This is something that is common, preventing isn't quite easy...especially when the man has been used to that life style before marriage, women asides making issues with a cheating husband.. they are to also tell them that they should always use protection so they do not bring what's not right home...it's better the point of using protection should be stressed upon..because when the issues come both party will suffer it...

Laveda:
Now this is just sad.. So the woman died due to her husband's cheating ways.

I don't know if there's anyway she can protect herself, the best is running monthly Hiv test once you notice your husband is cheating..

I'd not evn advice any lady 2 deliberate using condom wt such a man....u cnt be so sure of these tns...I'd rather walk away (easier said than done tho) cuz of a truth,it ain't easy

deeplow:
I like that people are trying to create awareness for HIV/AIDS. We should however be careful when we concoct stories, stories such as this. It is almost impossible for someone to die from HIV in as little as four years. HIV doesn't even get to full blown Aids in 4 years.

These days, if you are treated for ordinary malaria, and you don't get better, you will most likely get a tested for HIV.

Are you saying your aunt never felt sick? When she was having the kids, they would have known her status. She would automatically have been put on drugs.

Please, let look for more intelligent ways to enlighten people on the dangers of HIV, not with these kind of stories.

I get where u coming from, *thinking* about it alone can lead to her early grave, I believe she let herself die.........she actually didn't die of HIV, but the trauma and the idea of stigmatization....

The best way is leave the man and go live in a cucumber shop.

Now this post is gonna make me cry...sometimes I feel a cheating spouse should face a gruesome punishment. There's a recent case here. We just lost a family friend to AIDS. This man has infected his wife and now she is left to survive on retrovirals...#somemenarejustevil

Laveda:


Maybe, but that's the only help I can think of.

You don't expect her to deny her husband sex, or ask him to use condom everytime they wanna make love..

Don't you think?

And what happened to leaving him to have your health and peace of mind. Must she wait till she contact the virus?

if he's fucking outside stop sleeping with him without protection and let him know your reasons, make him understand if he wants to die quick, you don't want to...

DejiJ:


Sorry about your loss. But it is difficult to keep tabs an a philanderer ............. A man or woman that would do out of wedlock or relationship, would still do.
Even handing them a condom, does not guarantee anything (some would have condom, but love to chop RAW).........

True

WomanOfRace:
My aunty who got married to her husband in her late 30s died 4years later after her marriage. She gave birth to two beautiful kids now at home with their granny though those kids are healthy.

She was a very strong christian and lovely woman. She found out her husband was with AIDS only when he had infected her and down sick with it. She died few months later after the husband died.

Women are going through a lot as some knew their man flirts but couldn't protect themselves from contacting Sexual Transmitted Diseases. At times, giving the man pack of condom is out of book as they prefer it skin to skin with their numerous girls.

How can a woman protect herself from a Casanova husband? is it possible?

A woman can only protect her self by
1. Stopping sexual relationship wit d man which is difficult if dey r under same roof
2. Leaving d man
3.test regularly or speak wit a dr. Der r drugs given to discordant couples to protect d hiv free patner....but how many pple r aware?
4. If d man is sincere he should av opened up or at least use condom

madjune:
The best way is leave the man and go live in a cucumber shop.

your cucumber no dey finish?

DonaTee:



A woman can only protect her self by
1. Stopping sexual relationship wit d man which is difficult if dey r under same roof
2. Leaving d man
3.test regularly or speak wit a dr. Der r drugs given to discordant couples to protect d hiv free patner....but how many pple r aware?

Few because i getto know today.

PwincessRukky:
Now this post is gonna make me cry...sometimes I feel a cheating spouse should face a gruesome punishment. There's a recent case here. We just lost a family friend to AIDS. This man has infected his wife and now she is left to survive on retrovirals...#somemenarejustevil

unlucky but lucky her.

trustyshoess:
My uncle and his wife suffered the same fate last year. Now my cousins are orphans all because their dad couldn't be faithful. SO sad

There are so many cases like this. It is just too much to add to this life baggage.

Laredojohn:
This is something that is common, preventing isn't quite easy...especially when the man has been used to that life style before marriage, women asides making issues with a cheating husband.. they are to also tell them that they should always use protection so they do not bring what's not right home...it's better the point of using protection should be stressed upon..because when the issues come both party will suffer it...

Such a man will collect the condom but flush it down the toilet without making use of it. Those type are die hard believe such can happen to them. They are used to flesh to flesh.

Girlbestfriend:
I get where u coming from, *thinking* about it alone can lead to her early grave, I believe she let herself die.........she actually didn't die of HIV, but the trauma and the idea of stigmatization....

She died of the trauma of stigmatisation? Are you for real?

reachbenny:
soooooooo sorry about your loss!
.....experience has never been the best teacher.
we can't live to make all the mistakes in the world. I pray we, (men) choose to be responsible & remain faithful to our wives.
may God help us to accept the responsibility for our actions.
I pledge to be faithful to my marital vows today, tomorrow & beyond.
.....so be it.

Amen.

I don't believe this story abeg.




