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kayuscares4u:
as an introvert, my colleagues see me as a proud person because i don't start a conversation with them most especially ladies,although i don't hv much problem with dem cos i am married After gud morning i kip to myself. Hw can i change their mentality abt me.

cyndyzuriks:
is hot temper a characteristic of an introvert?

kayuscares4u:
as an introvert, my colleagues see me as a proud person because i don't start a conversation with them most especially ladies,although i don't hv much problem with dem cos i am married After gud morning i kip to myself. Hw can i change their mentality abt me.

AmuEwu:
I'm I the only one whose still finding it difficult to start a conversation with a random stranger, even with this challenge ?

I'll still try it out and report back

cyndyzuriks:
is hot temper a characteristic of an introvert?

cyndyzuriks:
is hot temper a characteristic of an introvert?

Olarewajub:
You are not alone. Most introverts don't know how to initate a conversation and that is why it is a challenge. Try and go through the links provided.

DonOms:
Bro, this page gives the "Page not found" error. Could you verify it, please?
introvertdear.com/2015/05/06/introverts-are-you-stuck-in-a-loneliness-loop-5-hacks-to-turn-small-talk-into-meaningful-conversation/

AmuEwu:
I'm I the only one whose still finding it difficult to start a conversation with a random stranger, even with this challenge ?

I'll still try it out and report back

Peachess:
I used to find it difficult to talk to strangers but now I can talk to strangers. I shut out the voice in me that was restricting me. I'm better than I used to be, you can do it.

Peachess:
I used to find it difficult to talk to strangers but now I can talk to strangers. I shut out the voice in me that was restricting me. I'm better than I used to be, you can do it.

Olarewajub:
Apart from over coming the inner voice of limitation, is there any other tips you can share with us.

AmuEwu:
Wow, that must be great. I'll try my best to learn this skill, and I love as you put it 'shut out the voice'

Olarewajub:
Link fixed.

www.introvertdear.com/2015/05/06/introverts-5-hacks-to-turn-small-talk-into-meaningful-conversation/

RICKYMARIO:
Good afternoon wonderful people, good to be back :
ermmm i want to know who else has experienced this:
Fear of marriage, fear of relating with your inlaws, in summary fear of future responsibilities

Olarewajub:
@ Greatihex I hope you know the difference between Shyness and Introversion. How can you do away with introversion, can Temperament be change?

Greatihex:
overcoming introversion is by determing to get out of the box. The determination will lead to adventure. Just free yourselve and do what your first thoughts tell you sometimes without thinking it through.

For temperament, it can only be controlled not changed.

DonOms:
Introversion and Extroversion traits are not exactly distinct hence the idea of Introversion-Extroversion continuum. Just think of a PH Scale. So one can only SLIGHTLY slide along the scale but never make an abrupt change.

What you can overcome is shyness, fear of public speaking, level of difficulty of engaging in small talks e.t.c. These are common in Introverts but doesn't define introversion. So there can't actually be a CHANGE but only management of social skills.

For example, introverts react highly to dopamine and can easily get worn out from small talks and crowded places, thereby often needing a recharge moment (alone time). Now, that's something you can't change by flipping a switch.

So if you think you changed abruptly, you may have been very close to the midpoint on the continuum, so making certain lifestyle choices enabled you to keep a certain "balance." This balance is very beneficial as you mentioned but the ease of attaining it varies from introvert to introvert.

DonOms:
yeah, kinda. The marriage bit only though. I guess I've never had issues about the other two.

I'm not sure it has much to do with introversion though. Psychoanalysing myself made me realise I may dread marriage for fear that I may not effectively share my personal space (which is very personal ) with my spouse, which may make one's partner feel unloved. Secondly, the fear of not knowing the true heart of someone to whom love is professed and wondering if the love is purely mutual.

These fears kinda disappear along the line once the self is reassured that 'all will be well' and once one allows love to rule (which increases tolerance). This is why I think it is very important for introverts to marry people who truly understand introverts.

DonOms:
yeah, kinda. The marriage bit only though. I guess I've never had issues about the other two.

I'm not sure it has much to do with introversion though. Psychoanalysing myself made me realise I may dread marriage for fear that I may not effectively share my personal space (which is very personal ) with my spouse, which may make one's partner feel unloved. Secondly, the fear of not knowing the true heart of someone to whom love is professed and wondering if the love is purely mutual.

These fears kinda disappear along the line once the self is reassured that 'all will be well' and once one allows love to rule (which increases tolerance). This is why I think it is very important for introverts to marry people who truly understand introverts.

AmuEwu:
I'm I the only one whose still finding it difficult to start a conversation with a random stranger, even with this challenge ?

I'll still try it out and report back

gidjah:
Not necessarily that bro, don't forget that the fact that you are an introvert dosent mean you do not have other temperaments along side, you could be phleg-melancholic, etc,so you could have this small tie with anger,but the truth is that most introverts are generally calm,thus, they hardly express anger like an outburst, they tend to wanna 'keep it under'but still can get angry just like the other temperament. whatever the case is with you as a person, outburst anger can be very disgrace full,one should be able to learn how to control it and keep it under.it is better not to talk if it will bring out negative outburst, it can really ridicule you as an introvert.

GloryIsaac:
Not really, what actually happens is that introverts don't show anger at each and every moment, for example, you could piss off an introvert right now but he/she won't show it due to that reserved nature of ours... now, if you keep pissing he/she off from time to time, a time will come when it'll be too much for he/she to swallow (more like saying your cup is full or he has had enough of your bullsh*t) and then comes the outburst which makes you think he/she is hot tempered.... you could prolly be wondering why he/she reacted in such a way to your actions but what they're actually reacting to are your past undoing and the present one which just occurred...... As an intro, I try as much as possible to tell someone when he/she offends me so as to avoid some unnecessary confrontations in the future, though I'll prefer to ignore the person..

DonOms:
yeah, kinda. The marriage bit only though. I guess I've never had issues about the other two.

I'm not sure it has much to do with introversion though. Psychoanalysing myself made me realise I may dread marriage for fear that I may not effectively share my personal space (which is very personal ) with my spouse, which may make one's partner feel unloved. Secondly, the fear of not knowing the true heart of someone to whom love is professed and wondering if the love is purely mutual.

These fears kinda disappear along the line once the self is reassured that 'all will be well' and once one allows love to rule (which increases tolerance). This is why I think it is very important for introverts to marry people who truly understand introverts.