chigoizie7:



Yeah, I understand ur plight.

It is not easy for him too.

I know u must have had his back, yes, but u don't throw it to his face too.

I am glad u have learnt ur lessons.



It will be so hard for him to look pass what has happened.

Either way, just make sure he forgives u for fuuucking up big time.


There is this thing with men and EGO, they don't joke with it, and once it is compromised? They walk and mostly, doesn't look back.







I will still suggest u move on.


I am only glad that u learnt the hard way, probably, ur next bf is gonna benefit from this lessons learnt.

One love dear.

OK.... Thank you

wer111:


I have always admit it's my fault and I'm willing to change, I learn my lesson, but you are saying things I didn't say, I didn't say is his reponsability to take care of me I just said is nice when your guy can surprise you once in a while, I didn't say I was with him because of what he can give me....if that's the case I will not be dating him, I don't regret what I did, I regret my behavior, you where the one judging me and asking if I can take of myself, and I told you I can , that's why I borrowed him the money.... I know I have flaws but I have good things too, I can change in fact I changed so please don't get offended and try to make me feel bad when you are saying things I didn't say, and no woman can help out a stingy man... Like you... My guy has done things for me non materialistic that means alot. And if he breaks up no problem I'm not gonna die there's a reason for everything God knows best, you wish a woman could fight for you like this

Babe, ayam not judging you my dear...ayam responding to you based on how you respond to me.

Ayam also not saying things you didn't say but what were inferred from your statement.

You didn't say it is his responsibility but you made it look like it is responsibility when you made comment about him not making it and you spending money to take care of yourself....

I am not even offended dear, but if I should be mad, it is because of the NAG...I did also say that we all NAG but have our various degrees.

Well, am happy that you have learnt your lesson but most importantly it is not about you learning not to NAG but learning to have an OPEN and FREE MIND! You must have expected a whole lot from him and from life but expectations...it is just what it is....expectations. Somethings you can control and some, you can't control. Just keep an open and free mind, free heart and a free soul, knowing that not all our wishes come through..

So I wish you success in finding another guy (like moi ), thats if in case you don't make up with him.

I think he may accept you (that's if he has no mosquitoes in his heart oh)...just keep the bad side and illuminate the good side...

As for the loan, well I hope he pays you! At least you can comman take me out

kaboninc:


Babe, ayam not judging you my dear...ayam responding to you based on how you respond to me.

Ayam also not saying things you didn't say but what were inferred from your statement.

You didn't say it is his responsibility but you made it look like it is responsibility when you made comment about him not making it and you spending money to take care of yourself....

I am not even offended dear, but if I should be mad, it is because of the NAG...I did also say that we all NAG but have our various degrees.

Well, am happy that you have learnt your lesson but most importantly it is not about you learning not to NAG but learning to have an OPEN and FREE MIND! You must have expected a whole lot from him and from life but expectations...it is just what it is....expectations. Somethings you can control and some, you can't control. Just keep an open and free mind, free heart and a free soul, knowing that not all our wishes come through..

So I wish you success in finding another guy (like moi ), thats if in case you don't make up with him.

I think he may accept you (that's if he has no mosquitoes in his heart oh)...just keep the bad side and illuminate the good side...

As for the loan, well I hope he pays you! At least you can comman take me out

Thank you... I know I'm responsible of everything.... But it wasn't easy... If he doesn't want me FINE! I'll try my best if not my money back will help to go through this...
Like you? So you are not scared!!! Lol

wer111:


Thank you... I know I'm responsible of everything.... But it wasn't easy... If he doesn't want me FINE! I'll try my best if not my money back will help to go through this...
Like you? So you are not scared!!! Lol

Loool...your money or the relationship? Please clear me oh...


Me am not scared oh...just that I fear for my reaction oh...are you not scared that I might one day use a needle and thread on you........

kaboninc:



Loool...your money or the relationship? Please clear me oh...


Me am not scared oh...just that I fear for my reaction oh...are you not scared that I might one day use a needle and thread on you........

