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Urgent Relationship Advise Needed. by Nobody: 12:47pm On Aug 09, 2019 |
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Re: Urgent Relationship Advise Needed. by akinade28(f): 12:52pm On Aug 09, 2019 |
My dear, forget about this guy o and move on with your life, he's obviously a player. rejoice and be happy, because you are seeing this now and not when you are married to him with children because it would have been more complicated. Some breakups are just blessings in disguise. I pray for strength for you to get over this whole situation, a good guy comes your way soonest 5 Likes |
Re: Urgent Relationship Advise Needed. by Lagbaja01(m): 12:52pm On Aug 09, 2019 |
OPTION A. If your story is 95% true, then you have a good reason to breakup with him, count your loses and move on. Again, If you are 100% sure he cheated, please breakup with him without saying goodbye, don't even point to him his wrongdoings, no matter how he pressured you to point out his wrongs just tell him you have left the matter for God to judge... (that way his concience will keep hunting him, if at all some concience is still left in him). OPTION B. If you know you can cope with an unfaithful husband for the rest of your life, then pretend as if nothing happened. Goodluck. 1 Like |
Re: Urgent Relationship Advise Needed. by healthserve(m): 12:54pm On Aug 09, 2019 |
Re: Urgent Relationship Advise Needed. by Holumhidey(m): 12:58pm On Aug 09, 2019 |
just take it slow i know how it feels just take a long walk, probably across your street..... if nobody sells sniper then i suggest you go to the neighbouring street...... good luck 1 Like |
Re: Urgent Relationship Advise Needed. by FROGMAN101(m): 12:58pm On Aug 09, 2019 |
Always fun to see women get treated the way they always treat men. |
Re: Urgent Relationship Advise Needed. by 2dice01: 1:05pm On Aug 09, 2019 |
sorry sis You wont know someone true character until the person is comfortable Why not confront him with your findings then quit the relationship If he truly loves you he will come back Then if you think you wanna give him one more trial then its all yours ..if not move on totally Your boo sound like mr.cassanova 4 Likes |
Re: Urgent Relationship Advise Needed. by Lagbaja01(m): 1:27pm On Aug 09, 2019 |
You have no joy bro! Holumhidey: |
Re: Urgent Relationship Advise Needed. by Nobody: 1:34pm On Aug 09, 2019 |
This isn't someone you should be planning your future with. |
Re: Urgent Relationship Advise Needed. by healthserve(m): 1:40pm On Aug 09, 2019 |
Holumhidey: Don't be this way 2 Likes |
Re: Urgent Relationship Advise Needed. by Nobody: 1:55pm On Aug 09, 2019 |
dont waste time with him... over dating is bad 1 Like |
Re: Urgent Relationship Advise Needed. by Michelle55: 2:00pm On Aug 09, 2019 |
Holumhidey:Sense is definitely far from you
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Re: Urgent Relationship Advise Needed. by Nobody: 2:00pm On Aug 09, 2019 |
Leave him. He doesnt respect women in general, and you in particular. All of you young women in this love trapezium are all articles of pleasure to him. I'm sure you're more than that. A quick one: 1. Come to terms with what has happened 2. Whether or not you dated for 4 years or lost your virginity to him, be thankful you both weren't married yet 3. Extricate yourself from the situation. I mean, leave him alone to sow his wild oats. Didn't even sound like it was an interesting relationship anyway. Bottomline, he doesn't deserve you. Move on. 2 Likes |
Re: Urgent Relationship Advise Needed. by Nobody: 2:03pm On Aug 09, 2019 |
2dice01: And if this lying, cheating, unconscientious, unintelligent and mediocre man comes back, what then should happen? |
Re: Urgent Relationship Advise Needed. by 2dice01: 2:06pm On Aug 09, 2019 |
Jacinthe:if they are meant together Nothing will stop them ..not even all these side attraction Remember this is only a side to the story 1 Like |
Re: Urgent Relationship Advise Needed. by Nobody: 2:14pm On Aug 09, 2019 |
2dice01: And who would have meant this lady to end up with that kind of man? God? There may be two sides to the story, yes. But right now, we have only one to work with and we have to work with it if we're going to say anything. Not ideal, but that's life sometimes. But yea, don't mind me. If op thinks she is meant to be with the guy because of love or maybe she feels they are soul mates, sure. It's up to her. We really have no stake to it. Before the end of the day, both of us advising here would likely have forgotten about this story to start with. So it's to advise and/or wish her to best really. 1 Like |
Re: Urgent Relationship Advise Needed. by fineboynl(m): 2:30pm On Aug 09, 2019 |
it's so easy to tell someone to dump their partner. but to whom carried the cross knows how it feels and what it means 2 Likes |
Re: Urgent Relationship Advise Needed. by Nobody: 2:59pm On Aug 09, 2019 |
Love is a choice. People who are in successful r|ships or marriages are in it b|c they're choosing to put in the efforts to make it work. When these efforts are consistently maintained and sustained and the r|ship or marriage is thriving, then we can that they are meant to be together. You cannot tell me that someone w| an abusive partner, a partner who chronically cheats, who doesn't love them, etc, is meant for them. The fact that these signs are showing themselves prior to marriage is enough warning to walk. 2dice01: 2 Likes |
