midehi2:
wow! well i feel for the wife without a child, but she should feel for the husband too to have a child, it supposed to be proper arrangement, sometimes the 2nd wife might bring luck to her to have her own child, i have seen cases like that, wild world!

Think again because they don't bring any luck dear. Disobedience yields no fruit. You break your vow with your woman and you tell me the incoming wife brings luck. No matter how you see it, the incoming wife,new family will be the one to come with chaos and war, blame it on the first wife but they will still end in black. Bleep a man telling a woman to get him a second woman. He remains a foodl forever. Why don't he seek for divorce then, going from your statement, i have heard of women get pregnant after they leave their first husband too mtcheew

onos1979:
the man for still wait a little more time, i have seen and heard of couples who waited for twenty years before giving birth.God's time is always the best.

Nwere nwayo there....

Apina:

If ur papa and mama no born u, u for no get the opportunity to type this rubbish.

And you think your better off than the unseen huh

ToseroRock:


Think again because they don't bring any luck dear. Disobedience yields no fruit. You break your vow with your woman and you tell me the incoming wife brings luck. No matter how you see it, the incoming wife,new family will be the one to come with chaos and war, blame it on the first wife but they will still end in black. Bleep a man telling a woman to get him a second woman. He remains a foodl forever. Why don't he seek for divorce then, going from your statement, i have heard of women get pregnant after they leave their first husband too mtcheew

I said what i have seen dear, thats your opinion

Smart woman.
More women need to put their feet on the ground in order to
curb cheating men's activity.

@ YIND18. JEALOUS IS NOT THE SOLUTIONS RATHER CLOSE UR EYES LET ANOTHER BABE HELP U MAINTAIN UR MAN IS PART OF LOVE NO

checkengine:


Has there ever been a woman who waited for 20 yrs for a man who can't get the DK up? Women always wanting what they can't give. The man sef na better man. Seeing that Ngozi is a troublesome woman for just go preg his choice of woman out there, marry her secretly and start raising their kids.

Mcheeeew. Women blackmailing men since 01 BC

And the man still get to die first. Hip hip hip. I tot the troublesome should die first. Men been trying to explain everything to them to justify the evil they do since 3450

dokyOloye:
If a woman truly loves her husband, she'd be happier seeing his biological child than an adopted one.

if it is confirm that na the man get problem I guess he will be happy to see his wife pregnanted by another man....nonsense men are always selfish.
...,,,,if then get problem they want their wife to endure with them,...but if nah them wife them go look for another option.....abi man self no they get infertility nah all men complete

TonyeBarcanista:
What is Women emancipation here? Is this what Women emancipation is to some of you?

Lady, the act of this woman is inhuman and detestable IF true and the man will be vindicated. Thank God he has been granted bail by the presiding magistrate.

@Topic: though I don't believe in polygamy BUT I don't see any crime committed by the man. The woman should either accept her fate and live with it or file for divorce.

Abeg face front. Who you dey ask question sef?

Carry the matter put for head and hawk it like plantain chips. The smiley face in front of my reply flew over your head.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=L-vL9ROZZ08&t=14s

midehi2:
wow! well i feel for the wife without a child, but she should feel for the husband too to have a child, it supposed to be proper arrangement, sometimes the 2nd wife might bring luck to her to have her own child, i have seen cases like that, wild world!

There is no such thing as a second wife bringing luck. We have seen couples who couldn't
conceive for 10,15,20 years of marriage and the husband didn't marry a second wife.

People would have credit the second wife with the first wife's pregnancy had it been
the man took another wife.
One woman's fertility has no effect on another woman's own.

TonyeBarcanista:
The act of destruction by the woman is despicable and criminal (if the claim is true).

Even IF they are married in registry, it still does not criminalise marriage through traditional ways. What is criminal is marrying a second woman through the court without divorcing the first. At best she will sue for Bigamy, which is a civil offence, not criminal, and it will lead rk divorce WITHOUT Invalidating the second trado wedding.

On whether the man will allow another man "assist" his wife IF he was impotent, I can't say but 98% of Naija men won't.

if there is a proof of a marriage whether traditional without documentation or not, it still holds the man liable. I vividly remember my registry and it being drummed into everybody's ears severally. The fact that the man claims it is "his" properties and not "their" property says a lot about the man. Women are emotional, they get erratic when they feel really powerless about a situation. I am not saying destroying stuff is the right thing to do, I do not endorse it, and yes, no man will ever agree to be "helped" in this situation.
I just pity the second wife who married him to be a baby making experiment

some men and their selfishness sef.. if na the man dey infertile, him and the society go expect her to bear the pain but, as he be man so, his people nor go see anything wrong in marrying anoda wife.. God is watching

Folksyharry:
So the woman destroys property and call police for assault on her by the husband. There's always more to stories like this anyway.
It's nor easy for the wife to watch her husband marry another woman because she couldn't conceive. Even if the inability to conceive is from the woman the best thing to do would have been to adopt a child. It's not normal yet in our society but I think it's a better option than marrying another woman.
The man needs to understand that it will hurt any woman to see her husband marry another woman so he could have children.

