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Re: Made A Simple Request To My Fiancé And He Made Me Feel Bad by fujirice: 11:37pm On Jan 27, 2017
DrogoG:
Should people not say anything because they've not heard from the other side? It's not everytime that you get to hear from the other side. If you personally knew the other party, then it's different because you can reach them.

She created this thread because she wanted advice from people. So people will give her advice according what she said.
So what kind of advice do you think you have given her by calling her man a fool?
To make or destroy them?
Re: Made A Simple Request To My Fiancé And He Made Me Feel Bad by Phobia1: 11:53pm On Jan 27, 2017
firstking01:
Still on still, i still think people who claim to love themselves shouldn't see it as a biggie shaving themselves...too many ego and pride problems in today's relationship, misef tire...the kitty you wag with your dick you can't shave itsad...honestly, if i were the girl i 'll start doubting your love for me and he go tay before you see that kitty.
And the kitty will keep stinking to her herself sef. you know how many kitty dey pursue guys dis days? kitty Don plenty pass dick sef. Abegi
Re: Made A Simple Request To My Fiancé And He Made Me Feel Bad by favouryemmy: 12:08am On Jan 28, 2017
kateskitty:
Ok so my fiancé and I are back together after much argument but I have since seen how what caused our problem was serious and decided to change my ways. However, we now have a new problem.
So I was reading this blog post by some marriage counselor and it was about something like things to do with your spouse before you get married to know just how strong your bond will be. And what caught my attention was about shaving, it said that couples should be comfortable with shaving each other.

So I asked my fiance if he could shave me "down there" and to my greatest surprise he said and I quote "you no get hand" huh
I always thought that my fiance was the one who loved more between the both of us, but I'm beginning to doubt that.
Now I'm not too bothered about him not wanting to shave me "down below" but he is now begin defensive, asking me why would I ask him to do something that disgusting and if he is a barber.
This got me pissed and we are no longer talking.
You shouldn't be seeing each others private parts till marriage. You may disagree, but that's the truth. I am married and sometimes, my wife and I shave each other down there. It's no big deal to me but some men hate it. It doesn't mean they don't love you though.
Re: Made A Simple Request To My Fiancé And He Made Me Feel Bad by smark61: 12:25am On Jan 28, 2017
kateskitty:
Ok so my fiancé and I are back together after much argument but I have since seen how what caused our problem was serious and decided to change my ways. However, we now have a new problem.
So I was reading this blog post by some marriage counselor and it was about something like things to do with your spouse before you get married to know just how strong your bond will be. And what caught my attention was about shaving, it said that couples should be comfortable with shaving each other.

So I asked my fiance if he could shave me "down there" and to my greatest surprise he said and I quote "you no get hand" huh
I always thought that my fiance was the one who loved more between the both of us, but I'm beginning to doubt that.
Now I'm not too bothered about him not wanting to shave me "down below" but he is now begin defensive, asking me why would I ask him to do something that disgusting and if he is a barber.
This got me pissed and we are no longer talking.
Now u guys are no longer talking, if u like use ur hand take push ur husband go give d next girl na u sabi. I av been following ur posts n u dey fnck up big time. Abi u think say dat ur X wen u dey call sweet names go reason u if u n ur fiancee break up. Him go just blip u till he ture again n move on. Better swallow ur pride n call ur bae. And pls block ur X on all ur social media act. I keep advising girls dey are u xes for a reason no need to keep in touch o. Wat are u keeping in touch for,una dey find rematch? U are in a new relationship n u keep draging ur xes along maka Y
Re: Made A Simple Request To My Fiancé And He Made Me Feel Bad by Nobody: 12:41am On Jan 28, 2017
WriteBoy:
I don't see how that was a simple request. I would turn it down because I wouldn't want to hurt you.

Shaving oneself is hard how much more another person. Before I shave my pubes, I go to extra lengths to prepare myself -- both mentally and physically. Mentally includes tricking my mind into believing it will be an enjoyable experience when I know the reverse is the case. Physically, I prepare my clipper, scissors, shaving stick, dusting powder, and soothing gel for my crotch when I am done. So you can see that it is not an easy nor simple task. I wouldn't do for it anyone because I don't know how sensitive their skin is.

