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Cyberfreak post=:
Why are many Nigerian men so selfish and heartless like animals?
I see many men here saying crap like she should forgive him there are other women waiting to take her place, divorce never favors women, women should accept infidelity because men are polygamous, she is not attractive or interesting so the man shouldn't be blamed for cheating.

Do you people even read your bibles or Quran?
Where is it written that adultery is a normal thing that should be accepted and ignored or are all of you suddenly atheists?
I only pity the foolish women that think they should accept infidelity from their men because men have no self control. For those women you need to ask yourselves what men will say if the tables were turned. Will they ever accept it or will they tell the husband to throw his wife out for cheating on him?

Women please liberate yourselves. No one else can help you except yourselves. Adultery is wrong and will always be wrong. Don't let anyone bully you into accepting it when they themselves will never accept that nonsense.

hopeforcharles:
Despite the fact that she caught him sex chatting its not enough reason for divorce, she should be careful because from this point so many things can go wrong,
Both of them should create room for dialogue.

kingreign:
Tell your sister, to find a good man is hard, really hard, really really hard.
If he handles his responsibilities well, the issue of sexchatting or flirting (which can be checked anyways) is a small thing. So she saw a tiny bit of wood in the cereals she's gonna throw away the whole grains?
She had better woke up to her responsibilities, get a damn internet enabled phone and sexchat him too, then fulfil all his sexual fantacies when they meet in private.

hopeforcharles:
How sure are u that he will bring back an STIs ?
Is not as if she has caught him in the act, it hasn't reached the level of taking this kinda drastic actions

Jacksparr0w127:
A married man sexchatting while his wife is right with him is terrible. Too bad tbh. If he's that h0rny, why didn't he get his wife down zi oza room?

Maybe his sex life with your sister is not really going well tho. Your sister should not divorce him, she should instead settle the dispute and try work on their sex life. Apparently, something is wrong with their sex life

BoiledHead:
My sister is about to put an end to her marriage in a very dangerous way. What happened?

She caught her husband sex chatting on whatsapp. She didn't even catch him physically sexing but chatting and she wants to put an end. Their son would be celebrating his 5 years birthday soon and is this the gift they wish to give the young chap?

I have tried my best to talk to her but I have no idea on how to go about this afterall, I'm single. She was like "what do you know about marriage?". The husband on the other hand hasn't taken my calls and he angrily left the house since 3 days.

Big bros and sis In the house, what advice can I give to my sister?

hedonistic:
For real. I don't understand the unrealistic standards and sense of entitlement that many young women of nowadays have afflicted themselves with. It is beyond ridiculous.

Wise older generation women knew that you simply can't expect most men to be faithful to you alone for life. It's not gonna happen. Simple.

Men don't get into marriage because they want to stick to one woman. They get into marriage because of societal norms - because it is deemed 'normal' for a man of a certain age and accomplishment to get married. Women need to get this into their block heads.

Just manage your husband well and make sure he doesn't disrespect you by cheating relentlessly to your face and making no effort to hide it. That's all a reasonable woman needs to do. You can't have him all to yourself except he is hopelessly broke and socially awkward. A normal correct guy man with a decent income cannot be tied down for life. This is a conclusive assertion. No two ways about it. If you're a woman and this sounds too bitter to swallow, then please stay off marriage and remain single for life. Don't attempt to look for what is simply not available.

Only a very foolish woman would make too much noise about a so-called cheating husband, let alone contemplate divorce. Divorce him and marry who? Who says the next man wouldn't cheat even worse? I laugh.

Apina:
So Taking the high way when things get tough is the best option? Its really disappointing hearing this from someone who's married. If the case is that leaving would save her from depression based on some uncertain events u raised, what about the child? what would be his state of mind and how would that affect him on the long run? How selfish your suggestion is. Her leaving his house wouldn't change the fact that another woman will replace her immediately, but who's gonna pick her up? Our parents had their own fair share of such issues and even worse but they knew divorce wasn't an option and sorted things out.

Jesusgirl92:
you dey mind dem?

Freewoman:
If this is true, you have nothing to do here, reason been that both knows the best, sometimes you allow things to happen so that things should be fix, no marriage without challenges even more serious than this, let them fix it themselves, yes, themselves, .....please let the woman know too well that if she backs off another packs in,men are not ready for commitment now............. Many girls are waiting on her to go so that they will enter, plus, including me or her unmarried best friends oooooooooooh

eddyvilla:
I am surprised at those that just want the marriage to end. Marriage is an institution where sometimes either the man or the woman can fail. But retaking the course is the best option. If you think successful marriage don't experience issues like this, then you are a fat liar. Love covers a multitude of sin, so a wife that cannot forgive her husband doesn't know how to keep her marriage.
If you think say the woman divorcing the man will make her happier, then you are devil sent.
If a woman discovers her man is cheating, kindly watch the movie 'war room', so that you can understand that keeping your home is best done with your kneels to God and not physical battle.
Most men that cheat still loves their wife, but a man gat to be a man sometimes especially with temptation lurking around.
I don talk my own.

Strahovski1:
Tell her to proceed on the divorce. Infact, help her pay the bills of the law suit

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To those saying it's not enough. I bet 80% of you are single and you have no idea indeed what contents are of marriage. Yes.

Marriage IS NOT a task! Neither is it some kind of Job or Project. It's not a do or die affair. It's a union where 2 happy people come together as 1. So your sister shouldn't be in such union as her happiness has been slain. Why live with a man knowing well, that he is sleeping with another woman? The thought of it alone can lead to depression. Let's be realistic.

Irrespective of how they sort it out and settle the dispute, the scar would always be there. When she see him making a call, she would be suspicious. If she see him greet a woman she would be suspicious. She would always have the thought that he is sleeping with other women though she may not express this. But she would never forget. And this is not good at all. So what is the point? Is it by force? Why live in depression especially when the woman he is chatting with looks better or sexier than she is.

