₦airaland Forum

Mindfulness:
If your hard punishment theory was working, people would not go in and out and in and out of jail. And if the death penalty was effective, people would not commit murder in countries where the death penalty has not been abolished yet but it is not so.

Bitchvibe:
Youve already made up your mind, So why are you telling us? You are not a good person. A good person is characterised by good choices. You want to kill a baby. And you have failed your first child by not giving him or her a father and a home. Your baby daddy will marry someone else and have kids he will actually be a father to.

Bitchvibe:
What are you saying? I knew this was fake. What's the great deal about saying he died.

Now I see why noone wants you. You're trouble to the very body you possess. Public toilet. You deserve to die when carrying out that abortion from your chlamydia infested pewsey. I will make sure you lose that pregnancy on this thread. Don't try me.

Alondra:
We should all take Nigeria seriously i else it will continue to be how it is or worse.

Now you really want to play the mind game isn't it?

So to you murdering a seed with life because you believe it is a mistake is nothing to you? Do you support infanticide too?

If you know you are not ready to give birth then why have reckless sex?

Have you seen someone who has implications due to abortion?

Have you seen a woman who remains barren for life out of abortion?

Have you not seen great men and women who have made it from nothing?

Do you know the number of women / ladies that lost their lives in the process of abortion?

Have you heard of situations where the foetus survived even after trials of abortion? What will you suggest in these cases?

Are you saying this because you are a man? If you had been aborted for selfish reasons will you be who you are now?

Its all about balance! The suffering with not be forever plus never call anyone a MISTAKE!

Bringing a child into this world is giving it hope

troubledheart:
Lol...very funny. ... thank you.. in blessed memory.. he died 3years back. But good luck being his ghost wifey.. bear him lovely ghost kids too.

aflyingbird:
Lies . He died and it's so funny to you ..... carry on . Lies .

sisisioge:
Wowzerful! I read all your posts OP and totally understand where you sit.

Hmmmm, the embarrassment of whoooops-she-did-it-again... The unending insults from your folks... The burnt out cable( single mother of TWO from TWO men! Kabiesi o!) The emotional stress of managing pregnancy .... To add serious salt to injury, the bobo doesn't give a hoot about you! Whew! I understand...I sure do. However, sheet really happens and there's nothing in this world that hasn't been seen before. Biko, give this baby a chance...

Once he/she is here, and you hold him/her in your arms...You would see all you've been through is worth it. Let them talk...You would be the winner and God won't let you do it alone. He caters for His children.

About the bobo, can you stay off his face right now until baby bump gives him a cold reality? Yeah...then he would see that he's indeed about to be a father. Meanwhile, don't let him off the hook...call him into even the cheapest bill! It is well, may God help you.

DarkRebel101:
Roger that.



What bedevils this country is that many of her citizens are terribly blinded to a fault, and would never call a spade a spade, even when faced with circumstances that greatly warrant it.

The young lady asked that the truth be served hard and raw to her, and that was exactly what I did. She didn't ask that we be obsequious and tell her only what she wishes to hear.

I had her chastised - partly for thinking to KILL a child, and partly for making the same mistake twice, and then I proffered some words of encouragement, yet you say I am being too harsh?

I never passed judgement on her. What is wrong with you petty men?

My major gripe with this forum is that it brims with inferior minds who are very much slow on the uptake.



Both nuance and context are lost on you.

Why did God have to create stüpid people? He just had to ruin it, didn't he?

I wonder how the likes of Nikola Tesla and Leonardo Da Vinci survived a day around the simple-minded and unintelligent people in their time without going insane. Damn! Who said eugenics was evil?

I never criticised casual sex. What I did was criticise the OP for indulging in it with someone she wasn't certain to wed, especially since her first child was a result of something similar.

God! Stupidity is a curse!

Bitchvibe:
Crime and getting pregnant are two different things. Pls receive sense.

BoboYekini:
Anyone ever told you that you write like a yapping pekingese? Do you even take time to breathe?

