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Re: I Discovered My Wife Lied About Her Age After 3 Years Of Our Marriage. Help! by munas: 5:06am On Oct 02, 2016 |
dollyjoy: As she made herself married woman and a mother by deceiving the man into marriage. A marriage based on deceit is a no no. Its people like u that will do anthing to answer mrs... 33 Likes |
Re: I Discovered My Wife Lied About Her Age After 3 Years Of Our Marriage. Help! by Nobody: 6:29am On Oct 02, 2016 |
A divorce? Because she lied about her age? Seems to me you've been itching to divorce her long ago, and you're just using this as an excuse. What are you more upset about? The fact that she's older, or the fact that she lied? I think this is something that can be overlooked, though. True, it sucks that she lied about her age. But, you're willing to throw your marriage away because of this? People are getting divorced because of things as grievous as infidelity, and domestic abuse, and you want to get a divorce because she lied about her age? Okay. Good luck to you. 5 Likes |
Re: I Discovered My Wife Lied About Her Age After 3 Years Of Our Marriage. Help! by inkon: 7:04am On Oct 02, 2016 |
shegxi: Lying to ones spouse is bad and I don't think anybody is encouraging that here. What the comments above imply is that the institution of marriage was never perfect and shouldn't be seen as so. The man should have a way of expressing his displeasure over the wife's shortcomings and then offer her a room for change. Quitting is hardly the best option. 7 Likes 3 Shares |
Re: I Discovered My Wife Lied About Her Age After 3 Years Of Our Marriage. Help! by nickxtra(m): 9:38am On Oct 02, 2016 |
Chubhie:Yes, i am. Thanks for your advice 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: I Discovered My Wife Lied About Her Age After 3 Years Of Our Marriage. Help! by misspicy(f): 9:50am On Oct 02, 2016 |
She is saying that the same DOB were erroneously registerd for her when, perhaps they were registering her for both WAEC and NECO. That when the results came out and she noticed the errors, she complained and applied to correct same, but since then, the exam authorities have not corrected them.Why is everyone concluding that the wife lied? This mistake is possible,How come her other documents have the same date except WAEC and NECO? I think this hubby is just looking for a way to divorce his wife. Oga divorce her already nah 6 Likes |
Re: I Discovered My Wife Lied About Her Age After 3 Years Of Our Marriage. Help! by nnamdibig(m): 11:02am On Oct 02, 2016 |
Fadamant: Don't mind all these hypocrites, A wife lied to the hubby about her age and people are here calling the hubby names.... The question is If the OP was aware that the wife is 6yrs older, would he got married to her? Will the 6 extra yrs now make the wife older than the hubby? If so, what is OP's believe in getting married to an older woman? Lastly, why will the wife lie to her hubby about her age? Could it be that she knew that he would not wife her, or she was thinking that is actually nothing to worry about? . . Until you are in OP shoes, I don't think you are in position to answer these questions which means you have no right to criticize OP for getting angry. He has every right to be upset to discover that his lie has been lying to her about her age. Are we even sure that it's only the age that the wife lied about? OP please just be careful on how you handle this and am sure divorce is not the best. Try and find out why she did such(that is if she lied actually) but in my own Waec certificate, their is also a mistake on my date of birth though it's on the day not on the year. 19 Likes 1 Share |
Re: I Discovered My Wife Lied About Her Age After 3 Years Of Our Marriage. Help! by Nobody: 11:05am On Oct 02, 2016 |
Believe the reasons she tendered, they are valid and could be true (presumably her parents registered her for both exams, and many parents do make such mistakes). If you think that having an erroneous DOB on two certificates simultaneously is impossible, then how come she has a similar, younger DOB on all her other documents? How did you ascertain that the older DOB is the actual one? Marriage is based on trust. You have married her, now trust her. Even if it is true that she did lie about her age, it may not have been intended to be for you, maybe for a previous job application or other such reason, and the lie kept being perpetuated as lies do, and now she is afraid of revealing the truth. Just sit her down, reassure her that you will not overreact, ascertain the truth, and give her a long and angry tirade on how important trust is in a marriage... then LET IT GO. Age should not be a reason or condition for contracting a marriage. 3 Likes |
Re: I Discovered My Wife Lied About Her Age After 3 Years Of Our Marriage. Help! by Allwility: 11:37am On Oct 02, 2016 |