So let her be.

P.s I'm a married man and yet, I don't encourage anyone to stay in a marriage where infidelity looms.

Strahovski1:
Tell her to proceed on the divorce. Infact, help her pay the bills of the law suit

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To those saying it's not enough. I bet 80% of you are single and you have no idea indeed what contents are of marriage. Yes.

Marriage IS NOT a task! Neither is it some kind of Job or Project. It's not a do or die affair. It's a union where 2 happy people come together as 1. So your sister shouldn't be in such union as her happiness has been slain. Why live with a man knowing well, that he is sleeping with another woman? The thought of it alone can lead to depression. Let's be realistic.

Irrespective of how they sort it out and settle the dispute, the scar would always be there. When she see him making a call, she would be suspicious. If she see him greet a woman she would be suspicious. She would always have the thought that he is sleeping with other women though she may not express this. But she would never forget. And this is not good at all. So what is the point? Is it by force? Why live in depression especially when the woman he is chatting with looks better or sexier than she is.

So let her be.

P.s I'm a married man and yet, I don't encourage anyone to stay in a marriage where infidelity looms.

Strahovski1:
Tell her to proceed on the divorce. Infact, help her pay the bills of the law suit

Modified
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To those saying it's not enough. I bet 80% of you are single and you have no idea indeed what contents are of marriage. Yes.

Marriage IS NOT a task! Neither is it some kind of Job or Project. It's not a do or die affair. It's a union where 2 happy people come together as 1. So your sister shouldn't be in such union as her happiness has been slain. Why live with a man knowing well, that he is sleeping with another woman? The thought of it alone can lead to depression. Let's be realistic.

Irrespective of how they sort it out and settle the dispute, the scar would always be there. When she see him making a call, she would be suspicious. If she see him greet a woman she would be suspicious. She would always have the thought that he is sleeping with other women though she may not express this. But she would never forget. And this is not good at all. So what is the point? Is it by force? Why live in depression especially when the woman he is chatting with looks better or sexier than she is.

So let her be.

P.s I'm a married man and yet, I don't encourage anyone to stay in a marriage where infidelity looms.

SURElee:
A good man is hard to find, ain't it? Till he sexchats and brings home HIV to the innocent wife at home abi? Marriage has now become a place you die in whether you're happy or not.

DEGREE2466:
I just want to look for trouble

Reason "being" not "been"

both "know" not "knows"

things "would be fixed" not "should fix"

many girls are waiting "for" her not "on" her to pack out.

in fact meet me in the other room for English class

kingreign:
Tell your sister, to find a good man is hard, really hard, really really hard.
If he handles his responsibilities well, the issue of sexchatting or flirting (which can be checked anyways) is a small thing. So she saw a tiny bit of wood in the cereals she's gonna throw away the whole grains?
She had better woke up to her responsibilities, get a damn internet enabled phone and sexchat him too, then fulfil all his sexual fantacies when they meet in private.

kingreign:
Tell your sister, to find a good man is hard, really hard, really really hard.
If he handles his responsibilities well, the issue of sexchatting or flirting (which can be checked anyways) is a small thing. So she saw a tiny bit of wood in the cereals she's gonna throw away the whole grains?
She had better woke up to her responsibilities, get a damn internet enabled phone and sexchat him too, then fulfil all his sexual fantacies when they meet in private.

crunchyg:
So what are you really saying in essence

BoiledHead:
My sister is about to put an end to her marriage in a very dangerous way. What happened?

She caught her husband sex chatting on whatsapp. She didn't even catch him physically sexing but chatting and she wants to put an end. Their son would be celebrating his 5 years birthday soon and is this the gift they wish to give the young chap?

I have tried my best to talk to her but I have no idea on how to go about this afterall, I'm single. She was like "what do you know about marriage?". The husband on the other hand hasn't taken my calls and he angrily left the house since 3 days.

Big bros and sis In the house, what advice can I give to my sister?

BoiledHead:
My sister is about to put an end to her marriage in a very dangerous way. What happened?

She caught her husband sex chatting on whatsapp. She didn't even catch him physically sexing but chatting and she wants to put an end. Their son would be celebrating his 5 years birthday soon and is this the gift they wish to give the young chap?

I have tried my best to talk to her but I have no idea on how to go about this afterall, I'm single. She was like "what do you know about marriage?". The husband on the other hand hasn't taken my calls and he angrily left the house since 3 days.

Big bros and sis In the house, what advice can I give to my sister?

Zirah:
Nonsense. What a disregard for women! Perhaps you were brought up in a home where cheating is rife. There's no doubt your father constantly, shamelessly cheated on your mother so much that infidelity has become your modus operandi.

You can't rationalise infidelity, you'll always look stupid. I mean, who brought you up like this? Don't be deceived by the number of likes your comment garnered. It just reveals the majority have been brainwashed and are getting into relationships/marriage for the wrong reasons.

I feel sorry for your sister already. If this happened to her this is the kind of dumb advice you'd give her. And your wife, I feel the same way too. This is how you would use your faulty mindset to destroy an innocent woman's life. Pls, go and learn how to live.

Shortyy:
SMH. Your wife is there with you and you're sexchatting with another woman. Odiegwu o! Some men sha.
Anyways If all he did was sexchat and didn't actually sleep with another woman, I'll advice they go for counselling. The wife might be denying him of his husband duties..

kingreign:
Idiotic wayward môrôn. Feel for your own spouse. You agents of marital destruction agitating for marital soreness in peoples home.

Zirah:
I don't expect less from a mentally deranged person. Shebi bed-hopping is sweet? Surely, you'll still meet a woman that'll destroy your destiny while at it.