eezeribe:


You have to end that relationship now it is still early... Otherwise,the heartbreak you will receive after her graduation is still doing press up.
Just try to make her pay for all the expenses and stress she has caused you.
How will a girl you are paying school fees for,keep malice with you for four months and you still foolishly apologized...
Are you sure she didn't jazz you??
Anyway try and make her pay back before you break up...
Even if it means penetrating by force.

I have tried that...except I will rape her. She does not even come close to me these days. No need to do that.

rebirthforgoody:




Check yourself very well..

Psss...face Blacklister who you are fighting. I just don't want fight in this thread. Or you go chop cane.

Silly things we do for love, but tours is getting to much better bounce before u regret it.

hotwax:


Psss...face Blacklister who you are fighting. I just don't want fight in this thread. Or you go chop cane.

I see I don't have your time mr blacklister

rebirthforgoody:








I see I don't have your time mr blacklister

Egbami ke...another person's fight don turn my own.

I am only stopping you and blacklister from fighting here. Wetin be my own...If you wan fight, abeg fight...I go even give u broken bottles sef.

I know the Best song the Babe will be singing when with you is "My Helper o, My Helper...! Stop investing in a ponzi scheme.... To avoid the story that touch.

[quote author=hotwax post=54132134]I am dating this girl I met 2 years ago. I have been taking care of her (at least to the best of my ability) ever since she lost her mother. Her father could not take care of her because he is not financially buoyant to take care of 6 children at a time. Apart from taking care of her upkeeps, I also helped her gain admission into a university recently.

At this stage, the burden of her school fees and expenses is on my neck.

To the real issue. I have never touched her. We agreed that our relationship will be without sex. I visited her at school last month. We played and both got carried away. I got her naked. And, at the point of penetration, I noticed she is water tight down there. She stopped me, she said she intentionally allowed me to attempt the penetration so that I would see she is a virgin myself. She said she did not want to tell me but wanted me to confirm on my own. I was still hot in the mood, I attempted to penetrate anyways, but she resisted and started struggling with me. I thought as a gentleman if a woman says No, you should respect her wishes so it won't turn to a rape case. I left her.

Although I attempted to try again but she resisted.

The issue now is.

1. She had a boyfriend and they are still chatting on whatsap. She claimed he left her because he could not take care of some of her needs. But they still chat and call every now and then. I have challenged her on many occasions, she will just say they are just friends, nothing will make her date him again.

2. I don't know if I am wrong, I always think the only way she can be mine is if I bed her. Also, I am about spending big on her. Her school expenses alone is enough to buy a Tokunbo car. What if she does the girl thing, is that how all my effort will be a waste?

FYI: I am bent on marrying her although she keeps saying she can only talk marriage after her NYSC. She even get angry anytime I talk about marriage (Im not rushing for marriage. I just need assurance of marriage). I remember one day when I even got angry and said "This whole relationship is on your own terms. You see yourself as the center of the relationship. You dictate everything even though I carry all the pains" I later apologized for speaking in such manner.

3. Anytime we quarrel, I will be the one to apologize. If I don't call her, she won't call for eternity. The last quarrel lasted 4 months before I later call her as usual. She never apologize.

All these are making me to rethink. Thats why I keep asking her for sex. Hope I am not investing in ponzi scheme.

What do you think?

Am I fair to ask for sex?

Am I fair to her?

Are these so-called virgins actually worth the stress?

Please I need your

No u are not fair o, you need to do more. After paying her school fees please dont forget to add her accommodation money and feeding allowance as well. Dont forget to always send her recharge card so she doesnt run out of airtime, may God bless you for been a cheerful giver.

Enahi:
No u are not fair o, you need to do more. After paying her school fees please dont forget to add her accommodation money and feeding allowance as well. Dont forget to always send her recharge card so she doesnt run out of airtime, may God bless you for been a cheerful giver.

I will thanks.

hotwax:


I will thanks.

Don't mind that guy, call off the relationship. No one sided relationship can survive

Leave the girl alone. It's obvious she doesn't care about you. I hate it when some men can't just control their feelings. That's weak. She actually knows you care so much about her and she's taking you for granted because of that. Most of these girls aren't loyal nowadays. I've had alot of experiences with Nigerian girls, you have to be smart with them not loving them. They just love to reap where they don't sow. Help your relatives and good friends like someone suggested. Be smart! This is 2017.

hotwax:


I will thanks.

Op please leave that girl alone!!! let her use her virginity to pound yam... I feel she's using you, move on is my advise and try your best not to pay her fees

Oyind17:
Don't mind that guy, call off the relationship. No one sided relationship can survive

i am not a guy ma, i am a lady like you. Why are u asking him not to mind me haba i was only trying to encourage him for been a good Samaritan

That girl is smart,she is using you to get what she wants. If she really loves you,marriage talks wont make her angry and irritated. You are investing on the wrong girl. Besides you are spending too much on her

I'm a woman and am telling u that that girl is using you, in short, you are her maga. Girls that love marriage talk and this one is getting angry when you talk about marriage. its not like she is from a well to do family.


