I am dating this girl I met 2 years ago. I have been taking care of her (at least to the best of my ability) ever since she lost her mother. Her father could not take care of her because he is not financially buoyant to take care of 6 children at a time. Apart from taking care of her upkeeps, I also helped her gain admission into a university recently.

At this stage, the burden of her school fees and expenses is on my neck.

To the real issue. I have never touched her. We agreed that our relationship will be without sex. I visited her at school last month. We played and both got carried away. I got her naked. And, at the point of penetration, I noticed she is water tight down there. She stopped me, she said she intentionally allowed me to attempt the penetration so that I would see she is a virgin myself. She said she did not want to tell me but wanted me to confirm on my own. I was still hot in the mood, I attempted to penetrate anyways, but she resisted and started struggling with me. I thought as a gentleman if a woman says No, you should respect her wishes so it won't turn to a rape case. I left her.

Although I attempted to try again but she resisted.

The issue now is.

1. She had a boyfriend and they are still chatting on whatsap. She claimed he left her because he could not take care of some of her needs. But they still chat and call every now and then. I have challenged her on many occasions, she will just say they are just friends, nothing will make her date him again.

2. I don't know if I am wrong, I always think the only way she can be mine is if I bed her. Also, I am about spending big on her. Her school expenses alone is enough to buy a Tokunbo car. What if she does the girl thing, is that how all my effort will be a waste?

FYI: I am bent on marrying her although she keeps saying she can only talk marriage after her NYSC. She even get angry anytime I talk about marriage (Im not rushing for marriage. I just need assurance of marriage). I remember one day when I even got angry and said "This whole relationship is on your own terms. You see yourself as the center of the relationship. You dictate everything even though I carry all the pains" I later apologized for speaking in such manner.

3. Anytime we quarrel, I will be the one to apologize. If I don't call her, she won't call for eternity. The last quarrel lasted 4 months before I later call her as usual. She never apologize.

All these are making me to rethink. Thats why I keep asking her for sex. Hope I am not investing in ponzi scheme.

What do you think?

Am I fair to ask for sex?

Am I fair to her?

Are these so-called virgins actually worth the stress?

Please I need your

Most times all these so called virgins aint worth the stress...dem go make u regret if u no blow dem finally

You are a building that's about to collapse

Niccur, MMM participants are beta than u!


That thing is not matured OR at best she doesn't like u, talkless of lovin' u!!!


Do d needful Asap!

hotwax. That girl is not your girlfriend, you are doing what Yoruba call "belejayon" She doesn't love you. She won't give you assurances of marriage because she isn't gonna marry you. She will leave after you have sponsored her education and she will appear blameless because she will tell you she never promised you marriage.
My guy, use your money train your sister, brother or your family members.
Find your wife go front before it is too late.

That girl is way too smart for you. She's not into you, she'll dump you in the nearest future.

Oyind17:
That girl is way too smart for you. She's not into you, she'll dump you in the nearest future.

Candid opinion. Very precious

firstking01:
You are a building that's about to collapse

Please can you expansion your statementology?

jaymichael:
hotwax. That girl is not your girlfriend, you are doing what Yoruba call "belejayon" She doesn't love you. She won't give you assurances of marriage because she isn't gonna marry you. She will leave after you have sponsored her education and she will appear blameless because she will tell you she never promised you marriage.
My guy, use your money train your sister, brother or your family members.
Find your wife go front before it is too late.

Thank you. One love.

_________ ______ ____

I think i should jux chill and watch the advice roll in.

Guy. You are a candidate of high blood pressure.

You better run now while you still have the strength before one fake virgin put you six feet below.

I hate virgins. I don't date them. They always have complications.

my brother do u remember when watching an American movie, when they are already killing the boss, they will shout. RETREAT GO BACK RUN FOR UR LIFE. she is fake she just need u to pay for her fees, after dat u done turn her enemy. it once happened to me I spend on her she no complain I come ask for sex she come day do anyhow. I no leave her o, but I no give her any kobo again. Cdq said it all ' no sex no money u will see dat she will be using it to beg u

another case of friendzone/brotherzone......
lemme predict...
after her Nysc programme...
she den tell u
"You are like a brother, father, nd friend to me...I cant marry u.. I hold u wit much respect"

bro jst run...
run ooo
u don try na ...ahhh ahhh kilode..

hotwax:


Please can you expansion your statementology?

Advicing you now is too late...in your next world never sponsor a girl in school...

hotwax:
I am dating this girl I met 2 years ago. I have been taking care of her (at least to the best of my ability) ever since she lost her mother. Her father could not take care of her because he is not financially buoyant to take care of 6 children at a time. Apart from taking care of her upkeeps, I also helped her gain admission into a university recently.

At this stage, the burden of her school fees and expenses is on my neck.