You narrated the story as if you were a witness.
I fear you.

mcfynest:
Wish our women can do this.... Sue those men that break a sacred vow

Men like u are a disgrace to the phallus. Did u read that she agreed for the husband to take a second wife? She had issues with him bringing a younger woman prolly out of jealousy. She brought older women instead. The woman is just being insecure that peradventure the young wife takes in she will lose her husband to him.
Mr being a woman wrapper won't gain u favours with women...man up

Treasuredlove:
if there is a proof of a marriage whether traditional without documentation or not, it still holds the man liable. I vividly remember my registry and it being drummed into everybody's ears severally. The fact that the man claims it is "his" properties and not "their" property says a lot about the man. Women are emotional, they get erratic when they feel really powerless about a situation. I am not saying destroying stuff is the right thing to do, I do not endorse it, and yes, no man will ever agree to be "helped" in this situation.
I just pity the second wife who married him to be a baby making experiment

Which law are you basing on? My dear, the man is only liable to commit a criminal offence IF he marries another woman through the court but it holds nothing through other means save divorce. A research would help


I agree with you that women could be emotional and act inappropriately when feeling helpless but it is never justified. I am glad you condemned the act.

As for the man, I am surprised that some men see "family" assets as their personal assets. Perhaps, he forgets that marriage abhors individualism.

Personally, I'd rather stick with my wife till the end than seek alternative. I hate polygamy and can never practice it in this life and hereafter


BTW what is the joy in having a child through another woman when my other half is unhappy? I know that God can never forsake his faithful. children...

ToseroRock:

And you think your better off than the unseen huh

What do u mean by UNSEEN?

Oyind18:
How men accuse their wives of been barren baffles me. Most men feel its only the wife that can't bare children forgotten its their duty to impregnate her.

According to the story he said he took her to several clinics and churches, what about him the man, did he go for treatment?

The man ended the marriage by bringing in a second wife. I can share anything but not my preeq with another woman God forbid!

The story says the first didn't object to him marrying a 2nd wife, she even brought him another woman to be his 2nd but he didn't like that hence he opted to get one from their village.
Her problem as indicated in this story is not his marrying a 2nd wife but that he chose one by himself.
That's what this story says. Why do you cry more than the bereaved?
It's their lives, not yours don't superimpose your own on theirs.

Hexzyz:
Black man with this I must get pikin mentality, it sucks.

Pls could u tell me the main objective of getting married
If you don't want to ge a child / children why do u go into marriage for the first instance

Omagago:



She's barren, she's barren. Oga Adolphus don try abeg.

Make she do her worse. Shikenan.

I believe u are still a child, how dare u call a human being barren!do u know what they go through, may God have mercy on you

myking95:


Men like u are a disgrace to the phallus. Did u read that she agreed for the husband to take a second wife? She had issues with him bringing a younger woman prolly out of jealousy. She brought older women instead. The woman is just being insecure that peradventure the young wife takes in she will lose her husband to him.
Mr being a woman wrapper won't gain u favours with women...man up

My bro, you go school and you sabi book.
All this indomies boys and girls in NL dey tire me o.
No wander they see cheating in sch as smartness, now we see the result, lack of basic comprehension and making conclusion that the story didn't portray.
If na exam now them don fail finish and them go come dey blame lecturers.

mcfynest:
Wish our women can do this.... Sue those men that break a sacred vow

shey u dey mad ni or u crazy? u didnt read it in ur rush to type ur thash commnt?

She's finally out and has set the man free. It will not matter what she and her family would plan in between. The man should do everything to protect himself and his new wife spiritually and otherwise from that woman and her family.

Lol.... I hear say igbo women no dey leave their marriage for anything in d world.

kateskitty:
Good

so, you can also do the same?

midehi2:
wow! well i feel for the wife without a child, but she should feel for the husband too to have a child, it supposed to be proper arrangement, sometimes the 2nd wife might bring luck to her to have her own child, i have seen cases like that, wild world!

Coming from a woman sha. If your husband is having difficulties in getting you pregnant, would he allow you Bleep another man and bring the baby home so that it will give his sperm good luck?
Don't justify this your bush belief because the women in question later get pregnant after their husband's cheated outside. Those pregnancies would have occurred whether he married a second or not. There is no set spiritual gain in letting your husband go outside. None.

emilyone:
Why you sef go marry second wife?

What happened to for better for worse,
You are lucky she didn't poison you.

Many Nigerian men do not believe the for worse part refers to them. They are only for the "for better" part .

What if the problem is from the man at the end of the day.

farihafaheemah:

Pls could u tell me the main objective of getting married
If you don't want to ge a child / children why do u go into marriage for the first instance

Uhm...love? companionship?

estheremma:

I believe u are still a child, how dare u call a human being barren!do u know what they go through, may God have mercy on you

Ignore him, he thinks only women face reproductive struggles. For all we know, Na the man set naim no fit give woman bele.He will experience her pain and then come back to tell how sweet it was for him to be called okobo

TonyeBarcanista:

Which law are you basing on? My dear, the man is only liable to commit a criminal offence IF he marries another woman through the court but it holds nothing through other means save divorce. A research would help


I agree with you that women could be emotional and act inappropriately when feeling helpless but it is never justified. I am glad you condemned the act.

As for the man, I am surprised that some men see "family" assets as their personal assets. Perhaps, he forgets that marriage abhors individualism.

Personally, I'd rather stick with my wife till the end than seek alternative. I hate polygamy and can never practice it in this life and hereafter


BTW what is the joy in having a child through another woman when my other half is unhappy? I know that God can never forsake his faithful. children...

well, you might be right about the law. People just go into marriage with a lot of ignorance. I fear for this generation