Don't collect people's bag,let them carry it themselves. The last time I worked in Nigeria,the CEO came in,trust me now, I sat right there! Others stood up.He asked me to stand up when I'm talking to him. Guess what,I resigned!

Our culture let people take advantage of u sometimes. Sorry I'm a Yoruba guy but I'm not with u on this.Change bro.

TruthHurts1:
When will our people stop being so ignorant?! He's not a WHITE MAN. He's an ARAB for fvcks sake!

What does it matter? The whole classification system itself is arbitrary.

Are "white people" realy white? some only whitish, others are pink and a few could be best described as gray. at times you can't really tell the difference between white people and arabs going by skin color alone...so why is this an issue that anyone should get worked up over?

moscobabs:


Lol you can't take it away from us.

u will nearly run if your hubby take u to his village and start introducing u to all family members

That is where u will have to kneel for Both elders and kids o .

Don't mind us Sister

I have to agree that it's a culture that no one can take away. Just do it when you see people that will understand what you're doing. As an Ibo girl, it's only my father-in-law and his wife when she was alive that I bend down for as a normal mark of respect, every other person, you're on your own.

oboy3:
it's Yoruba mentality, they love it too much, I remember the secondary school years, the owner of the school is an igbo woman, she instructed us to always call all female staff "Madam" while the male are "Sir"
fast-forward to the day of waec, one Yoruba external invigilator came,somebody tried to call her attention "Madam",she then became furious cursing in Yoruba, blah blah blah, call me mummy not madam, I am old enough to be ur mother blah blah blah, I am not igbo etc, it was another thing that day, For me I can't ever call anyone who is not my mother Mummy, it doesn't make sense

Even the primary I went a deeper woman owns it, I never really did wrap my head around why we called her "School mummy"

like somebody said, salutation is never love, Yoruba think that lying in the mud to greet somebody is respect,i am sorry to burst your bubble, it's not

you can force a child who hates you to prostrate to you but fact is he will still hate u afterwards

lmao. it's because in Yoruba language "madam" and mummy are called with the same word "Iya"

I dont get why she took offense by being called "madam" tho ..some people have serious problems. .it's not a yoruba thing

sweetetlove:
the man said you shouldn't bend again to collect his bag if I were you I won't do it again instead of writing long epistle on Nairaland

NO, what he did by relating it to others in this forum is not wrong. Atleast some have taken note.

lestat:

You are a mor0n and deserve to get fired . I have fired staff like you becUse if you have worked in a multinational you will know that rubbish you did is unacceptable.
Keep your bull crP culture at home and focus on your job.

The main people who engage in such that are prone to be involved in office politics, gossiping, slander and favoritism .

Hence it's frowned upon. Let your work ethic speK for you not your respect of elders ..
I would have fired you instantly... Rubbish

I believe u are an adult. using negative words to drive ur point does not match up to ur status.

Thank God i am not a Yoruba man o. Yorubas are the perfect slaves, it is deep rooted in their blood and disguised as respect for the elderly. It just happens that the elderly are the richest and powerful ones, If he was a much younger wealthy person he would still do the same. Yorubas have been suffering from slavery long before the Whites came to colonize us, Virtually every tribe including theirs have enslaved them in the past. I will only carry bags from my parents or if it is obvious to everyone that you are struggling with heavy bags. Apart from that you can even fire me for not bending to greet you or carrying your weightless handbags. This is why i have problem with Yorubas superiors. They attached too much relevance to themselves and demand respects as if they eat it.

moscobabs:
Just resumed my new office last week o.

My first time of working with White man sa (Lebanese) , The man is free and humble in fact everybody loves him, among other Lebanese my Boss is jovial, free and hardworking man.

He has worked in 5 African countries so he understands Africa and her culture very well.

The real story....

I resumed very early this morning and I decided to wait in front of office before I start today's activities when I saw my boss coming down from his Truck carrying his bag , as a young Yoruba man that comes from good background ..lol So I ran to him and say Good morning sir (bend my head) and I stretch my hand to collect his bag.

The man who has never disrespect me like that before shouted on me!!

Who owns the bag? he asked

repeat!!!! who owns the bag moscobabs?

Me: You sir!!!! I replied..

if it's me "why should u collect it from me?

Me: I just wanted to help u sir.

