Dygeasy:
Then money will keep finishing in the house.

AfricanApple:
I always wonder, are there people in this world who feels joy whenever they are in the kitchen or is just a necessity for us to go into the kitchen?
as for me the latter is the case. oh! how I hate cooking most especially when the whether is hot.

BUT
the question is must a woman know how to cook? must she be that perfect chef, whom people should bite their tongue at the taste of her food?

your answer should be with reasonable reasons

I often heard this phrase that 'another woman will snatch your husband if you don't know how to cook' like uuhhh? Is food the essence of our living?

Shouldn't it be a thing of choice?

My own opinion?
she must not know how to cook
If your wife/girlfriend cannot cook, I don't think its a sin for you to teach her or better still do the cookings yourself.

AfricanApple:
yes we don't but then their those stress were home-based stress. is it not when you sit in one place you will think of cooking?

AfricanApple:
I always wonder, are there people in this world who feels joy whenever they are in the kitchen or is just a necessity for us to go into the kitchen?
as for me the latter is the case. oh! how I hate cooking most especially when the whether is hot.

BUT
the question is must a woman know how to cook? must she be that perfect chef, whom people should bite their tongue at the taste of her food?

your answer should be with reasonable reasons

I often heard this phrase that 'another woman will snatch your husband if you don't know how to cook' like uuhhh? Is food the essence of our living?

Shouldn't it be a thing of choice?

My own opinion?
she must not know how to cook
If your wife/girlfriend cannot cook, I don't think its a sin for you to teach her or better still do the cookings yourself.

AfricanApple:
you have moved a step forward

cooking is nobody's duty.
what if you marry me and we do it like this, you cook today I cook tomorrow

AfricanApple:
it defines you not me

AfricanApple:

Cooking will never ever define me.
why can't my husband know how to cook so that I can have a good feeling too
Don't even use our mothers, because most were stay-at-home mum, full housewives. but now women work and also bring money to the family.

the both of us goes to work and we are both tired, then we have to share the responsibility.


Plus, i said I hate cooking, I didn't say I don't know how to Cook. difference

AfricanApple:
I will come and call you

not knowing how to cook doesn't mean you will never cook, like I said, its a necessity. and I believe there other options when you don't feel like it.

can't imagine entering the kitchen, morning afternoon, night because of food

firstking01:
With this mentality of yours you'd be having kitchen issues with your husband, and as you already know the only trail to a man's heart is through his stomach.

queencalipso:


Honey!!! No matter how long you wanna argue this, you truly have no point.

It may not keep your man but is just one of the most important criteria as a woman. Being a woman have made it a must for you whether you like it or not.

If you don't, you will be teased and insulted.

chigoizie7:


I don't want to be harsh on u.

But this is akin to

"Must a man satisfy his wife/gf on bed"?
" must a man be the head of the family"?
"Must a man provide and protect his family"?
"Must a woman be over protective of her child"?
"Must a woman take care of her kids"?


If most of ur answers to my question is "YES". Then u have a serious problem with your sense of reasoning as to ask if it is a must that a woman should know how to cook.












For crying out loud, what sort of generation of people are being given birth to these days?

honeygirl17:
You fit learn to cook now, its never too late to learn.

Bizibi:
You have made up your mind not to cook,why creating a thread for it.....you can take a lady as your housewife.

AfricanApple:
that's why I brought the topic here, there are lots of things our society believe is bad but aren't recall bad. people will insult yes that does make it bad.
even our parents will say at the top of their voice 'go and cook, let it master you because you are going to a man's house'

tell me why must I learn to do anything because of a man? why not because of myself and how it will help me in the society

herald9:
AfricanApple, when last did you visit the garden of Eden cause it's like someone don chop too much Apple

Its like when Mr A and Mrs E ate the apple, their eyes opened and they started questioning the authority of God (according to JW)..
Now you don chop enough Apple, your eyes don open and you start questioning your duties and responsibilities

I'm just hoping your future hubby will understand, cause you might end up in the same way as those your role models I mentioned above

Maybe you haven't come across the concept of division of labour and specialisation. That's how the family is supposed to be run. You handle your part, I handle mine so that there'd be efficiency. The other partner might help the other if the needs arises, but the status quo must be maintained to avoid unnecessary conflict which might lead to..... Hope you know.

