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I promised myself never to post this here since she is an avid nairaland guest and probably might see this but i dont care anymore.

Met this chic after i came out from one lousy relationship. She is the best girl i have dated. She gave me peace of mind and i had no reason to doubt her.

Being a guy in my very early 30's,i was thinking of making the next step with this chic when issues crept in. Issues i never knew could lead to us calling it a day.

We are both igbo's. She is nnewi and i am mbaise. Her folks told her bluntly -- we dont marry from there. Alright deep in my mind i was expecting that.it is no hidden knowledge that a lot of imo state and anambra marriages are filled with initial problems.

But the one that baffled me was bae telling me she wanted to remain a catholic. I am an anglican. I told her nope. If ur getting hitched with me be ready to go the long haul with me. She refused. She is a devoted catholic girl and she can carry church matter on her head like gala. From CYON to Legion of mary. I noticed she was even making subtle moves to drag me to the catholic church by inviting me to one event or the other

But is it not the same God? Or is there any other thing they do in catholic church? To me sha,a woman should worship where her man worships. Is that wrong?
So i am forced to ask nairalanders here, can you leave a blossoming relationship because of the church your partner attends? Am not talking about white garment and fetish churches. I mean a real church


Anyway i am single again. We broke up last friday night when she didnt want to change her mind.

You don't want to change your mind, she doesn't want to change hers.

You should know that...the both of you were never inlove.

Religion crase in this country...

Benita27:
You don't want to change your mind, she doesn't want to change hers.

You should know that...the both of you were never inlove.

A woman has no church till she is married

And we were in love.

She is just too catholic than the pope

hahaha.... Guy you funny!

I had more fun reading this post than I care to give an opinion.

Gosh.....people & their priorities.

Anyway, good luck to you.

ThatIgboBoy:
A woman has no church till she is married

And we were in love.

She is just too catholic than the pope

You weren't..one of you would have given up his/her creed to be with the other, whether Anglican or catholic you still practice christianity.

Husbands give up their church to attend their wife's and vice versa.

Xiadnat:
hahaha.... Guy you funny!

I had more fun reading this post than I care to give an opinion.

Gosh.....people & their priorities.

Anyway, good luck to you.

Talk jare

@op u're on ur own...

Benita27:
You weren't..one of you would have given up his/her creed to be with the other, whether Anglican or catholic you still practice christianity.

Husbands give up their church to attend their wife's and vice versa.

if it is the love aspect i dont have to prove or defend that to u.

But when it comes to beliefs,some people hold their beliefs too strongly and wont trade it for anything.

I am the typical african/igbo dude who believe a woman should be where her partner is while she is one who holds stongly to her belief because she wants her kids baptized in the catholic church.

So keep the u were not in love bla bla bla aside bae

ThatIgboBoy:
if it is the love aspect i dont have to prove or defend that to u.

But when it comes to beliefs,some people hold their beliefs too strongly and wont trade it for anything.

I am the typical african/igbo dude who believe a woman should be where her partner is while she is one who holds stongly to her belief because she wants her kids baptized in the catholic church.

So keep the u were not in love bla bla bla aside bae

"love conquers all" boo!.

no....wen love is involved

Oga leave all dis catholic girls with there whala that is hw i ended a relationship like oh.
I advice u get some1 frm yr church or try other branchs of yr church

Benita27:
"love conquers all" boo!.

People love with their head nowadays and not their heart

Everyone is looking out for their interests

ojun50:
Oga leave all dis catholic girls with there whala that is hw i ended a relationship like oh.
I advice u get some1 frm yr church or try other branchs of yr church

Someone who understands my plight here has spoken

joliyp:
no....wen love is involved

Love is not enough in certain situations

ThatIgboBoy:
Someone who understands my plight here has spoken

all dis imo girls u jst hv to leave them for there rev father

Church Denomination should not be a barrier to a relationship,both of you should worship at your various churches. Y should it be a problem?

Amarabae:
Church Denomination should not be a barrier to a relationship,both of you should worship at your various churches. Y should it be a problem?