Bitchvibe:
I wil bury you on your own thread and that waste inside you that would never amount to anything If brought up by you. I'm busy right now. Ebu onye akunakuna na nairaland, ashewo to re nairaland, prostitute stop stalking me

Incline:
You're comparing apples to oranges. Op needs to comprehend the gravity of her actions, we don't want her making the same mistake a third time. Her first child was with a man who didn't marry her, by her post this first child wasn't planned either. Now she's pregnant for another man who doesn't see a future with her either. She should work on her self esteem, stop sleeping with men who don't want a future with her. Opening your legs for a man don't mean he loves you, don't mean he's going to wife you up. Lots of men are going to welcome free pucci if they can get it but that doesn't mean they want to marry the girl.

Mindfulness:
Thanks!

I had the family here for Christmas. You know how much work that is to have so many people in your house but today we are leaving to visit friends and will stay there for one night so I will be the guest and relax while they will be serving some delicious food. My friend is a very good cook, like Cococandy, so I cannot wait to get there. I need to pack a few things now and we are ready to go. Yay!

MizMyColi:
You are welcome.

I had typed stuff earlier, but decided against posting here.

In the end, it's the OPs life and she is free to do with, whatever she thinks is best for her.

But I speak, not just as a mother, but as someone whose life calling bothers on humanity itself....

Abortion is never the easier route.
It isn't.
It isn't.

As I type this, my head is filled with memories of people's exoeriences.

Whether it's a day old foetus or a 9 month baby...it does not change the fact that a human being has been cut off even before getting the chance to catch a whiff of life.

Before now, I would say stuff like.....
"I don't support abortion over reasons like this o, but if you feel it's best for you....well it's your life"

Alas, I guess my recent experience (birthing) has deleted that kind of diplomacy from my head.

*sighs*

I wish I could say more, but I'm constrained.

I earnestly pray that you have a change of heart. I also pray that things get better for you financially. I pray that the father shows empathy and support. I pray for heaven's divine guidance at a time like this for you.

I cannot pretend to understand what it must be like for you...
But I believe you have been imbued with strength to overcome and rise above.

I'm sorry I indirectly called you a coward Inugo? It's just how I really feel, however I could have kept that to myself seeing as it's not helpful to you in any way at the moment.

I may never contribute shi shi towards ur pregnancy or raising the child. But I know that you are not without help. If you decide to accept your fate in good faith, and earnestly seek your creator in prayer and meditation, you will notice changes. You will first be filled with strength and uncommon joy.

Troubledheart Please do not abort. I KNOW THAT the other option isn't easier either....but please don't abort.

Chai, I pray I become financially balanced someday so I can create a foundation/home that takes in people in situations like this and similar ones.

It is well.

sisisioge:
Wowzerful! I read all your posts OP and totally understand where you sit.

Hmmmm, the embarrassment of whoooops-she-did-it-again... The unending insults from your folks... The burnt out cable( single mother of TWO from TWO men! Kabiesi o!) The emotional stress of managing pregnancy .... To add serious salt to injury, the bobo doesn't give a hoot about you! Whew! I understand...I sure do. However, sheet really happens and there's nothing in this world that hasn't been seen before. Biko, give this baby a chance...

Once he/she is here, and you hold him/her in your arms...You would see all you've been through is worth it. Let them talk...You would be the winner and God won't let you do it alone. He caters for His children.

About the bobo, can you stay off his face right now until baby bump gives him a cold reality? Yeah...then he would see that he's indeed about to be a father. Meanwhile, don't let him off the hook...call him into even the cheapest bill! It is well, may God help you.

bbmpin:
[b][color=#000050] Alright! lets debate that!

@highlighted the only reason why those implications occur is because the process isn't legalized in those countries
(because its illegal the "practices" are UNSAFE)

We can debate this sensitive issue from now till dawn but the facts remain the same:

Abortion rates will continue to rise or stay the same whether abortion is outlawed or not.