To the real issue. I have never touched her. We agreed that our relationship will be without sex. I visited her at school last month. We played and both got carried away. I got her naked. And, at the point of penetration, I noticed she is water tight down there. She stopped me, she said she intentionally allowed me to attempt the penetration so that I would see she is a virgin myself. She said she did not want to tell me but wanted me to confirm on my own. I was still hot in the mood, I attempted to penetrate anyways, but she resisted and started struggling with me. I thought as a gentleman if a woman says No, you should respect her wishes so it won't turn to a rape case. I left her.

Although I attempted to try again but she resisted.

The issue now is.

1. She had a boyfriend and they are still chatting on whatsap. She claimed he left her because he could not take care of some of her needs. But they still chat and call every now and then. I have challenged her on many occasions, she will just say they are just friends, nothing will make her date him again.

2. I don't know if I am wrong, I always think the only way she can be mine is if I bed her. Also, I am about spending big on her. Her school expenses alone is enough to buy a Tokunbo car. What if she does the girl thing, is that how all my effort will be a waste?

FYI: I am bent on marrying her although she keeps saying she can only talk marriage after her NYSC. She even get angry anytime I talk about marriage (Im not rushing for marriage. I just need assurance of marriage). I remember one day when I even got angry and said "This whole relationship is on your own terms. You see yourself as the center of the relationship. You dictate everything even though I carry all the pains" I later apologized for speaking in such manner.

3. Anytime we quarrel, I will be the one to apologize. If I don't call her, she won't call for eternity. The last quarrel lasted 4 months before I later call her as usual. She never apologize.

All these are making me to rethink. Thats why I keep asking her for sex. Hope I am not investing in ponzi scheme.

What do you think?

Am I fair to ask for sex?

Am I fair to her?

Are these so-called virgins actually worth the stress?

Please I need your

Dude you spent some good time writing this so lemme help you with a little advice.

See we guys tend to prioritize sex a lot but if you look deeper in the case of your relationship with your gf you will see that sex in the long run won't solve your insecurity about her. She has some guy she still has intimate convo with and that insecurity cannot be quenched by 5 minutes of pleasure. What if you deflower her and she ends up disching it to the other dude without you knowing. Remember you did not install an odometer in her body and once you open the package the counter starts ticking without u detecting.

Honestly you have to man up and sincerely i mean u quit those largesse and sponsorships you giving her. Haven't you read countless cases as yours with the results the same...the lady walking away in the end. Don't come to nairaland in a years time to disturb us of how you spent heaven and earth on her and she disappointed you. This is life..anticipate the unforseen. Invest your money on something else. If she pledges to marry you now that can change in a years time. Hand don dey pain me. I hope i passed a point or two.

Shalom

firstking01:
Advicing you now is too late...in your next world never sponsor a girl in school...

Its not late. I have not paid the school fees. Thats exactly why posted this. I am about to start paying school fees and the handwriting I am seeing on the wall is not readable.

hotwax:


Its not late. I have not paid the school fees. Thats exactly why posted this. I am about to start paying school fees and the handwriting I am seeing on the wall is not readable.

I thought you said the money for her fees can buy a tokunbo car??

To me her actions shows she is not interested in you but your Money.just ask her if she is really in love with you if yes give her your rules and regulations.from there you know what to do okay...

silvercute:



Dude you spent some good time writing this so lemme help you with a little advice.

See we guys tend to prioritize sex a lot but if you look deeper in the case of your relationship with your gf you will see that sex in the long run won't solve your insecurity about her. She has some guy she still has intimate convo with and that insecurity cannot be quenched by 5 minutes of pleasure. What if you deflower her and she ends up disching it to the other dude without you knowing. Remember you did not install an odometer in her body and once you open the package the counter starts ticking without u detecting.

Honestly you have to man up and sincerely i mean u quit those largesse and sponsorships you giving her. Haven't you read countless cases as yours with the results the same...the lady walking away in the end. Don't come to nairaland in a years time to disturb us of how you spent heaven and earth on her and she disappointed you. This is life..anticipate the unforseen. Invest your money on something else. If she pledges to marry you now that can change in a years time. Hand don dey pain me. I hope i passed a point or two.

Shalom

I don't care if she dishes it out to all guys on the street, I just want to have a taste before I become presidents of Friendzoned mofos of Nigeria. So if she leaves me or dishes it out, I will know I have satisfied myself.

Thats my thinking tho. Thanks for your opinion.

firstking01:
I thought you said the money for her fees can buy a tokunbo car??

Yes its enough to buy a car. I have not paid.

I wrote "At this stage, the burden of her school fees and expenses is on my neck. "

Your intentions are not completely honourable but I must tell you that you are investing in first grade pinto scheme.