Y? ..... I couldn't respond .

I say why? ...meet me in office now!!!! he commanded .

We entered his office and he sat me down

moscobabs, You were employed as so so so in this company not to carry bag, the bag belongs to me and I must carry it, also you always bend whenever you greet me...please its not necessary, in fact its not official, I just opportune to be your boss, you are married as I , You are graduate although you are younger than me but you have to attach respect to yourself.

I was like " ki la gbe, ki la ju" but I replied him by saying ....

Sir, I am african we have cultures and Traditions and parts of these is what I did, We respect our elders and seniors that's why we bend or prostrate while greeting and we do help them carry their loads even if we carry ours too.

And he responded with smiles...No problem But when next you greet me in such an embarrassing way or try to collect my bag I won't think twice before I sack you!!!

I beg o Is anything wrong in what I did?

Is there any other reason for his reaction?

The man just dey look me somehow since morning

In d look u somehow this morning to see if the bulala he gave u last time has sunk in. Am sure he felt kind of bad about what he said hence the sheepish look this morning but that won't stop him from doing.juat what he said.

Teeworld13:
young man! the man is well enlightened and he's already telling you to stop the slavery mentality. Others would have taken advantage of you so wise up. I am working in a lebanese company and this is my 4th year, so I know them very well. How
you present yourself at the very beginning will determine how you will be treated...

young woman u talk too much learn to reply without insult . u learn everyday , I have been working for the past 10yrs but my first time of working with Lebanese .

u advice me with experience not with insult

gud day

Kgdavid:


What does it matter? The whole classification system itself is arbitrary.

Are "white people" realy white? some only whitish, others are pink and a few could be best described as gray. at times you can't really tell the difference between white people and arabs going by skin color alone...so why is this an issue that anyone should get worked up over?

what is this?


pink o, red o ...fact is race is not by skin tone.

a white man doesn't mean white skin like snow. .. neither does black man mean black like charcoal. to you Chinese and europeans are all the same I guess

Nigerians and ignorance..smh

MinorityTribe1:
Thank God i am not a Yoruba man o. Yorubas are the perfect slaves, it is deep rooted in their blood and disguised as respect for the elderly. It just happens that the elderly are the richest and powerful ones, If he was a much younger wealthy person he would still do the same. Yorubas have been suffering from slavery long before the Whites came to colonize us, Virtually every tribe including theirs have enslaved them in the past. I will only carry bags from my parents or if it is obvious to everyone that you are struggling with heavy bags. Apart from that you can even fire me for not bending to greet you or carrying your weightless handbags. This is why i have problem with Yorubas superiors. They attached too much relevance to themselves and demand respects as if they eat it.

this one has seen opportunity to attack the yoruba nation. jobless lot

moscobabs:
Just resumed my new office last week o.

My first time of working with White man sa (Lebanese) , The man is free and humble in fact everybody loves him, among other Lebanese my Boss is jovial, free and hardworking man.

He has worked in 5 African countries so he understands Africa and her culture very well.

The real story....

I resumed very early this morning and I decided to wait in front of office before I start today's activities when I saw my boss coming down from his Truck carrying his bag , as a young Yoruba man that comes from good background ..lol So I ran to him and say Good morning sir (bend my head) and I stretch my hand to collect his bag.

The man who has never disrespect me like that before shouted on me!!

Who owns the bag? he asked

repeat!!!! who owns the bag moscobabs?

Me: You sir!!!! I replied..

if it's me "why should u collect it from me?

Me: I just wanted to help u sir.

Y? ..... I couldn't respond .

I say why? ...meet me in office now!!!! he commanded .

We entered his office and he sat me down

moscobabs, You were employed as so so so in this company not to carry bag, the bag belongs to me and I must carry it, also you always bend whenever you greet me...please its not necessary, in fact its not official, I just opportune to be your boss, you are married as I , You are graduate although you are younger than me but you have to attach respect to yourself.

I was like " ki la gbe, ki la ju" but I replied him by saying ....

Sir, I am african we have cultures and Traditions and parts of these is what I did, We respect our elders and seniors that's why we bend or prostrate while greeting and we do help them carry their loads even if we carry ours too.

And he responded with smiles...No problem But when next you greet me in such an embarrassing way or try to collect my bag I won't think twice before I sack you!!!

