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[quote author=Toks2008 post=50640166][/quote]...

Hi bro.

Save the slap for ur father.
I bet u he will be grateful.

Boyooosa:
I knew that a lot will not be able to decode my post but u try sha. Read my post again and very well; I mentioned that: I am working so hard to meet up with 'my OWN standard for my woman' and not hers. Check that statement out bro!


Meanwhile, you did not bother to find out my OWN standard for my woman

Now what about this #if I couldn't provide just one out of all she desires, she will be worried# Abi nor be you write am, is that about your own standard too?

kuchikau:
Let me use dis opportunity to advise guys who foolishily follow/live their lives to please girls. U are on ur way to your early grave.
See the way nairalanders adores some stupid girls here makes me go gaga. I dont really undastand whats so special about their toto or nyash or breast.
It takes only a woman to bring a very strong man to his knees.
For Gods sake why do men follow women about like sheep with direction.
A gal dat mensturates evry 28days, wets her dirty smelling pants, yet u behave like an idiot before her. Wetin they hungry u for her stupid body?
ThankGod for my kind of friends.

Your kind of friends?? U mean ur gay partners right?? Since u don't see wat men like in women's body

repogirl:
OP, you are right, women do want to be free somewhat...to be able to live and express themselves freely but..... sometimes, what she wants might not be of benefit to her...so it is the man's duty to help her. Sometimes he has to put his foot down especially when something great is at stake.

Ofcourse, some women will find a way to still get it done without their husband's knowledge but if it backfires they will have noone but themselves to blame.

Yes, I am speaking from experience.

These days I just trust my husband's instincts because I know he has my best interests in mind. He is almost always right and he isn't a bit selfish, so why wouldn't I trust him?

Gosh, I married am awesome man.

That's because you got to the age when you were able to appreciate someone that has your best interests at heart. Young unmarried ladies these days value their freedom more than anything. and most times, that freedom means being able to go from man to man.

Boyooosa:
I assume I share the same school of thought with u on this topic, can confirm through my initial post. Women's desire or wish depends on their partner's philosophy and competence. U got me there Repo!

ofcourse, a good woman loves a man they can depend on at anytime. Emotionally, physically, spiritually and even financially. It's great to be with a man who has himself put together....even if he isn't well put together yet, he gives off the vibe of someone who has a vision for himself and his future family.

Someone she trusts would have her back, that's the person any good woman would definitely submit a hundred percent to.

foladara777:
Your kind of friends?? U mean ur gay partners right?? Since u don't see wat men like in women's body

...
So TOTO dey hungry u like this,

#God forbid#

I hate women.. crazy animals.. I'm tired of them,, why would man live all his life to satisfy woman ....mtcheww I'm outta here

MoyoGENERAL:
Now what about this #if I couldn't provide just one out of all she desires, she will be worried# Abi nor be you write am, is that about your own standard too?

'I don't like it' was what I mentioned, I did not mention that I will go all out to satisfy her. That's why I have my OWN standard. My standard is all I need to go all out to work on and I believe dat she will be happy with my submission if she is good for me.

tosyne2much:
I beg to disagree bro... There's no general way of satisfying women. If you shower the loads of care and affection that melted the heart of Kemi to another lady, she might take you for granted

I have experienced a aituation when a lady told me she can't date me cos I won't be able treat her the way she wants. Meanwhile she always respected her ex that beats her and shouts at her at any radius before she listens

Well said! Satisfaction is subjectives and ultimately unattainable!
So far all our desires and wants cannot be totally met, so also you can NEVER satisfy a LADY completely! NEVER.
However, all ladies need some general things; irrespective of their background or psyche: They need Love and Care, They need Support and Security and They Obviously need Money and Gifts!!

repogirl:
ofcourse, a good woman loves a man they can depend on at anytime. Emotionally, physically, spiritually and even financially. It's great to be with a man who has himself put together....even if he isn't well put together yet, he gives off the vibe of someone who has a vision for himself and his future family.

Someone she trusts would have her back, that's the person any good woman would definitely submit a hundred percent to.

Ur spirit is high tonight. Ur takes are fantastic, help me to extend this knowledge to the ladies out there, it will help sombori. Truly u r typing from experience, I do not have any objevtion . all correct ma!

tosyne2much:
When you demand sex in relationship they say you don't love them, if you practise celibacy they will label you an impotent. If your joystick is too small you're subject to mockery and ridicule, if your joystick is too big, na wahala again

If you be one minute man they will complain that you can't please them. When you're a one hour man they will still complain that you want to kill them.

Women are the most confused creature in the world and I doubt if God Himself understands them, unlike men

Guy no be lie u talk on my gf say I one kill her just 2 round wen we go I one go for the 3 around she no agee she say I one kill her I dnt knw what dey really want girls I dnt understand them at all may God help us for these girls

I was once told by a Woman herself that women are "UNSTABLE".. btw she is married with kids, and she is American.. and I can't tell you the amount of women who I know who can't stand women..they mostly have male friends.

