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Mindfulness:
I thought so.

Thank God I love reading.



Thanks a lot.

missjo:
I'm sure I have a terrible knowledge on wave theory seeing as I'm not a physicist,but I know there is such a thing called BEAT FREQUENCY which results when different frequencies superimpose on each other.this is a good thing in human interactions.

As for you not seeing how humans can operate on different wavelengths,this is probably because you're overthinking it only as a physicist when you should be thinking as a neuroscientist.
Here is a little something from an institute for systems neuroscience at the Norwegian University of Science and Technology

https://www.ntnu.edu/news/on-the-same-wavelength

Have a lovely evening.

seizethaBae:
I dont even know where to start or how to explain what my problem is,hopefully i get lucky for the 'problem' to be 'diagnosed'. Im a 27yrs old lady,finished uni very very early and i've been extremely lucky with almost everything in life,but to get a suitor and settle down na palava. Friends/family members keep saying im too choosy or not serious. Honestly,I AM NOT choosy.When the one thing i fast/pray for is for God to link me with the bone of my bone very soon,i even gave up my travelling plans in order to increase my chances of finding a future patner(i know you can meet ur patner anywhere,but na just to shut up pple wey don tink say i no dey serious),a close friend even suggested i pend my 'work-from-home business',look for job so i can be leaving d house,and i got lucky within a month or two of dusting my CV i got a fantastic high paid job with no connection(honestly i've always been so lucky when i ask God for anything but i have no idea why he is delaying this). I just dont know how to explain it,the ones i like doesnt like me and the ones i dont have single feelings for will do anything to wife me. Im not desperate or something,i just want to reach out if im d only one having dis problem. There was even a time i made up my mind to accept an ex proposal even tho i have no single feeling for him,i kept hoping/fasting/praying for a miracle to happen so i can atleast like him(even if its 20%) bcus hes just too PERFECT,but it dint just happen. My type of man doesnt need to be extremely rich,tall,handsome like most ladies dream man.He should just be neat,God fearing and have something upstairs biko (i love intelligent guys).Back to the main reason why i created this post; Married women/mature lady out there,has this ever happen to you? I really envy people that love their patners and they are loved back equally. Married women pls im waiting to hear from you.

And for most people that will think im looking for a rich guy,believe me i once met a guy that was willing to sponsor my M.Sc in UK if i can be his Mrs,but i will never engage in anything that will bring curse on my head.So my problem is not even money.Im so sick and tired

seizethaBae:
Thanks all for your kind and wise advice.I really appreciate. @Chubhie;God bless you for putting up that piece together,indeed such a wise God we serve. But y wld i pray to God for 3solid years to have feelings for someone,did everytin possible for me not to lose this great guy,I TRIED I REALLY TRIED,yet nothing happen?. I really cant go deep discussing that relationship bcus he is a nairalander(he might put one or two tins togeda and figure out its me),but just picture NO SINGLE FEELINGS AT ALL,NONE THAT CAN EVEN MAKE A MARRIAGE WORK FOR 24HRS hence i treat him as i want,even tho im not a bad person dat treat people anyhow.

missjo:
I'm sure I have a terrible knowledge on wave theory seeing as I'm not a physicist,but I know there is such a thing called BEAT FREQUENCY which results when different frequencies superimpose on each other.this is a good thing in human interactions.

As for you not seeing how humans can operate on different wavelengths,this is probably because you're overthinking it only as a physicist when you should be thinking as a neuroscientist.
Here is a little something from an institute for systems neuroscience at the Norwegian University of Science and Technology

https://www.ntnu.edu/news/on-the-same-wavelength

Have a lovely evening.

missjo:
You have an ex who you say is PERFECT,still you could not love him.

My diagnosis is that you operate on a peculiar wavelength that isn't common, trust me I know what I'm saying. Every human has a wavelength they operate on. If you were to put on an eye apparatus that is capable of detecting frequencies and sending the visual to your eye,you will understand what I'm saying.

A lot of people operate on similar wavelengths that may have different frequencies,but the catch is that these frequencies can superimpose on each other and blend. Your case is that you have a totally different frequency as well as wavelength from most normal people. Yes you are not normal!

