succyblinks:
Hi guys I really need your advice on this issue
I've been dating this guy for over a year now and it's been really tough on me, I truly love this guy even when my parents were kicking against him due to tribal difference I stood on my grounds until they finally accepted him but everytime we have an issue, the next thing he does is to break up with me and make me come back begging even if he was wrong, this guy was the one that disvirgined me and I can't just cut off the connection between us no matter how I try, now recently he started hitting me anytime he's angry and whenever we are having an argument he raises his voice and even threatens to beat me like he used to do, this makes me feel so embarrassed cause he says it even to the hearing of my neighbors, i've caught him sexchatting with one girl before and he wasn't even sorry about it, he made me break up with all my male friends and treats me like trash, I know I should leave the relationship but I can't it's like my life depends on it, I've read so many articles on how to get over a loved one but none worked, I've always wanted to get married to the guy who deflowered me but I don't think it's possible, please help me I'm on the verge of committing suicide as I feel like my whole world is wrapped around him. please help me.

thanks.

no be by force to date man, jus move along

sweeterman:




no be by force to date man, jus move along

I'll definitely move on I can't continue crying for the rest of my life I jus nid some strength

PM me, I see someone in need of help..

succyblinks:


I'll definitely move on I can't continue crying for the rest of my life I jus nid some strength

dillycool:
Commit suicide over a guy?

Please re consider. There are lots of men out there for you to choose from.

women dont choose men these days...we choose them

succyblinks:


thanks a lot, it hurts so bad but I'll move on

So how did that pan out, the leaving him part... Just curious...

Babzilla:

Fúck it stay with hin aite He may treat U like trash but he hasnt killed you.... yet Stay with him please there is nothing better out there U owe it to yourself to stick with him tjats what loyalty and love is all about .. for better or worse

crazy man

PaulKillerman:
PM me, I see someone in need of help..

who dey talk? Paul

PaulKillerman:
PM me, I see someone in need of help..

who dey talk? Paulkillerman

TheRealestGuy:
So how did that pan out, the leaving him part... Just curious...

I delayed a lil bit but he later called it off, I'm recovering nw sha and I tell you it isn't easy

Very painful

Thanks fr your concern I appreciate

Honey i understand wat u r going u thru, and it is normal unfortunately. So many ppl go thru dis, but wud never admit it. De first step to recovery is to talk abt it. Which is wat u have done in dis case, and one day u wil look back and even not remember dis pain anymore. Yes we do need love in our lives, we r humans after all, but u cant force love on anyone. To me, it sounds like dis guy knows dat u r crazy abt him, and somehow both of u think dat u cant leave witout him. Prove yoself wrong, show yoself dat u can be good to yourself. De first love u shud experiance in yo life, its de love for yoself, den others will follow. Closing de door, is not easy, but it can be done. Just challenge yoself. Stay away from him for a month. Dont text him, avoid de urge to call him or even go to his area. Avoid his calls, dnt reject dem, just ignore dem. In no time, u wil even be angry at yoself, for paying so much attention on him. Dnt be in a rush to move on to de next guy. Work on yoself and be patient. De right one will surely come and u will forget all de pain u ever had in yo life. Always blv in love honey, coz love wil always be part of human nature

succyblinks:
Hi guys I really need your advice on this issue
I've been dating this guy for over a year now and it's been really tough on me, I truly love this guy even when my parents were kicking against him due to tribal difference I stood on my grounds until they finally accepted him but everytime we have an issue, the next thing he does is to break up with me and make me come back begging even if he was wrong, this guy was the one that disvirgined me and I can't just cut off the connection between us no matter how I try, now recently he started hitting me anytime he's angry and whenever we are having an argument he raises his voice and even threatens to beat me like he used to do, this makes me feel so embarrassed cause he says it even to the hearing of my neighbors, i've caught him sexchatting with one girl before and he wasn't even sorry about it, he made me break up with all my male friends and treats me like trash, I know I should leave the relationship but I can't it's like my life depends on it, I've read so many articles on how to get over a loved one but none worked, I've always wanted to get married to the guy who deflowered me but I don't think it's possible, please help me I'm on the verge of committing suicide as I feel like my whole world is wrapped around him. please help me.

thanks.

Durghh, i dnt get you...you can't move on cos he's the one that dis-virgined you or cos you love him, whicher??