Tallesty1:
AfricanApple is about to disappoint me

AfricanApple:
Haven't I done that already?
just say something

herald9:
AfricanApple, when last did you visit the garden of Eden cause it's like someone don chop too much Apple

Its like when Mr A and Mrs E ate the apple, their eyes opened and they started questioning the authority of God (according to JW)..
Now you don chop enough Apple, your eyes don open and you start questioning your duties and responsibilities

I'm just hoping your future hubby will understand, cause you might end up in the same way as those your role models I mentioned above

Maybe you haven't come across the concept of division of labour and specialisation. That's how the family is supposed to be run. You handle your part, I handle mine so that there'd be efficiency. The other partner might help the other if the needs arises, but the status quo must be maintained to avoid unnecessary conflict which might lead to..... Hope you know.

AfricanApple:
julietcutie, you have to learn how to cook because its what a man would look out for in you

that's serious

mymadam:

AfricanApple:
harsh are you the one that one to marry me?

Dygeasy:
Then money will keep finishing in the house.

Tallesty1:
lols@role models.


I think she's spending too much time alone in the garden, same thing Eve did before he encountered the Satan

Tallesty1:
My younger sister hates to cook but she's a great cook.

You get the difference?

Everybody should know how to cook but it's a must for a woman because she will soon raise people that will need to learn from her.

You don't learn to cook because of a man, it's part of your own contribution to the society


But on serious note, what would say that a girl who grew up with her parents spent her childhood days doing?

It's either she's a disobedient and irresponsible child or her parents failed her and neither of them is good news.

I can make you fall in love with cooking if you're interested.

AfricanApple:

Cooking will never ever define me.
why can't my husband know how to cook so that I can have a good feeling too
Don't even use our mothers, because most were stay-at-home mum, full housewives. but now women work and also bring money to the family.

the both of us goes to work and we are both tired, then we have to share the responsibility.


Plus, i said I hate cooking, I didn't say I don't know how to Cook. difference

saintfellow:
Lol so you are using work as an excuse.
let me tell you something about marriage.
marriage is not something you go into if you are not ready to make sacrifices for your family.
fine the both of you are working, but its your marital responsibility to close early and make sure that you prepare meal for your husband and children.
By the way, Who told you our mothers sit at home all day?
Do you know how hard they had to work, go to the farm and toll for hours, go to the village markets to sell for hours, yet they had to make sure that their families are well fed.
In truth, he should know how to cook but its not your hubby's duty to start cooking for the family on daily basics.
he can help out at times, that fine.
I think the problem with ladies like you is westernization and feminism but need i remind you that few days earlier "RIHANA was videod in the kitchen cooking for her family.

devonpaul:
Hello African Apple,
I will like to make some contributions on the subject of discussiom. Well, I did not read your post completely. This economy recession does not permit 1 to waste time on frivolent matter nowadays so I didn't even bother to read all. Call me lazy, yea maybe but the issue is About a Lady knowing how to cook.
1. One man's food is another man's poison, whicheva way you are in this life, one person is out there dat will love you just d way you are. Don't work yourself up on issues like this.
2. Being a lazy cook is different from not knowing how to cook. If you are a lazy cook. 2 things are involved,1. it's either you cook d food you and your family will eat in a week once and for all, thank God we have freezers, microwave etc.. 2. You cook once a while and supplement it with already made food purchase. I'm sure adunni foods at Ojodu Berger will be so glad to take a bite from your salary. They sell different kind of soups
In different massive quantities. Even if u want to do a small party and u dont want to cook, holla, they will fix u up.
3. The world has changed so much now from d olden days where d HUSBAND is d sole provider of d house thus making d wife the sole care taker of d house but nowadays, husband and wife in many houses both hustle to bring some mulla in. As a responsible husband that appreciates d effort of d wife because the work she's doing and money shes bringin should be your job but as things are way terrible in d country ATM, she sef be human being, wheneva your wife comes late and uve been home earlier. As a man, don't sit in ur condo and be waiting for her to come to prepare dinner.. It's important that a man come in d capacity of d wife when circumstances permits. It's all love.
4. @AfricalApple It is compulsory for a woman to know how to cook. Pls take note of that. I don't want to hear the story of how d HUSBAND can teach her how to cook when they finally get married. If you are so matured and grown up to d age of 25 and still don't know how to cook. You can't know how to cook again. Just forget it. Means, u have no interest in knowing and you don't feel d need to know. Simple
Men nowadays should realise that Women are not meant to do all d necessary home care, it's a union, there's no schedule roster. Whichever way you can help your wife, be it in d kitchen, doing some laundries, arranging d kids room, taking d kids to school and etc. You can go ahead and help her. It's not a must she will be d one to fix all this. Help your wives but back to d amatter. If you think you are ready for marriage but you don't know how to cook yet, the time u spent hunting for guys on Instagram, take am register for 1 small catering school, learn how to cook. You won't die