George22016:
I day fear my grand parents make them no do jazz for my body.I don't eat anything they give me

George22016:
I day fear my grand parents make them no do jazz for my body.I don't eat anything they give me

SweetyZinta:
#soSad



no matter what she deserves to be treated better.

pocohantas:
Some Nigerians have this way of looking at old people, they always think they're up to no good, courtesy home videos. That's why you'll see some people that don't travel to their villages, even when they go, they won't eat their grand parents food...etc.

When folks begin to age, they go back to being babies. They say the wrong things, act the wrong way, become petty...etc. It takes patient kids and grand kids to adapt to these changes. That is when the kind of treatment you saw at your friend's place starts to manifest.

It's not in your head, you know what you saw...it happens and I have seen it happen.

My grand parents have been dead a long time though.

eyinjuege:
Sadly, the elderly are prone to abuse and manipulations by their loved ones.
Some even beat their elderly frail grandparents who usually act "funny" from undiagnosed dementia. Grandkids that do such copy their own parents who are abusive.

Catalin:
My Grandmum is in the village and we treat her with so much love.
Maybe your friend is not happy taking care of the Grandmum or maybe she begged to live with them. All the same they shouldn't treat her badly. It aren't good.

AngelsAndStars:
I have never lived with my grand parents for long. in fact, all 4 of them are dead now sadly.

but I notice something, in my friends house their grand ma lives with them but I hardly see them talk to her, the few times I did its either they are complaining to her about something she did asin yelling at her. please they are a cool family because I have known them for all my life. but I am always confused about how they deal with the old woman.

I always feel pity for her because I imagine how lonely she would be. maybe am just judging from afar I don't know, recently she jokingly did something but my friend didn't take it lightly, I felt some how sha

share your experience, how you relate with your grand parents living with you or what other situations have you noticed from friends or extended families.

pcguru1:


Am very close with mine, though I'm not gonna lie am getting scared somehow that one day I might hear the bad news of death. Grew up with them since I was 10.

AngelsAndStars:
please whatever time you have with them make them happy.

they are lonely and are battling depression due to death approaching. do the maths.

just appreciate them even if some times they got weird character.

thanks

George22016:
I day fear my grand parents make them no do jazz for my body.I don't eat anything they give me

pcguru1:


Well mine is 70 they have no weird character however am somehow that overthinks a lot and especially my grandma every time I see her I'm always reminded of mortality

Ezionye:

Why?

OLAFIMIX:
I only knew my dad's mum, late now. We were never close to her even when she was staying with us before she passed on. We don't like her, she dealt with my mum when we were younger. Dey slap my mum anyhow, dey dictate how my mum go live her life. She instigated my dad against my mom. She begged for forgiveness before she passed on oti bale je jinna( she has done a lot without remedy)

sisisioge:
My Gramma is a chic o...She's still very much sound and bubbly. In fact, she can start a world war III on her own without any help. Nobody dares diss her

Pls tell your friend to treat his/her grandmother with love for he is making his own history too. If God will, one day he would be old too...

yedidiah:
It is sad that people mistreat their grand parents when others would give anything to have theirs back.

You don't know what blessing you are missing I tell you. Sure because of age, they can act funny and frustrating a times. It is normal particularly if they weren't well educated thus lacked that aspect of mental improvement which formal education brings.

But I can assure you, if you take out time to seat with them and hear them out, you will pick out ancient wisdom from them.

Jobs 32:7 says," let age speak, and advanced years should teach wisdom"

There is whole lot to learn from them. Too much modernity and social media is cheating us of the best gifts we have - Family

fellis:
They are wicked abeg.

Its not cos old people act funny or any other reason. They are jus wicked people plain and simple.

They should take her to old peoples home before they shorten her time left with their bad treatment. She will even have people to interact with in the place.

George22016:
I day fear my grand parents make them no do jazz for my body.I don't eat anything they give
me

Please do not think/hope that you will remain the way you are right now for ever....You will become a granddad one day.....During that time..If your grandkids ran away from you because of your wrinkled body,....and that your teeth are no longer white and perfect as before,....and are maybe scared that you will jazz them... because it was assumed that every middle classed old man or woman in Nigeria is a witch/ wizard.... always remember that it's the circle of life dear...

I would have loved to know your worth in $$ or ## that your grandparents have to stoop so low as to jazz you... I might be wrong though... you might even be Dangote's nephew

Richy4:


Please do not think/hope that you will remain the way you are right now for ever....You will become a granddad one day.....During that time..If your grandkids ran away from you because of your wrinkled body,....and that your teeth are no longer white and perfect as before,....and are maybe scared that you will jazz them... because it was assumed that every middle classed old man or woman in Nigeria is a witch/ wizard.... always remember that it's the circle of life dear...

I would have loved to know your worth in $$ or ## that your grandparents have to stood so low as to jazz you... I might be wrong though... you might even be Dangote's nephew

AngelsAndStars:
Lolz haha. karma

That's what it is bro Karma......It always arrive very late in it's dealings that's why I hated it's form of justice...the oppressed will cry and beg for justice...but it will never show up on time ....I don't know why it takes time ..maybe applying lipstick and doing pedicure for revenge.. .....I think karma is a woman Lady Karma

Dexema:
The Onus falls on the parents to first show love to their elderly one’s and then the children will follow suit.