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Re: Ladies Know Your Limit by teeghurl(f): 10:25pm On Nov 14, 2016 |
Smh, that's life for you. The same people you are bursting your as.s for will be the first to rub it in your face. In this life, you owe nobody anything. Help when u can but dnt break your back to satisfy anyone 5 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Ladies Know Your Limit by LorDBolton(m): 10:31pm On Nov 14, 2016 |
drbolade: Well I've really learnt sha... You're the first doc i've ever met who's sounded unintelligent. She shouldn't have played God? Wow! Guess what? Your kids will show u pepper! No be curse, ingratitude dey ur blood thus whatever you're doing for ur kids today when you're old they'll tell u point blank that even if u didn't send them to school, feed them, protect them they'll still make it in life. As for acidosis no prizes for guessing you're not exposed @ all, read up on the term adaption. U can even ask google the relationship between adaptation n survival. 5 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Ladies Know Your Limit by LorDBolton(m): 10:36pm On Nov 14, 2016 |
teeghurl: Azzin i'm stupified by this page I had to save it. I expect it from strangers or friends but family? The mother failed them to be honest, I keep looking at the moniker to understand how a supposed "doctor" who should be soo knowledgeable post such. Isn't he / she also trying to play GOD by healing sick patients who could die if he/she messes up? I smh 4 the Op 6 Likes |
Re: Ladies Know Your Limit by MrImole: 10:40pm On Nov 14, 2016 |
I may be able to help your sister concerning the HIV treatment, just pray it works for her. NB: I'm not a fraudster, I'm only touched by your story, I'M NOT ASKING YOU FOR ANY MONEY O. I may even help you to beg my source to give you "testing" (I pray he agrees) Cc: Drbolade |
Re: Ladies Know Your Limit by mayorkyzo: 10:41pm On Nov 14, 2016 |
This op is an ungrateful bastard....how would your sister feel if she sees this....thunder go fire u... 4 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Ladies Know Your Limit by Nobody: 10:44pm On Nov 14, 2016 |
As in.... I don't usually comment but.. |
Re: Ladies Know Your Limit by Nobody: 10:53pm On Nov 14, 2016 |
As in.... I don't usually comment but... Can you imagine the animal!! coming around forming adviser... making mockery of her sister in disguise. It shall never be well with you. Camel!!! 3 Likes |
Re: Ladies Know Your Limit by Emassive(m): 10:54pm On Nov 14, 2016 |
My sister does this and I always try to tell her she needs to focus on her own home before its too late. She supports so many home including all the family grand children. She even supports me whenever Salaries can't solve backlogged upkeeps. She is a darling but I try to hide it from her so she can face realities of Life yet she does more the next minute. GOD Bless all our Family's Joseph njiasi30: 1 Like |
Re: Ladies Know Your Limit by Phi001(m): 10:55pm On Nov 14, 2016 |
Nairalanders are their negative view of things. Ignoring the underlying and striking at the superficial... It's cute if you want to help your family but when you go about it the wrong way, you suffer the consequences alone. Just look at Cookie! 4 Likes |
Re: Ladies Know Your Limit by aiir2303(m): 10:56pm On Nov 14, 2016 |
Acidosis:This here is total rubbish. What were u saying again. You could not even contribute meaningfully, no wonder it's devoid of likes
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Re: Ladies Know Your Limit by aiir2303(m): 11:00pm On Nov 14, 2016 |
Acidosis:This here is total rubbish. What were u saying again. You could not even contribute meaningfully, no wonder it's devoid of likes .what's s the meaning of "she did all she did because she enjoyed the experience " look at your self.... 1 Like |
Re: Ladies Know Your Limit by OsuGanja(m): 11:06pm On Nov 14, 2016 |
Re: Ladies Know Your Limit by Aston02(m): 11:09pm On Nov 14, 2016 |
I still can't understand why most nairalanders are quick in judging the op. From my own perspective, the op is just trying to caution us to know our boundaries when trying to help others...it shouldn't be the detriment of your own life. Wait...do you think the op is happy with the current state of her sister? From my own view, she's not. In fact, she feels sorry for her and somewhat angry at her for taking her own life for granted in other to save others. Try and read in between the lines... 7 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Ladies Know Your Limit by aiir2303(m): 11:14pm On Nov 14, 2016 |
Yieldings:I agree with your point totally. One might not know why she started but certainly one knows what actually "kept her going" using your words 3 Likes |
Re: Ladies Know Your Limit by TonyeBarcanista(m): 11:23pm On Nov 14, 2016 |