The fact that the wife didn't inform the OP herself of her true age but he stumbled upon it is quite bad. If I were the OP, I would be thinking about what other lies she may have told that I'm yet to find out. Someone once said, trust is like paper once it's crumpled can never be made straight again. So I can understand if the OP's marriage will experience trust issues. The wife in question have lot of work to do...not the OP. Oga OP, calm down, divorcing her will be a harsh decision o. Think of your kids, you don't want them growing up without their mom. So chillax...everyone makes mistakes, we just need someone to correct 'em. 7 Likes |
Re: I Discovered My Wife Lied About Her Age After 3 Years Of Our Marriage. Help! by babyfaceafrica: 11:41am On Oct 02, 2016 |
inkon:did you read those comments?..they are insults not comments...I feel sorry for some people ,they lack basic commuication ethics 10 Likes |
Re: I Discovered My Wife Lied About Her Age After 3 Years Of Our Marriage. Help! by chuksbogus2001: 12:29pm On Oct 02, 2016 |
werthy:if not that today is Sunday I would have called you a baffoon !!!! in fact you must be 14 and you are writing this with your mothers phone 10 Likes |
Re: I Discovered My Wife Lied About Her Age After 3 Years Of Our Marriage. Help! by nickxtra(m): 12:49pm On Oct 02, 2016 |
Allwility:Thanks |
Re: I Discovered My Wife Lied About Her Age After 3 Years Of Our Marriage. Help! by chuksbogus2001: 12:52pm On Oct 02, 2016 |
LadyMercedes: You are a woman if you didn't put just put female picture there. My dear The lady deceived the guy into that marriage .its like a guy coming to marry you and told you he works in Chevron as personnel manager taking you to his friends house as his until you guy wedded only for you to go home to his one room abode.sister are you telling me you will just pack in as its something u will overlook ? yes you love him I know but he lied and deceived you.its not for the money here but if you had know him for who he really is you would have been prepared for what ever that comes. The wife is totally wrong and any sane human being must feel bad and hurt about this .that is the appropriate reaction not incongruity of affect 20 Likes |
Re: I Discovered My Wife Lied About Her Age After 3 Years Of Our Marriage. Help! by nickxtra(m): 12:52pm On Oct 02, 2016 |
nnamdibig:Thanks for your nice comments |
Re: I Discovered My Wife Lied About Her Age After 3 Years Of Our Marriage. Help! by Nobody: 2:48pm On Oct 02, 2016 |
chuksbogus2001: I understand. But, she lied about her AGE! I've heard about someone who didn't tell a guy about her HIV status till they got married. And, one who didn't tell a guy she was infertile, till they got married. These are more grievous than lying about her AGE. 3 Likes |
Re: I Discovered My Wife Lied About Her Age After 3 Years Of Our Marriage. Help! by chuksbogus2001: 3:35pm On Oct 02, 2016 |
LadyMercedes: we are not talking about how grievous it is or how its a small sin .what we are talking is that it is WRONG !!! none of you first pointed how wrong it is ,its after that you can tell the guy to forgive not making the guy look like the guilty one and paint the lady white 25 Likes |
Re: I Discovered My Wife Lied About Her Age After 3 Years Of Our Marriage. Help! by Ranchhoddas: 9:22pm On Oct 02, 2016 |
LadyMercedes:Therefore lying is okay...Everyday on Nairaland I get to read one incredibly foolish comment. This is the one for today. 27 Likes |
Re: I Discovered My Wife Lied About Her Age After 3 Years Of Our Marriage. Help! by chinene1(f): 9:47pm On Oct 02, 2016 |
What action do you want to take? Have you asked yourself the reason why she decided to lie about her age if at all she lied? Even after 2 kids you are thinking of taking action. Oga, please sit in one corner. She lied about her age, may be, yes I agree it's was wrong but would you have married her if you knew the truth? Staying married is difficult without inviting unnecessary drama. Yes, register your displeasure at her deceit, try to understand her motive, forgive her and carry on with your life. What happened to for better or worse? It's looking worse now so you decide it's time to leave? It's called marriage dear. Either work at it or get out of it! For those saying she lied, it's bad, no trust bla bla bla... who made you judge and jury? You have no right to judge this lady without seeing her hubby from her eyes! 1 Like |
Re: I Discovered My Wife Lied About Her Age After 3 Years Of Our Marriage. Help! by Nobody: 10:46pm On Oct 02, 2016 |
Ranchhoddas: Yet, you STILL come back EVERYDAY to Nairaland to read more "foolish" comments. That shows how "smart" you are. 3 Likes |
Re: I Discovered My Wife Lied About Her Age After 3 Years Of Our Marriage. Help! by Ranchhoddas: 10:53pm On Oct 02, 2016 |
LadyMercedes:I do not have a choice. 8 Likes |