The only thing that changes significantly are the number of mother's who die, that number goes "WAY" up in countries where abortions are illegal

Just so we are clear, I understand and respect your views(insightful and intelligent) but when the problem isn't yours, Its easy to take the moral route.

Abortion shouldn't be an issue that should be debated publicly, Its a thing of choice and situation

Having said that: i want you to understand something, Its not fair to "anyone" to be born into a dysfunctional home

All lives matter but even God planned before he created Adam! [/color][/b]

troubledheart:
Amen.. thanks. Like most people advised, I'm no longer taking any decision on my own. At least we (i mean myself and my ex) are talking about it and so far so good he's been reasonable.

Alondra:
To say that is the only reason for implications is arguable and I will argue that.

Implications can occur when their are complications in the process of abortion. This could be a doctor's mistake or from an unqualified doctor.

Plastic surgeries, boobs and butts implantations aren't illegal yet some are done wrongly.

What about the adamant woman who after been warned of complications due to her health conditions still went ahead for the abortion because she thought it was the only way out?

Even in countries where abortion is legalize it is still not SAFE

If abortion is outlawed, prohibited, frowned at then morality will rise. When morality is increased walking in it's path will be easier. We do the wrong things because there is a way out.

Truly it is unfair to 'anyone' to be born in a dysfunctional home. But is the unfair too to destroy the chance of that ' one' to write his or her destiny

bbmpin:
[color=#000050] That was quite a read, Nice pervert!

The doctors that cause those implications in regards to plastic surgery are unqualified

It's cheaper when you patronize unlicensed/unqualifed doctors hence the emergence of TV shows like "Botched" to educate people about the implications of cheap surgical processes.

Yea on rare occasions disasters occur but as long as its minimal its acceptable "planes crash every month people still fly"

No system is perfect! Even helpful needed "life sustaining surgeries" occasionally records some casualties.

I Reiterate!!!! Even God planned before he created Adam! [/color]

MizMyColi:
My heart and prayer earnestly goes out to you.

Please word of advice....

In the event that he decides to take responsibility or not; if you finally choose to keep her (which will make me really smile btw
)

In future, do not tell anyone you might have feelings for that they are born of separate fathers. Infact, try to keep that part of your life story as hidden as possible....and only divulge to the one whom you are convinced is true to you.
Follow your gut instinct if you must tell your story.

Your mindset matters a lot.

I really hope you find the needed strength to go through it all.

troubledheart:
Thanks for this... myself and him are on speaking terms right now . I honestly just don't want to force his hand..I know if I insist, he will actually succum.. but would that actually make me happy? We already broke up and I don't want pregnancy to be the yard stick to reconciliation. If you know me personally, you will understand that ever since I had my first, I don't leave anything to chance. I'm aways careful. I'm still in total shock at this pregnancy. But in all. . I know it is well.

BoboYekini:
Now you're advising her to employ deception in future relationships, possibly with the man she might marry and spend the rest of her life with?
Just how callous and selfish and low watt brains can you be? In your misplaced rally for resident mother Theresa. Don't tell me you're ashamed for the Op, you this self-righteous spectre.
Op, if nothing else know this. Men WANT forthrightness in their partners. ALL cards on the table from the get go.

troubledheart:
I know a lot of you will condemn me to the fullest.. I deserve it I know.
They say the first is always accepted to be a mistake, but afterwards it's a choice.
I am a regular and well known nairalander, had to create this account to hide my identity.
I'm a single mother of one.
Just discovered right now that I'm pregnant for a recent ex(I already conceived unknowingly before the breakup )...and telling him about it is not even an option.
I feel so bad because I know I can't keep it...
I never expected this because all through the relationship I was careful.. condoms and contraceptives..up to the last time we met and that's why am so sad..while abortion is the best option for me right now, my heart wishes differently..I wish there was another way.. I can't even tell anyone I know about it, hence my typing this here..
My story is actually too long to type.. but am far from a bad person. I have a good heart and I love with all I've got, I'm not moved by material things and I often assist my partner wen I can, yet I always end up loving the wrong ones.
I don't want to be pitied, I can take the hard truth.