that use and dump them. Why isn't there girl referred to in the OP still married by now despite dating numerous guys? I mean one should have been able to ATLEAST marry her. Doesn't that show that something is wrong? Even if the guy she has been with does have money, he should make effort to talk marriage plans and at least pay the bride price ONLY to take her home while celebration can come later.

There comes a time when you have to dump some standards and look out for that guy who really cares about you.

I know of a guy we serve together who really love a certain corper. As in real love, no games. He is values her worth and wanted to start something with her after NYSC when he noticed they guy she dated in that time didn't value her or wanted to make plans that could lead to marriage.

Guess what? She rejected him. Mind you she even gain much attention from this guy in that time than the one she dated.

Till now, she still rejected him and not yet married. To think that the one she was with was much younger than her. I and the guy are still in touch and he said the girl told him she is in a relationship already. What surprised me was the kind of phrased she used to describe her current relationship which means there is NO concrete evidence the current guy will marry her.

What if he doesn't marry her eventually? She would have wasted time with 2 guys while one who really wanted her was rejected.

I have told my friend to just let her be and considering her age (32), it's her lose.

She is good in all ramification which is why my friend really wanted her. When I guy is persistence it means something. But the guys she has been with does not see the value my friend sees.

What could make a beautiful, well mannered lady remain unmarried till 32 if not that something is wrong somewhere-- her choice!

Remember we are free to make choices but we do not make the right choice most times!

P.S: BTW I am long time crush of you.

Bottom line remains, she didn't want your friend and that's her right, I don't remember a law that says everyone must get married. If she doesn't want to marry someone regardless of whatever factor at play, that's her call to make, it's just that simple.

I guess we should get married before I lose you too, huh!

Nori:
Lol. It's just quite irritating when men feel that women must always accept their advances because we are women and should be desperate. Everyone has a right to chose.
And I don't belief a man is better because he is richer or more handsome, neither is a woman better because she is more beautiful. Its called having a choice.

Personally I believe ranting and crying because a girl turned down your advances is a display of inferiority complex. Infact it is even funny to use the word `REJECT` to describe it. I wonder if he is saying give a yes response to anybody that gives you the green light

Precel1:
hmm simple fact is that's it's actually true but a reasonable fact is ... should a girl marry a guy she doesn't see herself loving in the next couple of days, weeks or months? #f*ck that shit of love grows with time o

There's no such thing as love at first sight. So yes ofcourse it does grow with time.

What pple refuse to know z dat LOve isn't all that makes up a marriage infact to me love is the least tin when considering marriage. Dz y u see lover birds get divorced after marriage. Compability to me shud be the piority love shud be the last tin

After all you still remain bitter. Abeg free the girl. She does not want you na by force.

The fact that you like or ask someone does not mean they have to say yes.

Thank your God she had the honesty to say no. No one prays for a partner that says yes out of pity or desperation.

marvelck:
Imagine after turning you down, she's still unmarried and waiting for 'Mr.Right' while you are now happily married to much finer and better girl. Girls really need to stop creating unnecessary standards or barriers for themselves and do the right thing. And to guys, whenever a girl reject you, its not the end of the world. She's only making it possible for you to meet and be with a better person. Every disappointment is a blessing!

49cents:
Girls in our climes claim to look for love but do they know what is love?

The bolded show what is deeply what is love.

Residence in some highbrow area; crusing around with a range with two 'cute' kids.......

This is good in isself but the experience of love is something else entirely

I am not begging any girl to "love" me because I can comfortably provide her this....

When I see a lady who lives rather than just sit around looking pretty I will give my arm and leg....

Our girls are damn too shallow in their reasoning, sometimes I feel like puking

...lol..the 'rich and handsome' really pain you well...you even wan puke ...

...Take it easyoo,no matter how unattractive and poor a man is.,there is always a spouse for them....have that in mind.

Nori:
Is it by force to accept advances from a man?? Is it not better to be single than marry a man you don't love? What your saying doesn't make sense at all, and what makes u think the person u married is even better, because she is more beautiful. Maybe she was just more desperate.

God to will give the girl a more handsome and richer guy who is better than you

But it is not easy to be single. Even God said it is not good, so why will it be better.

freecocoa:
Bottom line remains, she didn't want your friend and that's her right, I don't remember a law that says everyone must get married. If she doesn't want to marry someone regardless of whatever factor at play, that's her call to make, it's just that simple.

I guess we should get married before I lose you too, huh!

lol the girl matter is something else but there was something my friend she she told him, may be due to too much thinking, I have no idea. It was even when she told him that he opened up to her. Sadly, she withdrew.

Huh, marry ke, I thought you were married by now o.

Actually what I love about you is your bluntness.

WWII Nairaland edition.. keep the shots coming.

@Nori

Well said! *clapping*

Everyone has a right to have standards that they look for in a spouse, regardless what those standards. For some people it's wealth, good looks, family backgrounds or even piety and it's really nobody's business.
One of the reasons there are so many unhappy marriages is because people completely lower their standards, marry people that they're incompatible with, and marry just for the sake of marrying. The same society that pushes a person to marry just for the sake of it, is the same society that mocks a person for a broken marriage.

