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It Is Difficult For Me To Get A Wife, Advice Please. by Spinojaja26: 6:34am On Jun 09
Please friends I need your advice, I am a teacher that teaches in one of the Govt. technical schools in Imo state.

I resides in the rural area due to the current transfer from the ministry, though I can go on transfer to any part of Imo state if I want. my problem is that all the ladies that I wanted to settle down with when I tell them what I do for a living and where I stay, they will quit the relation. it is becoming difficult for me to get a wife here.

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Re: It Is Difficult For Me To Get A Wife, Advice Please. by dingbang(m): 6:39am On Jun 09
You mean fellow village ladies dey form for you? Chai. Odiegwu

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Re: It Is Difficult For Me To Get A Wife, Advice Please. by cvibe2: 6:40am On Jun 09
Okay

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Re: It Is Difficult For Me To Get A Wife, Advice Please. by chinedu1408(m): 6:42am On Jun 09
1) do you have money to take care of them.
2) kindly tell them how much you earn as you are introducing yourself to another woman.

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Re: It Is Difficult For Me To Get A Wife, Advice Please. by CosmicPhoenix: 6:45am On Jun 09
are you expecting them to stay when you dont have '30 billion' maybe you dont know that most ladies will gladly date yahoo boys over legitimate working guys

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Re: It Is Difficult For Me To Get A Wife, Advice Please. by Rita30: 6:46am On Jun 09
You have not met your wife when u do there will be no question of where you live, how much you have or earn , how ugly you are, where you are from , how old you are. Everything is beautiful when you are with the right person. Forget this story of women and money most Men run to it just to comfort themselves . the worst of men marry the most beautiful of women that is love, love is actually blind at some point and then grow to begin to see that is after you have established a family. It is God's own way of creating holy matrimony.

Just pray and be good yourself

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Re: It Is Difficult For Me To Get A Wife, Advice Please. by Bloooody(m): 6:48am On Jun 09
Let's be reasonable here.
Before you get married I expect you earn around #100,00.
Marriage is sweet but can be very bitter without money to feed yourself and possibly children.
Can you afford all of that?
The food, the fees, the support?
If you aren't financially stable then don't get into marriage, if not it will turn into bitter kola for you.
Marriage isn't an achievement.

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Re: It Is Difficult For Me To Get A Wife, Advice Please. by Skmoda360(m): 6:50am On Jun 09
I think you should go for women outside imo state...you will get what you want.....most Imo state women too like money and it's not their fault, it's just the poverty and traditional marriage bills they goina put you through so better look for Igbo girls to marry in other states with lesser bills....thank God they didn't accept....and if anyone quote me without no genuine reason, Amadoha thunder is waiting on you..

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Re: It Is Difficult For Me To Get A Wife, Advice Please. by duduade: 6:52am On Jun 09
chinedu1408:
1) do you have money to take care of them.
2) kindly tell them how much you earn as you are introducing yourself to another woman.


You want make hin disgrace himself.

Don't worry your wife will come

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Re: It Is Difficult For Me To Get A Wife, Advice Please. by ITbomb(m): 6:55am On Jun 09
Don't start telling them the story of your life

Next time you meet a girl, develop friendship with her first

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Re: It Is Difficult For Me To Get A Wife, Advice Please. by Rita30: 7:00am On Jun 09
Spinojaja26:
please friends I need your advice, I am a teacher that teaches in one of the Govt. technical schools in Imo state. I resides in the rural area due to the current transfer from the ministry, though I can go on transfer to any part of Imo state if I want. my problem is that all the ladies that I wanted to settle down with when I tell them what I do for a living and where I stay, they will quit the relation. it is becoming difficult for me to get a wife here.

You have not met your wife when u do there will be no question of where you live, how much you have or earn , how ugly you are, where you are from , how old you are. Everything is beautiful when you are with the right person. Forget this story of women and money most Men run to it just to comfort themselves . the worst of men marry the most beautiful of women that is love, love is actually blind at some point and then grow to begin to see that is after you have established a family. It is God's own way of creating holy matrimony.

Just pray and be good yourself

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Re: It Is Difficult For Me To Get A Wife, Advice Please. by mikezuruki(m): 7:04am On Jun 09
Spinojaja26:
please friends I need your advice, I am a teacher that teaches in one of the Govt. technical schools in Imo state. I resides in the rural area due to the current transfer from the ministry, though I can go on transfer to any part of Imo state if I want. my problem is that all the ladies that I wanted to settle down with when I tell them what I do for a living and where I stay, they will quit the relation. it is becoming difficult for me to get a wife here.