Re: Urgent Relationship Advise Needed. by Nobody: 3:21pm On Aug 09, 2019 |
fineboynl: That's to say all of us advising her to do so on this thread are inexperienced children who have never had to leave bad relationships. 2 Likes |
Re: Urgent Relationship Advise Needed. by 2dice01: 3:57pm On Aug 09, 2019 |
theButterfly:i get your point what am saying is dude might change his ways and realize his mistake |
Re: Urgent Relationship Advise Needed. by 2dice01: 4:05pm On Aug 09, 2019 |
Jacinthe:What i meant is if he comes and realise his mistake she can forgive him if she is still single she can give him a chance ..you know nobody above mistakes But if she think enough is enough she can move on with her life weather single/dating or married Yeah we can only try our bestb here.. Hope u are enjoying ur weekends tho |
Re: Urgent Relationship Advise Needed. by carter009(m): 4:09pm On Aug 09, 2019 |
Am telling you, is not that easy at all, especially when is the same guy That disvirgned her. fineboynl: |
Re: Urgent Relationship Advise Needed. by placeofallure(f): 6:25pm On Aug 09, 2019 |
The OP is particularly disappointed because the nincompoop deflowered her. OP, four years of one's time is much but won't you put them behind you rather than endure a lifetime of regret should you go ahead with him. Matters of the heart are somehow dicy, very sensitive, no one can absolutely say. Just move on if you are too broken. For the records, cheats have something in common with leopards. My one cent. 1 Like |
Re: Urgent Relationship Advise Needed. by Fountainofyouth(f): 6:39pm On Aug 09, 2019 |
Re: Urgent Relationship Advise Needed. by maak400: 7:10pm On Aug 09, 2019 |
He’s no longer interested in you. Just move on, though it will be painful. From your write up, I guess you’re advanced in age and seem out of options. |
Re: Urgent Relationship Advise Needed. by Nobody: 8:19pm On Aug 09, 2019 |
2dice01: Okay, I get you. Yes it is. Thanks a lot. Hope yours is too |
Re: Urgent Relationship Advise Needed. by 2dice01: 10:03pm On Aug 09, 2019 |
Jacinthe:Yeah we thank God Hope the salah meat is ready 1 Like |
Re: Urgent Relationship Advise Needed. by Nobody: 10:04pm On Aug 09, 2019 |
Hmmm the dude bleeped up .He has no respect for you . |
Re: Urgent Relationship Advise Needed. by VicYo(m): 10:32pm On Aug 09, 2019 |
i know some element will be like you should japaa.. but trust me, thats not the solution to solve thing amicably..! . first thing is, do you still or really need that boy back? . if your answer is to be no, then you can make sure you tell him you see what he hide from you, the lies and cheat and trust me, watch him looking and begging for you back. because you catch his ego on suspense and he start knowing your worth. . but if your ans is yes, call him down, sit him down where you know he can feel your flow, presence, pains, emotion, the truth in your eye, and explain whatever everything in your mind plainly. how you love him, how you feel about him, how youre still being loyal to keep your body safe for him only and swear about that in his presence. pour out your pains to him, the sour, and request for his reply to think about it and that could give him a self thought to call his inner man home i.e if he's not a shame man.! . trust me, it only after this you can decide if to leave base on his behavior |
Re: Urgent Relationship Advise Needed. by MrMacinterchi1: 10:46pm On Aug 09, 2019 |
It's time to talk about the future of this inspiring relationship.. 4years is enough to know the next step for both of you. He has been compromised. know if he still have u in his future plans or not. it will help u to start now plan urself after this relationship. else u want to wait another 4years without knowing ur fate with him. He has been compromised. |
Re: Urgent Relationship Advise Needed. by Sensitivity1254: 11:58pm On Aug 09, 2019 |
First, I belong to the school of thought that believes that you don't go snooping on your partner's phone. Secondly, I belong to the school of thought that believes that any partner that cheated on you while dating, will cheat on you when you are married. Every cheater I have ever known or come across, have cheated right during when he/she was dating. Leave that relationship before you contract STDs through him. Or before one of his Bleep mates attack you on the street or go diabolical on you. It does not matter how deeply you later he him and still want him. My people said that you don't use what you use to clean your ear on your eyes. Talk to him and he will give you plenty reasons and don't be surprise when u start blaming yourself as the cause of his inability to control his phallus. He is a public toilet. Let me shock you, his philandering didn't start when he got the Federal Appointment. He has been dicking his phallus into every damn holes he he sight his eyes on. It's just that he has been successful in masking it.. Also don't be surprised that you are not even his main babe. If you condone it now, you will continue to condone it. And viola, you will start giving excuses for his hoeing. Thirdly, he forgot your birthday but remembers the birthday of a 'friend'. Red flag.... For the last time, RUN for your LIFE... 1 Like |
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