I beg o Is anything wrong in what I did?

Is there any other reason for his reaction?

The man just dey look me somehow since morning

Head bending are for lizards, always keep it professional! Perhaps respect isn't as a result of greeting your elders or bending you head but by respecting his core values since his your boss.. So next time you see an agama lizard shout the blood of jesus

makelove2m:


bend it again and get fired,....................

U must have passed summary with flying colours

huh? i did not insult you Mr...but if you wish to know what an insult is - I would not act the way you did if I have worked anywhere else for 10years like you did. I should be in management position and not offer eye service by carrying my boss's bag - I know your type fah....gerara here

moscobabs:

young woman u talk too much learn to reply without insult . u learn everyday , I have been working for the past 10yrs but my first time of working with Lebanese .

u advice me with experience not with insult

gud day

Ok

armadeo:
For shizzy ma nizzy

Dude arrange yourself. You are working for a logical human now. Thank God it's not the Indians I heard they are slave drivers.

Dude he told you straight your job is your job not to carry load up and down.

Meanwhile for the bend down greeting thing. I am not a Yoruba but work in the environment and now it's almost a part of me. You must dobale to greet Ogas

But don't do that for a white man. He doesn't get it.

Lol.

Yep that's it but some ogas do expect too much. U guys remember pix of Rochas and house of rep guys kneeling down and prostrating on the floor. Our Nigerian mentality and over hyping of egos makes most African bosses almost tyrants when it comes to these sort of things. I know a friend that is a PA to one of these senate peeps and his arrogant principal expects anyone who meets him to prostrate on the floor when greeting him. The man visited the UK some time back and Nigerians who knew him were prostrating on the road for him (god forbid bad thing). He was shocked to his marrow when he met me for the first time and I stretched out my hand to shake him as my guy introduced me to him. I see as the man dey look me conny conny eye. I later overheard the man asking my guy who I was and if I wasn't trained well to have greated him like that. Before my friend could answer I walked up to them and told him to his face "with all due respect sir. It would be preposterous for u to expect me to postrate for u on the streets of London. That does not dispute the fact that I respect u". Anyway he developed a dislike for.me after that. Though he was impressed with what we presented them with but that act alone could be the reason why the cancelled our offers for them. Anyway wahatever!

makelove2m:


bend it again and get fired,....................

imagine op stil dey ask questn. op no like his job cos he wil stil make desame mistake.

Op, you are "eye service" person and the Lebanese man saw through your antics.

What were you doing in front of the man's office when you should already be working at your duty post. Were you employed to be standing in front of the Lebanese man's door?

Consider yourself very lucky your boss is a nice man if not he would have sacked you on the spot.

they think u are trying too hard to impress them

Sanchez01:

It obviously is, don't you get it? You 'fired' a staff for bowing to you while he or she greeted and you consider it weird, because you don't understand why the person did it (I know you lied but I'll just pretend).

When Yemi Osinbajo almost went on her knees to greet the president, I could remember how some people from a particular divide called her a slave just because it's alien to them. You failed to understand how culture could influence our decisions and attitude particularly when meeting people for the first time.

A friend of mine almost went on her knees at a mall when her long lost friend introduced her to her parents who are Igbos. Trust the Yoruba attitude in her while greeting them. I didn't take the dad 5 seconds to figure where she's from.

Unfortunately, most of the people crying on the thread are folks who have never left their regions or state to see how it is done in the SW.

So you see, my friend, everything boils down to tribe here.

While you tried to make a point you went over board ..do not ever call me a liar again.
I have no need to impress you or any other faceless noob here.
Kindly 're read my comment slowly and try to comprehend before just rushing to type and look cool .

Sanchez01:

It obviously is, don't you get it? You 'fired' a staff for bowing to you while he or she greeted and you consider it weird, because you don't understand why the person did it (I know you lied but I'll just pretend).

When Yemi Osinbajo almost went on her knees to greet the president, I could remember how some people from a particular divide called her a slave just because it's alien to them. You failed to understand how culture could influence our decisions and attitude particularly when meeting people for the first time.

A friend of mine almost went on her knees at a mall when her long lost friend introduced her to her parents who are Igbos. Trust the Yoruba attitude in her while greeting them. I didn't take the dad 5 seconds to figure where she's from.

