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"Have an open mind when searching for a partner and look for the top most quality you want and be prepared to tolerate him or her,learn to celebrate the good sides and overlook the bad sides because no one is really totally decent and that includes you."


Bro U dont overlook the bad sides...you encourage ur partner to make improvements....Overlooking one's bad side can be disastrous in the future,For instance,if ur partner has anger issues,rather than overlook it,U make efforts to encourage him or her to go tru the process of controlling his or her anger by attending an anger management class....

set your priorities right, dont marry a girl that cant differenciate her wants from her needs,and let your relationship be like a contract from the start talk to yourself and give reasons why you guys want the marriage talk about your likes and dislikes and most importantly try and build a mental connection between yourself

Nma27:
At last, sheen you are searching for a decent partner to marry huh; I have one sweet caring lady to hook you up with. Holla at me to match you guys up. P.S she's based in Abuja

am here

goingape1:
women will love this rubbish because it favor them...


ask the svpid women themself! were they not fvking every tom and diccck just to get money

and later in life those apes will be searching for decent men to marry!

life don't work like that....


your writeup sometimes (in fact most times just look childish)

lol.. u can vex for the whole universe bro.

Decency is relative. It depends on who is assessing...

No one should shortchange his/herself in the bid to get hooked. Those shortcomings you make excuses for, with thoughts that no one is perfect, would haunt after the euphoria of initial gragra wears off. Yes no one is perfect, however, make your choice with a strict scale of preference...70% is really the start for highfliers. Don't short-change yourself. There has to be that thing that grips your absolute attention otherwise, whooopsidaisiesss in a very short distance.

May God help us choose right

Rapmoney:
Toks2008, nice post you have written and I commend you for that. That's that...but to be frank with you, if you have met some type of crazy people in life, you would realize that the word 'decency' could really have a general meaning, acceptable among almost every sane and responsible human in a conservative African society like ours.

In as much as relationship thrives on accepting people's flaws and shortcomings which sum up to tolerance, I don't think it is wise to accept someone in marriage who has a trait/traits you cannot tolerate!!! We are all different and so are our desires when it comes to relationships and marriage. If Jude cannot withstand the condition of his wife-to-be not being able to communicate in English, there's no need being in a serious affair with Cynthia who happens to be someone who cannot speak or write in English properly. I bet you, he would never be happy in such marriage. Nobody should judge him because his mind is already conditioned not to accept such condition!

To ease our lives, we just need to know the characters or traits we can tolerate in others and those we cannot tolerate. If one has knowledge of these, one can make marriage or marital affair easier.

If anyone is searching for a partner who is flawless, such a person is living a life of illusions!

Best write up I read on this thread so far

goingape1:
just say you want to hook yourself up

did she tell you that she is looking for someone to hook up

how did you know she is caring and sweet? and what make you think that she (you) will he caring and sweet to the opposite sex



look at them. where were you when guys are coming ya way? now you are looking for someone to hook up


hypocritic set of naija woman.

Seems this topic just hit FP.... Can't even remember posting it. Hope that tells u I don't take NL that serious. Continue carrying NL matter for head like lacasera ok

Toks2008:
Often times we hear the single and searching use this phrase and I tend to wonder what it means to be decent?

Decency means a different thing to different people but according to the English dictionary, the word decent is an adjective used to describe an acceptable or satisfactory standard of a person which brings to mind this simple question;"Can one ever find a partner who has a total satisfactory and acceptable persona?"

The answer is a BIG NO.

You say Tony is a dude but he is too stingy,Jude is romantic but too lousy,Dele is caring but talks too much,Stephen is focused but too possessive and you just broke up with Tade because he is too arrogant.

You say Abigail seems ok but she is dirty, you like Mary but she is too dry,Mayowa would have been your ideal lady but she lacks manners and kaffy is so calm but she can't speak good English.