I need a patient man that's why I love him... Let's see how it goes... Thanks a lot

wer111:


I need a patient man that's why I love him... Let's see how it goes... Thanks a lot

I wish you the very best bae....

[quote author=kaboninc post=51509642]

I wish you the very best bae.... [/quote
Don't worry if he doesn't come back... We talk....

wer111:
Don't worry if he doesn't come back... We talk....

Hehehehe.....I can't wait....

wer111:

I complain about the money...and silly things....mostly the money, but he knows I love him, this is the first time he is so serious....like he is not treating me like a girlfriend....but I'm not complaining I'm not nagging... He updates me about the money sha...

I see nothing to make him quite a relationship of 3 yrs from what you just wrote,maybe he's trying to make you stop nagging,calm yourself and watch him for a while.don't just let go yet till final whistle.

wer111:

Well, I love him with all my heart and I had always had his back, im willing to change for good and fight for him, no one is perfect and I learned my lesson. Thank you

I strongly recommend you read On Becoming by Toke Mankinwa.....


Love I not something to fight for....again a person who doesn't respect your humanity is not worthy of you



Marraige is for people with healthy self esteem else it can be hell

optimusmind:


collect your money first then stp nagging and complaining

Wa gbayi

allobright17:
I see nothing to make him quite a relationship of 3 yrs from what you just wrote,maybe he's trying to make you stop nagging,calm yourself and watch him for a while.don't just let go yet till final whistle.

Thank you

49cents:



I strongly recommend you read On Becoming by Toke Mankinwa.....


Love I not something to fight for....again a person who doesn't respect your humanity is not worthy of you



Marraige is for people with healthy self esteem else it can be hell

Are you joking? Im not married ooo, I don't wanna read that book.... The book sounds interesting....but no thou....but no I'm fine...i cant marry a guy I know he cheats...mistake number 1

Joe171:
It's a good thing you already know your fault, work on your flaws. You perhaps lack understanding and patience that's why you've been nagging about the money. You say you love him, show him!. If he's what you've said him to be then he will consider it.








Don't take any advice, just live your life.

Thank you so much.... I hope he consider it too, I'm trying small small....thanks

wer111:


Are you joking? Im not married ooo, I don't wanna read that book.... The book sounds interesting....but no thou....but no I'm fine...i cant marry a guy I know he cheats...mistake number 1

Please don't read any book by Toke Makinwa. Her advises on vlog clearly depicts someone with personality issues which reflected in her book. For your own good take relationship advice from people who have been able to sustain their relationship and are truthful to you about their shortcomings not people who are looking for more people to join them in failure

wer111:


Thank you

Welcome I'll keep in touch.

Raine80:
Stop reminding him of the time he had to swallow his pride and ask for help. I am sure it was not just nagging you might have said things that might have made him question your suitability as a life long partner.

Gbam!!!
this, I have experienced.

folasayolyn:




Collect my money the dude can waka pass. of all the problems wey I get no fit add anoda man own join

You too dey give person advice. Mtcheew.

wer111:


Exactly, but the things unsay when I'm angry.... I don't mean them... By the end of the day I'll still help him, he knows... I bleeped up, I was impatient, if 3 years is been impatient, I know I hurt him with my words some times.. .and knowing is tired don't want me again, it exactly what you are saying

Hearing how he is not worth much even if you don't mean it , will affect his self esteem and his self worth. Even if he owes you money can he really pay you back at this moment in time? It's not about owing you money it's the principal and how you have gone about handling the situation. It's him you have to convince that you are worthy of another chance , not me . I am just an observer.

pryme:


Gbam!!!
this, I have experienced.

And what happened?

Raine80:

Hearing how he is not worth much even if you don't mean it , will affect his self esteem and his self worth. Even if he owes you money can he really pay you back at this moment in time? It's not about owing you money it's the principal and how you have gone about handling the situation. It's him you have to convince that you are worthy of another chance , not me . I am just an observer.

How can I convince him...?

wer111:

How can I convince him...?

