Cutehector:
Oya who are those people shouting sex before marriage is bad.. Come leme give you a big slap

The stance on sex-before-marriage is signed-stamped&sealed..there is nothing that can change that..let the man Go and look for treatment..

Complicated. may God help them and bless they married. and provide me my own beautiful wife immediately I graduate this year

Vega 100 works but if it fails contact porigho@gmail.com, there are other solutions

Acidosis:
your sis is a vir .gin right?


Well, I don't believe a man can maintain hardness and lose same hard-on consistently upon pene.tration. Such can happen only on a TV screen.

It's either the man is completely impotent (with no hard-on), or he finds it really hard to pe.netrate.. If the latter is the case, your sis must stop crying. It is a joint issue.

By the way, you claim they have tried herbal and pastors... Are there no hospitals around?

It is possible to have erection and lose when you insert. It's called erectile dysfunction. The man should check his cholesterol and PSA level these two can affect blood flow to penis. Main while they should look for Maca and ginseng supplement, they help. But if he offended someone before marriage, he could be afflicted, this Africa.

mineANDurs:


This is A BIG FAT LIE.
During the time of our parents, our mothers endured several beatings by their husbands.
Thats y most women of these days (especially me) has sworn to leave their husbands house anyday he raises his filty hands on them.

Marriage is NOT BY FORCE !

I said "I believe" cos belief is not always based on facts, but on experience as the case may be as it relate to my own personal experience.

So, I'm curious to know what our mothers endured? I for one know wife battering and infidelity are things I didn't see or even hear during that time. Not that it wasn't happening, but it wasn't on the increase as we have now.

If you say marriage isn't by force, feel free to leave it when, rather if your husband physically abuse you. It's all a matter of choice.

Carry ur sis hubby go meet Apostle Suleiman....he will return hiz strong thing....

@ FortuneTeller you said they went for medical test before marriage and everything was ok.

The guy might be a virgin. Yes this problem sometimes happens to guys who haven't have sex before and the solution is usually enough fore play and even at that your sis should help him insert his penis in the right place before he loses the erection. The erection is usually lost when the guy is trying to locate the right hole. Also the guy should avoid excessive alcohol, drinks like pepsi, coke, mirinda. He should also take blended bitter leaf once daily. And blended moringa leaf at night after supper for proper digestion of the meal.

If the problem is weak erection, unripe plantain, honey and ginger will do the magic. If you are interested in how to prepare it quote me, cause I want to believe someone has already told you this solution since its almost 8 pages

alexialin:
The man has a problem. Have seen this scenario happen before but I didn't go far getting married to the guy. During courtship, i realise he's everything the op just mentioned about her younger sis husband. And the funny part of it.. He's not eager for us to look for solutions especially spiritually to it. Cause he claimed he has taken all kind of herbs and drugs.. So I said then it's spiritual.lets go for prayers... that's when he then said he's not doing again.. He wants out.. I said ok good. See person wey I want help assist to restore his manhood.. He doesn't even want help. And he's so handsome, tall and comfortable financially .. That's how we breakup. Recently I heard from his friend that he does not want to date babes anymore.. And wants to be celibate.. I just shook my head and I told his friend.. That's his problem jare.. I have my own am thinking, money things on my mind.. he can do whatever he likes with his life..Better sef, so he won't raise babe hopes anymore.. I don't care. It's his choice.
One can take a horse to the river but u can't force it to drink water.

Op let your sister insist on taking him for medical checkup.. If nothing is revealed.. Then they should both go spiritual and find the cause.. Maybe he has donated his manhood for higher powers who knows.

Lwkm ... Would I ever tire of reading your last sentence? Your sense of humor is second to none.

Certitude:
Your sister's pvssy is unappealing. The story looks unreal though

gad damn it!

Ishilove:

Experts in the house, does viagra work for this kind of situation?

Viagra with known adverse effects??

Shossie:
For reasons like this

It's not good stop encouraging evil

crunchyg:

It's not good stop encouraging evil

please, how is it evil, do what you want to do, its your business, please don't quote me again.

