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Uumm.. This is quite deep so lemme call my ever dearest bestie SmellingAnus to give some better advice..

Darlx:
I met my girlfriend about two years ago. I was just healing from my previous failed relationship, same as she. Initially we were just shoulders for the other to cry on but one night, our first night alone together, she asked me to cuddle her. One thing led to the other and we had a pre-intimacy (not S3X!!! I repeat, pre-intimacy!).

I happen to be quite a vast person. I know a little about almost everything, and an incredible range of skill sets (at least, so my friends say). She got to discover this as after that night I threw myself all out to be her man. I was very instrumental to reviving her failing business and helped set up her new businesses. She eventually asked me out (if she had not, I still would have asked her out), and I accepted. That was how this relationship of ours was birthed.

The way things are now, my girlfriend is slightly popular in Lagos, but very popular in Awka. Her business is booming, and I am happy with my job. But what I didn't say since is WE ACTUALLY HAVE NEVER HAD SEX. She says she doesn't like the guilt that follows after sex. But she happily told me about her sexual escapades with her previous boyfriend. And all she allows at best for us is pre-intimacy - which is even more painful. Because I come close to "hitting it" severally but never really do because gives off an attitude that makes it look like I'm about to rape her. And then, just when I'm all fired up, she'll start crying and saying baby please don't do this. I feel really bad whenever we get to that point. Most times like last weekend's, I just tell myself that I'm NEVER EVER going to touch her again or even make advances. But somehow, she'll be the first to make the move, come kissing me and then I'd just give in. But just when I'm about to "run the show", the whole drama starts again. This has happened for more than 10 times. And it's killing me.

I used to pride myself as a faithful boyfriend. But as things how now, I'm seriously considering cheating on her. Of recent, I started touching myself. This makes just seeing her now disgust me. I am getting rude to her (I know this) and she is sensing it. Heaven knows any opportunity I get to cheat on her now, am certain I can not hold myself back. I have talked to her about how this is affecting me psychologically, she obviously don't give a rat's ass about it.

Truth is, I love her. She's an angel in flesh and blood. But this happens to be our only grey area in the relationship. All other things are fantastic. Now this is the only reason I have not broken up with her - I remind myself that I'm not in this (relationship) for s3x, and so all the other good things about what we have keeps me going.

I don't even know why I'm writing all this here on nairaland. But I know I gotta let this out somehow before I explode!!! So matured advice only...

My nigga, it's very simple.



She wants you to coerce her, she wants you to insist and fvck her dude!




I'm talking from experience, she really wants it but wants you to man up and ravage her...


Some women are like that, they want a bit of forcefulness before they can get their groove on, weird but true...





Please next time ignore the tears and bang her, and make sure you bang her good and hard...


You can thank me now already

TheRealestGuy:
My nigga, it's very simple.



She wants you to coerce her, she wants you to insist and fvck her dude!




I'm talking from experience, she really wants it but wants you to man up and ravage her...


Some women are like that, they want a bit of forcefulness before they can get their groove on, weird but true...





Please next time ignore the tears and bang her, and make sure you bang her good and hard...


You can thank me now already

Sure about that?

Oga OP, since she has been fvcked b4, bro ignore the yeye tears and fvck her HARD.

TheRealestGuy:
My nigga, it's very simple.



She wants you to coerce her, she wants you to insist and fvck her dude!




I'm talking from experience, she really wants it but wants you to man up and ravage her...


Some women are like that, they want a bit of forcefulness before they can get their groove on, weird but true...





Please next time ignore the tears and bang her, and make sure you bang her good and hard...


You can thank me now already

Are you asking him to rape her? I don't think this is the solution.

Op, are you very sure she isn't seeing someone else,what else would she be feeling quilt about especially when she's had sex in her former relationship, it just doesn't add up. Also, do you think she doesn't want to have sex till maybe marriage this time around? These are the things you should discuss with her before cheating. Or straight out tell her that if she doesn't change you'll have to look elsewhere (Ofcos as a threat you won't carry out). Atleast if my bf threatened me that way I'd take him serious.

ButterFrost212:
Are you asking him to rape her? I don't think this is the solution.

Op, are you very sure she isn't seeing someone else,what else would she be feeling quilt about especially when she's had sex in her former relationship, it just doesn't add up. Also, do you think she doesn't want to have sex till maybe marriage this time around? These are the things you should discuss with her before cheating. Or straight out tell her that if she doesn't change you'll have to look elsewhere (Ofcos as a threat you won't carry out). Atleast if my bf threatened me that way I'd take him serious.

