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Someone asked this question on Quora "What common mistakes do people make when choosing a life partner?"
the answer below was so splendid I tot to share -


My Dad gave me a ton of fantastic advice over the years, but a couple of simple and powerful analogies he shared with me came to mind when I saw this question.

The first lesson came up when I was learning to drive: there was a tricky intersection near my house where cross traffic does not stop. As a newly licensed teen driver I’d get a little nervous when having to chose the right moment to turn. I tended to sit there too long, waiting for the perfect gap from traffic coming in both directions. And of course the longer I waited, the more anxious I’d feel, particularly when a line of cars started forming behind me introducing even more pressure, setting up the perfect scenario for an increasingly desperate driver to panic and rush out at the wrong time with disastrous consequences….

https://demo.chevereto.com/images/2016/10/11/DrK.jpg

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(Lucky for me, I had my Dad patiently at my side reminding me not to worry about the cars queuing up behind me, pick a gap that is safe and good and head out confidently and calmly).

After the first time this happened, my Dad explained that unfortunately he has witnessed this same thing happen far too many times to women when choosing a life partner (he’s a psychiatrist specializing in relationships). They tend to pass up good, promising potential partners while waiting for the “ideal”, “perfect” partner. Then slowly pressures start piling up (biological clock, nagging parents, all of their friends are getting married), they panic and pick the next guy, any guy who comes along, often with disappointing consequences…

It wasn’t until later in life, when I started seeing this happen to lovely women I know that I realized how true and sad this was….


https://www.quora.com/What-common-mistakes-do-people-make-when-choosing-a-life-partner


@Toks2008

How life can be,,

Politicalidiot:
Someone asked this question on Quora "What common mistakes do people make when choosing a life partner?"
the answer below was so splendid I tot to share -


My Dad gave me a ton of fantastic advice over the years, but a couple of simple and powerful analogies he shared with me came to mind when I saw this question.

The first lesson came up when I was learning to drive: there was a tricky intersection near my house where cross traffic does not stop. As a newly licensed teen driver I’d get a little nervous when having to chose the right moment to turn. I tended to sit there too long, waiting for the perfect gap from traffic coming in both directions. And of course the longer I waited, the more anxious I’d feel, particularly when a line of cars started forming behind me introducing even more pressure, setting up the perfect scenario for an increasingly desperate driver to panic and rush out at the wrong time with disastrous consequences….

https://demo.chevereto.com/images/2016/10/11/DrK.jpg

see image below


(Lucky for me, I had my Dad patiently at my side reminding me not to worry about the cars queuing up behind me, pick a gap that is safe and good and head out confidently and calmly).

After the first time this happened, my Dad explained that unfortunately he has witnessed this same thing happen far too many times to women when choosing a life partner (he’s a psychiatrist specializing in relationships). They tend to pass up good, promising potential partners while waiting for the “ideal”, “perfect” partner. Then slowly pressures start piling up (biological clock, nagging parents, all of their friends are getting married), they panic and pick the next guy, any guy who comes along, often with disappointing consequences…

It wasn’t until later in life, when I started seeing this happen to lovely women I know that I realized how true and sad this was….


https://www.quora.com/What-common-mistakes-do-people-make-when-choosing-a-life-partner


@Toks2008

Nice one...the fact is that this clearly applies to guys too.

I fact I am in that situation now but because of my nature I don't allow it to bother me expecially when you have been in a failed union of many years.

One fact I always tell ladies and guys is that there is no ideal partner and there is really no good or bad choice but matters is the choice you make and learning to cope with it..

Okay..