No matter how hard you try, you will never find a "decent" partner that meets all your standard and there will always be a reason to leave that partner of yours because every one of us have one or two indecent character which may not be too obvious at first but will usually come crawling to the surface in due time and when such nature becomes obvious,we tend to wonder where it has been hiding in that person and we usually tag it "irreconcilable differences" then we break up with that person just to be on a wide goose chase with another presumably better partner.

The bottom line is that we should stop looking for a partner that will pass the decency test and learn to take people for who they are. You may never see all you want in one person and if you think you have then be prepared for a rude shock when you eventually discover the indecent side.

Have an open mind when searching for a partner and look for the top most quality you want and be prepared to tolerate him or her,learn to celebrate the good sides and overlook the bad sides because no one is really totally decent and that includes you.

N.B:The act of physical violence against your partner transcends beyond an indecent act but a beastly one hence this write up does not encourage anyone to tolerate a partner who is violent.

Hope this makes sense.

What da phuck is wrong with Toks2008 nowadays. He seems to have received too much sense. Now i no go fit yab am as i used to. Why na toks. Why?

Theres no perfect partner but it's best to settle with your best friend someone who knows what makes you upset and strives to not press your buttons unnecessarily. I feel healthy love is supportive not boastful and not abusive verbally or physically also it's important to truly let go of those who will never love the imperfect you.

Of course we all go through tough times but really the substance of a man is how he handles his trials gracefully. Don't be ungrateful don't be wasteful don't look down on anyone cause your not the know all and end all.

Know who is worth it

In a decent partner I seek humility and a prayerful spirit

drthiery:
I wont mind d hook up... Am an Engineer based in Abuja too... Smiles

She has been hooked

sauceTDA:
Yea. No one's perfect. Only God

Does God create Imperfect?

Though nobody is perfect but you can't settle for someone who's not compatible with your ambition and passion in life. Imagine having a lazy spoilt brat as a wife who can't cook or wash her clothes let alone clean the house. Or imagine marrying an olodo who lacks basic communication skills, you guys will continually fall out in decision making because of her low level of IQ. Anyway a woman mustn't be 100% compatible. If she's willing to adjust to new lifestyle or accept correction, i may consider proposal.

One Man's Decency is another man's Indecency

Diplomaticbeing:
Yes, one can find a decent partner. This is so because attitude (persona or superfication) is not always direct reflection of attribute. The former can be learned or faked but the latter is innate.

So, one who is able to differentiate attitude from attribute can sure find a decent partner. Using standard-base of 100 percent, any partner that possesses from 70 percent upwards of the attributes one desires in a partner can lay claim of having a decent partner.

However, tell me that one cannot find a perfect partner and I will agree with you 100 percent.

Yeah. So true

[quote author=Toks2008 post=50687554]Often times we hear the single and searching use this phrase and I tend to wonder what it means to be decent?

Decency means a different thing to different people but according to the English dictionary, the word decent is an adjective used to describe an acceptable or satisfactory standard of a person which brings to mind this simple question;"Can one ever find a partner who has a total satisfactory and acceptable persona?"

The answer is a BIG NO.

You say Tony is a dude but he is too stingy,Jude is romantic but too lousy,Dele is caring but talks too much,Stephen is focused but too possessive and you just broke up with Tade because he is too arrogant.

You say Abigail seems ok but she is dirty, you like Mary but she is too dry,Mayowa would have been your ideal lady but she lacks manners and kaffy is so calm but she can't speak good English.

No matter how hard you try, you will never find a "decent" partner that meets all your standard and there will always be a reason to leave that partner of yours because every one of us have one or two indecent character which may not be too obvious at first but will usually come crawling to the surface in due time and when such nature becomes obvious,we tend to wonder where it has been hiding in that person and we usually tag it "irreconcilable differences" then we break up with that person just to be on a wide goose chase with another presumably better partner.

The bottom line is that we should stop looking for a partner that will pass the decency test and learn to take people for who they are. You may never see all you want in one person and if you think you have then be prepared for a rude shock when you eventually discover the indecent side.