Please try not to apply everything you read online to your life. I may be mistaken, but the woman advising you is probably from a Western culture where their men are open to trying a whole lot of things. You should factor in the wide gulf between our cultures to see if such advise is applicable to your situation.


You sound very petty -- this censure is not based on your whole personality which I do not know, but rather on the contents of this post. I know that as a woman you want grand romantic gestures in order to be assured of your man's love. But believe me, it is not about you alone. You must also learn to love him within the confines of what he defines as love.


That being said, have you shaved?
See wahala...
My dear,stop disturbing yourself...buy a shaving cream!!!
Re: Made A Simple Request To My Fiancé And He Made Me Feel Bad by SmartyPants(m): 1:12am On Jan 28, 2017
DrogoG:
Wow! That it didn't mention sex didn't mean it wasn't about sex! What do you think shaving your partner's private part mean if it has nothing to do with sex?

You're probably a kid who hasn't seen much of life. Having a great sexual relationship with your partner is one of the things that form a great bond. The more intimate the more bond.
You must have been a bright child.

The original article mentions it as something for couples to do to test their bond. Now the act itself may or may not lead to sex but that is secondary. The primary purpose is to see how comfortable a couple is with doing things together that would usually be considered extreme.

The poster herself seemed to suggest it to her fiance as a test of his love. Thats how some Nigerian girls think.
Re: Made A Simple Request To My Fiancé And He Made Me Feel Bad by Nobody: 1:16am On Jan 28, 2017
Mimi56:
See wahala...
My dear,stop disturbing yourself...buy a shaving cream!!!
I know you mean well but shaving creams are a no-no for me. Six years ago I attempted to shave using a hair removal cream, the thing legit burnt my skin. Wasn't an easy experience so I can't use those. I have to be very careful and go through my routine if not -- big trouble for me.
Re: Made A Simple Request To My Fiancé And He Made Me Feel Bad by DrogoG(m): 1:32am On Jan 28, 2017
fujirice:
So what kind of advice do you think you have given her by calling her man a fool?
To make or destroy them?
Truth hurts sometimes, I guess.
If you can't shave your woman's pubic hair and call it disgusting, then you don't love her. The guy doesn't love her!

A real man who doesn't want to do anything his woman requests, declines politely.
Re: Made A Simple Request To My Fiancé And He Made Me Feel Bad by donodion(m): 5:32am On Jan 28, 2017
T'S HARD TO MAKE A MAN HAPPY:
1. Love him
2. Hug him
3. Feed him
4. Sleep with him
5. Stay with him

HOW TO MAKE A WOMAN HAPPY:

It's really not too difficult but... To make a woman happy, a man only needs to be:
1. a friend
2. a companion
3. a lover
4. a brother
5. a father
6. a master
7. a chef
8. an electrician
9. a plumber
10. a mechanic
11. a carpenter
12. a decorator
13. a stylist
14. a sexologist
15. a gynecologist
16. a psychologist
17. a pest exterminator
18. a psychiatrist
19. a healer
20. a good listener
21. an organizer
22. a good father
23. very clean
24. sympathetic
25. athletic
26. warm
27. attentive
28. gallant
29. intelligent
30. funny
31. creative
32. tender
33. strong
34. understanding
35. tolerant
36. prudent
37. ambitious
38. capable
39. courageous
40. determined
41. true
42. dependable
43. passionate

WITHOUT FORGETTING TO:

44. give her compliments regularly
45. go shopping with her
46. be honest
47. be very rich
48. not stress her out
49. not look at other girls
AND AT THE SAME TIME, YOU MUST ALSO:
50. give her lots of attention
51. give her lots of time, especially time for herself
52. give her lots of space, never worrying about where she goes
BUT MOST OF ALL IT IS VERY IMPORTANT:
53. never forget
*birthdays
*anniversaries
*valentine
*arrangements she makes

EASY!
Re: Made A Simple Request To My Fiancé And He Made Me Feel Bad by firstking01(m): 6:43am On Jan 28, 2017
Phobia1:
And the kitty will keep stinking to her herself sef. you know how many kitty dey pursue guys dis days? kitty Don plenty pass dick sef. Abegi
Wrong! wrong!! wrong!!!...if you dnt shave it another guy can help you and you know what that means.
Re: Made A Simple Request To My Fiancé And He Made Me Feel Bad by Godfullsam(m): 7:23am On Jan 28, 2017
jonaifame22:
Since u've been on NL, u dnt even know that I'm a barber, contact me lemme shave it for u, so far it's the one down below, it's not his job! It's something I can do
Pls what is 'down below'?

