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Jamean:
Lol!
What shall we not read on nairaland.
So, the primary purpose of a lady you claim to be in a love relationship with visiting you is to cook for you, wash your clothes and tidy your apartment you scattered yourself. I thought those meetings was basically to spend quality time with your partner but obviously you expect her to be a domestic servant. People just choose the wrong relationship battle these days.
What happened to you doing your cleaning yourself? You're not married to her so she's under no obligation, it should be at her discretion. Btw, not doing those things doesn't mean she can't do them, my sister before she got married didn't use to lift a finger in the house because she had us younger ones, but now her house is impeccable, there's always food. Even myself now, I don't lift a finger at home, I'm even served food. I've done all the growing up chores at some point and cooking that I don't need to prove myself to anyone now.
You see, a lot of ladies are now aware these days that CCW doesn't in anyway guarantee the ring, it may just be an invitation to a treat for the man so why bother. Although, she can just do some arrangements touches cause for me I won't sit in a mad house.
If she's your wife and fails to do those things then you have a case, otherwise discharged and acquainted. OP stop complaining (it is you, not a friend) clean your house and prepare food so you both can have a wonderful date.

ikp120:
C'mon, that's not her house. So if you want her to help you do anything, kindly and politely ask her to help you do it. If she agrees, good for you. But if she refuses, no vex, no be her work. Just the same way if she ask you for money you have the right to tell her no. No be your job to give her money.

Later you will dump her after she don do maid work finish.

Before any person can enter my room, it must be sweet. Shame no dey catch you? Abi you be one kind of reckless guy?

"Everything I do na standardi"

Nature8:
Apart from washing his cloths, if she can't cook or clean his house for him, she's nothing but a waste.. Bro, don't be a woman wrapper..

Jamean:
Lol!
What shall we not read on nairaland.

So, the primary purpose of a lady you claim to be in a love relationship with visiting you is to cook for you, wash your clothes and tidy your apartment you scattered yourself. I thought those meetings was basically to spend quality time with your partner but obviously you expect her to be a domestic servant. People just choose the wrong relationship battle these days.

What happened to you doing your cleaning yourself? You're not married to her so she's under no obligation, it should be at her discretion. Btw, not doing those things doesn't mean she can't do them, my sister before she got married didn't use to lift a finger in the house because she had us younger ones, but now her house is impeccable, there's always food. Even myself now, I don't lift a finger at home, I'm even served food. I've done all the growing up chores at some point and cooking that I don't need to prove myself to anyone now.

You see, a lot of ladies are now aware these days that CCW doesn't in anyway guarantee the ring, it may just be an invitation to a treat for the man so why bother. Although, she can just do some arrangements touches cause for me I won't sit in a mad house.

If she's your wife and fails to do those things then you have a case, otherwise discharged and acquainted. OP stop complaining (it is you, not a friend) clean your house and prepare food so you both can have a wonderful date.

ikp120:
Bro, wife na wife; girlfriend na girlfriend.

Every woman knows that she is to ensure that her home is tidy and that food dey when they need food because she is now permanently part of the man, so they share responsibilities to ensure the family is cool.

But for bf/gf matter, 2 of you are just seeing each other. Any of you get the right to tear race anytime you tire. No be after she don do all the work finish the you go com tell am sorry. Na wickedness be that.
Also the guy, who asked you to be spending money on her in the first place? She be your wife? Abi na ashawo she be?

Gf is not equal to wife.
Bf is not equal to husband.

All na wash, no dey waste your money and time unnecessarily

Royal155:
My bros, most of dis Nairaland girls supporting your stand wil be d first 2 lash at u d day u'll open a thread dat ur gf dumbed u because u refused 2 take care of her financial needs.
Stop dis ur Mr. Nice Guy attitude. Why won't a girl sweep a room she slept wit her bf?

Swizdom:
I totally agree with ya. Sometimes I wash mine and hers with washing machine and she rinses them. I think when I marry her we do it together. If she doesn't cook, I cook and as for washing, it will always be together.....Or the laundry people handle that.

ikp120:
Bro don't worry about that money stuff. Any girl looking for money won't even last around me. I no be father christmas o.
Why on earth will a responsible guy be angry because his gf didn't sweep his room for him. If you want her to do anything for you,

1. You must be so busy or tired that you're not able to do that thing by yourself.

2. She must either offer to do it or you will beg her to do it.

Every sensible woman knows that she must make sure her husband and kids are okay.

Gf is not wife.
Bf is not husband.

habby51:
I knw many gals wll support the lady, that's why majority of them are still single.
The fact is dat, what a girl/lady is doing during the courtship/relationship, expect more of it when u get married.
Those points mentioned by the Op are parts of qualities 2 be observed in any lady.
Mind u, marriage is meant 2 be enjoyed and not endured.

Vanillaskin:
Relationships these days is becoming like a job interview.
While Marriage is the job offer.
Boy meets girl, boy likes girl, boy asks girl about herself and girl tells all. Boy is impressed and asks girl to be his girlfriend. Girl checks boy out, he's cute, has a job and a car, girl is impressed and accepts to be his girlfriend.