PaperLace:
You need to slap yourself if you think 'premarital sex' is the solution to this. When it happens within the marriage, what next? Does she go back to testing other dicks? Let's have it in mind that he could have easily taken PED to impress her while dating_ men have concealed worse defects.
ED can happen at any point in life to a (%) of men. Depression, anxiety, diet, lifestyle, stress_ could all cause ED after being TESTED by your partner. Sex before marriage isn't the ready solution.

Are you a doctor or something

The problem may be with your sister. She might have been laced with some traditional anti rape jaz by a bitter rival. If the jaz is programmed against any intruder, nobody can penetrate her except the man who put the Jaz on her or any one who knows the antidote. She needs a traditional approach or effective prayer session.

I also have this issue and its really bothering me for over 5 years. Mine is complicated and I think its spiritual.

It all started in 2011 when I was 20 and was ready to have sex. I went to a popular brothel in Lagos with a friend to try it out.
Though I was very nervous because I was a virgin and my heart was beating very fast.

We actually went in and two women approached us. A young woman of about 28 and one of about 40.

I am my other virgin friend had eye on the one of about 28 cause she was very beautiful. My friend immediately held on to her. The other one of 40 now held on to me that I should carry her lets go do it. I angrily said "You be my mama mate na", she got angry and left.

Then the younger one said, if I and my friend wants, we can take turns with her.

We left for her room. I entered first and was very nervous and sluggish even in removing my cloth.

She said, "e be like say u be virgin...so na me go disvrigin" you. She started touching my di*k, but it didn't get hard.

Time started to waste and I got tired and asked her to refund my money. She started shouting that its not possible, that the fact that my dick did not rise is none of her business. I asked that my friend should use the money and attempt, she said no. that he must bring his own money.

We left the building and started the arguments outside. Other prostitutes came to her aid and started asking what was wrong. She explained to them that I tried to have sex with her and my thing did not rise and now I want my money back, they started shouting and said its not possible that we should better get out of her.

At one corner, the older woman of about 40 that I earlier rejected started giving me the "ntoor" look and was saying "You see your life"

I got very scared and left for home immediately.

I tried to watch porn to see if it will get up, I can't really remember if it did.

Long and short, I have not been able to have sex since then. I have not even had sex in my life. I have never tried to have sex with a real girl before, so I won't embarrass myself. I have never had a girlfriend. Though girls keep flocking around me, since I am doing well both academically and business wise, but I never attempt to have sex with them and they keep wondering whats wrong with me. One of the unilag girls that seduced me and I did nothing concluded that I was impotent because she feels no man in the world would have resisted her seduction since she was very hot.

I have tried to have sex 3 more times, with prostitutes, but still same thing happens. No erection

In 2012, I spent the whole year going to church everyday. Nothing happened. I have stopped now and accepted my fate.

Only my best friend knows about this, he keeps saying its not a spiritual condition but medical condition due to the fact that I started
masturbating right since I was 17.

He says I might have had the issue right before the prostitute encounter. Sometimes he says that it is a psychological condition.

But the thing is, how can a young boy of 20 then have Erectile dysfunction due to masturbation.
Many young boys masturbate and nothing happened to them.

I was sad for a while, but now it seems I have accepted my fate. This issue have made me focus on my studies and business and now, at 26. I have finished my BSC, and my MSC

Whenever I am Hot, I masturbate and I think that has worsened my issue. I have been masturbating since 2011 when this happened

Lots of order thing happens in between that confuses me. Like 2 years after the prostitute encounter, when I was in my 3rd year, one beautiful edo girl who really loved me was making out with me and flirting around me and I got a rock solid erection 100%. Very hard. Also, in 2014. A girl who liked me came to my house and she was fliting with me, though she didn't plan on having sex with me. Only the flirting alone made me hard. The erection was 70% hard. But then, those are the only occurencies.

Whenever I watch porn, I get semi erection - say about 60% hard.

Whenever I jerk my joystick, it gets hard - about 80% and within minutes, it deflates again.

Lot of different things have happened along the line which is too much to type. Long and short, I don't get erections when I wakeup again. I used to before all this issues.