Don't get mad yet,that you're not normal is not bad,it just means you're part of the less than 5% of people in the entire planet who fall under this category. I've met one other guy like that on this forum,cant mention his moniker so he doesn't bite my head off but I follow him. These group of people actually find it hard picking someone to get married to because there is always a fault to be noticed no matter how PERFECT the person is.

I'm going to guess that you're an ambivert,i.e a combination of introvert and extrovert. Another guess is that u like to read anything and everything, and you find that most people do not really understand you even part of your own family. Another guess is that your close friends are very few,as in VERY few and you haven't made new friends in a while. Most of your friends are old friends.
I also guess that you're someone who can have sex with someone and not add emotions to it,i mean just for the fun of it.

All guesses sha,so correct me on the wrong ones.

The solution is this,you should understand that for people like you, love is not what you need to marry. You only need to marry someone whom you would like enough not to see their faults or someone who is on the exact same frequency and wavelength as you,the latter is harder.

Are you into the science field,or do you just see yourself liking anything that has to do with figuring out how things work?

seizethaBae:
Let me chip in one or two thing abt dis ex of mine,bcus pple are getting it really confusing. When he askd me out,i like him(note:like),den in between d r/ship i noticed dis guy is rough(not rough of rough-rough) but d kind of rough that doesnt makes a guy to brush his hair,he might nt use soap to tk his bath,might not brush his teeth by 3pm nd still want to kiss me,we can park nd buy boli nd groundnut on d road side nd dis guy will b eating d boli hungrily sometyms eating with half of d paper dey used to wrap it,he can decide to use hand to b eating rice hungrily(we are both uni grad),den u know most pple realise they have saliva on their pillow wen they woke up(no biggie,i do dat wen i slept very tired,or eat yummy food at nyt without brushing my teeth nd slept off,but i dont feel comfortable with d pillowcase again without washing it)bcus of d nature of dis guy's biz(he owns a restaurant nd event),he eats all dis yummy foods late nd drop loads of saliva on his pillow accumulatively nd daily,now imagine me coming to say hi to my bf on saturday,nd i said i shld lie down on his bed(he was staying with his parent den) nd every inch i move smells saliva,he doesnt care how he looks,nd to sum it up,u might ask him what 9/11 is and he will tell u it happend in abuja or lets even look for a simpler example:lets saying we were both reading a simplest comic internet joke nd i expect us to burst into laughter togeda but i'll have to explain to him like 3tyms before he got d joke behind it. He started building one irritating wide chest muscle,i hate fat guys with extreme muscles.I can go on and on,nd i know most comments dat will quote dis post is;why dint i tell him to adjust;i was only 21 wen i met him,i was more of an introvert den,i couldnt confine in anyone nd i assumed men have ego,i wouldnt want him to feel bad or uncomfortable around me. So before d end of d third year,all dis things continue (many more stuffs too lenghty to type),so d likeness reduced drastically(remember we were just on 'like' phase initially) so my subconcious mind were always ahead of me,even wen he bought 30k perfum,i still smell 'spit' (subconcious mind),even wen he's in d midst of his friends arguing abt football, i feel ashamed even tho i know nothing abt football(but my subconscious mind had already tagged him(below average)so i will assume he doesnt know wat he is arguing abt,even wen he just pick his car frm d carwash,my nose still smell rotten salad. It was war,i was trapped bcus he is a good,kind hearted man. Nd i was believing it was d devil behind dis subconcious mind,hence i started praying. Nothing worked. Anyone can comment nd crucify me,but believe me u werent in my shoe,i felt all wat happend,i began to felt 'raped' anytim i attempt to even kiss him(it was dat bad). I never had sex with him,my body cant even connect with him,nd i tink we only kissd d first few mth of d r/ship. No intacy,nothing watsoever after den,he felt it,we later discussed it(but i dint tell him his flaws,bcus even tho he has/will change) its like cleaning faeces on d surface of a plate,believe me u remember d feaces if u decide to eat wit dat same plate even after washing it.he told me to hang on,dat i will hv feeling for him,so months to to several months,sev mths turnd to 3yrs!!! It goes on and on nd much more deeper dan d few things i listed. Trust me,u can believe its a minor thing i can manage if i marry him...,but i know d marriage cant last a week. Believe me if i were to be 27 wen i met him,i would hv made d same decision,i taught wat i did was wrong until i read a woman's interview nd they askd her y she love/married her husband nd her response was:he is intelligent,nd wen dey ask d husband d same que:he wrote:my wife tks her bath at nyt nd rub baby powder on her body,dat turns him on since day one nd will always turn him on.