You av been magarize, run before it's too late.


cc hotwax.

hotwax:


Yes I know I am Suegbe for her. I love her so much and I can go any mile to make her happy. Thats what love can do to a man.

However, her body language is making me think I am being played.

My broda the moment you realize that this life we are living is a game the beta for u
Do not end your relationship. Get a lawyer, have her hand you the previous receipts for every dime spent on her prior her education then in the presence of some witness preferrably a lawyer and the parents, enter a truce stating your intention to continue footing her bills on the intention of getting back your money when she establishes her career with added interest or ultimately marriage.
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Even if you dont intend doing the above threaten her with it and watch everything go your way.

Dannidom:
My broda the moment you realize that this life we are living is a game the beta for u
Do not end your relationship. Get a lawyer, have her hand you the previous receipts for every dime spent on her prior her education then in the presence of some witness preferrably a lawyer and the parents, enter a truce stating your intention to continue footing her bills on the intention of getting back your money when she establishes her career with added interest or ultimately marriage.
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Even if you dont intend doing the above threaten her with it and watch everything go your way.

I guess the best way is to let her go. Although she is still disturbing me for her school fees. I don't want to force her into marriage.
I have started declining her requests already. That should do.

hotwax:


I guess the best way is to let her go. Although she is still disturbing me for her school fees. I don't want to force her into marriage.
I have started declining her requests already. That should do.

You wana let al your monies go like that without getting anything back.
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Well! What is my business

hotwax:


I guess the best way is to let her go. Although she is still disturbing me for her school fees. I don't want to force her into marriage.
I have started declining her requests already. That should do.

You better change your number now or else she will coerce and use sweet words and u will fall for again.

Enahi:
i am not a guy ma, i am a lady like you. Why are u asking him not to mind me haba i was only trying to encourage him for been a good Samaritan

Enahi:


You better change your number now or else she will coerce and use sweet words and u will fall for again.

Her Juju no go work again

Dannidom:
You wana let al your monies go like that without getting anything back.
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Well! What is my business

Its a bad investment...I will leave with the loss

one chance ... 70% loading

ToriBlue:
I'm a woman and am telling u that that girl is using you, inhort, you are her maga. Girls that love marriage talk and this one is getting angry when you talk about marriage. its not like she is from a well to do family.


You av been magarize, rum before it's too late.


cc hotwax.

Thanks.

hotwax:


I guess the best way is to let her go. Although she is still disturbing me for her school fees. I don't want to force her into marriage.
I have started declining her requests already. That should do.

Just let her go, even if she comes begging, let her look for someone else to foot her bills, don't even sleep with her if she offers her virginity else you will be tied down to her apron strings for life and only postponing the "doomsday". Even if she says she will marry you after everything, don't believe her. If she can leave the guy she claims she loved because he can't foot her bills, she will leave you and look for a bigger fish. Her actions has already shown she doesn't love you.

Brother, I feel your pain... Am a lady and I hate when my fellow lady play smart on good guys.
First and formost, there is nothing wrong sponsoring a girl you want to marry in the future because you love her and you feel she needs to be educated..
But then, not all ladies deserves such assistance...
Some are ingrate must especially someone like your girl who is in control of you...
The truth is that girl does not love you. She just want to put up with you to achieve her BSC, simply because she knows you are calm and good to her. She is overriding you because she knows that you loves her.
Lemme be factual with you, a girl that loves you so much cannot stay worst of it two days without hearing from you. A girl that values you will always find means to make the relationship work out.
It is even possible the girl is not a virgin or might loose it to someone else....
Lastly, if all you have written is pure truth, then rejoice for you are all fair to her but also have it in your mind that you are wasting your time with her..
Ponzi self is better.. Be wise!!!

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I think she ain't worth it...not because she won't let you penetrate her,but because she obviously possess no respect for you and how you feel..


I mean what girl goes 4 good months without calling someone she cares about?

@ the end of the day,I think she's gonna go back to the ex bf after you've sponsored her education throughout.

Break up with her & cut all medium of communication.

Eku charity work

She does not love you as you think. If she did she'd not disrespect like that.

rebirthforgoody:
To me her actions shows she is not interested in you but your Money.just ask her if she is really in love with you if yes give her your rules and regulations.from there you know what to do okay...

life he asks her, she might say yes because of the financial aspect.
he is already seeing the handwriting on the wall

Bro I will advise us to run for ur dear life cos that schemer is not ur gf or wife to be. She s only taking advantage of u financially and will probably dump u wen u ve invested on her.any gf that won't call or apologies is not worth the risk. She s definitely using u.

hotwax:


I don't care if she dishes it out to all guys on the street, I just want to have a taste before I become presidents of Friendzoned mofos of Nigeria. So if she leaves me or dishes it out, I will know I have satisfied myself.

Thats my thinking tho. Thanks for your opinion.

you are indirectly contradicting yourself.

1) You said u want to marry her

2)now you are saying you don't care if she dishes it out to all guys on the street, you just want to have a taste of her

3) which man in his right sense would like it if the lady he wants to marry sleeps with some other guy

my conclusion; You are just after her body.




All the same, I still condemn the girl's act.
she doesn't love u