Women want to be happy!! But I don't think they know what can make them happy constantly, whatever makes them happy changes

Boyooosa:
'I don't like it' was what I mentioned, I did not mention that I will go all out to satisfy her. That's why I have my OWN standard. My standard is all I need to go all out to work on and I believe dat she will be happy with my submission if she is good for me.

Your reply did not match what you wrote o chief!

#if I couldn't provide just one out of all she desires, she will be worried#
To me this statement you wrote( in ask tag above) was what inspired my write up initially!
Except you want to withdraw the statement then!

BiafraBushBoy:
Drama...

let me explain..

They seek for love, when they see love, they want money

When they find money, the seek for Time and commitment..

When they find it, they start looking for whether he is cheating

When they can't find any of the above, they stir up controversy..

you know why??

Most Ladies are wired around Drama and Controversy..

Guy....I dash u a cucumber proof woman! U too make sense!

When even women do not understand themselves, how can a man?

Any wonder why lots of women despise themselves while pretending otherwise?

Just when you think you have understood a woman, you soon realize that you don't.

When things go well with your woman, it is not necessarily because you really understand her. It is simply because she has decided to make your relationship work and is committed to it. You could be the most useless guy on the planet, the lady that wants to make it work would still try her best.

You can also be the most caring, loving, responsible & caring man in the universe, it will still not cut it with some women.

So just chill & be the best you can be. If it works then good.

tosyne2much:
When you demand sex in relationship they say you don't love them, if you practise celibacy they will label you an impotent. If your joystick is too small you're subject to mockery and ridicule, if your joystick is too big, na wahala again

If you be one minute man they will complain that you can't please them. When you're a one hour man they will still complain that you want to kill them.

Women are the most confused creature in the world and I doubt if God Himself understands them, unlike men

Guy Na only God understands them....I certainly do not! At least not always!

Youngpo413:
Yeah, freedom so that they can jump from one dick to another, that's the only thing they are good at......




Fishbrains.

Yes oh all thse girls wen dey form dey all hav Fishbrains that y we Bleep them Fishbrains.

TheRealestGuy:
OP, first, your view shows you to be a young lad, prolly in his late teens or early twenties.

When you've become more experienced in dealing with women, you'll understand that all a woman needs is to be treated like a child; really listen to her, show her love and care, caution her when she errs, buy her gifts, make her grow, shower her with attention, and very importantly provide for her and make her believe strongly in you and look up to you... then make sure your bedroom skills are top notch.

I think I've pretty summed up what most women want, generally speaking...

Yes you are right..I'm just a teenager in a body of a man who have lived for 4 decades and still counting.. so you can see that you are the one who should sit his ass down and learn facts from the experienced.

Ladies want to learn from their mistakes so allow her...

All those things you listed are inconsequential if her heart belongs to another cos a woman can be with a man,have all her children for same man and in fact grow old with a man they are not happy with just because they were denied the opportunity to make their decision about who they desire to marry.

Hope you learn Mr Methuselah.

MoyoGENERAL:
Your reply did not match what you wrote o chief!

#if I couldn't provide just one out of all she desires, she will be worried#
To me this statement you wrote( in ask tag above) was what inspired my write up initially!
Except you want to withdraw the statement then!

Let me ask u a question: would you like to see ur beloved wife to be unhappy? Solution to a problem is not one way bro, its all about how intelligent u r and skillful you can be, to handle situations. Everything depends on u as a man! Ur woman relies on ur judgmental sense... Read Repogirl's post, you will understand real woman

AreaFada2:
When even women do not understand themselves, how can a man?

Any wonder why lots of when despise themselves while pretending otherwise?

Just when you think you have understood a woman, you soon realize that you don't.

When things go well with your woman, it is not necessarily because you really understand her. It is simply because she has decided to make your relationship work and is committed to it. You could be the most useless guy on the planet, the lady that wants to make it work would still try her best.

You can also be the most caring, loving, responsible & caring man in the universe, it will still not cut it with some women.

So just chill & be the best you can be. If it works then good.

Good one...that is why I laugh at guys who list pooh like be caring..romantic..supersexy bla bla bla...

Just do your best and let her make her choice..if she says she does not want you again...let her be..

The day a lady told me she does not want a guy because he is too good..that was the day I concluded that women are the most complex species of God's creations so just let them decide on what they want and allow them learn a thing or two from experience.

BiafraBushBoy:
Drama...

let me explain..

They seek for love, when they see love, they want money

When they find money, the seek for Time and commitment..

When they find it, they start looking for whether he is cheating

When they can't find any of the above, they stir up controversy..

you know why??

Most Ladies are wired around Drama and Controversy..

1000likes Sir

Toks2008:
Good one...that is why I laugh at guys who list pooh like be caring..romantic..supersexy bla bla bla...

Just do your best and let her make her choice..if she says she does not want you again...let her be..

God bless you for this comment, if a girl wanna use a guy they will and at the end of the day, you'll be subbed... A guy is only wasting his strength when you dey form caring and romantic.....lol, learnt my lessons...