I'm certain she isn't seeing someone else. At least none that I know of even after nosing around. Because this was the first thing I suspected. She is apparently trying to get closer to God. She has been saying that recently, and truth is I see improvement in that area. She is has been hinting on waiting till after marriage sha (apologies for not adding those details initially).

Threatening her that I'd go get it elsewhere; I'm concerned how that would look on me. She may come up with arguments like, so what if she was ill for a long time, am I saying she can't trust me to remain faithful? #justSaying though. Babe is one smart ass fellow.

I like where you're going though, I think though that your strategy would be better refined. So I'm thinking what can I add or remove... Thanks anyways @ButterFrost212

Darlx:
Sure about that?

Bro, women are complicated...

I used to experience same thing, infact, she would sound like she was seriously crying even when I'm hitting the kitten....

She later opened up that it's her own way of showing pleasure that I should never worry when it seems she's crying, but I should hit it harder...


I think there's always a little pain that goes with the great pleasure, especially if you got a big fat dìck like...












Yea, you guessed right

See...when she's not expecting it just grab both of her nipp!es at the same time. She'll succumb

Lol

Just kidding.

Women can be very spiritual almost out of the blues and when they start, no be here.
If you see signs she's truly becoming more religious, then I think the best you can do is encourage her and don't put any unnecessary pressures.
Ask yourself if it's just for the s3x you're with her or there's a deeper need to be in the relationship with her. Often times we tend to believe the s3x is a confirmation of love, but it isn't. Be patient with her more.

She might even get more spiritual and put an end to the pre intimacy sef. Yeah they're wired like that sometimes.
Important thing here is what do you want out of the relationship really?

I say these things because you make me believe she's not cheating on you bro.
Respond to this truthfully then we take it up from there.

Best of luck

Darlx:
This makes sense

Bro, next time, go for it.

You'll see that after the first time, she'll be cool with.it all...


Just make sure it's memorable and good sex and she'll even.love you more...

Darlx:
I'm certain she isn't seeing someone else. At least none that I know of even after nosing around. Because this was the first thing I suspected. She is apparently trying to get closer to God. She has been saying that recently, and truth is I see improvement in that area. She is has been hinting on waiting till after marriage sha (apologies for not adding those details initially).

Threatening her that I'd go get it elsewhere; I'm concerned how that would look on me. She may come up with arguments like, so what if she was ill for a long time, am I saying she can't trust me to remain faithful? #justSaying though. Babe is one smart ass fellow.

I like where you're going though, I think though that your strategy would be better refined. So I'm thinking what can I add or remove... Thanks anyways @ButterFrost212

You already answered yourself, she's trying to be closer to God. If you love her that much, then put a ring on it. I think that's your best bet.

TheRealestGuy:
Bro, women are complicated...

I used to experience same thing, infact, she would sound like she was seriously crying even when I'm hitting the kitten....

She later opened up that it's her own way of showing pleasure that I should never worry when it seems she's crying, but I should hit it harder...


I think there's always a little pain that goes with the great pleasure, especially if you got a big fat dìck like...












Yea, you guessed right

I like your delivery... lolol

Joe171:
I like your delivery... lolol

Thanks bro, I do a bit of writing though...

ButterFrost212:
You already answered yourself, she's trying to be closer to God. If you love her that much, then put a ring on it. I think that's your best bet.

Really? Actually I don't believe there is anything in marriage that makes people different from what they already are. Moreover that has got to be the last card on the table. What if after it is now in marriage I find out that beyond religious excuse, she just doesn't like sex as much?

Ok don't answer that. I'm beginning to think too far. Or am I? Really...

refreshrate:
See...when she's not expecting it just grab both of her nipp!es at the same time. She'll succumb

Lol

Just kidding.

Women can be very spiritual almost out of the blues and when they start, no be here.
If you see signs she's truly becoming more religious, then I think the best you can do is encourage her and don't put any unnecessary pressures.
Ask yourself if it's just for the s3x you're with her or there's a deeper need to be in the relationship with her. Often times we tend to believe the s3x is a confirmation of love, but it isn't. Be patient with her more.

She might even get more spiritual and put an end to the pre intimacy sef. Yeah they're wired like that sometimes.
Important thing here is what do you want out of the relationship really?

I say these things because you make me believe she's not cheating on you bro.
Respond to this truthfully then we take it up from there.

Best of luck

Ahahahah... Funny fellow #BoldedStatement

She isn't cheating on me bro to the best of my knowledge.

What I want out of the relationship? Baba, that one hard oOo. My hope is that it leads to marriage, although sincerely doubt we will get (topic for another day)

Go on with your advice...

Meanwhile I appreciate everyone that has said something meaningful so far. You guys are beautiful people...