Admit that you have been unkind to him , and you said things that hurt his feelings do not be defensive , no point saying sorry then tell him he owed you money that's why you acted the way you did. Apologise sincerely from the heart tell him you will give him time to think about what he said and if you are given a chance you will work on your issues ( and you have to work on your issues by the way no point saying it if you don't mean it.) And finally stop calling him all the time to beg just say the above once and let him think about it.
Wish you well.

Raine80:

Admit that you have been unkind to him , and you said things that hurt his feelings do not be defensive , no point saying sorry then tell him he owed you money that's why you acted the way you did. Apologise sincerely from the heart tell him you will give him time to think about what he said and if you are given a chance you will work on your issues ( and you have to work on your issues by the way no point saying it if you don't mean it.) And finally stop calling him all the time to beg just say the above once and let him think about it.
Wish you well.

Thank you so much

olalat:
You too dey give person advice. Mtcheew.

shoo if you like leave you money yeye mouth

wer111:

Thank you so much

You are welcome

wer111:

And what happened?

I broke up with her. she later called my sis, crying telling her to beg me on her behalf, she admitted her mistakes. my sis asked me to give her another chance.

then I called her, she asked for another chance that she wanted the relationship back. she asked me what I wanted, that she is willing to change.

Note: I would have broken up with her a long time ago, I was only considering the fact that she was there for me in time of difficulty, I endured a lot of things, there are thing she does and says that makes me feel she is taking me for granted. but there is a limit to what we can take, and that day she passed the limit.

since I loved her I gave her another chance.
but her old self still lingers.

that's why I doubt if you can really really change, cos when he gets to call you back, you might slowly revert to your old self.

wer111:

Well, I love him with all my heart and I had always had his back, im willing to change for good and fight for him, no one is perfect and I learned my lesson. Thank you

believe me you'll try but you won't change.... it's better said than done... I suggest you take time to work on itself before going back in a relationship if not its still gonna end up d same. had a similar experience with the poster above me, buh I didn't give her another chance, can't continue that cycle of hurting me and apologizing.

I have change ....im serious I'm tired of being like this.... It brings me problems all the time.... Not only in my relationship in life in general...i want to be happy and stop making myself angry and others angry with that stupid attitude, doesn't lead me to anywhere and doesn't solve anything

pryme:


I broke up with her. she later called my sis, crying telling her to beg me on her behalf, she admitted her mistakes. my sis asked me to give her another chance.

then I called her, she asked for another chance that she wanted the relationship back. she asked me what I wanted, that she is willing to change.

Note: I would have broken up with her a long time ago, I was only considering the fact that she was there for me in time of difficulty, I endured a lot of things, there are thing she does and says that makes me feel she is taking me for granted. but there is a limit to what we can take, and that day she passed the limit.

since I loved her I gave her another chance.
but her old self still lingers.

that's why I doubt if you can really really change, cos when he gets to call you back, you might slowly revert to your old self.

I will not naw! I feel it, I'm done with that attitude....

Tiffbuxas:
believe me you'll try but you won't change.... it's better said than done... I suggest you take time to work on itself before going back in a relationship if not its still gonna end up d same. had a similar experience with the poster above me, buh I didn't give her another chance, can't continue that cycle of hurting me and apologizing.

Why can't I change? I have change.... After what is happening to me.... I love him, he has changed me... Just that maybe is too late

Medunah:
Mugu, you better collect your money, love Oshi.......he his looking for ways not to pay back by breaking up....make sure u collect your money if it's not small amount and forget about love.

Infact, people dating themselves shouldn't borrow each other money, give what you can give and forget about it .........

I guess u don't know why she lend him the money....
She said his dad was very ill...n was in d hospital..that was why he borrowed money frm her....And he later ended up loosing his dad 2 d cold hands of death...yet she was busy b!tchin' around abt d money she lended him...
Let's stop being biased at atimes n Call a spade a spade...if na d other way round nw...u girls go de say na d guy responsibility 2 tk care of her gf...so why can't she tk care of her man if she really loves him n care abt him....na wow 4 una ooo

is the op not male....why is he talking about boyfriend


ayam not understanding