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babasolo:
Its Been Fun. Started Our Relationship 2014 November, Kissed Her For The First Time On Sunday 18 September 2016.

Shiiiiiiiit

I don dieeee!

shadeyinka:
You are very wrong my dear! I have been married for years now and I didn't even suggest to my fiancee once in the two and a half years of our courtship to have sex with her.

Your premise is extremely wrong. I didn't abstain for lack of sexual performance inadequacy! No. I abstained because of Honour and Respect for Gods Words and Will. Minus these two points, I would have done what you are advocating.. Fornication!

When did formication become acceptable among Gods children? I advocate that you Repent, Love and Trust God (Be Born Again) and hence forth, practice secondary virginity/abstinence.

How many marriage where abstinence was practiced during courtship had resulted in divorce due to sexual problems relative to those who had sex in their courtship?

My point exactly, all u did was speak for and about urself and ur just one person, perhaps u should go out thr and ask others. If u read my post well which I suppose u did, I neva advocated against no Sex be4 marriage or say it's wrong, if I remember correctly I said anyone intending should pray to God so as to find the right person, perhaps u skipd that part but we can cover it now. To answer ur question their are lots of marriages whr abstinence was practiced that failed, everything can be found in this world of ours. People hide under religion to do all sorts, from fake pastors, twisting the word of God, holy Jihad, these are even far worse than no sex before marriage. FYI, I am a born again Christian, u should just know, but that doesn't make me blinded. Thank God for u, am not married yet but soon enough I will and yes I will not touch her until my wedding night by God's grace becos am already praying that not withstanding I still won't blame that man that says he must sleep wit his wife before he marrys her or she must be pregnant for him be4 he marrys her u Wana know why,1, it's becos I believe God can give me the right woman when I pray maybe he doesn't . 2, am a Christian, my religion even condemns it maybe he isn't.

lahit14:
My point exactly, all u did was speak for and about urself and ur just one person, perhaps u should go out thr and ask others. If u read my post well which I suppose u did, I neva advocated against no Sex be4 marriage or say it's wrong, if I remember correctly I said anyone intending should pray to God so as to find the right person, perhaps u skipd that part but we can cover it now. To answer ur question their are lots of marriages whr abstinence was practiced that failed, everything can be found in this world of ours. People hide under religion to do all sorts, from fake pastors, twisting the word of God, holy Jihad, these are even far worse than no sex before marriage. FYI, I am a born again Christian, u should just know, but that doesn't make me blinded. Thank God for u, am not married yet but soon enough I will and yes I will not touch her until my wedding night by God's grace becos am already praying that not withstanding I still won't blame that man that says he must sleep wit his wife before he marrys her or she must be pregnant for him be4 he marrys her u Wana know why,1, it's becos I believe God can give me the right woman when I pray maybe he doesn't . 2, am a Christian, my religion even condemns it maybe he isn't.

I am sorry I misunderstood the intentyour post!

lahit14:
@op, thr's no doubt u'll certainly find people in that kind of relationship but its been abused as it is misapplied, people now hide behind it to coverup a lot, from impotency to lack of sexual urge and many other sexual incapabilities, even to hiding some kind of diseases. personal as being a christian, I'm certainly not for sex be4 marriage but neither do I disagree wit those that indulge. I tink if one wants to go into such, one should pray and ask God for the right person so that one won't regret ones actions. button line, every1 should get to choose especially when it comes to some tin like marriage.

However, I still don't think that abstinence in relationships are coverup for sexual inadequacies. Most decisions like this has to do with the God factor.

Without the God factor, fornication will not be socially wrong if it is between two consenting adults especially when contraceptives and prevention against STDs. However, because of the spiritual STDs which could result, God outlawed it.

It is good you do not subscribe to sex before marriage however as one who is Born Again, you aught not to "justify it" for some other folks. Every kind of sin is grevious. Most people do not know that just as there is the Physical STDs, there is also the Spiritual STDs and no goldcircle or Durex can prevent it if one of the partners is infected.

Your last set of statements you made gave an impression that you are saying that "one should pray to God for the right partner so that one would not regret ones action of formication". Thanks for correcting me on this.

I am glad you have chosen the path of abstinence as a Christian. It so the first step to success in courtship.

Peace!

segcymoor:
If u look deeply........ What he says make sense


----- U got to resolve urself and stop hiding behind religious. Damn!!!!

Hmm I see You would do yourself alot of good by reasoning beyond your flesh #PEACE

ireneony:
abstaining from sex is not a religious thing, is a choice

1 Thessalonians 4:3 For this is the will of God, even your sanctification, that ye should abstain from fornication.

You should read your Bible more often and become a regular at church

Theophinio:
Hmm
I see
You would do yourself alot of good by reasoning beyond your flesh
#PEACE

It is unfortunately u don't know d personalty u dey address

I repeat: u ve got to resolve urself and stop hiding under religious!
In the first place, if only u are deep one. U will agreed with me that their is a thin line between being religious and being Spiritual.
Now listen, It is expected of u to be spiritual in this age as against religious. You got to know what u are doing. Boy...u got to think.I mean far advanced!
Being religious is by observing the rule and regulations hence disposition of 'born again attitude' by so doing u are rigid in thinking: not genuine from within.
On the other hand, a lifestyle of spiritual councious individual understand what's he doing :he study d words of God and resolve within himself. Such a person may be know by. His attitude towards human being generally. Free thinker and voluntary decision from within hence free will.
Oh boy! U be inferior in this matter even if u are a professor or Dangote so go sit down.

