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This particular Babe has the key to my apartment. She uses everything in my house when am not around. She was even sleeping in my house, eat my food.
At a point, Babe was wearing my Polo, my watch for outing.
Recently, she called me and ask that she want to put on my gen when I wasn't around. I said no.
The next day, she didn't talk to me.
One day, we met on the road, she was carrying bag. There, she told me she is packing out of the compound.
A Babe that is closed to me, left the compound without informing me

At a point in my compound, there was murmuring cos the compound gen spoilt. The caretakers weren't serious
I stepped in, rented out some of the apartments, bought a new compound gen, fix some of the lodges and gave the landlady the remaining cash. A month later, the sumo spoilt and the murmuring return.
I wasnt feeling it cos am not always at home. I bought the sumo for them, use my money and fix it. Asked the landlady to use it as my rent even though my rent was far from expiring.
December last year, it expired. This woman couldn't allow me to rest. Finally paid her.
After school last year, I moved to town and hardly come home. I came home one day after I have paid her, and I was told she sent someone to come lock up my apartment

stephano008:
At a point in my compound, there was murmuring cos the compound gen spoilt. The caretakers weren't serious
I stepped in, rented out some of the apartments, bought a new compound gen, fix some of the lodges and gave the landlady the remaining cash. A month later, the sumo spoilt and the murmuring return.
I wasnt feeling it cos am not always at home. I bought the sumo for them, use my money and fix it. Asked the landlady to use it as my rent even though my rent was far from expiring.
December last year, it expired. This woman couldn't allow me to rest. Finally paid her.
After school last year, I moved to town and hardly come home. I came home one day after I have paid her, and I was told she sent someone to come lock up my apartment

Oga OP.
How come all these things are just happening to only you?

Benita27:
The act of ungratefulness isn't tied to a particular gender but both. Don't tell me you don't have a male friend who has at some point forgotten your kind gestures towards him.

It is something common with females, they believe being a girl should attract favor once they are in need and don't necessarily have to show gratitude

Even our so called gfs and wives once u don't give them one time they forget all the times you ve been giving them and start misbehaving towards you.

stephano008:
Was in a cab today and the passengers were arguing seriously. They were of the motion that Instead of helping a girl, help a guy. That ladies forget good things once it stop coming. The only lady in our midst was against it
I have heard many insinuations like that.
But, they may not be far from the truth.
I will tell why.

2014, I met a lady on Facebook. A graduate looking for job. We became friends. I do give her some cash for her cream and hair (Na dat one dey be ha problem). Finally spoke with a church member on her behave. She got a job in NNPC. Salary 150k for a start. After some time, I no see her call again. The last time way she call me, she asked me to help her get the price of DSTV( Messenger)
Last year January, I was in a cab heading to Choba. I saw a girl walking by the road side. I perceived she was heading to Choba so I asked her to join me. While in the cab, I sensed she was ill. I took her to a pharmacy and got drugs for her. She said she is hungry. I took her to a restaurant and bought food for her, they brought her sachet water, but she boldly told me that she doesn't drink sachet but bottle water . Just Negodu.
Finally, we exchange contact. I boarded a cab that took her home.
Later in the evening, I called her to know how she was feeling, she asked me, Pls who is this, I explained myself. The next day I did call again. She never called until a month. We jammed at Choba and she was like she lost my no. I gave her contact. One hour later she called, asked me to Pls call ha back. I did and guess what, she asked me for Airtime. I told her am not sending any airtime , I ended up the call. That was the end till September last year, I saw her discussing with a friend. Her friend greeted me, but she looked away.

Due to my engagement, I hardly sleep in my apartment at night during school session . So, I have given accommodation to some freshers.
The guys tend to keep in touch, but the ladies, I will only see their calls when they need something from me.

Last two years post UME, I was with a friend around ULH, a Babe approached us with a guy and asked us to help hold their bags. (fear catch me). The guy is always loyal when we get to see, but the Babe, I swear, she don forget me.

I can go on and on to recount.

I think the problem is most ladies demand too much from guys and whatever they get is not always enough for them. Most girls get close to guys cos of what they will gain from them , once your goodies stop gravitating towards them, they are off.

Now, here lies the bigger problem. Guys have discovered this attitude from ladies, that's why you see most guys bent on bedding a lady after lending a hand cos they feel that's where lies their rewards. Even person way buy woman pure water go wan bed am. ( Too bad).

Am not saying you become friend to everyone that show kindness to you. Friendship is a choice, not an obligation. But appreciation is a necessity . It shows how humble and glad you are to be helped. Mind you, there are thousands out there with your same kind of problem. But God chose to favor you. Even God gets angry when we don't appreciate him, not to talk of humans.

We can change a whole lot of things if we change our attitude. Giving is an act, showing love is a commandment. Rewards come from God. But appreciation is a virtue. Learn to show appreciation towards an act of kindness. It takes nothing from you, rather, it gets you more kind deeds and favor.

To the guys, your reward is from God not on the bed. Thank you

OP I CAN RELATE TO THIS, at the bold part.. you will hear a lady make a statement like, '' sorry please what have you done for me, please mention them'' forgetting the fact that when they needed what they asked for you came to their aid but after getting it, it turn out to be something little or o no importance..

a friend once said to me, ladies are like birds they only come to you when you have food on your palm but after eating they fly away until when next you do have food on your palm to give.

that's why of late i don't n will never do anything to impress any lady, i only do things because my conscience asked me to and i take my mind of it without expecting anything what so ever in return..if i notice you are the type that forget the aid rendered to you then i will never be of aid to you again.

I don't forget easily, I remember every detail of what happened in my life, unless I purposely don't want to remember it.

Alondra:
The question is : For how long do you think you should be appreciated? Gratefulness isn't a gender thing and its longevity is relative too. Some can feel appreciative for a long period of time while some can't. Not that Ladies forget good deeds but when a lady remains appreciative for too long , it is possible for misconceptions to occur. Some ladies have been misjudged, misunderstood and named for this. Some think such lady has seen a nice pooh to perch on .



Do you help to Gain?. Only a Man who wants something in return of his favour will expect either friendship or thanksgiving calls from the lady he helped. Whatever happens to thank you, a call or two and everything ends there.

Help without expectations

you getting it twisted, take for instance you helped a lady more than twice no matter how little but when ever she calls you try your best just to make sure you were able to be of help but you noticed she only calls when she need your aid and when you confront her with it she makes this statement ''please mention the things you have done for me''...what do you call that?, i tell you such persons even if you build a house for them they will still ask you that ? cus there mindset is that, you are meant to do those stuff and even more for them.

imagine girls trying to defend themselves when d op is right...pls girls leave dis thread..