Now when you go for a job interview, aren't you supposed to put in your best to prove to your prospective employer that you have the necessary skills to do the job?
Because I bet you, if that guy does not have the necessary skills to maintain a girlfriend, that girl would never have agreed to date him. Just like if you see a company that couldn't pay you well, you'd never apply to be employed there.

The guy has done his part to let the girl know he'd make a good partner, the ball is in the girl's court to prove she too would make a good partner. It's not about slavery, it's about proving your worth . A real woman would know how to navigate these waters, she doesn't have to do it all but not doing at all is a bad sign.

Royal155:
Brotherly I understand your point. I once had a gf then that I was doing everything for whenever she came to spend time with me. I do d cookings, wash plates, ditch the meal and serve her while she sat lazily, either answering calls from her other secret boyfriends or watching movies. D most annoying part is that after she's done eating, she'll also expect me to take the plates to the kitchen(which I do most times). She's always the last to wake up in the morning and still expect me to dress the bed. What nonsense. My bros pray u don't overdo dis ur nice guy tin ooo, otherwise, u'll regret it.

Lavendra:
like they say... there is something called individual difference... people differ.
as for me as a lady, when I go to visit my bf, I take it as my responsibility to do everything, I can't be around and my bf would be sweeping the house or cooking or even washing clothes, if as his gf I can't do those things for him then what good am I?
the last time I visited him, I did a lot of work, I cleaned the house thoroughly even though he did that before I arrived, I wanted everywhere sparkling so that there would be a difference between when his gf is around and when she isn't. I washed and folded all his clothes, I did the cooking, mopping of the house and even washing toilet. I didn't allow him lift a finger even when he volunteered to help... I just wanted to feel that I'm doing something for him... he didn't ask me to do anything, it's just common sense or instinct that led me to do them...

paschal47:
being the first daughter is no excuse at all, in fact first daughters do more house chores than the younger siblings.


don't usually know why some girls say this 'I'll not wash a man's clothes or sweep his house if he is not married to me', but you like visiting for the weekend and spend his money. for God's sake stay in your house and stop being a burden to the young man, no man likes a liability and won't settle with one.




OP this is what I have for you, tell your friend that his girlfriend is a pig and a dirty one at that.

Lavendra:
like they say... there is something called individual difference... people differ.
as for me as a lady, when I go to visit my bf, I take it as my responsibility to do everything, I can't be around and my bf would be sweeping the house or cooking or even washing clothes, if as his gf I can't do those things for him then what good am I?
the last time I visited him, I did a lot of work, I cleaned the house thoroughly even though he did that before I arrived, I wanted everywhere sparkling so that there would be a difference between when his gf is around and when she isn't. I washed and folded all his clothes, I did the cooking, mopping of the house and even washing toilet. I didn't allow him lift a finger even when he volunteered to help... I just wanted to feel that I'm doing something for him... he didn't ask me to do anything, it's just common sense or instinct that led me to do them...

ikp120:
Why will she be washing clothes and doing chores for the guy, is she his wife or maid?

That's how boys use girls and dump them. Using a girl is not just about sex. Some of these nonsense guys expect their gf to do are part of using a girl.

The guy no dey even shame to think a girl he isn't married to should be fixing his house for him.

I see these girls in school and I smh.

My advice to girls is to stop all these doing of chores in their bf's house except they just want to do it.

doveda:
Why do you have to pretend that you are a female?

donnybee:
U gat no right to subject her 2 any work in ur home....u guys aren't married na. Moreover, y wil a gal pass d nite at her boyfriend's place? It's uncalled for na

Lavendra:
if you live in PH and you have a bf in Lagos, won't you guys get to visit each other once in a while? a guy mustn't subject you to work before you use common sense to do some certain things without being asked.

donnybee:
Certain tins lyk washing his clothes??cooking 4 himwashing his toilet..... Nah i wouldn't do dat, it's a matter of choice anyway... As far as i cn remember, d maximum tym I've spent wit my guy in his room is jst 4hrs....we chat, he'll put me through on certain tins nd play(nt sex oo)

Lavendra:
if it were sex, would you tell me? yeah it's choice, he didn't ask but i did and he stays in a two bedroom not self con so I can't come to visit and leave every like that... there has to be a difference between when I'm around and when I'm not around that's me, some girls might think otherwise.

Lavendra:
like they say... there is something called individual difference... people differ.
as for me as a lady, when I go to visit my bf, I take it as my responsibility to do everything, I can't be around and my bf would be sweeping the house or cooking or even washing clothes, if as his gf I can't do those things for him then what good am I?
the last time I visited him, I did a lot of work, I cleaned the house thoroughly even though he did that before I arrived, I wanted everywhere sparkling so that there would be a difference between when his gf is around and when she isn't. I washed and folded all his clothes, I did the cooking, mopping of the house and even washing toilet. I didn't allow him lift a finger even when he volunteered to help... I just wanted to feel that I'm doing something for him... he didn't ask me to do anything, it's just common sense or instinct that led me to do them...

UIA04:
So you clean this thoroughly every single time you visit?