Have an open mind when searching for a partner and look for the top most quality you want and be prepared to tolerate him or her,learn to celebrate the good sides and overlook the bad sides because no one is really totally decent and that includes you.

[color=#990000][i]N.B:The act of physical violence against your partner transcends beyond an indecent act but a beastly one hence this write up does not encourage anyone to tolerate a partner who is viol


One Man's Decency is another man's Indecency

Is "Decent" the right word to use? Using DECENT is misleading.

I would say to find a decent partner depends on the person searching.Too often people do not spend enough time and energy to 'get into their partner's head'.... find out their thought patterns... their real view of life... how they view/treat others... pay attention to little signs... follow up on little yellow flags... these are the things one should be doing to determine if the person reaches your standard of decency.... if you search you can find.BTW.. you can grab a copy of my ebook.... 10 Steps to Grabbing A Grade Marriage Material.... guaranteed or full refund.

I don't agree with your points

I think you are trying to imply a decent partner must be perfect... That's a flawed logic


You can indeed find a decent partner but not a perfect one.. Being decent dsnt necessarily mean you are perfect.... Decency and perfection means two different things Mr

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Toks2008:
Often times we hear the single and searching use this phrase and I tend to wonder what it means to be decent?

Decency means a different thing to different people but according to the English dictionary, the word decent is an adjective used to describe an acceptable or satisfactory standard of a person which brings to mind this simple question;"Can one ever find a partner who has a total satisfactory and acceptable persona?"

The answer is a BIG NO.

You say Tony is a dude but he is too stingy,Jude is romantic but too lousy,Dele is caring but talks too much,Stephen is focused but too possessive and you just broke up with Tade because he is too arrogant.

You say Abigail seems ok but she is dirty, you like Mary but she is too dry,Mayowa would have been your ideal lady but she lacks manners and kaffy is so calm but she can't speak good English.

No matter how hard you try, you will never find a "decent" partner that meets all your standard and there will always be a reason to leave that partner of yours because every one of us have one or two indecent character which may not be too obvious at first but will usually come crawling to the surface in due time and when such nature becomes obvious,we tend to wonder where it has been hiding in that person and we usually tag it "irreconcilable differences" then we break up with that person just to be on a wide goose chase with another presumably better partner.

The bottom line is that we should stop looking for a partner that will pass the decency test and learn to take people for who they are. You may never see all you want in one person and if you think you have then be prepared for a rude shock when you eventually discover the indecent side.

Have an open mind when searching for a partner and look for the top most quality you want and be prepared to tolerate him or her,learn to celebrate the good sides and overlook the bad sides because no one is really totally decent and that includes you.

N.B:The act of physical violence against your partner transcends beyond an indecent act but a beastly one hence this write up does not encourage anyone to tolerate a partner who is violent.

Hope this makes sense.

Yes,of course, it does?

kindly edit; either "transcends indecent...." or "goes beyond indecent......"
thanks

No one is perfect,only God.Even machine is not 100% efficiency.Thou looking for that God fearing one for me....cos thats d basic.

girl4rmspace:
I don't agree with your points

I think you are trying to imply a decent partner must be perfect... That's a flawed logic


You can indeed find a decent partner but not a perfect one.. Being decent dsnt necessarily mean you are perfect.... Decency and perfection means two different things Mr

An imperfectly perfect person u mean to say. Dats exactly the best!

Benita27:
You said it all.
Once you have it at the back of your mind that "no one is perfect", you're likely to tolerate for Love...and what matters is loving your spouse for who she/he is.

Hmmmm. I hope you are not looking for a reason to keep tolerating an unworthy guy? Just saying

[color=dodgerblue]tooks i thought u was wife hunting [/color]

Nice one, you just change my mind for good. Pray to see the Lucky lady before the fun out..

Nice one, you just change my mind for good. Pray to see the Lucky lady before the run out..

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