I want to make this story short... please padon my poor english. I Have a baby mama, she have no parents and I 've been taking care of this girl of almost three years now... since this girl gave brith.. this girl have suddenly become a nightmare to me, she doesn't give me rest of mind. She have no respect for me, she stay in Enugu and I stay in Aba where I work, I do pay her bills and everything and the worst part of it is that he refuse to work, All she want is to come down to Aba and live with me.. and am still young for that and more over I don't want to base in Aba, I pay for her house rent in Enugu , I do take care of every of her needs including that of my son. This girl doesn't trust me at all, she doesn't give me a breathing space, She loves quarrel so much that we cannot stay two days without quarrel.. I do send her 10k every week. she call me more than 20 times in a day and if I suddenly miss any of her call, she will just conclude that maybe I doing something with a woman.. she have no respect for where I work.. I Do travel to Enugu every weekend to visit her but any week I miss it maybe because of one thing or the other in my work place, that week she wouldn't pick my calls again.. and she wouldn't let me explain.Am dying inside, am a very cool guy and I hate quarrel and that's the advantage she is taking to behave that way. All my friends around me both in our work place keeps telling that if I marry that girl i will die before my time. and the worst part of it is that she keeps telling that she will deal with me but she know what she is still waiting for.. I might loss that my son she gave birth to if I don't marry her according custom demand.. what do I do friends? am seriously dying inside.. I can't concentrate again.. this girl is driving me crazy with her character. I complain to get friend and family, she will promise to change at the end of the day, her character will get worst

hmmm, bruh you too don join get baby mama? I tot its for only Dem celebs. Anyways you are a man and you have a choice. If you don't like her character anymore, leave her and find a way you can be spending time with ya kid. But if you are too scared, u are also free to stay with her!
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Btw, I really tried to ignore your poor English but it's unpardonable, so you better make some corrections before Dem bashers rush in here.

Sorry bro!!! I can only pray for you. Take heart!

Maybe you are not fulfilling her emotional needs again. You should probably try to reassure her, take her out on dates. Try to recreate the good old feelings or create better memories. Money can't solve all your problems.

All the best!

your problem is a problem and it's only the gods can offer solution to it

Dude u need spiritual spanking

There's nothing on earth that will change that lady. If you want to leave her please do. And your son? No idea.

Time to be tough
Time to be tough

I might be a girl yet i do not support marrying someone compulsorily cos she has a child for you. Men would always be men,it is the girls that shd give themselves brain cos they bear the brunt at last. As a guy,if u don't want to marry d girl stand ur ground and please stop messing around. My place,they would just tell you to drop the baby if the guy isn't ready to marry you. It saves us girls the issue of physical,verbal abuse and crashes in marriages cos it was a shotgun marriage.

dacblogger:
your problem is a problem and it's only the gods can offer solution to it

Hahaha.........u wicked pass the said lady.

Op dont marry that girl otherwise,u die of frustration in ur prime age

You mustn't marry her cos she has a child for you, her bad characters are maddening.

There are ways to go about it if you need your son, in my place: you're allowed to pay her bride price if you must claim your child, then you can both go your separate ways.

Benita27:
You mustn't marry her cos she has a child for you, her bad characters are maddening.

There are ways to go about it if you need your son, in my place: you're allowed to pay her bride price if you must claim your child, then you can both go your separate ways.

Where is your place?

RuggedArab:


Where is your place?

Rivers.
I think is done differently in other tribes, just perhaps, it could be same with hers.

When u they bang who u call? Abi shey na here u supposre carry dis mata com. Konji dey worry me to buh i dey hold am. Y shud i give u advice. Take ur responsibility. It ur cross. Bleep Bleep Bleep Bleep shaaaaaaaaaaaaaa me i don retire 4 dat shit oooo. How i wish am a virgin

Benita27:
Rivers.
I think is done differently in other tribes, just perhaps, it could be same with hers.

Where in Rivers?

Lataability:

I want to make this story short... please padon my poor english. I Have a baby mama, she have no parents and I 've been taking care of this girl of almost three years now... since this girl gave brith.. this girl have suddenly become a nightmare to me, she doesn't give me rest of mind. She have no respect for me, she stay in Enugu and I stay in Aba where I work, I do pay her bills and everything and the worst part of it is that he refuse to work, All she want is to come down to Aba and live with me.. and am still young for that and more over I don't want to base in Aba, I pay for her house rent in Enugu , I do take care of every of her needs including that of my son. This girl doesn't trust me at all, she doesn't give me a breathing space, She loves quarrel so much that we cannot stay two days without quarrel.. I do send her 10k every week. she call me more than 20 times in a day and if I suddenly miss any of her call, she will just conclude that maybe I doing something with a woman.. she have no respect for where I work.. I Do travel to Enugu every weekend to visit her but any week I miss it maybe because of one thing or the other in my work place, that week she wouldn't pick my calls again.. and she wouldn't let me explain.Am dying inside, am a very cool guy and I hate quarrel and that's the advantage she is taking to behave that way. All my friends around me both in our work place keeps telling that if I marry that girl i will die before my time. and the worst part of it is that she keeps telling that she will deal with me but she know what she is still waiting for.. I might loss that my son she gave birth to if I don't marry her according custom demand.. what do I do friends? am seriously dying inside.. I can't concentrate again.. this girl is driving me crazy with her character. I complain to get friend and family, she will promise to change at the end of the day, her character will get worst

poster please be patient with her because if you look at it from her point of view you will probably do the same. she gave birth and she is living in a different city with no job and completely dependent on you financially. It's obvious she is worried that you might leave her and its natural to think you are doing something with someone else since you are working in Aba and living there but not wanting her and your kid to come stay with you.