Ok a Lil brain teaser . Who amongst you ladies is above 35 years and not married here ?
Who is brave enough to admit it??Let's see your frame of MIND . WHO ?

http://rhemachabod..com.ng/2016/08/for-single-ladies5steps-to-get-husband.html?m=1

Just follow the steps listed in the link... You u will surely get a Husband in 6months

Nori:
Is it by force to accept advances from a man?? Is it not better to be single than marry a man you don't love? What your saying doesn't make sense at all, and what makes u think the person u married is even better, because she is more beautiful. Maybe she was just more desperate.

God to will give the girl a more handsome and richer guy who is better than you

Nori:
Is it by force to accept advances from a man?? Is it not better to be single than marry a man you don't love? What your saying doesn't make sense at all, and what makes u think the person u married is even better, because she is more beautiful. Maybe she was just more desperate.

God to will give the girl a more handsome and richer guy who is better than you

Nori:
Is it by force to accept advances from a man?? Is it not better to be single than marry a man you don't love? What your saying doesn't make sense at all, and what makes u think the person u married is even better, because she is more beautiful. Maybe she was just more desperate.

God to will give the girl a more handsome and richer guy who is better than you

Are


Did I hear you say " God will give the girl more handsome and richer"? So your criteria for a choice man is handsomsness and richer guy? U may need counseling for reorientation... Else you may regret your choice at last

jerryfisher:
u just carry he matter for head!!!but why?

Because I hate condescending messages directed to unmarried ladies, causing fear and anxiety which leads to marrying the wrong person. Hope you have gotten your answer.

Nigerians ladies will never learn. Na pride go kill them all

uckennety:
Op you go touch babes 4 their chord

Stop dem go swear 4 u!imagine babes wey d. Drm 4 oil guys and Yankee boys

Stop it oooo

Girls av standards

Meanwhile in my mind..............

LMAO...that pix is in line

remedick:
lol the girl matter is something else but there was something my friend she she told him, may be due to too much thinking, I have no idea. It was even when she told him that he opened up to her. Sadly, she withdrew.

Huh, marry ke, I thought you were married by now o.

Actually what I love about you is your bluntness.

Why would you assume I was married "by now o"? you see una life? Smh

Glad to know you appreciate my bluntness.

This life sha. God dey. I thank God the other lady no gree for my husband! hehehe

Nori:
Is it by force to accept advances from a man?? Is it not better to be single than marry a man you don't love? What your saying doesn't make sense at all, and what makes u think the person u married is even better, because she is more beautiful. Maybe she was just more desperate.

God to will give the girl a more handsome and richer guy who is better than you

You sound like you are speaking from experience.

Ngokafor:
...lol..the 'rich and handsome' really pain you well...you even wan puke ...

...Take it easyoo,no matter how unattractive and poor a man is.,there is always a spouse for them....have that in mind.

I must have touched a raw nerve!

You need to meet in person to know that isnt my challenge....

But seriously I can't stand superficial people....... they bore and irritate!!!

Life is quite deeper than all that but until you know what am saying in your experience you will think am saying thrash

Nori and tyson. Whats going on?

Nori:
Is it by force to accept advances from a man?? Is it not better to be single than marry a man you don't love? What your saying doesn't make sense at all, and what makes u think the person u married is even better, because she is more beautiful. Maybe she was just more desperate.

God to will give the girl a more handsome and richer guy who is better than you

bae, you're a bae.... I like your sense of understanding and reasoning..... Mind to pm me?

49cents:
I must have touched a raw nerve!

You need to meet in person to know that isnt my challenge....

But seriously I can't stand superficial people....... they bore and irritate!!!

Life is quite deeper than all that but until you know what am saying in your experience you will think am saying thrash

..Which raw nerve did you touch?? .mine??..how??...if anyone's nerve was touched,its yours.


...You are clearly pained about 'rich and handsome' which would not be the case if you were any of those ...anyway i rest my case here,consider this my last reply to you.

Na marriage guys take hol babes these days

Op be like i will do finishing for this bae wey turn me down but was later smacked by Nori and co... oh boi, E-relationshp fight dey sweet die... lala, pls call me that groundnut seller...

Op isn't it better she remains single, than to live a lie all in the name of marriage? Every one has a choice n choosing a life partner isn't like picking a gala n checking for its expiry date. She said No for a reason u respect that and move on.

Nori:
Because I hate condescending messages directed to unmarried ladies, causing fear and anxiety which leads to marrying the wrong person. Hope you have gotten your answer.

NO,,I only saw ur though and view!!!

Nori:
Is it by force to accept advances from a man?? Is it not better to be single than marry a man you don't love? What your saying doesn't make sense at all, and what makes u think the person u married is even better, because she is more beautiful. Maybe she was just more desperate.

God to will give the girl a more handsome and richer guy who is better than you

you just allowed the tread hit u so hard!!!change ur mind set and do he right tinz!!!