AreaFada2:
When even women do not understand themselves, how can a man?

Any wonder why lots of when despise themselves while pretending otherwise?

Just when you think you have understood a woman, you soon realize that you don't.

When things go well with your woman, it is not necessarily because you really understand her. It is simply because she has decided to make your relationship work and is committed to it. You could be the most useless guy on the planet, the lady that wants to make it work would still try her best.

You can also be the most caring, loving, responsible & caring man in the universe, it will still not cut it with some women.

So just chill & be the best you can be. If it works then good.

This is just the honest truth. I'm currently in the situation and I won't let her enjoy it one tiny bit by trying to convince her to stay or shit like that....if she wants to go she should, she can decide for herself.

Money and B I G D I C K

harffie:
God bless you for this comment, if a girl wanna use a guy they will and at the end of the day, you'll be subbed... A guy is only wasting his strength when you dey form caring and romantic.....lol, learnt my lessons...

All my romance thread on nairaland are coined from what I have seen,heard and experienced first hand.

I had a lady that I could swear will never falter but after 12years of a wonderful union she suddenly feels caged and according to her she said she feels cheated that she has spent all her life with me since I met her when she was just 19..

I tried making her see why she needs not see things that way but she insisted that she just wants a break and even when I could pin her down in one way or the other,I let her be.

After over 3 years she walked back by herself..WHY? because I allowed her the freedom to do her bidding but I had to put a stop to the union as I was no longer comfortable.

Do you know that if I had held on to her against her wish, she will still think there is something better out there I'm trying to prevent her from seeing.

Leave these first wonder of the world to fly if they want to....they will eventually learn from their own experience.

harffie:
This is just the honest truth. I'm currently in the situation and I won't let her enjoy it one tiny bit by trying to convince her to stay or shit like that....if she wants to go she should, she can decide for herself.

The worst a man can do is cling to a woman or beg her to stay with you. That is your dignity gone. No woman respects a mug. She will so mess you up & discard you. Even if you hurt, do so privately. Be in control of yourself. Always.

When she sees that the pasture is not greener on the other side she was eyeing, she would come back. Up to you to take her back or not.

harffie:
This is just the honest truth. I'm currently in the situation and I won't let her enjoy it one tiny bit by trying to convince her to stay or shit like that....if she wants to go she should, she can decide for herself.

That's all.

AreaFada2:
The worst a man can do is cling to a woman or beg her to stay with you. That is your dignity gone. No woman respects a mug. She will so mess you up & discard you. Even if you hurt, do so privately. Be in control of yourself. Always.

When she sees that the pasture is not greener on the other side she was eyeing, she would come back. Up to you to take her back or not.

Exactly.. I told my ex that "let me die the day I ever beg her to come back to my life" and this is because her reason for leaving was never my fault and eventually she came back by herself.

You are a man when you let your woman make her decision but you become a jerk by forcing your decision on her.

Cutehector:
The muslims think their women aren't making the right decision when it comes to marrying outside their religion despite being exactly what she wants.

what do the christians think in same scenario sir?

Boyooosa:
Let me ask u a question: would you like to see ur beloved wife to be unhappy? Solution to a problem is not one way bro, its all about how intelligent u r and skillful you can be, to handle situations. Everything depends on u as a man! Ur woman relies on ur judgmental sense... Read Repogirl's post, you will understand real woman

You wrote a statement, you are saying another thing!
All these things you are saying are knowns!
Based on what you have written initially: I can picture some scenario,

Your girl asked for: Time, money, gifts, attention, advice, love, security; and you are able to provide her all these but enough money....( due to reasons beyond your capacity which she obviously knows) Now lemme ask you, Should she now be always worried! From the statement you made, your GIRL wants you to be PERFECT! And anytime you aren't, She's worried! Lemme ask you, Is she PERFECT

And by the way, as regard your question if I want to see my beloved wife to-be unhappy, No.!!!!! However, if after doing my best and she's not appreciative about what I've done and always worried about the very little I didn't do or couldn't do even after clarifications, The such lady isn't worth it! She'd better find her bearing!..

Toks2008:
All my romance thread on nairaland are coined from what I have seen,heard and experienced first hand.

I had a lady that I could swear will never falter but after 12years of a wonderful union she suddenly feels caged and according to her she said she feels cheated that she has spent all her life with me since I met her when she was just 19..

I tried making her see why she needs not see things that way but she insisted that she just wants a break and even when I could pin her down in one way or the other,I let her be.

After over 3 years she walked back by herself..WHY? because I allowed her the freedom to do her bidding but I had to put a stop to the union as I was no longer comfortable.

Do you know that if I had held on to her against her wish, she will still think there is something better out there I'm trying to prevent her from seeing.

Leave these first wonder of the world to fly if they want to....they will eventually learn from their own experience.

Freedom theory did not work for you according to ur story, so why the reference brah?

ItsQuinn:
I don't know about other women, but as for me....I would love my freedom freedom = happiness

WHWT DO YO MEAN BY FREEDOM/