Unfortunately, most of the people crying on the thread are folks who have never left their regions or state to see how it is done in the SW.

So you see, my friend, everything boils down to tribe here.

While you tried to make a point you went over board ..do not ever call me a liar again.
I have no need to impress you or any other faceless noob here.
Kindly 're read my comment slowly and try to comprehend before just rushing to type and look cool.

Lastly the fact that'd you or anyone would th to tribalize anything shows an attempt at over compensation for maybe an immensely flawed personality or heavy handicapped work skills.
Expand your horizons and learn .

moscobabs:
Just resumed my new office last week o.

My first time of working with White man sa (Lebanese) , The man is free and humble in fact everybody loves him, among other Lebanese my Boss is jovial, free and hardworking man.

He has worked in 5 African countries so he understands Africa and her culture very well.

The real story....

I resumed very early this morning and I decided to wait in front of office before I start today's activities when I saw my boss coming down from his Truck carrying his bag , as a young Yoruba man that comes from good background ..lol So I ran to him and say Good morning sir (bend my head) and I stretch my hand to collect his bag.

The man who has never disrespect me like that before shouted on me!!

Who owns the bag? he asked

repeat!!!! who owns the bag moscobabs?

Me: You sir!!!! I replied..

if it's me "why should u collect it from me?

Me: I just wanted to help u sir.

Y? ..... I couldn't respond .

I say why? ...meet me in office now!!!! he commanded .

We entered his office and he sat me down

moscobabs, You were employed as so so so in this company not to carry bag, the bag belongs to me and I must carry it, also you always bend whenever you greet me...please its not necessary, in fact its not official, I just opportune to be your boss, you are married as I , You are graduate although you are younger than me but you have to attach respect to yourself.

I was like " ki la gbe, ki la ju" but I replied him by saying ....

Sir, I am african we have cultures and Traditions and parts of these is what I did, We respect our elders and seniors that's why we bend or prostrate while greeting and we do help them carry their loads even if we carry ours too.

And he responded with smiles...No problem But when next you greet me in such an embarrassing way or try to collect my bag I won't think twice before I sack you!!!

I beg o Is anything wrong in what I did?

Is there any other reason for his reaction?

The man just dey look me somehow since morning

Why didn't you prostrate join?.....MUMU you take timidity for humility. Afonja, hypocricy & eye service are like...............how I wish I have that Zuma index fingers pix

jieta:
I believe u are an adult. using negative words to drive ur point does not match up to ur status.

Point taken , accept my sincere apologies

moscobabs:
Just resumed my new office last week o.

My first time of working with White man sa (Lebanese) , The man is free and humble in fact everybody loves him, among other Lebanese my Boss is jovial, free and hardworking man.

He has worked in 5 African countries so he understands Africa and her culture very well.

The real story....

I resumed very early this morning and I decided to wait in front of office before I start today's activities when I saw my boss coming down from his Truck carrying his bag , as a young Yoruba man that comes from good background ..lol So I ran to him and say Good morning sir (bend my head) and I stretch my hand to collect his bag.

The man who has never disrespect me like that before shouted on me!!

Who owns the bag? he asked

repeat!!!! who owns the bag moscobabs?

Me: You sir!!!! I replied..

if it's me "why should u collect it from me?

Me: I just wanted to help u sir.

Y? ..... I couldn't respond .

I say why? ...meet me in office now!!!! he commanded .

We entered his office and he sat me down

moscobabs, You were employed as so so so in this company not to carry bag, the bag belongs to me and I must carry it, also you always bend whenever you greet me...please its not necessary, in fact its not official, I just opportune to be your boss, you are married as I , You are graduate although you are younger than me but you have to attach respect to yourself.

I was like " ki la gbe, ki la ju" but I replied him by saying ....

Sir, I am african we have cultures and Traditions and parts of these is what I did, We respect our elders and seniors that's why we bend or prostrate while greeting and we do help them carry their loads even if we carry ours too.

And he responded with smiles...No problem But when next you greet me in such an embarrassing way or try to collect my bag I won't think twice before I sack you!!!

I beg o Is anything wrong in what I did?

Is there any other reason for his reaction?

The man just dey look me somehow since morning

GBAM! This is why i love outsiders. They are not caught up in all that pretentious show of respect. May God bless your boss.