It doesn't work, the guy will definitely cheat..

Tyviv:
It doesn't work, the guy will definitely cheat..

It works. I was in it for 4 years without cheating until I decided to end it for reasons other than sex

Moneycar:
It works. I was in it for 4 years without cheating until I decided to end it for reasons other than sex

well for me it never works, was in one for 3 years, ended July coz he cheated... The other guys bfr him too same story...

[quote author=Jackossky post=49838988][/quote]Lol. You cracked me up there

Alright, I hope I remember to do so as the day draws near. Wedding is Next year, first quarter. Please come back to this thread and ask me about the invite.

Thank you.

AdexOmoby:
Lol. You cracked me up there

Alright, I hope I remember to do so as the day draws near. Wedding is Next year, first quarter. Please come back to this thread and ask me about the invite.

Thank you.

i bet i will.....



I won't miss it for anything in the world.......



lemme start paying in installment for the red wedding suit am going to wear over

hmmm

AdexOmoby:
We are both waiting...we have been waiting for 7 years now. Hahahahha, strange right? I know right! Its what we both decided to do from the onset. Before I started a relationship with him, I desired a man who would exercise self control on himself as well and not think it is only a woman's duty to keep herself...it is one of the major reasons why I decided to give my consent to start a relationship with him because I found out that we are on the same sexual wavelength. It makes a whole lot of things easy. For instance, we are able to keep check of eachother. We are open with eachother and we remain accountable to eachother.

We understand that this is against the norm. We know this. We are not seeking to please anyone but ourselves and God. Doing things against the norm is something we made up our minds to do from the very beginning. The world thinks it silly to reserve your body for Marriage, we think it is actually the best thing. One, we are not bothered about the chances of getting pregnant. Two, we are not traumatized by the choice of having to commit abortion and or raise a child when we are not financially nor emotionally ready to raise one. Three, it helps us to focus and concentrate on our careers. Four, it builds trust within both of us. Neither of us is concerned about the possibility of sleeping with another partner when one partner is away o long distance or not...and trust me, we have both had causes to be far away in our relationships. At several points, we have both worked and schooled abroad, with one of us left in Nigeria. For instance, while I was schooling in England, He was in Nigeria...while he was scooping in Ghana, I was in Nigeria. This long distance has helped reinforce trust in our relationship because we know the fundamental values that define both of us.

Dont get me right, we do both have sexual urges. Me I do o! Hahahhaha, I feel them down there. Beneath. I hardly used to feel them when I was much younger, but 7 years down the line says a different story...However, the good news is that our sexual urges are under control and with both of us on the same wavelegth, it really helps us. We remain accountable to eachother. We are open about our struggles and urges with eachother. We verbalize our feelings rather than hide or act on them. We say things like... 'oh I do feel like kissing you now o, you know, lol!

We know that this may sound strange or unbelievable to somehow read this. It is alright. We understand your fears and doubts. Like I mentioned earlier, we are committed to going against the norm in our relationship. The world says its okay to taste the puddy, we say, we can actually wait to taste it...when we will feel no guilt, no shame, nothing! Just absolute joy for waiting for the right moment and time! The world says it is not possible to court for 7 years and not have any kind of sexual relations. Well, it is possible, that is because I am one. We are one!

I really cant wait to get married. Dont get me wrong, Sex is not the major reason why i want to get married, but it is something we both look forward to. Ha! 7 years no easy o! We suppose get award sef, lol! We should be married in few months...and I cant wait jooh.

Should you be reading this and you are on the verge of losing yours to a manipulative partner, society's pressure or for some other reason, I want you to know that you are not alone. Please dont. Keep your body. Keep your body because it is the right thing to do. Keep your body because it prevents you from unnecessary stress and headaches. You are not going to be bothered about abortion, the mathematical headaches of calculating your safe periods and you have a very clear head to pursue your dreams. You are not going to be bothered about fathering a child when you are not ready for such. I must tell you that raising a child when you are not ready brings more stress than joy and the trauma of abortion leaves you with lots of guilt. Dont you think that abstinence is indeed the best afterall?

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dis ur Long Epistle who e epp

ireneony:
abstaining from sex is not a religious thing, is a choice

morally,religion teaches that

JeffreyJames:
Yes I know some girls are capable but every girl is innocent until proven guilty... Same applies to guys too.

Some girls even feel something must be wrong with you if you tell them you want a "no-sex" relationship.

2000 likes for you.Sometimes one needs to add kissing and hugging to the relationship. If not,she will think you are impotent. Also, there was a relationship I had some time ago.I told her no sex and she agreed since we are christians .We never kissed throughout the relationship .We only hugged.But sometimes she used to tell me of someone kissing her ....Before I could react, she started crying .Another time, she almost had sex with one guy .Haba!The thing is that I never did those things with any girl , why would she be doing that ?I tire my people. If you know, you can't cope just say it instead of us to assume since you are a minister of the gospel ,pastor ,bishop or pope that you can stay without sex