EZEIGBO1OFIMO:
On the issue of beats, the sound wave comes as a pulse width modulated (PWM) Signal, with little nth order harmonics, the interference is constructive, and that is why beats sound pleasing to the ear..... don't like neuroscience

seizethaBae:
I am not understanding this thread anymore.can someone please explain in english?

seizethaBae:
Ahhh! Your second nd third paragragh con dey make afraid to dey catch me. You are 99.9% right abt everytin except d sex part! Tah! I cant even manage nd peck a guy if i no like him! Pls how did u round all dat togeda? Very detailed nd right.

seizethaBae:
Let me chip in one or two thing abt dis ex of mine,bcus pple are getting it really confusing. When he askd me out,i like him(note:like),den in between d r/ship i noticed dis guy is rough(not rough of rough-rough) but d kind of rough that doesnt makes a guy to brush his hair,he might nt use soap to tk his bath,might not brush his teeth by 3pm nd still want to kiss me,we can park nd buy boli nd groundnut on d road side nd dis guy will b eating d boli hungrily sometyms eating with half of d paper dey used to wrap it,he can decide to use hand to b eating rice hungrily(we are both uni grad),den u know most pple realise they have saliva on their pillow wen they woke up(no biggie,i do dat wen i slept very tired,or eat yummy food at nyt without brushing my teeth nd slept off,but i dont feel comfortable with d pillowcase again without washing it)bcus of d nature of dis guy's biz(he owns a restaurant nd event),he eats all dis yummy foods late nd drop loads of saliva on his pillow accumulatively nd daily,now imagine me coming to say hi to my bf on saturday,nd i said i shld lie down on his bed(he was staying with his parent den) nd every inch i move smells saliva,he doesnt care how he looks,nd to sum it up,u might ask him what 9/11 is and he will tell u it happend in abuja or lets even look for a simpler example:lets saying we were both reading a simplest comic internet joke nd i expect us to burst into laughter togeda but i'll have to explain to him like 3tyms before he got d joke behind it. He started building one irritating wide chest muscle,i hate fat guys with extreme muscles.I can go on and on,nd i know most comments dat will quote dis post is;why dint i tell him to adjust;i was only 21 wen i met him,i was more of an introvert den,i couldnt confine in anyone nd i assumed men have ego,i wouldnt want him to feel bad or uncomfortable around me. So before d end of d third year,all dis things continue (many more stuffs too lenghty to type),so d likeness reduced drastically(remember we were just on 'like' phase initially) so my subconcious mind were always ahead of me,even wen he bought 30k perfum,i still smell 'spit' (subconcious mind),even wen he's in d midst of his friends arguing abt football, i feel ashamed even tho i know nothing abt football(but my subconscious mind had already tagged him(below average)so i will assume he doesnt know wat he is arguing abt,even wen he just pick his car frm d carwash,my nose still smell rotten salad. It was war,i was trapped bcus he is a good,kind hearted man. Nd i was believing it was d devil behind dis subconcious mind,hence i started praying. Nothing worked. Anyone can comment nd crucify me,but believe me u werent in my shoe,i felt all wat happend,i began to felt 'raped' anytim i attempt to even kiss him(it was dat bad). I never had sex with him,my body cant even connect with him,nd i tink we only kissd d first few mth of d r/ship. No intacy,nothing watsoever after den,he felt it,we later discussed it(but i dint tell him his flaws,bcus even tho he has/will change) its like cleaning faeces on d surface of a plate,believe me u remember d feaces if u decide to eat wit dat same plate even after washing it.he told me to hang on,dat i will hv feeling for him,so months to to several months,sev mths turnd to 3yrs!!! It goes on and on nd much more deeper dan d few things i listed. Trust me,u can believe its a minor thing i can manage if i marry him...,but i know d marriage cant last a week. Believe me if i were to be 27 wen i met him,i would hv made d same decision,i taught wat i did was wrong until i read a woman's interview nd they askd her y she love/married her husband nd her response was:he is intelligent,nd wen dey ask d husband d same que:he wrote:my wife tks her bath at nyt nd rub baby powder on her body,dat turns him on since day one nd will always turn him on.