Bro. Girls Aint Worth All Dis Stress, They Are Unto The Next Nigga, When U Are Down. Bro No Go Turn Ursef To Charity Organization. Epp But Dnt Ask 4 Anytin In Return, God Will Reward U. Bt Knw That Girl Is Smart. Apply Wisdom.

hotwax:


Yes its enough to buy a car. I have not paid.

I wrote "At this stage, the burden of her school fees and expenses is on my neck. "

Good a thing you 've not started paying the school fees yet...my advice, let her parents foot her school fees, your own is to pay her bride price after her NYSC according to her....


The reason for this is, there's every possibility that she's gon dump you for another guy because from this her first year to fourth year-fifth year she would 've seen differend guys that will make her change her thoughts towards you, this is why she said you should wait till she gradutes so that she can still keep her options open why you still pay her fees, omokop?


Another possible reason to why you should not pay her fees is, she MUST be fvcking other guys....every girl in school has a house and school boy friend....and ofcourse, the two play a different role...the school boyfriend is to giver her an emotional shelter and comfort, but you as the house boyfriend is to keep her up financially...


I 'll stop here sha, the ball is in your court, kick it wisely...


And NOTE:....everything i wrote upthere is under PROBABILITY, and you sha know that probability is the CHANCES of an event to occur, that's why i repeatedly used the word "possibility"....meaning there are some girls you'd sponsor in school and reap the benefits...but the attitude this your own girl is portraying is worth questioning....


I 'll advice you leave her fees for her parents, you can once in a while buy her provisions...i'm sure you have sisters/brothers who are aspiring to go to school…

hotwax:
I am dating this girl I met 2 years ago. I have been taking care of her (at least to the best of my ability) ever since she lost her mother. Her father could not take care of her because he is not financially buoyant to take care of 6 children at a time. Apart from taking care of her upkeeps, I also helped her gain admission into a university recently.

At this stage, the burden of her school fees and expenses is on my neck.

To the real issue. I have never touched her. We agreed that our relationship will be without sex. I visited her at school last month. We played and both got carried away. I got her naked. And, at the point of penetration, I noticed she is water tight down there. She stopped me, she said she intentionally allowed me to attempt the penetration so that I would see she is a virgin myself. She said she did not want to tell me but wanted me to confirm on my own. I was still hot in the mood, I attempted to penetrate anyways, but she resisted and started struggling with me. I thought as a gentleman if a woman says No, you should respect her wishes so it won't turn to a rape case. I left her.

Although I attempted to try again but she resisted.

The issue now is.

1. She had a boyfriend and they are still chatting on whatsap. She claimed he left her because he could not take care of some of her needs. But they still chat and call every now and then. I have challenged her on many occasions, she will just say they are just friends, nothing will make her date him again.

2. I don't know if I am wrong, I always think the only way she can be mine is if I bed her. Also, I am about spending big on her. Her school expenses alone is enough to buy a Tokunbo car. What if she does the girl thing, is that how all my effort will be a waste?

FYI: I am bent on marrying her although she keeps saying she can only talk marriage after her NYSC. She even get angry anytime I talk about marriage (Im not rushing for marriage. I just need assurance of marriage). I remember one day when I even got angry and said "This whole relationship is on your own terms. You see yourself as the center of the relationship. You dictate everything even though I carry all the pains" I later apologized for speaking in such manner.

3. Anytime we quarrel, I will be the one to apologize. If I don't call her, she won't call for eternity. The last quarrel lasted 4 months before I later call her as usual. She never apologize.

All these are making me to rethink. Thats why I keep asking her for sex. Hope I am not investing in ponzi scheme.

What do you think?

Am I fair to ask for sex?

Am I fair to her?

Are these so-called virgins actually worth the stress?

Please I need your

You have to end that relationship now it is still early... Otherwise,the heartbreak you will receive after her graduation is still doing press up.
Just try to make her pay for all the expenses and stress she has caused you.
How will a girl you are paying school fees for,keep malice with you for four months and you still foolishly apologized...
Are you sure she didn't jazz you??
Anyway try and make her pay back before you break up...
Even if it means penetrating by force.

rebirthforgoody:
To me her actions shows she is not interested in you but your Money.[s]just ask her if she is really in love with you if yes give her your rules and regulations.from there you know what to do okay..[/s].

na only the emboldened make sense for Ur advice

Blacklister:
na only the emboldened make sense for Ur advice

Are you sure you are okay

daewoorazer:
In fella's voice, suegbe ree na suegbe o!


Dindinrin.....and if ur fellow man ask u 1naira, u go slap am o. Ewu!

Yes I know I am Suegbe for her. I love her so much and I can go any mile to make her happy. Thats what love can do to a man.

However, her body language is making me think I am being played.

rebirthforgoody:







Are you sure you are okay

Pssss...No noise please.

hotwax:


Pssss...No noise please.

Check yourself very well..