Or is it the excess sugar I take, or the belly fat I have gotten due to the way I eat carelessly and spend on myself. (Since I don't have any woman to cater for) that is the cause.

Is it spiritual, medical or psychological?

Is it due to masturbation? Is it an infection?

Because I can remember in late 2012 or early 2013. When I tried to urinate, I had and felt a sharp pain.

I happened for about 2 days and stopped by itself.

I am getting older and my mother is already reminding me about marriage. I don't think I will marry until this issue is resolved. I can't
subject any woman to emotional pain.

At some point, I thought I was gay, but I am in no way attracted to men. But I am attracted to women. I tried watch transgender porn to confirm if I was gay (since I couldn't stand real gay porn). I actually got aroused and had a mild erection. But come one, transgenders are women who just have a joystick.

I have put up my issues on a foreign site (because other people who have put up their problems on nairaland gets abused, mocked, insulted and bullied) and I was advised by the whites to see a doctor and counselor. They didn't even understand what I meant by spiritual issue. But they have been very concerned and helpful

I don't need to see any counselor because my case would confuse who ever I tell.

I have been living in frustration. No sex life and no real social life. I keep falling out with female friend because I don't make any move towards them.

I keep falling out with male friends, because they keep wondering "why this their guy no dey nack woman like them". They feel I am weird because they 100% know I am not gay and wonder why a normal guy will be avoiding women like this.

I hope my issue is resolved.

But if its not, I would live the rest of my life like this. Probabaly keep on masturbating and never get married.

It might actually be my excessive masturbation that might be the cause of this. I don't really know. Only God knows.

I am depressed. But suicide is not an option for me. God forbid.

FortuneTeller:
I am coming today with tears in my eyes for my little sis. She is kind, sweet, and a very nice young lady. She met a 35 year old man last year who courted her and convinced our family of his sincerity. He is a nice guy and very handsome. They went for medical tests before the marriage and were told everything was fine. They have now been married for 3 months without sex. My sis has cried to me for the past 2 weeks. She says he has tried some herbal supplements and even saw a pastor, but nothing has changed. They did not have sex before marriage, but she says she has seen him with an erection before and after the marriage. However when he is about to insert himself, he loses the stiffness. I don't know what to do. Someone from our area says he is known to visit many prostitutes. I don't believe he is seeing them now because he has been with our family for some time now and even working in the family business. As they have not consummated the marriage, we are thinking of returning the things he bought so she can be free. How can a 35 year old man be impotent?? My sister shall not suffer.

Your bro Inlaw is not impotent if he can have an errction but loses it just b4 penetration, it could b any of 2 reasons: 1.psychological 2.std .
This is a prob a lot of young men face n surpassed (urs sinerely inclusive) while In their teenage to 20s n even 30s.
1st thing I'd advise: let him do a lab test to confirm presence/absence of bacteria/viral infection. If present, he shld treat with Orthodox method n follow up with any good bitters or agbo, cos some Infection cld be stubbornn they usually cause ED.
Next, he can tackle d psychological prob by taking libido boosting drug like Re-youth Root (Chinese herbal product). I(i recommend herbal products with no side effects.)
This will ensure he has hard erection b4 n during d act, he can stop using it when his confidence returns.
Pls help ur bro Inlaw, its not a big deal, it will only be if he has never had an erection in d past.. Don't advice ur sis to live her marriage, pass this info to her let her pass on to her hubby, u guys shld help him, cheers.
Let me also add this: let him run away from sugar! No soft drink/beer, no sugar in tea/garri etc. Sugar causes weak erection n also creates an enabling environment for bacteria/virus to thrive n multiply exponentially.
He shld also take lots of fruits like: water Mellon, cucumber, banana, lemon, groundnut etc

He man be scared or bothered about the marriage Values. Everyone has a different perspective of Karma and gravity.Since you said the relationship wasn't consummated. He may be bothered about number of ladies he wanted to treat with purity but then the erection came.

You mentioned he may have visited a number of prostitutes. If he was impotent, what is he doing with prostitutes ? When you get girls that easy.Ladies may loose purity and soul in one's eyes. It all about perception. Values that the man carries into a marriage is important for self actualization. Maslow emphasized the importance of this factor in Motivation.Don't be surprised when he get's erect your sister shall witness what she shall testify.