Some people are just getting emotional about this, which I think is unnecessary. @OP: Firstly, your mother and the rest of the family FAILED your sister. Your sister also failed herself. Poverty may be very tough, but there is always the proper way to mitigate through such situation. Your sister followed the illegitimate and immoral route thinking she could achieve fun and help your family escape poverty but only ended up messing up her life. Your mother and matured siblings (as then was) could not denounce her immoral act and reject proceeds of her action, but enjoyed the goodies that came with prostitution thinking it is well. Every matured member of your family (as then was) including your mother and your HIV sister destroyed the Lady. It is a shame but a scar is already in the family. This is a case of a man taking to vices to feed his family. he will end up losing his own life and tarnish the family image. I trust my family, not even under extreme poverty will my parents accept monies that came from illegitimate source. Anyway, the deed has been done. Unfortunately, your sister took a decision and will face the consequence. Your family failed her then, but you can remedy it by showing her maximum love. That's a cross your family will have to bear @NLders: The Moral lesson is NEVER because of any circumstance take to immorality. 6 Likes |
Re: Ladies Know Your Limit by Missmossy(f): 11:34pm On Nov 14, 2016 |
Eww what exactly is your point?? She obviously doesn't need your pity. What she needs now is your unwavering love and care. She must have had series of regrets by now. No use crying over spilt milk. Was been a Street walker the only way to fend for you guys?? Anyways the die is cast already. No need judging her because she helped each of you to get where you are. She is still blood. 2 Likes |
Re: Ladies Know Your Limit by Cchuks27(m): 11:36pm On Nov 14, 2016 |
Ungrateful idioot ... You're such a wastee. I pray I never come across such a selfish person as you dumboo 1 Like |
Re: Ladies Know Your Limit by fergieboy: 11:37pm On Nov 14, 2016 |
Acidosis: 2 Likes
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Re: Ladies Know Your Limit by crazymommy(f): 11:38pm On Nov 14, 2016 |
TonyeBarcanista:now the fact is the lady might still decide to go through the moral way and become a bricklayer and she breaks her spinal cord while doing the job??so will that stop the op from creating a thread like this??will that stop the ungrateful attitude of the op??pls when we want to make comments we should think from all sides and not just from one lane.... 1 Like |
Re: Ladies Know Your Limit by Nobody: 11:41pm On Nov 14, 2016 |
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Re: Ladies Know Your Limit by Acidosis(m): 11:44pm On Nov 14, 2016 |
TonyeBarcanista: Trust me, not everyone will understand your points. I think the word HIV got them too emotional, thereby distorting a chance for common sense utilization. 3 Likes |
Re: Ladies Know Your Limit by TonyeBarcanista(m): 11:45pm On Nov 14, 2016 |
Caracta:Excuse me, please how is the story gender based? |
Re: Ladies Know Your Limit by Mobsync(m): 11:52pm On Nov 14, 2016 |
drbolade: Sorry to say, but if I understand what you are saying, your sister turned into prostitution to keep the family going and you have this to say. You are definitely a bad person. 1 Like |
Re: Ladies Know Your Limit by TonyeBarcanista(m): 11:58pm On Nov 14, 2016 |
crazymommy:Ma'am the OP's family were not the first to experience extreme poverty, and can NEVER be the last. Nothing justifies immortality and nothing can legitimise it. It would have been better to hustle through the thick and thin for a better future than through an ignoble path that only offers temporal succour. It is unfortunate that the OP's family watched and merried as their sister was destroying herself. They should forget the past and work towards giving the HIV woman a better life, care and support. As for the reason behind the thread, it could be that OP is trying to warn us using her family experience. I see no wrong though I think it was unnecessary. 3 Likes |
Re: Ladies Know Your Limit by kullozone(m): 11:59pm On Nov 14, 2016 |
Aston02: I Tire oh! Don't even bother explaining anything, they won't take it lightly. I regret opening this thread, even some i thought smart were the ones who dropped the worst comments. None of them saw the the point of this thread. 3 Likes |
Re: Ladies Know Your Limit by TonyeBarcanista(m): 12:00am On Nov 15, 2016 |
Acidosis:Exactly! People can be emotional. I think some of them are concluding that OP was an ingrate that is trying to scorn her sister. But from my understanding, I think OP was only trying to pass a moral message. BTW The family of the OP and the lady bleeped up big time 4 Likes |
Re: Ladies Know Your Limit by crazymommy(f): 12:07am On Nov 15, 2016 |