Even if you are not planning to live in Aba, whats stopping her from moving with you to where ever you eventually decide to stay? you already pay her rent and stuff if she comes down to stay with you, she would have piece of mind and wouldn't have any reason to quarrel with you. Any way you are in a long distance relationship and this is what happens if there is no trust. Marrying her will not kill you she is simply doing what anyone who is worried and afraid would do especially if the reasons for her not being with you is silly

you know what you need to do. Either end the relationship or have her move in at Aba and move to which ever city when your job in Aba is over or when you decide to leave. There is no such thing as juju so she can't do ish to you if thats what you are scared of.

before you marry her make sure you talk to her about her behavior and if she doesn't amend it..........

RuggedArab:


Where in Rivers?

That's enough.

Lataability:

I want to make this story short... please padon my poor english. I Have a baby mama, she have no parents and I 've been taking care of this girl of almost three years now... since this girl gave brith.. this girl have suddenly become a nightmare to me, she doesn't give me rest of mind. She have no respect for me, she stay in Enugu and I stay in Aba where I work, I do pay her bills and everything and the worst part of it is that he refuse to work, All she want is to come down to Aba and live with me.. and am still young for that and more over I don't want to base in Aba, I pay for her house rent in Enugu , I do take care of every of her needs including that of my son. This girl doesn't trust me at all, she doesn't give me a breathing space, She loves quarrel so much that we cannot stay two days without quarrel.. I do send her 10k every week. she call me more than 20 times in a day and if I suddenly miss any of her call, she will just conclude that maybe I doing something with a woman.. she have no respect for where I work.. I Do travel to Enugu every weekend to visit her but any week I miss it maybe because of one thing or the other in my work place, that week she wouldn't pick my calls again.. and she wouldn't let me explain.Am dying inside, am a very cool guy and I hate quarrel and that's the advantage she is taking to behave that way. All my friends around me both in our work place keeps telling that if I marry that girl i will die before my time. and the worst part of it is that she keeps telling that she will deal with me but she know what she is still waiting for.. I might loss that my son she gave birth to if I don't marry her according custom demand.. what do I do friends? am seriously dying inside.. I can't concentrate again.. this girl is driving me crazy with her character. I complain to get friend and family, she will promise to change at the end of the day, her character will get worst

Who says you should'nt marry her. if you are sure she loves you, just deal with the situation the best way you can. Most married women are like that. They will always have something to fight their husband over. you just have to continue dealing with it 'if you both love yourselves'. Its not a big deal, neither is it rare for wives to behave like that.

Benita27:
That's enough.

Hey c'mon...... I am Rivers too.

omega25red:
poster please be patient with her because if you look at it from her point of view you will probably do the same. she gave birth and she is living in a different city with no job and completely dependent on you financially. It's obvious she is worried that you might leave her and its natural to think you are doing something with someone else since you are working in Aba and living there but not wanting her and your kid to come stay with you.

Even if you are not planning to live in Aba, whats stopping her from moving with you to where ever you eventually decide to stay? you already pay her rent and stuff if she comes down to stay with you, she would have piece of mind and wouldn't have any reason to quarrel with you. Any way you are in a long distance relationship and this is what happens if there is no trust. Marrying her will not kill you she is simply doing what anyone who is worried and afraid would do especially if the reasons for her not being with you is silly

you know what you need to do. Either end the relationship or have her move in at Aba and move to which ever city when your job in Aba is over or when you decide to leave. There is no such thing as juju so she can't do ish to you if thats what you are scared of.

before you marry her make sure you talk to her about her behavior and if she doesn't amend it..........

best advice so far.....Most ladies here can't even give a mature contribution... U guys should have empathy at least

RuggedArab:


Hey c'mon...... I am Rivers too.

Good to know then, what part?.

Benita27:
Good to know then, what part?.

You See? you have turned the table around now.

Women!

Benita27:
Good to know then, what part?.

Benita apple bum you got to put me on Benita apple bum you gotto put me on Benita Benita Benita.




tribe called quest

RuggedArab:


You See? you have turned the table around now.

Women!

Lol.

omega25red:
Benita apple bum you got to put me on Benita apple bum you gotto put me on Benita Benita Benita.




tribe called quest

Benita27:
Lol.

I am waiting o

popefuse:
When u they bang who u call? Abi shey na here u supposre carry dis mata com. Konji dey worry me to buh i dey hold am. Y shud i give u advice. Take ur responsibility. It ur cross. Bleep Bleep Bleep Bleep shaaaaaaaaaaaaaa me i don retire 4 dat shit oooo. How i wish am a virgin

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bros u wicked small ooo

popefuse:
When u they bang who u call? Abi shey na here u supposre carry dis mata com. Konji dey worry me to buh i dey hold am. Y shud i give u advice. Take ur responsibility. It ur cross. Bleep Bleep Bleep Bleep shaaaaaaaaaaaaaa me i don retire 4 dat shit oooo. How i wish am a virgin

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bros u wicked small ooo

RuggedArab:


I am waiting o

Abua/Odual, you?.

Op you alone can tell if she will change or not after you wife her bcz you are the only one that know her.

But am gonna tell you this based on first hand experience. Girls that behave like that bcz they have a child for you will not change even after they are wifed. When they are pregnant, they behave all nice and good but immediately they give birth, the Jezebel in them will unleash. She is behaving like this when she's not yet a wife, what will happen when she becomes one. Anyone telling you she will change after you marry her is not helping you except you make her and she's willing to change. If not dear, it's gonna be one hell of a marriage that you will wish to get out as soon as you get in.

Here's the thing, you can make her change if you want to, she depends wholly on you so it shouldn't be too difficult for you to tame her you just have to be a man.