As u said,''IN YOUR CULTURE'' not His
those actions may signify a different thing in theirs
always be cautious in your dealings with internationals
cause they dont share your dreams and aspirations
they think and act differently from us
I once bade my Boss a safe journey once and he didnt like it atall
he told me next time i should use Safe Trip instead,
i tried to check the difference between the two
and never seems to understand where the difference lies,
in short, i consulted my dictionary and goggle at the same time
my advice to you, what ever that man employed you to do should be your major concern
not greetings, rendering of help or trying to play social with them
they totally dislike that, No more eye service my brother least be prepared to return home this recession period
BE AS QUITE AS A DOVE AND STAY OUT OF TROUBLE
good luck with ur job.smiles

.

Teeworld13:
huh? i did not insult you Mr...but if you wish to know what an insult is - I would not act the way you did if I have worked anywhere else for 10years like you did. I should be in management position and not offer eye service by carrying my boss's bag - I know your type fah....gerara here

lol am sure u r one of factory ladies or a receptionist in your so called Lebanese company . For your information my position in my company is the highest an African man can get to . Bending for a superior who happen to be the head of my dept in west Africa is not a big deal . if u have opportunity to work in just Ministry in nigeria I know u wul wash your boss daughter's pant.

don't quote me again pls

macof:



lmao. it's because in Yoruba language "madam" and mummy are called with the same word "Iya"

I dont get why she took offense by being called "madam" tho ..some people have serious problems. .it's not a yoruba thing

even the Yoruba students amongst were surprised,i agree it's not a Yoruba thing because we had other yoruba staffs we called Madam and they never took it personal

lol, highest ke West Africa and you call it the highest and you want to compare yourself with someone who's boss is in charge of all African Branches and UAE, sorry for your chicken brain.... and am very sure you old pass your oga wey you dey beg to carry him bag, nonsense....I dey wait another of your complain....eye service full your body...get out ...I can never have your type of mindset - houseboy like you

moscobabs:


lol am sure u r one of factory ladies or a receptionist in your so called Lebanese company . For your information my position in my company is the highest an African man can get to . Bending for a superior who happen to be the head of my dept in west Africa is not a big deal . if u have opportunity to work in just Ministry in nigeria I know u wul wash your boss daughter's pant.

don't quote me again pls

humblemikel:
As u said,''IN YOUR CULTURE'' not His
those actions may signify a different thing in theirs
always be cautious in your dealings with internationals
cause they dont share your dreams and aspirations
they think and act differently from us
I once bade my Boss a safe journey once and he didnt like it atall
he told me next time i should use Safe Trip instead,
i tried to check the difference between the two
and never seems to understand where the difference lies,
in short, i consulted my dictionary and goggle at the same time
my advice to you, what ever that man employed you to do should be your major concern
not greetings, rendering of help or trying to play social with them
they totally dislike that, No more eye service my brother least be prepared to return home this recession period
BE AS QUITE AS A DOVE AND STAY OUT OF TROUBLE
good luck with ur job.smiles

.

I love this ..thanks bro.


just that the man is difference o...other bosses do leave their bags with the junior.

why this is so funny to me is that this man is the head of my dept for West Africa .


He was happy this morning when he sake him and added it with Knuckle ..lol I think he loves it that way. he even offer me cigarette but I rejected it sa.

Teeworld13:
lol, highest ke West Africa and you call it the highest and you want to compare yourself with someone who's boss is in charge of all African Branches and UAE, sorry for your chicken brain.... and am very sure you old pass your oga wey you dey beg to carry him bag, nonsense....I dey wait another of your complain....eye service full your body...get out ...I can never have your type of mindset - houseboy like you

Just checked your posts and profile now.

don't drag me to your level pls

TruthHurts1:
When will our people stop being so ignorant?! He's not a WHITE MAN. He's an ARAB for fvcks sake!

ITK, please i have only one question for you,
the statement ''A WHITE MAN'' is it country or region base
or does it not occur to you that the phrase WHITE MAN has to do with the skin colour of a person and not country
now note, every yellow skin person is refer to as White Man while Dark coloured is a Black Man

HabaSeun:


Yes! You did everything wrong! Get rid of your slave mentality!!

Leave your yoruba culture out of this.

I was actually looking for that one person that will quote the whole story and here u are