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Nigerian Man Based Abroad Has Oyinbo Gf But Wants 2 Marry Nigerian Wife. Advice by Missolivea: 9:08pm On Oct 23, 2016
Nairalanders I'm in need of your advice here. Please let advice be mature because every advice is important to me.

I met this guy in church December last year and we got talking. He actually came home to visit because he is based abroad. So he went back to his base and kept in touch. He calls me often and we chat often. Along the line he made his intention known which is to date me. And I considered everything, he's being abroad and all. So I said ok let me pray about it. Then he told me that he has an oyinbo live-in girlfriend who has been very good to him, in fact she has helped him out of trouble with the authorities severally because of illegal business. So he's that indebted to her.

So I asked him what he wants with me then. He said that he's telling me because something might come up along the line to make him marry the oyinbo girlfriend considering that she can help him out with the authorities. But that he seriously wants to marry a Nigerian girl.

So nairalanders this is my dilemma. Should I or should I not? It seems that some Nigerian girls actually do this knowingly.

Please mature advice is needed. Thank you all.

Lalasticlala mynd44 ishilove seun pls help move this to FP.

I created a new acct for this purpose
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Re: Nigerian Man Based Abroad Has Oyinbo Gf But Wants 2 Marry Nigerian Wife. Advice by Nobody: 9:10pm On Oct 23, 2016
So the oyinbo lady is for Green card abi? My Nigga wink

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Re: Nigerian Man Based Abroad Has Oyinbo Gf But Wants 2 Marry Nigerian Wife. Advice by Ishilove: 9:14pm On Oct 23, 2016
You registered today and you want front page coverage? Kwantinue

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Re: Nigerian Man Based Abroad Has Oyinbo Gf But Wants 2 Marry Nigerian Wife. Advice by Nobody: 9:15pm On Oct 23, 2016
LOL. Stories....

Look lady, at least he was honest and upfront with you about this "oyinbo" girl. (the things I learn from nairaland...oyinbo=white.)

Anyway, it's really up to you if you want to embark on this journey of sharing this guy with another woman- albeit probably using this poor white lady for green card or as he mentioned "jail get away card".
Re: Nigerian Man Based Abroad Has Oyinbo Gf But Wants 2 Marry Nigerian Wife. Advice by Nobody: 9:22pm On Oct 23, 2016
Arrest the guy.. Na scammer

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Re: Nigerian Man Based Abroad Has Oyinbo Gf But Wants 2 Marry Nigerian Wife. Advice by Missolivea: 9:36pm On Oct 23, 2016
Ishilove:
You registered today and you want front page coverage? Kwantinue
Sister you ought to know how we operate here. We don't use our original accounts for sensitive posts. Thanks all the same
Re: Nigerian Man Based Abroad Has Oyinbo Gf But Wants 2 Marry Nigerian Wife. Advice by Nobody: 9:50pm On Oct 23, 2016
Don't date Him

He's a gold digger
Re: Nigerian Man Based Abroad Has Oyinbo Gf But Wants 2 Marry Nigerian Wife. Advice by Missolivea: 9:52pm On Oct 23, 2016
KissChris:
Don't date Him


He's a gold digger
Gold digger is a good qualification for this. Seems the oyinbo lady is living in a fool's paradise with him
Re: Nigerian Man Based Abroad Has Oyinbo Gf But Wants 2 Marry Nigerian Wife. Advice by Nobody: 9:56pm On Oct 23, 2016
Missolivea:

Gold digger is a good qualification for this. Seems the oyinbo lady is living in a fool's paradise with him

Yeah.... You've not spent enough time with Him

Online chatting is not the best way to know someone

He might eventually cheat on You too

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Re: Nigerian Man Based Abroad Has Oyinbo Gf But Wants 2 Marry Nigerian Wife. Advice by Luckylife(m): 9:59pm On Oct 23, 2016
If you are ready to bear any consequences that may arise from you marring him, eg been treated like house maid or the racist white woman giving both of you order in her country or you acting as an abandoned wife , your life and destiny in your hand . But my sincere advice if the guy was force to marry the white because his staying there depends on her, that a very bad omen . Move on with your life you worth more than second wife in another man country . Your right man must surely come .
Re: Nigerian Man Based Abroad Has Oyinbo Gf But Wants 2 Marry Nigerian Wife. Advice by Nobody: 10:00pm On Oct 23, 2016
Missolivea:

Sister you ought to know how we operate here. We don't use our original accounts for sensitive posts. Thanks all the same

he proposed to you and you said ok ""let me pray about it ""

have you now prayed about it and what did God minister to you in that regard after the prayers, did the possible out come not reveal to you through prayers
Re: Nigerian Man Based Abroad Has Oyinbo Gf But Wants 2 Marry Nigerian Wife. Advice by Missolivea: 10:02pm On Oct 23, 2016
carmag:


he proposed to you and you said ok ""let me pray about it ""

have you now prayed about it and what did God minister to you in that regard after the prayers, did the possible out come not reveal to you through prayers
My dear I didn't want to go deep into the outcome of that prayer but it was not an outcome that said definitely go ahead
Re: Nigerian Man Based Abroad Has Oyinbo Gf But Wants 2 Marry Nigerian Wife. Advice by Missolivea: 10:04pm On Oct 23, 2016
KissChris:


Yeah.... You've not spent enough time with Him

Online chatting is not the best way to know someone

He might eventually cheat on You too
True talk.
Re: Nigerian Man Based Abroad Has Oyinbo Gf But Wants 2 Marry Nigerian Wife. Advice by Nobody: 10:16pm On Oct 23, 2016
kingcheezypuff
Lets hear yer thoughts
Re: Nigerian Man Based Abroad Has Oyinbo Gf But Wants 2 Marry Nigerian Wife. Advice by Nobody: 10:16pm On Oct 23, 2016
Missolivea:

My dear I didn't want to go deep into the outcome of that prayer but it was not an outcome that said definitely go ahead

you can give it a trial (IF) you are desperate having in mind it aren't gonna be smooth sailing..it's going to be a win win situation
Re: Nigerian Man Based Abroad Has Oyinbo Gf But Wants 2 Marry Nigerian Wife. Advice by vicstar(m): 10:21pm On Oct 23, 2016
..at the end of it all they feel they will always come home and settle
Re: Nigerian Man Based Abroad Has Oyinbo Gf But Wants 2 Marry Nigerian Wife. Advice by Missolivea: 10:24pm On Oct 23, 2016
carmag:


you can give it a trial (IF) you are desperate having in mind it aren't gonna be smooth sailing..it's going to be a win win situation
Pls expatiate on what you mean by win-win situation in this context. Is it for me, for him or for all parties involved?
Re: Nigerian Man Based Abroad Has Oyinbo Gf But Wants 2 Marry Nigerian Wife. Advice by Nobody: 10:53pm On Oct 23, 2016
BUTCHCASSIDY:
kingcheezypuff
Lets hear yer thoughts
He pranced his happy dark Yoruba behind arcoss the ocean and got involved with me
but when things get serious he then lets on he wants ta marry from his country undecided
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I would rip his white kaftan wearin' behind ta pieces

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Re: Nigerian Man Based Abroad Has Oyinbo Gf But Wants 2 Marry Nigerian Wife. Advice by Nobody: 11:07pm On Oct 23, 2016
KingCheezyPuff:
He pranced his happy dark Yoruba behind arcoss the ocean and got involved with me
but when things get serious he then lets on he wants ta marry from his country undecided
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I would rip his white kaftan wearin' behind ta pieces
hahahaha

Re: Nigerian Man Based Abroad Has Oyinbo Gf But Wants 2 Marry Nigerian Wife. Advice by Sirmuel1(m): 11:08pm On Oct 23, 2016
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Re: Nigerian Man Based Abroad Has Oyinbo Gf But Wants 2 Marry Nigerian Wife. Advice by Nobody: 11:44pm On Oct 23, 2016
Missolivea:

Pls expatiate on what you mean by win-win situation in this context. Is it for me, for him or for all parties involved?

he has already told you his commitment with another lady who is integral part of his life as long as he remains in that country meaning you should be ready to abide by any condition suitable to him, if he marries you and decide you should stay with his parents while he comes home to spend some couple of weeks with you then returns to his white chick and that shouldn't be a problem to you because he made himself clear at the beginning

l hope you're not expecting he takes you along to where ever country he resides...Never.. not when he still enjoy the protection of the white lady
Re: Nigerian Man Based Abroad Has Oyinbo Gf But Wants 2 Marry Nigerian Wife. Advice by Nobody: 11:46pm On Oct 23, 2016
BUTCHCASSIDY:

hahahaha
that meme though grin shut up.
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I have actually heard women tell their story of foreign guys doing this .
I don't know if the foreign women do
Re: Nigerian Man Based Abroad Has Oyinbo Gf But Wants 2 Marry Nigerian Wife. Advice by Nobody: 12:04am On Oct 24, 2016
What country is he based? If he's getting citizenship through a wife it could take 5yrs or more depending where he is. He is telling you he wants two wives btw he isn't going to leave the white girl trust me. You will remain in your country and he'll come to see you once every few months. His marriage to the white woman will be official whether it's for papers or not so you will be committing adultery so pray on that lol what a joke.


Last bullet : Are you that hungry or ugly that you would stoop so low. Isn't this woman a human being who btw doesn't know her soon to be husband is cheating. White girls ain't cheap like you so he will protect her from knowing about you so you'll be the side chick. 2nd in command. Meaning you will always come after her needs. So pray on that you hungry low self esteem ho.e!
Re: Nigerian Man Based Abroad Has Oyinbo Gf But Wants 2 Marry Nigerian Wife. Advice by Nobody: 12:05am On Oct 24, 2016
nubian999:
What country is he based? If he's getting citizenship through a wife it could take 5yrs or more depending where he is. He is telling you he wants two wives btw he isn't going to leave the white girl trust me. You will remain in your country and he'll come to see you once every few months. His marriage to the white woman will be official whether it's for papers or not so you will be committing adultery so pray on that lol what a joke.


