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TheSlyone2:
When you are serious about wanting a lasting relationship, build your connection through going on dates and allow the man to pursue you before you jump into bed with him.

Men are always going to want sex. It’s the first thing they think of when they see a beautiful woman.

Sure, sex can lead to a relationship, I’m not saying otherwise. But when a man has sex with a woman without a bond, he genuinely doesn’t know if he’s interested in pursuing things further.

Having sex with him today is no guarantee he will want you tomorrow. “If you give men what they want, they don’t realize they need you.” Yes, when a guy comes on to you, it’s flattering. It’s only natural that you’d like to make him happy by hopping into bed and making all his wildest dreams come true. I’m sure it would make you happy too.

if you want to imprint yourself on his heart so that he cannot forget you and he cannot live
without you, then don’t jump into the sack before the bond is forged.

FreeSpirited:
This kind of question is outdated......

axeman2:
VERY CHEAP SUCH GIRL IS ASHAWO.

pizzylee:
no it doesn't mean she z cheap but I still wud not advice any girl to do DT. anoda phase of d que is....a guy DT have sex on d first day,doesn't DT mean DT z all he is after?

Olasco93:
Why should a Girl allow s3x on the first day/date/visit. Allowing it shows she has low self-esteem and she also lack self-control. It's never right, no matter the Pressure, except the pervert rape her...

firstking01:
And it's "english and not "englih"

refiner:
Nah...whether u have sex on the first day or last day,it's still the same thing...

TheSlyone2:
I know you ll find a way to justify your point.

My own take, except if the gurl in question sees the guy as an alpha male and she wouldn't want to let a chance of proving her love for him slip.

That in a way, but sex isn't the only tool seal a relationship, there are other measures

refiner:
With u?...nah!

TheSlyone2:
Not necessarily referring to one night stand.

Assume a gurl who happens to be living in the same neighborhood with a guy she admires most. Years after years, her crush for him grow stronger but being a female, she couldn't take the bull by the horn.

One Faithful day, her star came to limelight as this guy noticed her and make advances towards her. She has being expecting for years, so she had no choice but to jump on the high horse and ride with him.
They went for a date and things get tensed. Before she could say phew, they were making love.

My question is, though such action could be justified due to their friendship for years, Aren't there other ways she could play her games without giving him the cookies?

Alhkerimu:
Outdatde how ?
If you dont have anything to say you park well

makydebbie:
Sure there are other ways, maybe the guy noticed her attraction to him and decided to act on it or maybe there is a chemistry there.

So you'll call her cheap because of that?

ashewoboy:
must it be with me? perhaps with you and that guy that you like derailing threads together.

TheSlyone2:
No. I wouldn't call her cheap.

You know dee, I get your point. Being too close with the guy could lead her to sleeping with him. It is justified but like you said earlier, there are other deals.

The essence of her sleeping with him is to cement her love for him.
The question of course is, the gurl, would she be treated well after the sex escapade.

If after the escapade, both of them are still strongly in love, then her decision to sleep with him is justified. But if otherwise, then someone is been fooled.

FreeSpirited:
When pussy is cheap everywhere u still ask this kind of question old age question

TheSlyone2:
No. I wouldn't call her cheap.

You know dee, I get your point. Being too close with the guy could lead her to sleeping with him. It is justified but like you said earlier, there are other deals.

The essence of her sleeping with him is to cement her love for him.
The question of course is, the gurl, would she be treated well after the sex escapade.

If after the escapade, both of them are still strongly in love, then her decision to sleep with him is justified. But if otherwise, then someone is been fooled.

makydebbie:
It all depends on the guy's maturity

Alhkerimu:
E be like said You don de fear oooo

Olasco93:
Why should a Girl allow s3x on the first day/date/visit. Allowing it shows she has low self-esteem and she also lack self-control. It's never right, no matter the Pressure, except the pervert rape her...

makydebbie:
It all depends on the guy's maturity

ashewoboy:
i dey fear to fvck refiner toto or what? nah. refiner toto go yellow gan. i nor mind to taste am, if she go allow.


refiner, let's pick a date. since you don't mind sex on a first date.

eyinjuege:
Or maybe she also just wants to simply have sex? Just as basic as that.
Nothing stops her from even initiating the move, and unless the guy has self control would equally become konjified , even if he didn't want to get down initially.

The same way konji is worrying the guy, might just be the same way its disturbing her.
The way the guy is giving her sex is same way as she's giving him, and they're both receiving it happily.

So for anyone to now feel self righteous between them shows such a person is a hypocrite.

The same measure used to judge her will be used for him.

makydebbie:
It all depends on the guy's maturity

TheSlyone2:
Dee Dee.

Maturity in this case isn't exactly the determining factor to stay put after tasting the cookie.

One thing about men is their adventurous mind. After having a sip of a particular drink, Human mind will always want to taste another. That's just a natural law that governs men.

If perhaps, the guy in question is God fearing and has some sort of respect for the lady, after the fling, they will grow even stronger.

jakandeola:
pls u know if jamb is out

makydebbie:
No idea, you can check goggle tho

makydebbie:
God! I hate arguing when I'm hungry. When I say maturity, there are guys who just chop and move on(fückboys, guys with dead brain cells)

If that's who the girl was attracted to, then sorry is her name.

But guys that respects ladies will let her know the truth, if there is hope for them or they should take it as a fling. Hope you get me sha

@bold if the guy really loves her, he'll stay put.

Alhkerimu:
Outdatde how ?
If you dont have anything to say you park well

Alhkerimu:
A guy will value & respect a ladies that stress him alot b4 open door for him than a lady who open door for him @ first knock.(night)

TheSlyone2:
Yea, Gotya

makydebbie:
Nice chatting with you, goodnight

Alhkerimu:
I don't agree with you on this. Which konji