EgusiSoup:


you want to be screwing after 7 months?

I think you should respect yourself for a while.

Seriously? Why do people who aren't married comment on issues about marriage they no nothing about?

GeneralEmenogu:
he is nt ur husband, he is jus ur sex partner. y wont he lose interest? dts wat hapins if he is nt ur husband bt ur guy.

Nay, WAS - past tense, the dude seems to have disconnected

Opakan2:


look well, you'd see

they are all over the place seeking for attention they no longer get from their spouses

This look well Na work o.
I think say you go just drop map...i gat willing niggas

Used to think the Family section were full of matured people slowly it's become filled with immature comments. maybe they should increase the Data plan

tochivitus:


WTF u talking about ? I was made to understand that after birth ladies crave for sex more. I think the dude should not shy away or deny this sex starved woman from her CONJUGAL RIGHT simple,

CONJUGAL RIGHTS exist in marriage only - as far as i know, she has not said they are married - a wife cannot refer to her hubby as my guy

I seriously pity ladies that bring their relationships online as a subject of discussion..

airminem:
I have a 7 month old baby. Ever since the birth, my guy won't get close to me in any sexual way. I have tried everything, but he says he's not in the mood. I don't know what to do or what to think. Please help.

Sorry but sex (with u) might not be his priority right now

He's just assumed a new role... fatherhood, his life has changed.

Infact if he's soo eager to start screwing you again then I'd be surprised.

Welcome. To the reality of marriage... it's not sex-filled, it's 'commitment filled'

Besides the sex... is he being a good father/husband? If yes then give him time and work on yourself too(incase. You still got babyfat)

And dress like sisi omoge not like mama nneka

Madam, abeg calm down first, its just 7months, must u give birth every year??

pcguru1:


How is it your concern she's asking for help if you can't then move along, it's her marriage so she entitled to whatever way she wants to have it

Na hia we go see you - you too like kittykat talk - where did you see they are married?

There shouldn't be anything like sex between you & ur husband till 10-12 months after child birth

airminem:
I have a 7 month old baby. Ever since the birth, my guy won't get close to me in any sexual way. I have tried everything, but he says he's not in the mood. I don't know what to do or what to think. Please help.

Most likely you gained too much weight and you are no Longer his Spec, some guys are selfish like that. Another reason, baby always stretch the Vjay Jay, he's not Enjoying it.

BiafranBushBoy:
But I thought girls don't like sex!!

Nawa oo...

Who tell you,Na women like sex pass man self ,dem de work like machine,some of them no de okay with three rounds you must continue to Bleep,mai guy way de always form Voltron I de surprise when he start to run for one particular girl say the girl won kill am,after all shakara d girl don do like say she never Bleep for her life before Na after she start to date mai guy we know say she be champion,meanwhile mai guy na tram addicted still run for her,but wait oo if husband and wife no Bleep shey d woman go die ni,all these cases of women talking about their husband starving them of sex de wonder me oo.

soberdrunk:
Lmao!! Oga still dey calculate expenses and stress that he went through, am sure that is what is killing the mood.

Ps-Work on yourself, loose all that babyfat, wear bumshorts, seduce that man jare!!! If all nor work, RAPE HIM!!! Nah ur husband

Guy.. U wicked oo.. I can't stop laughing

Wetin concern Una if she never marry?
Such hypocrites!!!!
Silly Africans who worship and adore world reknown baby mamas and American widely spread sl.uts and follow and immitate their styles on channels like E and the rest of them are here judging a lady...bcause she Is on nairaland....and she no be celebrity.
If you have nothing to contribute shut that hole and just read...

And if she is really married, then I would like to have her kind of wife...
Who will call me her guy....

Wetin be "husband" Na title Wey dey increase bank account block?
Abi e go give u heavenly orgasm?

If you are married you are married....and some people love to keep it less serious and rubbing it everywhere with the husband n wife thing....especially on a social forum....

Such hypocrites who follow yeyebrities jumping from marriage to marriage at the drop of a hat.....and now this lady is asking fr advise Una dey do like say Una even get better thing to yarn....

Esp dese ladies...

Such low class.

eagleonearth:
don't say that. We should not be quick to pass judgement unless we've walked in d person's shoes. The wife might have a high libido and the hubby running away from a widened vagina maybe. I only hope the husband is not collecting the thing from outside. Communication is key in marriage.

And where did you read that she is married? You think that every lady who has given birth is married? Did you not see her refer to the man who is the father of her child as her "guy"?

@Post

Your guy does not want your vargina again. It is overstretched and no longer tight as before. He has decided to move on with his life considering that you ain't his wife to begin with. You have just been played like a game of chess, lol

Pidgin2:


So he is no longer the leader in his house and the one to guide his wife(in the bedroom), I thought you mentioned this previously?

Now she should take up the mantle of leadership(in the bedroom) because it has suddenly become her job and duty to draw his gaze. You see your life? I thought you were against this on the other thread. This is why I feel sorry for people who ask for advice on nairaland

I use to think that reasons & objectivity should govern human actions, but the moment I realise that human beings can be saying one thing & doing the opposite it did me a lot of good. Maybe you need to also understand that people are very inconsistent in words & action it will save you many a disappointment.