missjo:
So I'm guessing I do know a little bit on wave theory afterall,and you now see how humans can operate on different wavelengths.
You don't like neuroscience because?

EZEIGBO1OFIMO:
The human mind goes beyond neurons and tiny millivolt pulses.... it's a gateway to the unknown......... The immateriality of the human mind makes me not like the brain science so much

missjo:
Oh wow,and you previously called this guy perfect?

Now I understand why my guess about the sex part was completely wrong, YOU'RE A FEELER. Feelers won't know how to have casual sex without emotions,or know how to tell their ex that he is just downright disgusting

missjo:
Lol,spoken like a physicist who thinks everything must have an equation.w ell almost everything does anyway.

The neurons and pulses are exactly what makes the human mind and brain capable of functionality.it is the electricity by which we are powered as humans, and just the way two completely different wires of totally different physical properties are able to connect via electricity, is the exact sameway human interactions are guided by electricity traveling in neurons.
Without electricity and neural interphases,the body is dead.

seizethaBae:
Thanks so much for this; @bolded; i would love it both ways i.e the kind of person that i have feelings for and also have feelings for me. Honestly stories like that of your aunt scares me every single day, and if i said i shld go with someone i dont love now hoping love will grow with time,wat if it doesnt?. The ex of mine i talkd about,i dated him for good 3yrs! wishing/praying to God for me to like him,it dint just happen.

sunvick:
I like your writing style and how you elucidate points for comprehension.
Keep em up.

EZEIGBO1OFIMO:
ok brain girl.... I'll tell you a little story ; before (medical) death, humans may experience what is known to be last thought, But since thought cannot be observed except by the thinker, how is then the last thought, if he can't observe the thought as the last thought, what even qualifies a thought as the last, if we cannot know the first thought, since once yet again, only the thinker is both the observer and the holder of the thought. X- rays always existed, so did The higgs boson , so does the distant planet Kepler 78-D, but we never knew all these at some point in human history. I believe that the human mind, body and soul transcends the physical; the metaphysical may be a speculation, but maybe someday it'll show itself.

Destined2win:
You dated someone for 3 years yet you didn't like him. How did you do that? What were you doing all along?

seizethaBae:
Thanks sis,but pls is dis my situation normal?

gidjah:
You will some day get married bae,you just need to get a lil bit more less strict and reduce your yard lines drawn.i wanna believe fine men come close,but your feelings ain't there,would you want the kind of person you will have feelings for or vice versa?,
Iife is not most times how we want it to get played,love grows with time too, the person you tend not to have feelings for today,might b d one your feelings gets strongest for with time ,that's how love grows .if it grows with time, it will stay permanent,you will have to let your love grow with some nice guy out there,watch it ,tend it,water it and watch it grow to stay forever.you are pretty young,that's why you are still feeling this way,but mind you ,age is never on your side,you grow old daily,watch it,I pray it does get better with you.gat an older sis who was just
LIke you,she started like you,finished her school very young ,na so we talk to her,she go say,'this one ,I don't have feelings for,''that one he is not minding me'..bla bla bla..to make the short story long,my older sis works with the accountant general of the federation as the head,she is well over fourty today but guys have stopped coming!,she is still there with all the comforts she has,was with 'aunty'few days ago, age no be here o, she told me she gets depressed dail over how she has been,and how she has treated guys,..with all the cars and affluence,na only married guys dey show for her side!.her pastor even asked her to keep her cars at home and start trekking may be boys will show up,...for were !!??