TrapQueen77:
Uumm.. This is quite deep so lemme call my ever dearest bestie SmellingAnus to give some better advice..

boo... I just got the message... My phone has been off the whole day... Just got back to the house and very tired... Once I am strong I will chat you up on bbm...

Thanks all. I guess that'll be it. Now how do I get this thread off NL?........done!.......

Darlx:
Ahahahah... Funny fellow #BoldedStatement

She isn't cheating on me bro to the best of my knowledge.

What I want out of the relationship? Baba, that one hard oOo. My hope is that it leads to marriage, although sincerely doubt we will get (topic for another day)

Go on with your advice...

Dude!
I think it's a beautiful thing you have here, knowing she's faithful & stuff. Truth is I think you should take time to really know what you want first before knowing what you want from her.

I don't know I'm a sucker for your story to be honest, two broken hearts finding each other...she asking you out (wipes a tear -lol) but honestly bro, I need you to find yourself first so it doesn't all turn out to be a waste of...I don't know...everything!

Here's what you should do
Clear your head of the clutter, not what society expects, does or wants ...what do you want?

If you want this girl (think I read you say marriage somewhere) you're going to be head of the house. Now there's no voice from heaven with a white light and all that'll shine on your head after the wedding that'll automatically make you know how to head a home. You need to start making steps and being focused.

I hate to break it to you, she sounds smart at least from how you've described her and probably more matured than you're giving her credit for. Problem with smart girls? They need smart guys! Probably your assistance with her business opened a door for you with her but your 3rd leg is making you not want to be "reasonable" in other aspects hence the 'cock-blocking' aka pre intimacy only.

You need to look at the big picture dude, start with you really deciding what you really want.

That girl seems very focused stop assuming she's your everyday run of the mill child. Leave her body count history in the past where it belongs.

Between you and me? I'd say go for her, they don't come plenty like her, trust me.

You however have the bulk of the work to do, starting with - what do you really want?

Cheers bro!

I'm a guy but I must ask u dz....MUST YOU HAVE SEX WITH HER MUST YOU HAVE SEX AT ALL?OR UR LIFE DEPENDS ON SEX? CANT YOU DO WITHOUT IT?

refreshrate:
Dude!
I think it's a beautiful thing you have here, knowing she's faithful & stuff. Truth is I think you should take time to really know what you want first before knowing what you want from her.

I don't know I'm a sucker for your story to be honest, two broken hearts finding each other...she asking you out (wipes a tear -lol) but honestly bro, I need you to find yourself first so it doesn't all turn out to be a waste of...I don't know...everything!

Here's what you should do
Clear your head of the clutter, not what society expects, does or wants ...what do you want?

If you want this girl (think I read you say marriage somewhere) you're going to be head of the house. Now there's no voice from heaven with a white light and all that'll shine on your head after the wedding that'll automatically make you know how to head a home. You need to start making steps and being focused.

I hate to break it to you, she sounds smart at least from how you've described her and probably more matured than you're giving her credit for. Problem with smart girls? They need smart guys! Probably your assistance with her business opened a door for you with her but your 3rd leg is making you not want to be "reasonable" in other aspects hence the 'cock-blocking' aka pre intimacy only.

You need to look at the big picture dude, start with you really deciding what you really want.

That girl seems very focused stop assuming she's your everyday run of the mill child. Leave her body count history in the past where it belongs.

Between you and me? I'd say go for her, they don't come plenty like her, trust me.

You however have the bulk of the work to do, starting with - what do you really want?

Cheers bro!

Thanks alot bro. I think you've solved the puzzle. It's a little easier to see where the problem is coming from now. Sincerely I may have placed too much emphasis on the wrong thing. She's a beauty indeed, and like you rightly said... HER TYPE IS RARE. I guess I'll be more patient with her, and focus more on all the good things we have built together. Thanks a million! This means alot to me.

jidxin:
I'm a guy but I must ask u dz....MUST YOU HAVE SEX WITH HER MUST YOU HAVE SEX AT ALL?OR UR LIFE DEPENDS ON SEX? CANT YOU DO WITHOUT IT?

I know you mean well, but we're cool now. Thanks for stopping by anyways.

Darlx:
Thanks alot bro. I think you've solved the puzzle. It's a little easier to see where the problem is coming from now. Sincerely I may have placed too much emphasis on the wrong thing. She's a beauty indeed, and like you rightly said... HER TYPE IS RARE. I guess I'll be more patient with her, and focus more on all the good things we have built together. Thanks a million! This means alot to me.

*blushes*

This is great bro
Now don't forget to invite me on that day o.

God bless