Hiv still kill people? For where? And it killed the man and your sis? That's a huge lie. Even if her hubby didn't get treatment did your sister also reject treatment?

I don't see where the op mentioned the husband got HIV from cheating... Last time I checked its not only via sex one contacts HIV.

Laveda:
Now this is just sad.. So the woman died due to her husband's cheating ways.

I don't know if there's anyway she can protect herself, the best is running monthly Hiv test once you notice your husband is cheating..

Lol... What if he gets infected within the month? Remember it cannot be detected till 3months.

schumastic:


exactly my point, some people think breaking out from a marriage is easy especially when kids are involve and you love your partner deeply..is not that easy, plus family pressure calling for one to stay and assuring them that all will be fine.

You understand me very well, thanks.

If the husband is a cassino VA then the wife should expect him to bring home diseases from time to time and it wouldn't be long before HIV shows up. Your aunt had to know the dangers involved and I'm almost sure it is not the first time he infected her.

WomanOfRace:


Honestly, to imagine HIV scares me talk of having a consideration how to handle a possible one. It's like waiting for a pullet. I think the best is to quit the marriage if he won't use condom. Him telling me he changed will be a story for the gods because you can never trust a Casanova. I can only do it in the next available room in a hospital after the confirmation of negative result. How would i know if he makes use of condom with them?

Will u always insist on wearing a condom all the time from your husband? What about when it's time to have kids. Will u insist he wears a condom then?
U can never be too careful my dear unless u are not ready for marriage.

Laveda:
Now this is just sad.. So the woman died due to her husband's cheating ways.

I don't know if there's anyway she can protect herself, the best is running monthly Hiv test once you notice your husband is cheating..

& wait till she's finally infected Doesn't seem logical to me!

ngmgeek:
So sad. The truth is that AIDs is real but so many people think it is not. Women are the most disadvantaged because recommending condom to their wayward lovers are met with fierce resistance.

Yeah, those wayward men who contracted the virus from some innocent angels ! Hmmmm chauvinism everywhere.

WomanOfRace:



hahahaha, you are right to an extent but it is still quit twisted! I wonder why men wouldn't stick to one woman they are sure of.

The thing is, if one is smart enough, one will eventually catch a cheating partner, often times, we ignore the signs maybe because we are blinded by love, when my gf started cheating, it didn't take long for me to know, we eventually broke up, I wont allow one girl ruin my life for me.

IAmOged:

The best way is to never even get involve in..the first place let alone getting married.

Dont marry a cheater, he/she will always cheat.....a case of the mistery scorpion and the frog story......


liken to this case; a fire doesnt start without a smoke....


I guess your late sis is a Drama Queen who finds joy in marrying a Cassanova/Bad guy/unserious Apha Male who could thrill and fulfill her pain-pleasure fantasy



She suppose don fix these in the hard way before its get out of hand like dis.....


drastic action needs to be taken before being drown........


RIP to the Dead....

You sound like someone with the EMOTIONAL ATTENTION DEFICIT DISORDER. For crying out loud must you just sound this way, show some empathy at least. Learn to listen to understand, and not always listen to reply...that way you will start to care more...Peace

you people going into marriages really has series of mammoth crosses to bear, ranging from abuse,finance,kids,health, understanding, longsuffering, forbearance,patience,humility,meekness,maturity,to cheating,deadly attributes, marriage is just a failed entity!!!!! with all the problems one encounters, you start worrying about your spouse's sexual life,if he/she is cheating,the emotional trauma, health ish, crap!!! a case of if you don't you damned, if you do you damned!!!! ladies ought to know better this days, going through news articles and learning from stories like this each day should further enlighten ladies as to who/what they r getting themselves into at the long run,but its a no, they never think ahead, all they think about is the present happenings, hence ignoring all basic signs of potential disaster in future, as it stands men who don't bear half the brunt in marriages are scared of it already,while the ladies who bears 99%of the misfortunes are so eager to walk down the aisle with any man who best fits their present wants/needs, truth is, sad stories like this will always resurface, in as much as some humans are too lazy to make use of their brain cells,but would rather pay you to think for them....rip to the dead, its time ladies start making use of their intellect and pray to whichever deity they worship for guidance before stepping into any relationship, its a crazy world out there.

iwadobo:


Yeah, those wayward men who contracted the virus from some innocent angels ! Hmmmm chauvinism everywhere.

And those innocent angels manufactured the virus, right? Thnk about that too!

iwadobo:


Yeah, those wayward men who contracted the virus from some innocent angels ! Hmmmm chauvinism everywhere.

And those innocent angels manufactured the virus, right? Think about that too!

trustyshoess:

She died of the trauma of stigmatisation? Are you for real?

nope, I am for fake

What that man did is evil.

But it comes from being in an environment where people are told all manner of lies about healthcare and sex.

We must teach our children about the importance of safe sexual relations so that they stop making the same mistakes as their forebears. Anyone who suggests that it is wrong to teach wrong people about safe sexual relations is consigning another generation to an epidemic of needless, premature death.