Plz try to move on..ur in a toxic relationship dat wil only hurt u deep..brace up and move on..and wen u do forgive him in your heart..xo dat whenever u want to go into a new relationship bad memories of ur old relationship wont determine how d new one goes...follow ur heart but tk ur head along...you are stronger dan dis

succyblinks:


I delayed a lil bit but he later called it off, I'm recovering nw sha and I tell you it isn't easy

Very painful

Thanks fr your concern I appreciate

Really sorry about what he's making you go through. I hope you learn from this that the most important person to love in one's life is oneself. Never love anyone more than you love yourself, ever!

Wanna help you get completely over him if you would let me though... Hope your night was good?

you're still courting and he's beating you. What do you expect him to do when you get married? You want your news to be on nairaland?

HUSBAND BEATS WIFE TO DEATH OVER LITTLE ARGUEMENT

You better wise up and throw that yeye virgin mentality away.

succyblinks:
Hi guys I really need your advice on this issue
I've been dating this guy for over a year now and it's been really tough on me, I truly love this guy even when my parents were kicking against him due to tribal difference I stood on my grounds until they finally accepted him but everytime we have an issue, the next thing he does is to break up with me and make me come back begging even if he was wrong, this guy was the one that disvirgined me and I can't just cut off the connection between us no matter how I try, now recently he started hitting me anytime he's angry and whenever we are having an argument he raises his voice and even threatens to beat me like he used to do, this makes me feel so embarrassed cause he says it even to the hearing of my neighbors, i've caught him sexchatting with one girl before and he wasn't even sorry about it, he made me break up with all my male friends and treats me like trash, I know I should leave the relationship but I can't it's like my life depends on it, I've read so many articles on how to get over a loved one but none worked, I've always wanted to get married to the guy who deflowered me but I don't think it's possible, please help me I'm on the verge of committing suicide as I feel like my whole world is wrapped around him. please help me.

thanks.

I pray that you will not leave the relationship in a body bag in Jesus name. Please run as fast as you can and there is no need for you to commit any suicide, life goes on.

succyblinks:


I'll definitely move on I can't continue crying for the rest of my life I jus nid some strength

You lost your strength when you cut yourself away from the world and made him your "only friend "... sweetheart that was so lame but no need crying over spilt milk.... I'm sure you still have some female friends, dab some red lipstick on your lips, get yourself a sexy outfit and go out with the girls (fun crazy girls)... those are the kind of girls you need to help you snap out of this "my life revolves around him" mentality ...do some crazy things you don't think you are capable of doing... if he's the only guy you have ever had sex with, then you could consider a casual fling, nothing serious so you don't get yourself roped in again... don't let some sissy ass dude who probably doesn't know how to use his middle man make you feel worthless, get a little selfish and live your life for you and you alone, get your joy back sweetie

TheRealestGuy:
Really sorry about what he's making you go through. I hope you learn from this that the most important person to love in one's life is oneself. Never love anyone more than you love yourself, ever!

Wanna help you get completely over him if you would let me though... Hope your night was good?

Thanks alot, ya it was urz?
U can send me a pm if u want

smileysmiley:

You lost your strength when you cut yourself away from the world and made him your "only friend "... sweetheart that was so lame but no need crying over spilt milk.... I'm sure you still have some female friends, dab some red lipstick on your lips, get yourself a sexy outfit and go out with the girls (fun crazy girls)... those are the kind of girls you need to help you snap out of this "my life revolves around him" mentality ...do some crazy things you don't think you are capable of doing... if he's the only guy you have ever had sex with, then you could consider a casual fling, nothing serious so you don't get yourself roped in again... don't let some sissy ass dude who probably doesn't know how to use his middle man make you feel worthless, get a little selfish and live your life for you and you alone, get your joy back sweetie

The thing is am an introvert who don't like hanging out a lot

But we're done sha, I'm recovering and every little thing I remember about him brings tears to my eyes, moving on is so so painful but i kw am almost there

Thanks for ur concern I aappreciate

ZeeAfrica:
Honey i understand wat u r going u thru, and it is normal unfortunately. So many ppl go thru dis, but wud never admit it. De first step to recovery is to talk abt it. Which is wat u have done in dis case, and one day u wil look back and even not remember dis pain anymore. Yes we do need love in our lives, we r humans after all, but u cant force love on anyone. To me, it sounds like dis guy knows dat u r crazy abt him, and somehow both of u think dat u cant leave witout him. Prove yoself wrong, show yoself dat u can be good to yourself. De first love u shud experiance in yo life, its de love for yoself, den others will follow. Closing de door, is not easy, but it can be done. Just challenge yoself. Stay away from him for a month. Dont text him, avoid de urge to call him or even go to his area. Avoid his calls, dnt reject dem, just ignore dem. In no time, u wil even be angry at yoself, for paying so much attention on him. Dnt be in a rush to move on to de next guy. Work on yoself and be patient. De right one will surely come and u will forget all de pain u ever had in yo life. Always blv in love honey, coz love wil always be part of human nature