Someone should education me because ayam not understanding.
Re: Made A Simple Request To My Fiancé And He Made Me Feel Bad by cejaypriesty(m): 8:12am On Jan 28, 2017
Smhart1:
So you are one of the ladies that follow those relationship ruining commandments?


The truth is .... You no get hand undecided undecided
Hahahaha, seriously you bad enh.
Re: Made A Simple Request To My Fiancé And He Made Me Feel Bad by wolu4: 8:25am On Jan 28, 2017
Snow5:
Not everything you read online is applicable to everyone..

That's why we have preferences.. Use ur brain!!

If he says no.. It's no!!

So cos he loves u.. If u ask him to eat ur pvssy and he says no automatically becomes "he doesn't loves you" syndrome?....


Warn yourself ooo
the man shouldn't be angry that she asked him to shave her. to me that is the easiest task for a guy to do.if she gets pregnant who will do it for her,he will definitely do it xcept he doesn't love her.But for the fact that he cannot do it when they are dating, he will never do it in marriage.
Re: Made A Simple Request To My Fiancé And He Made Me Feel Bad by K1famous: 8:58am On Jan 28, 2017
I think the way most Nigerian give responce to every question caused many havoc to home. L.e dear,have you eating: resp, you cook down for house,then you forced the woman to say did you drop any money while going out etc. Normally when people ask you for anything even if it is crazy or against your principle or faith give them explanation why you will or not do it. Stop answering question with question
Re: Made A Simple Request To My Fiancé And He Made Me Feel Bad by Smhart1(f): 9:35am On Jan 28, 2017
cejaypriesty:
Hahahaha, seriously you bad enh.
smiles, most times i wonder what goes through our mind when we say so things aloud
Re: Made A Simple Request To My Fiancé And He Made Me Feel Bad by fujirice: 9:52am On Jan 28, 2017
DrogoG:
Truth hurts sometimes, I guess.
If you can't shave your woman's pubic hair and call it disgusting, then you don't love her. The guy doesn't love her!

A real man who doesn't want to do anything his woman requests, declines politely.
Brother, like I've said earlier, everybody will not be like you. However way the dude in question decides to turn down his woman's request is totally his thing. You are in no position to say he doesn't love her because of one incident.
Love is NOT all bed of roses. If your own love only focus on positives, then I must say, that one no be love at all.
Re: Made A Simple Request To My Fiancé And He Made Me Feel Bad by Blitz888(m): 10:13am On Jan 28, 2017
kateskitty:
We not talking doesn't mean we are broken up tongue
I know I lack wisdom that's why I've come to you for advice tongue
It smacks of immaturity to let things as ephemeral and flimsy as this get in the way of a beautifully working rship... Rship is work and when marriage is in sight it becomes even harder. You must consciously commit to making all the necessary sacrifice to making it a great one. Your man might not be the overly romantic type (esp in the way most Ladies understand romance) but you will agree with me that he has other fine attributes that defines his uniqueness... So get down from your high horse and go get your man. You might inadvertently be pushing him into the waiting arms of another and vice versa.. Be the first to make the move at reconciliation and I trust that you'll be glad you did..
Somethings are beyond love/emotion... The simple deployment of tact and good judgment will do the magic. #peace
Re: Made A Simple Request To My Fiancé And He Made Me Feel Bad by Snow5(m): 10:45am On Jan 28, 2017
wolu4:
the man shouldn't be angry that she asked him to shave her. to me that is the easiest task for a guy to do.if she gets pregnant who will do it for her,he will definitely do it xcept he doesn't love her.But for the fact that he cannot do it when they are dating, he will never do it in marriage.
Imagine this scenario...

I came back from work..

And boom!! U just asked that irritating question like..

"honey can u shave my private parts"?..

I will slap you and u will somersault into your village where your parents brought u up..

Cos I ain't in the mood... And there is always a set tone for every question that suits the air/atmosphere..

Imagine this now..

They where doing the koko.. Got very hot and intense emotional... Kissing and smooching... And fell on the bed and was still smooching and kissing...still in the mood..