Isnt that a form of division in the family?

ThatIgboBoy:
Someone who understands my plight here has spoken

Sorry sir but i feel you didn't create this thread to get advice but you just need someone to confirm that you did the right thing.
Bros if you love her you don't have to force her . Where you worship or your religion doesn't justify who you are.
Good girls are hard to find.
Thank you sir

ThatIgboBoy:
Isnt that a form of division in the family?

no.it should not be.
Allow her to be in her catholic faith if u love her, thats her want. Love Tolerates.

I think she is using the church denomiation thing as an excuse, cause I have never heard a girl give such an excuse. though i am not certain but for me I would sa she is just seeking an easy way out because of the warnings her parents had given her based on the first problem you talked about

DonHummer:
I think she is using the church denomiation thing as an excuse, cause I have never heard a girl give such an excuse. though i am not certain but for me I would sa she is just seeking an easy way out because of the warnings her parents had given her based on the first problem you talked about

Might be true

The church issue have been there all the while but on a low key. But it just reaared its head up more the moment sshe told me her folks were against the relationship.
But the funny thing was she was still fronting. Claiming she is the one in the relationship and not her folks. Then outta nowhere,booom. I want my kids baptized in the catholic church and i wanna remain one for life. And she knows i wont shift ground

sarahade:
Sorry sir but i feel you didn't create this thread to get advice but you just need someone to confirm that you did the right thing.
Bros if you love her you don't have to force her . Where you worship or your religion doesn't justify who you are.
Good girls are hard to find.
Thank you sir

Nice summation.

Thanks for the advice

I am an Anglican, and any lady marrying me must be ready to become one or we part ways.
A woman should not dictate.
Also, I believe that if a woman wants to be with you, she will willingly follow you to your church. Any woman using church as an excuse was never really into you.

234GT:
I am an Anglican, and any lady marrying me must be ready to become one or we part ways.
A woman should not dictate.
Also, I believe that if a woman wants to be with you, she will willingly follow you to your church. Any woman using church as an excuse was never really into you.

A babe that made sure i met almost all her family members. Her sisters are my close friends and when they asked me where i was taking their sister to ystday and i told them what happened btw me and their sister,they were shocked.

She holds catholic beliefs too dearly. That is her probs

ThatIgboBoy:
A babe that made sure i met almost all her family members. Her sisters are my close friends and when they asked me where i was taking their sister to ystday and i told them what happened btw me and their sister,they were shocked.

She holds catholic beliefs too dearly. That is her probs

It doesn't matter Sir. My ex did more than that, but when she was planning to end the relationship, she started bringing up funny issues. One of them is that after marriage, I must start attending RCCG, so I knew she was no longer interested.
Any girl who wants to be with you will. Leave her church to be with you. That's why young girls leave orthodox churches for pentecostal churches in search of husbands.

ThatIgboBoy:
A woman has no church till she is married

And we were in love.

She is just too catholic than the pope

A woman is not a robot. She has a mind, her own belief system, and she's allowed to.

A woman does have her own faith. She is catholic, and her faith means more to her than a marriage to you.

The same way you cannot change from being anglican to catholic.

Respect that and move on.

Go and find your own wife elsewhere.

eyinjuege:
A woman is not a robot. She has a mind, her own belief system, and she's allowed to.

A woman does have her own faith. She is catholic, and her faith means more to her than a marriage to you.

The same way you cannot change from being anglican to catholic.

Respect that and move on.

Go and find your own wife elsewhere.

Oboi no be fight

Go sleep abeg

ThatIgboBoy:
Oboi no be fight

Go sleep abeg

Fight ke?

Sorry, I didn't write what you wanted to hear.

Its always difficult for catholics to leave their church, especially the staunch ones. But it is more difficult especially for me to leave catholic for a Pentecostal church, I'm not into this pastor stuffs.



But I can't leave a guy I love because of church but like I said, it is difficult.

Hahaha yay yah the irony. You just made it look like white garment churches are not Christians or their church isn't good enough. Well the same goes to u she can't marry an Anglican deal with it