OP you go stingy, yet want better thing. Why no get yourself the transfer to the urban part of imo like you boasted?

Which woman you want make she dey village with you? Won't she work? If she does, can she be going to work without stress from home? GUY upgrade! Only teacher salary sef no go fit do the magic...

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Re: It Is Difficult For Me To Get A Wife, Advice Please. by essenceplus: 7:12am On Jun 09
Spinojaja26:
please friends I need your advice, I am a teacher that teaches in one of the Govt. technical schools in Imo state. I resides in the rural area due to the current transfer from the ministry, though I can go on transfer to any part of Imo state if I want. my problem is that all the ladies that I wanted to settle down with when I tell them what I do for a living and where I stay, they will quit the relation. it is becoming difficult for me to get a wife here.


I know ladies in IMO that complain of the same thing funny enough


Akwaketiti you no go church?

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Re: It Is Difficult For Me To Get A Wife, Advice Please. by essenceplus: 7:27am On Jun 09
Next time don't devalue yourself by telling ladies the story of your life. Ladies need men for emotional support more and not the other way around.

Also, do not be quick to bring up location you stay and your profession in the friendship stage,let it grow so love would grow before you start revealing yourself and when you do this,make sure its gradual


Do not spend weekends at home, go out, go to church,make new cliques outside your teaching environment. Try to meet new people weekly,being a teacher doesn't stop you from meeting ladies in church,supermarket. Join a church,join a department,when you're seen on close range,someone will pick up interest and be the one chasing you instead of the other way around


Don't let it affect yourself esteem. You're only a teacher at work. Outside school, you're not.



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Re: It Is Difficult For Me To Get A Wife, Advice Please. by essenceplus: 7:27am On Jun 09
When Chen lilmissfavvy is here cheesy
Re: It Is Difficult For Me To Get A Wife, Advice Please. by essenceplus: 7:28am On Jun 09
Please stop been naughty here. A bad word can get to his esteem. Teachers are human beings

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Re: It Is Difficult For Me To Get A Wife, Advice Please. by LilMissFavvy(f): 7:33am On Jun 09
Watsup.....happy Sunday cheesy. The OP has not met his wife, simple. He should patiently continue searching. It's quite funny tho, cuz guys in the teaching proffession don't have problems getting a woman. Cuz the teaching field is dominated largely by women.
essenceplus:
When Chen lilmissfavvy is here cheesy

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Re: It Is Difficult For Me To Get A Wife, Advice Please. by essenceplus: 7:34am On Jun 09
LilMissFavvy:
Watsup.....happy Sunday cheesy. The OP has not met his wife, simple. He should patiently continue searching. It's quite funny tho, cuz guys in the teaching proffession don't have problems getting a woman. Cuz the teaching field is dominated largely by women.

Happy Sunday.
Female teachers all of a sudden don't find their counterparts attractive for relations. I know this from first hand experience. I'm missed your witty comments. Perhaps you need to be closer undecided lipsrsealed

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Re: It Is Difficult For Me To Get A Wife, Advice Please. by LilMissFavvy(f): 7:46am On Jun 09
Am very close already. Ahhh.....so female teachers don't find their counterparts attractive, I think you are correct. But I bet you a female teacher will find a lecturer attractive shocked.......hmm! Teachers aren't treated well in this country.
essenceplus:


Happy Sunday.
Female teachers all of a sudden don't find their counterparts attractive for relations. I know this from first hand experience. I'm missed your witty comments. Perhaps you need to be closer undecided lipsrsealed

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Re: It Is Difficult For Me To Get A Wife, Advice Please. by essenceplus: 7:54am On Jun 09
LilMissFavvy:
Am very close already. Ahhh.....so female teachers don't find their counterparts attractive, I think you are correct. But I bet you a female teacher will find a lecturer attractive shocked.......hmm! Teachers aren't treated well in this country.


Not treatment. Its stereotype. They're putting themselves down and are confused by the close promoxis with themselves. Before we place tags, its important to bring things down to an individual level


Planet3xi says so

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Re: It Is Difficult For Me To Get A Wife, Advice Please. by dingbang(m): 7:56am On Jun 09
Rita30:


You have not met your wife when u do there will be no question of where you live, how much you have or earn , how ugly you are, where you are from , how old you are. Everything is beautiful when you are with the right person. Forget this story of women and money most Men run to it just to comfort themselves . the worst of men marry the most beautiful of women that is love, love is actually blind at some point and the grow to begin to see that is after you have established a family. It is God's own way of creating holy matrimony.

