Orabamxy52:
Hello Family!

I dated a man (let's call him Mr X) last year before he went to Australia on a course. He is 34 while I'm 30, working here in Nigeria.

The relationship went sour few months after he Went overseas when I eventually opened up about my failed marriage to another man 6 years ago while I was still schooling in Netherlands. That's a part of me I never tell anyone who didn't know me back then because I don't want to relieve the pain, depression and trauma I went through.

Anyways, Mr X ended our relationship because he was shocked I kept such an info from him for that long a time. He told a friend he fears I'll hide some more info if we get married. Even after I barred it all out, he believed he couldn't trust me. The broken relationship left me depressed yet again as my worst fear came to fruition. I cried and wished I'd done differently but then, it was all over. So yeah, I had to move on and I've been faring quite well.
Sometime this year, Mr X contacted me when he came home on vacation and we agreed to meet. According to him, it was just a-keeping-in-touch meeting.

Well, he went back overseas and we've kept in touch occasionally. Chit chat like old friends with no mushy emotions springing up. Couple of times, it seems we both quash our feelings on purpose.

For some months now, I've been thinking and toying with the idea of asking him if we can come back together. I don't see him bringing it up maybe cause of his manly ego or pride Or he's not sure I want him back or infact, he's just being nice to me and want us to remain just friends... Truth is I still like him a lot and I think he does too (I hope I don't sound childish here.

Dear women, has anyone here ever asked their ex for a come back? Did it work? How far did the second chance rlshp go? Is it worth it?

Dear men, if your ex with a similar experience like mine asked for a come back, will you take her back? Will you still respect her? Do you think there's a chance Mr X could want me back but doesn't want to be the one to voice it out?

. I also don't want to appear desperate or clingy. I basically want to know my chances and not loose my self worth/respect in the process. Maybe his response will bring some closure to my troubled soul and give me the courage to move on without looking back.

somadinho10:
You came to the wrong place

Onijagidijagan:
Ladies will never forget their ex especially if they find it hard to get somone better than their ex.

Your bf has moved on, if u asked him, he wilk turn you down.

somadinho10:
You came to the wrong place

Orabamxy52:


1) Dated for about 11 months.
2) The fact that I hadn't gone into details about exactly what had happened that upset him

Thanks for your feedback

sometime this year, Mr X contacted me when he came home on vacation and we agreed to meet. According to him, it was just a-keeping-in-touch meeting.
Well, he went back overseas and we've kept in touch occasionally. Chit chat like old friends with no mushy emotions springing up. Couple of times, it seems we both quash our feelings on purpose.

I can bet my December salary that you guys got down

Sweetheart kill that liking a lot ASAP, let me give a prediction with percent of how he's gonna react if you told him.

1)His gonna go with the flow(free access to the punna )
2)Reject you and keep far from you (it will hurt you more honey)
3)He might feel the same way, if he did he will ask you back, stop giving excuses for a man he is not a dunce he sure knows what he wants.
4)move on honey, there are better men out there, a man who can't handle your mistake is not worth it, this one sounds like a time waster already

Orabamxy52:


It's not about not finding a better person. I've met a number of great guys before and after Mr X. Let's just say I want to put a nail on this coffin once and for all, yeah?
Thanks anyway

1bkaye:

I mean, I don't know the details on what happened between you and your ex-husband but you opened up and allowed yourself to be quite vulnerable around this new guy and he left you at a time you probably needed his support the most, do you really want to be with someone like that?

misspicy:

I can bet my December salary that you guys got down

Sweetheart kill that liking a lot ASAP, let me give a prediction with percent of how he's gonna react if you told him.

1)His gonna go with the flow(free access to the punna )
2)Reject you and keep far from you (it will hurt you more honey)
3)He might feel the same way, if he did he will ask you back, stop giving excuses for a man he is not a dunce he sure knows what he wants.
4)move on honey, there are better men out there, a man who can't handle your mistake is not worth it, this one sounds like a time waster already

1bkaye:

I mean, I don't know the details on what happened between you and your ex-husband but you opened up and allowed yourself to be quite vulnerable around this new guy and he left you at a time you probably needed his support the most, do you really want to be with someone like that ?

Orabamxy52:


Sweetheart, this lady in question isn't 16. My life doesn't revolve around your first paragraph. you should pay in all your salary into my account.

Ha emabinu ma, I was just joking, how much be the salary sef, that's like chicken change to you


If you ask me though, I will advice you stop beating yourself about this and move on, I think it's better to be friends with someone before a relationship, that way you would be free to tell them awkward things.
And don't listen to people blaming you for not telling him for 11months,it ain't your fault too, at least you did before he put a ring on it, you needed to see what he wants from you, to me men like that can't handle the truth, and it's not only about you not telling him on time, he would have still bounced if you had told him on your first date

misspicy:

Ha emabinu ma, I was just joking, how much be the salary sef, that's like chicken change to you


If you ask me though, I will advice you stop beating yourself about this and move on, I think it's better to be friends with someone before a relationship, that way you would be free to tell them awkward things.

And don't listen to people blaming you for not telling him for 11months,it ain't your fault too, at least you did before he put a ring on it, you needed to see what he wants from you, to me men like that can't handle the truth, and it's not only about you not telling him on time, he would
have still bounced if you had told him on your first date

thorpido:
It was still better to tell him from the start.Info like a previous marriage and having had a child are not things you keep away.Anyone that asks for a relationship should know this from the beginning.

misspicy:

It's not enough for him to break up with her, worst thing that a man who likes a lady should do is make her earn your trust again, shikena!

Alot of situations like this occurred with ladies, and they stay put, as long as he meets their criteria for a life partner.
In this particular story all I see is a man who can't handle the truth of her once been married not the number of years she took to say it

misspicy:

It's not enough for him to break up with her, worst thing that a man who likes a lady should do is make her earn your trust again, shikena!

Alot of situations like this occurred with ladies, and they stay put, as long as he meets their criteria for a life partner.
In this particular story all I see is a man who can't handle the truth of her once been married not the number of years she took to say it