She den asked.. Honey can u shave me? The man go halla yes MA... I will even shave ur armpit.. Lols...
Just cos he is the mood and he can even do it immediately... Cos dey in the mood..

It all depends on how u present your matter before the king that lends you listening ears..

Get it?
Re: Made A Simple Request To My Fiancé And He Made Me Feel Bad by realprof(m): 10:50am On Jan 28, 2017
u get luck he answered u. if z me I won't bother talking to u sef
Re: Made A Simple Request To My Fiancé And He Made Me Feel Bad by Nobody: 1:05pm On Jan 28, 2017
WriteBoy:
I know you mean well but shaving creams are a no-no for me. Six years ago I attempted to shave using a hair removal cream, the thing legit burnt my skin. Wasn't an easy experience so I can't use those. I have to be very careful and go through my routine if not -- big trouble for me.
Thank God you didn't misunderstand!!!
Your skin is super sensitive....
Honey shaving creams are prepared for different skin types.
When you buying...purchase one that's bin prepared for your sensitive skin,it saves you the stress of sitting in front of mirrors with shaving stick wahala... muuah!
Re: Made A Simple Request To My Fiancé And He Made Me Feel Bad by Nobody: 8:08pm On Jan 28, 2017
Mimi56 cool
Re: Made A Simple Request To My Fiancé And He Made Me Feel Bad by davidif: 8:50pm On Jan 28, 2017
firstking01:
Still on still, i still think people who claim to love themselves shouldn't see it as a biggie shaving themselves...too many ego and pride problems in today's relationship, misef tire...the kitty you wag with your dick you can't shave itsad...honestly, if i were the girl i 'll start doubting your love for me and he go tay before you see that kitty.

Re: Made A Simple Request To My Fiancé And He Made Me Feel Bad by ajerimitan: 9:09pm On Jan 28, 2017
One man's food is another's poison. *SLAVE HUSBAND*
Wants to be treated like a King but treats Wife like a Slave. Likes wife to perform old tradition respect and hates being called by their first name. Most men can be very selfish but the lady should have laid the example by doing exactly what she will like done to her
Re: Made A Simple Request To My Fiancé And He Made Me Feel Bad by Nobody: 10:14am On Jan 29, 2017
truthsayer007:
Mimi56 cool
Eeeyh!!!
Re: Made A Simple Request To My Fiancé And He Made Me Feel Bad by Nobody: 3:00pm On Jan 29, 2017
Mimi56:
Eeeyh!!!
Hiya! , I was just checking u out, u seem very pretty & unnoticed.
Re: Made A Simple Request To My Fiancé And He Made Me Feel Bad by Nobody: 2:00pm On Jan 30, 2017
truthsayer007:
Hiya! , I was just checking u out, u seem very pretty & unnoticed.
Unnoticed, because I mind my business.
Re: Made A Simple Request To My Fiancé And He Made Me Feel Bad by Nobody: 2:23pm On Jan 30, 2017
Mimi56:
Unnoticed, because I mind my business.
Yea. looks that way.
Re: Made A Simple Request To My Fiancé And He Made Me Feel Bad by Phobia1: 9:55pm On Jan 30, 2017
firstking01:
Wrong! wrong!! wrong!!!...if you dnt shave it another guy can help you and you know what that means.
Then she should take it to the other guy(s) na.
Re: Made A Simple Request To My Fiancé And He Made Me Feel Bad by Turktman05(m): 12:03pm On Feb 16, 2017
You are confused and you seem troubled. Stop displaying your relationship flaws online. Grow up ma
Re: Made A Simple Request To My Fiancé And He Made Me Feel Bad by Fvcknames: 12:23pm On Sep 06, 2017
undecidedDa f*ck,you believed he loved you,then when you saw some bvllshit online that he couldn't do,you are doubting his love.It seems you are one of those peeps who believe everything they see on them whatsapp messages
Re: Made A Simple Request To My Fiancé And He Made Me Feel Bad by vuc1(m): 1:24pm On Sep 06, 2017
Your fiancé is a real man because real men know how to say No and mean it. You on the other hand is yet to become fully grown woman because when you do you will understand how to accept a No for an answer from your husband. You have to drop that mentally now because you're gonna feel more disappointed in the future if you don't. Though I see nothing wrong for the man to do that but let him do it willingly and not when you want him to.Let the man be the man.
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