Re: I Discovered My Wife Lied About Her Age After 3 Years Of Our Marriage. Help! by remebombom: 11:08am On Oct 03, 2016 |
lie! NECO result usually does not have age on it. 3 Likes |
Re: I Discovered My Wife Lied About Her Age After 3 Years Of Our Marriage. Help! by jabojafa(m): 1:08pm On Oct 03, 2016 |
Amelian:but madam why wud she lie? And u think 6yrs is 6day or 6months? Add 6yrs to ur years and see how old u wud become. Although d did has bn done but divorce shdnt be an option. Try to get over it and let her hope dt employers wud discover d age difference in her waec n birth cert. 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: I Discovered My Wife Lied About Her Age After 3 Years Of Our Marriage. Help! by Nobody: 1:21pm On Oct 03, 2016 |
jabojafa: My dear, everybody lies one way or the other.. If she looks that old he wouldn't have married her and stayed with her for 6years. Some men out there love and marry older women as wives. While some prefers younger. The op, will be amazed that if he divorce his wife today, somebody else will love and cater for her needs.. Have seen such scenario happen before, and the new person in this lady's life is now a younger guy, she's 42 and her fiance /benefactor is 36..and this guy is madly in love.. He takes care of her emotional and financial needs without blinking an eye. So for the op, his own poison may end up becoming another man's cupcake. Only him will come begging after some years. |
Re: I Discovered My Wife Lied About Her Age After 3 Years Of Our Marriage. Help! by Nobody: 1:42pm On Oct 03, 2016 |
The first 7 comments or thereabout, on this thread, were made by some serious slowpokes.... A woman lied that she is 6 years younger than she actually is and you fools are blaming the guy for feeling cheated..... Do you phools think marriage is a game of soccer where Africans falsify their age to get in? 31 Likes |
Re: I Discovered My Wife Lied About Her Age After 3 Years Of Our Marriage. Help! by njiasi30(f): 2:21pm On Oct 03, 2016 |
I guess d reason 4 d comments is bc d man was contemplating on divorcing her, which i feel he said it out of annoyance. U shld try and find out d truth first, if at d end she is guilty and feel remorseful den 4give her. What she did was wrong and we all make mistake, at least she ve been a gd wife/mother... Try and settle d issue btw u 2 without Involving a third party. I wish u all d best 1 Like |
Re: I Discovered My Wife Lied About Her Age After 3 Years Of Our Marriage. Help! by pateffy: 5:43pm On Oct 03, 2016 |
Yes what your wife did is wrong but that should not lead to a divorce |
Re: I Discovered My Wife Lied About Her Age After 3 Years Of Our Marriage. Help! by Pidggin(f): 6:25pm On Oct 03, 2016 |
Divorce?! People shouldn't get married until they understand what they are getting into. This is a trivial issue, OP tell her how you feel about it and you should forgive her. |
Re: I Discovered My Wife Lied About Her Age After 3 Years Of Our Marriage. Help! by mhizcovy(f): 8:25pm On Oct 03, 2016 |
[quote author=Ranchhoddas post=49836888]Gosh I was shocked at the comments. Can you just imagine those idiots?[/quote who are the idiots? |
Re: I Discovered My Wife Lied About Her Age After 3 Years Of Our Marriage. Help! by dapsonlou(m): 8:31pm On Oct 03, 2016 |
emeraldknytt: A woman claiming to be 6years younger than she is , definitely not trivial. It's a deal breaker for me because I can't date any one over 24. Imagine a 31 years old woman now passing herself off and a 24yrs old. Still it's not enough to brake a relationship over, but you have to discuss it. Think of the kids. My cousin found out 5yrs after marriage that his wife have 3children living with her Parents in Osogbo. She was a divorcee who lied about her Age. 7 Likes 1 Share |
Re: I Discovered My Wife Lied About Her Age After 3 Years Of Our Marriage. Help! by Ranchhoddas: 8:32pm On Oct 03, 2016 |
[quote author=mhizcovy post=49890386][/quote]Excuse me? |
Re: I Discovered My Wife Lied About Her Age After 3 Years Of Our Marriage. Help! by dapsonlou(m): 8:49pm On Oct 03, 2016 |
Amelian: Some people prefer Young girls, you can never persuad someone who prefer a Young girl to date an older lady. I remember my elder brothers friend who is 45yrs old was bragging that he collected his friends Wife who is 46yrs old with no child. Come and see the way everyone was making fun of him. The Jokes was so much that he's not speak to any of us again. If the girl was Young, he will probably get props instead of mockery. 1 Like |
Re: I Discovered My Wife Lied About Her Age After 3 Years Of Our Marriage. Help! by mhizcovy(f): 9:04pm On Oct 03, 2016 |
Re: I Discovered My Wife Lied About Her Age After 3 Years Of Our Marriage. Help! by abike12(f): 10:28pm On Oct 03, 2016 |
lmao! shebi you people are the ones that give women expiration date? there you go |
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