Just pray and be good yourself

a thousand likes kiss

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Re: It Is Difficult For Me To Get A Wife, Advice Please. by LilMissFavvy(f): 8:02am On Jun 09
Hmm.......tot it was about treatment, I get your point, okay!
essenceplus:



Not treatment. Its stereotype. They're putting themselves down and are confused by the close promoxis with themselves. Before we place tags, its important to bring things down to an individual level
Re: It Is Difficult For Me To Get A Wife, Advice Please. by chiommy123(f): 8:05am On Jun 09
Let's be honest to ourselves na women consider awhole lot of things when it comes to marriage and the future is very important to us. Op try and expand your income and pray and socialize

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Re: It Is Difficult For Me To Get A Wife, Advice Please. by essenceplus: 8:09am On Jun 09
LilMissFavvy:
Hmm.......tot it was about treatment, I get your point, okay!


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Re: It Is Difficult For Me To Get A Wife, Advice Please. by essenceplus: 8:09am On Jun 09
chiommy123:
Let's be honest to ourselves na women consider awhole lot of things when it comes to marriage and the future is very important to us. Op try and expand your income and pray and socialize


Show us where he talked about income

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Re: It Is Difficult For Me To Get A Wife, Advice Please. by Safiaa(f): 8:12am On Jun 09
Darling no. Let’s be real here, sometimes we need to look in the mirror and tell ourselves this truth. No it’s not always about money, but look at your character. Some men have really serious issues and baggage, laziness, addiction, lack of motivation etc are huge character flaws. I don’t believe a man has to have it all to get married, but please sometimes the reason you are not meeting the right woman is because you are full of problems.
Rita30:
You have not met your wife when u do there will be no question of where you live, how much you have or earn , how ugly you are, where you are from , how old you are. Everything is beautiful when you are with the right person. Forget this story of women and money most Men run to it just to comfort themselves . the worst of men marry the most beautiful of women that is love, love is actually blind at some point and the grow to begin to see that is after you have established a family. It is God's own way of creating holy matrimony.

Just pray and be good yourself

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Re: It Is Difficult For Me To Get A Wife, Advice Please. by funmisticqueen(f): 8:54am On Jun 09
Spinojaja26:
please friends I need your advice, I am a teacher that teaches in one of the Govt. technical schools in Imo state. I resides in the rural area due to the current transfer from the ministry, though I can go on transfer to any part of Imo state if I want. my problem is that all the ladies that I wanted to settle down with when I tell them what I do for a living and where I stay, they will quit the relation. it is becoming difficult for me to get a wife here.
op, you should first learn to cut your coat according to your cloth. Maybe you are going for the high maintenance babes in the village.

Also go and hustle and make extra money, girls do not want to suffer, except the naive ones. Your mates are coming with jeep every Christmas. You have to have something else going for you. You don't seem to realize that you are competing with other men. Dont let Disney fool you.

work on yourself, show responsibility and good characters, try to be husband material

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Re: It Is Difficult For Me To Get A Wife, Advice Please. by Phenomenal16(f): 9:04am On Jun 09
Spinojaja26:
please friends I need your advice, I am a teacher that teaches in one of the Govt. technical schools in Imo state. I resides in the rural area due to the current transfer from the ministry, though I can go on transfer to any part of Imo state if I want. my problem is that all the ladies that I wanted to settle down with when I tell them what I do for a living and where I stay, they will quit the relation. it is becoming difficult for me to get a wife here.
... .... Haha haha I just dey laf not u shaa......
Re: It Is Difficult For Me To Get A Wife, Advice Please. by babyfaceafrica: 9:07am On Jun 09
essenceplus:
Next time don't devalue yourself by telling ladies the story of your life. Ladies need men for emotional support more and not the other way around.

Also, do not be quick to bring up location you stay and your profession in the friendship stage,let it grow so love would grow before you start revealing yourself and when you do this,make sure its gradual


Do not spend weekends at home, go out, go to church,make new cliques outside your teaching environment. Try to meet new people weekly,being a teacher doesn't stop you from meeting ladies in church,supermarket. Join a church,join a department,when you're seen on close range,someone will pick up interest and be the one chasing you instead of the other way around


Don't let it affect yourself esteem. You're only a teacher at work. Outside school, you're not.
I disagree,,it is better he is truthful about himself albinitio...any lady that is not satisfied should let him be!!

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Re: It Is Difficult For Me To Get A Wife, Advice Please. by essenceplus: 9:09am On Jun 09
babyfaceafrica:
I disagree,,it is better he is truthful about himself albinitio...any lady that is not satisfied should let him be!!


Love grows. If vulnerability is discovered before love grows it impedes the growth of love. I never said not to tell but not instantly as would have.


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