Pregnant women through their behaviour makes a man wish he never touched her

I know its truely not easy being pregnant but its also not an opportunity to deal with the man

Maybe your husband is going through some psychological trauma. You can help him come out of it.

blkmum700:



Who tell you,Na women like sex pass man self ,dem de work like machine,some of them no de okay with three rounds you must continue to Bleep,mai guy way de alwsy form voltron I de surprise when he start to run for one particular girl say the girl won kill am,after all shakara d girl don do like say she never Bleep for her life before Na after she start to de mai guy we know say she be champion,meanwhile mai guy de tram addicted still run for her,but wait oo if husband and wife no Bleep shey d woman go die ni,all this case of women talking about husband starving them sex to wonder me oo.

Don't generalize. You don't know all women on the planet. There are women out there who were raped or sexually abused and never want to have anything to do with sex for the rest of their lives.

dhtml18:

Na hia we go see you - you too like kittykat talk - where did you see they are married?

Can you imagine so they are not married na wa o,

no vex jare

airminem:
I have a 7 month old baby. Ever since the birth, my guy won't get close to me in any sexual way. I have tried everything, but he says he's not in the mood. I don't know what to do or what to think. Please help.

OP no offence , but are you married ?

KingEbukasBlog:

How did you arrive at this conclusion ? Your reasons please

A couple, sleeping on the same bed at night yet he is able to resist her for 7 months? He has an outlet some where else. I know you know this is true let's not sugar coat the truth from her

[quote author=BlackDBagba post=52072351]Has he approached you for sex? And was the invite rejected or accepted? He may not want to 'bother' you again and is possibly getting it elsewhere.

Be aware that he now sees you as a 'mother' no longer his babe...sorry but you have work to do to get his sexual apetite back on you.



C ur lif, general adviser

I cant lie for you....that hole has been stretched too far for his wood.
Do kegel exercises every morning and evening. Go to google and get routines...its not stressful to do ur kegels....Na soft work....
And try to be sexy....for him....
I feel you sha....nna eh e no easy to be mother o...so after carrying child for nine months born...wean pikin....then still come face rejection.... Chai... Do ur best and also pray....baba God go see d sincerity wey dey ur heart....

Lastly sit ur man down... Make e no dey do dat old fashioned nonsense Wey our parents dey do dey run lyk ben Johnson from sex matter.... Ask the guy howfa....wetin dey happen...wetin you do am....why?? Wetin I'm go like see....how I'm go want Mk u dey do.... Na maturity get this thing last last.... If you no.comfront am and Im dey do lyk sexuality section boys Na drift in go drift to one oda shima o

airminem:
I have a 7 month old baby. Ever since the birth, my guy won't get close to me in any sexual way. I have tried everything, but he says he's not in the mood. I don't know what to do or what to think. Please help.

repackage urself dress nice, with ur normal make up, watch romantic movies with him, things should be normal,

dasparrow:


Don't generalize. You don't know all women on the planet. There are women out there who were raped or sexually abused and never want to have anything to do with sex for the rest of their lives.

You are right,I'm not saying most but I think 80 % of women like sex more than men but they choose to pretend at first meeting like a tyro,but along the line you get to know the woman is a machine.

You know women na. After they have offended they come back crying wolf...maybe she denied him severally and made herself unattractive or she followed the advice of one jealous or bad belle friend and it backfired ....
Simply talk to your man
Don't over emphasize the baby
Make him feel comfortable
Dress decently cutely
Be patient when in bed and do carefully attract him
It will be well!!!

Here is the way...


Remember when you were single? You could go to the club and have any man you wanted wrapped around your little finger. You knew how to bat your eyes, pout your lips and smile in a way that promised skills any man would die for. They worked great. And then one time they worked a little too well. Or, I should say, they worked on just the right guy. Now you are married.. The marriage part is good. But kids, careers and home life just don’t leave a lot of time or energy to keep that old spark hot and bright.

Not to worry. It’s never too late to reignite that old flame and fan it into a roaring fire once more.
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There are two main things to remember about men when trying to seduce them.

1) First of all, MEN ARE VISUAL CREATURES: You can talk to them about things all you want but if you really want to grab their attention, SHOW them something.

2) Secondly, they have a tendency to be a little slow on picking up subtle hints. With these ideas in mind, dress for the part. Don’t tell him you want him, show him that he wants you. Chances are he hasn’t seen you really dressed up for no apparent reason for a long time. Pull out something a little short, a little low cut and sure to leave him speechless. If you gave away all those outfits to your single friends a long time ago, it may be a good time to go pick up something new. It doesn’t have to be expensive. It just has to look the part.

this is how to SHOW it

next time he is in the parlour watching television wear a very short bum short or tie only a towel and walk into the parlor. move towards the T.V. and bend over as if you want to charge your phone..... he will SURELY leave the TV and start watching you.

act as if you are not seeing him, move away and come back later as if you want to check if there is a miss call and bend over again with your ass facing him.
do it like 2 to 3 times and walk into the room

he will come and watch the "T.V." in the room
do it and come and share the story here

Pidgin2:


A couple, sleeping on the same bed at night yet he is able to resist her for 7 months? He has an outlet some where else. I know you know this is true let's not sugar coat the truth from her

You cannot judge things like that. Its not always so. The guy can be servicing himself as well and not jumping into another babe....
Be sensitive... She hasn't said anything that implies she suspects him...

This airminem poster is a guy. I therefore condemn your post to that of fabrication, lies and falsehood.

You are taming the female folks to play along to know their weaknesses. A wolf in sheep's clothing.

kinibigdeal:
Maybe you gave birth in is presence

That is the most probable cause. Over time, he may overcome the phobia of putting you through the pains again. Just be nice and romantic to him and watch intimate movies together.

Was he there during the delivery,if he was such should be expected all he saw are still very much fresh in his memory buh wether he was there or not communication is the key and try and work on yourself too