Thanks dear, I've actually moved on and ya I feel free like I've been released from some sort of cage

I should av done that a long time ago

succyblinks:


The thing is am an introvert who don't like hanging out a lot

But we're done sha, I'm recovering and every little thing I remember about him brings tears to my eyes, moving on is so so painful but i kw am almost there

Thanks for ur concern I aappreciate

It's good to know that you have closed the door, please never open it again. That's one of the disadvantages of being an introvert, if you make the mistake of choosing the wrong person to be close to, the person ends up taking advantage of your situation cause they feel you can do nothing without them and truth be told, they might just be right. Breaking up with him is one step and getting over him is another, we don't want you locking yourself up in your room and brooding over that jerk sweetie, you need to engage yourself with something, find something to fill the void he has left cause we don't want you to fall into depression now or do we? You might not buy the idea of hanging out cause of your type of person but please engage yourself, you could get a hobby or learn a skill, find something that really catches your fancy and excites you and before long, you will be over him... Your future kids would be grateful if mummy bakes for them every now and then so you could consider enrolling in a catering school just think of something you have always wanted to do, now might just be right time to learn how to drive, swim and read those wonderful books you have always wanted to read... whatever you do, don't think about that jerk, but don't try to force yourself, it is a gradual process and you will definitely get there... never forget that you belong to you and you ruin you at your own expense.... now I've succeeded in writing an epistle, forgive me

People can only treat you manners you have allowed.

succyblinks:


Thanks alot, ya it was urz?
U can send me a pm if u want

I just did dear. Check your e-mail.

smileysmiley:

It's good to know that you have closed the door, please never open it again. That's one of the disadvantages of being an introvert, if you make the mistake of choosing the wrong person to be close to, the person ends up taking advantage of your situation cause they feel you can do nothing without them and truth be told, they might just be right. Breaking up with him is one step and getting over him is another, we don't want you locking yourself up in your room and brooding over that jerk sweetie, you need to engage yourself with something, find something to fill the void he has left cause we don't want you to fall into depression now or do we? You might not buy the idea of hanging out cause of your type of person but please engage yourself, you could get a hobby or learn a skill, find something that really catches your fancy and excites you and before long, you will be over him... Your future kids would be grateful if mummy bakes for them every now and then so you could consider enrolling in a catering school just think of something you have always wanted to do, now might just be right time to learn how to drive, swim and read those wonderful books you have always wanted to read... whatever you do, don't think about that jerk, but don't try to force yourself, it is a gradual process and you will definitely get there... never forget that you belong to you and you ruin you at your own expense.... now I've succeeded in writing an epistle, forgive me

U are a Darling, I don't get to hear encouragement like diz everyday, this actually made my week
I'm actually keeping myself busy by trying to achieve my long time dream of being a writer, d stress alone from thinking of what to write and how to write it is enough stress for me and I'm gradually losing him.

Thanks dear I appreciate

You know what to do but you've decided you can't. How about telling myself "I am going to make myself strong enough to leave him. Queens deserve Kings". One day you'll get thru to yourself. All I see is a mental thing

succyblinks:


Thanks alot, ya it was urz?
U can send me a pm if u want

Hey cutie, you just ignored my pm huh. Not nice

I totally understand you dear and why it was difficult to leave him when he treats you like trash. I have dated such a guy before. So I totally understand. From your comment I can see that you are over him. Don't be too sure till he comes back and apologize and Bam! You are back again with him. Guys like him are manipulative, possessive and controlling. He might pretend to be a changed person and trust me you will believe him and find yourself giving reasons to be with him again.

Before he turns you to a loveless creature, i'll advice you date someone different, a great nice guy. Someone who treats you like a queen and treats you with dignity and respect. It's good for your self esteem. It allows you to see clearly how shitty your ex is and how he doesn't deserve you. You will realize you have wasted your time with him and wish you weren't so naive. This is what helped me overcome such abusive relationship.

You sound so naive
i guess maybe the guy is spending some money on you if not why will u be dating a guy that beat girls..
No offence tho

Eyah, I've been there really.. Just occupy yourself with good things not people not new guy, cause he would use this weakness against you,Bleep you and leave you and you would be back to this again seeking new advice.. use your head honey.