TonyeBarcanista:no one is justifying immorality here,what am saying is if the op and his family during that time where busy enjoying the money they got from the sister and never warned her or reject the money then the OP does not have any right to judge her or create a thread like this because it is hypocrisy ...and by the way she could have gotten the hiv through any other means..many people that are not even doing prostitution still get infected with hiv...there are so so many ways anyone can become infected...sex is not the only way...and yes i still maintain my stance that the op is ungrateful and a big hypocrite...: |
Re: Ladies Know Your Limit by mrjojo: 12:07am On Nov 15, 2016 |
I know some one that shares similarities with this story. They lost their parent when they were young and she the first daughter out of 6 children single handedly took care of ALL of me, education and all, at her own detriment. Well she is 72yrs nw with no kid or husband of her own. She was just too busy working to save her family. Till now she is still assisting children of her siblings with her pension. I think the lesson is don't be so hell bent on helping at your own detriment simple. 4 Likes |
Re: Ladies Know Your Limit by Acidosis(m): 12:09am On Nov 15, 2016 |
Aston02: They can't read in between the lines unless they take an anti-emotional pill. It's shameful, and the level of insults melted on her is absolutely unnecessary. I personal feel she used some words wrongly (e.g. "god", however I perfectly understand the underlying meaning as not everyone has good composition skill). It takes a non-emotional mind to capture the very essence of this thread. No amount of care, pity or sorrow can be as much as what she (OP) feels right now. Being a Doc is even an advantage and I'm sure she must have done a lot to help her sister (she actually talked about this on page 2/3). Life is all about give and take. Seeing the level of curses on this thread, it would be very difficult for her to come here again to make her opinions known. A poster even asked her to delete this thread as he found it distasteful and an insult on her sister. One can only imagine the hypocritical mentality of these folks - same folks that come here daily to discuss their cheating wives, husband's weaknesses, mother-in-law troubles, etc. 4 Likes |
Re: Ladies Know Your Limit by Nobody: 12:13am On Nov 15, 2016 |
TonyeBarcanista: [b][/b] LADIES. Know your limit. Lol... So she became a prostitute to help and the thanks she gets is this? And your'e saying if she didn't you all will have still turned out okay... Wow... So your children will come and tell you that even if you didn't provide food shelter clothing and education, they would have still turned out okay... Crap. Serious crap. I get the Op is just trying to advice and all... But nah. You don't use someone who worked hard for all of you as an example. Biko. The girl tried. If not for her, they would have been nowhere. Nowhere. But... This life sha.. You Bleep for them... They will say even if you didn't do it we would have been okay. You don't Bleep for them... Chai!!! Lazy idiot! See how all her younger ones are suffering. Even if you walk in water they will say Yu no sabi swim... Abg... 1 Like |
Re: Ladies Know Your Limit by Acidosis(m): 12:21am On Nov 15, 2016 |
TonyeBarcanista: OP was simply trying to pass a moral message. She lost her dad at age 7, how could she have gotten the courage at age 7 to advise her sister? Somewhere on this thread, she said she sponsored herself through school, maybe Uni (of course, her sister must have helped in her own way). For her to have come out openly on Nl, I want to believe she never really loved the nature of her sister's job. Perhaps, she never had that courage to talk to her sister. It could also be that she never knew the nature of her sister's job until... There's more to this issue than mere emotions. 3 Likes |
Re: Ladies Know Your Limit by TonyeBarcanista(m): 12:22am On Nov 15, 2016 |
crazymommy:If you read my first post on thread(that you first quoted), I spelt it clearly that the OP's family INCLUDING her mother and the HIV Sister failed the Lady. Their acceptance of her vice and appreciation of the proceed of her immorality was a direct endorsement of her action. Secondly, we need no prophet to know that she was into PROSTITUTION, and she contracted her HIV from it. Else, how could a young lady without legitimate income make such sweet money? (as then was). As for OP, while I blame her family including all matured siblings (as then was), I may not fault her. This is because, she was a kid during that period and in African families the kids have no say. She did mention that she worked to sponsor her schooling. Calling her hypocrite is absolutely inappropriate but it is your right to form your own opinion. 3 Likes |
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