Last bullet : Are you that hungry or ugly that you would stoop so low. Isn't this woman a human being who btw doesn't know her soon to be husband is cheating. White girls ain't cheap like you so he will protect her from knowing about you so you'll be the side chick. 2nd in command. Meaning you will always come after her needs. So pray on that you hungry low self esteem ho.e!
husband hunter
Re: Nigerian Man Based Abroad Has Oyinbo Gf But Wants 2 Marry Nigerian Wife. Advice by Nobody: 1:14am On Oct 24, 2016
KingCheezyPuff:
that meme though grin shut up.
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I have actually heard women tell their story of foreign guys doing this .
I don't know if the foreign women do
Oh they do lots of them do
I have a family friend who did something similar
really disgusting
Re: Nigerian Man Based Abroad Has Oyinbo Gf But Wants 2 Marry Nigerian Wife. Advice by Nobody: 1:29am On Oct 24, 2016
BUTCHCASSIDY:

Oh they do lots of them do
I have a family friend who did something similar
really disgusting
grin it's "really disgusting" because it can happen ta you,ain't it?
Re: Nigerian Man Based Abroad Has Oyinbo Gf But Wants 2 Marry Nigerian Wife. Advice by khiaa(f): 1:32am On Oct 24, 2016
Op if you marry this low-life it will show alot about your character. Alot of Nigerians love to brag and boast about their culture and morals, and then I see topics like this and I think to myself "what morals"?
Re: Nigerian Man Based Abroad Has Oyinbo Gf But Wants 2 Marry Nigerian Wife. Advice by bitchcrafts: 2:00am On Oct 24, 2016
IMO, Yo decision on whether to go ahead with the nuptial ties should largely be dependent on what kind of married life you wanna lead, the kind of parenting you wish for yo kids and the interests you wishing to protect as at now to have felt that surge to go into prayer sessions seeking for some "divine illuminations". However, my honey pie, your destiny lies largely in yo own hands;You're the sole author of it and people will proof-read if u get lucky to have them around you on your funeral . Weigh yo options and most advisably choose ''Best".
Re: Nigerian Man Based Abroad Has Oyinbo Gf But Wants 2 Marry Nigerian Wife. Advice by bitchcrafts: 2:05am On Oct 24, 2016
khiaa:
Op if you marry this low-life it will show alot about your character. Alot of Nigerians love to brag and boast about their culture and morals, and then I see topics like this and I think to myself "what morals"?
This sorta negative vibe infuriates and gets me utterly weak in the knees. Yes, Nigerian cultures teach good morals and there are a few bad eggs as it should be, So what?
Re: Nigerian Man Based Abroad Has Oyinbo Gf But Wants 2 Marry Nigerian Wife. Advice by Nobody: 2:06am On Oct 24, 2016
nubian999:
What country is he based? If he's getting citizenship through a wife it could take 5yrs or more depending where he is. He is telling you he wants two wives btw he isn't going to leave the white girl trust me. You will remain in your country and he'll come to see you once every few months. His marriage to the white woman will be official whether it's for papers or not so you will be committing adultery so pray on that lol what a joke.


Last bullet : Are you that hungry or ugly that you would stoop so low. Isn't this woman a human being who btw doesn't know her soon to be husband is cheating. White girls ain't cheap like you so he will protect her from knowing about you so you'll be the side chick. 2nd in command. Meaning you will always come after her needs. So pray on that you hungry low self esteem ho.e!
white girls aint cheap like that but Donald trumps wife is a sugar baby undecided
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White girls ain't cheap like that
but Kim kardasian posses nude/exsposes herself for the dollar.
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The playboy masion is full of what? White girls.
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I dont know how you have the mighty view you do of them based off their race undecided


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Hi Nubian wink
Re: Nigerian Man Based Abroad Has Oyinbo Gf But Wants 2 Marry Nigerian Wife. Advice by Nobody: 2:11am On Oct 24, 2016
KingCheezyPuff:
white girls aint cheap like that but Donald trumps wife is a sugar baby undecided
~
White girls ain't cheap like that
but Kim kardasian posses nude/exsposes herself for the dollar.
~
The playboy masion is full of what? White girls.
~~
I dont know how you have the mighty view you do of them because of their race undecided
~~~ ~~
Hi Nubian wink

True true but white girls don't share their man like these hungry girls. I just get vex when a woman plots with a man to bring down a fellow woman angry


Hey Queen smiley
Re: Nigerian Man Based Abroad Has Oyinbo Gf But Wants 2 Marry Nigerian Wife. Advice by Nobody: 2:14am On Oct 24, 2016
nubian999:


True true but white girls don't share their man like these hungry girls. I just get vex when a woman plots with a man to bring down a fellow woman angry


Hey Queen smiley
King
~~ .
You right,I hate it 2. But I'm not entirely sure this is real.
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Let me see if he called lala

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