It all boils down to 'they haven't had sex before marriage' even if its for a short while. Besides medical test has proven them okay. Further research is needed 'on what is your own' ?

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Op, I feel for your sis. From experience I can only tell you that the guys problem is only psychological.
He is not important because like u said he gets erected but loses it at the point of penetration. I really feel for the guy.
there is a solution to the problem . Whatsapp me on this number 08033853625. So you can from my experience

helpforever:
I also have this issue and its really bothering me for over 5 years. Mine is complicated and I think its spiritual.

It all started in 2011 when I was 20 and was ready to have sex. I went to a popular brothel in Lagos with a friend to try it out.
Though I was very nervous because I was a virgin and my heart was beating very fast.

We actually went in and two women approached us. A young woman of about 28 and one of about 40.

I am my other virgin friend had eye on the one of about 28 cause she was very beautiful. My friend immediately held on to her. The other one of 40 now held on to me that I should carry her lets go do it. I angrily said "You be my mama mate na", she got angry and left.

Then the younger one said, if I and my friend wants, we can take turns with her.

We left for her room. I entered first and was very nervous and sluggish even in removing my cloth.

She said, "e be like say u be virgin...so na me go disvrigin" you. She started touching my di*k, but it didn't get hard.

Time started to waste and I got tired and asked her to refund my money. She started shouting that its not possible, that the fact that my dick did not rise is none of her business. I asked that my friend should use the money and attempt, she said no. that he must bring his own money.

We left the building and started the arguments outside. Other prostitutes came to her aid and started asking what was wrong. She explained to them that I tried to have sex with her and my thing did not rise and now I want my money back, they started shouting and said its not possible that we should better get out of her.

At one corner, the older woman of about 40 that I earlier rejected started giving me the "ntoor" look and was saying "You see your life"

I got very scared and left for home immediately.

I tried to watch porn to see if it will get up, I can't really remember if it did.

Long and short, I have not been able to have sex since then. I have not even had sex in my life. I have never tried to have sex with a real girl before, so I won't embarrass myself. I have never had a girlfriend. Though girls keep flocking around me, since I am doing well both academically and business wise, but I never attempt to have sex with them and they keep wondering whats wrong with me. One of the unilag girls that seduced me and I did nothing concluded that I was impotent because she feels no man in the world would have resisted her seduction since she was very hot.

I have tried to have sex 3 more times, with prostitutes, but still same thing happens. No erection

In 2012, I spent the whole year going to church everyday. Nothing happened. I have stopped now and accepted my fate.

Only my best friend knows about this, he keeps saying its not a spiritual condition but medical condition due to the fact that I started
masturbating right since I was 17.

He says I might have had the issue right before the prostitute encounter. Sometimes he says that it is a psychological condition.

But the thing is, how can a young boy of 20 then have Erectile dysfunction due to masturbation.
Many young boys masturbate and nothing happened to them.

I was sad for a while, but now it seems I have accepted my fate. This issue have made me focus on my studies and business and now, at 26. I have finished my BSC, and my MSC

Whenever I am Hot, I masturbate and I think that has worsened my issue. I have been masturbating since 2011 when this happened

Lots of order thing happens in between that confuses me. Like 2 years after the prostitute encounter, when I was in my 3rd year, one beautiful edo girl who really loved me was making out with me and flirting around me and I got a rock solid erection 100%. Very hard. Also, in 2014. A girl who liked me came to my house and she was fliting with me, though she didn't plan on having sex with me. Only the flirting alone made me hard. The erection was 70% hard. But then, those are the only occurencies.

Whenever I watch porn, I get semi erection - say about 60% hard.

Whenever I jerk my joystick, it gets hard - about 80% and within minutes, it deflates again.

Lot of different things have happened along the line which is too much to type. Long and short, I don't get erections when I wakeup again. I used to before all this issues.

Or is it the excess sugar I take, or the belly fat I have gotten due to the way I eat carelessly and spend on myself. (Since I don't have any woman to cater for) that is the cause.

Is it spiritual, medical or psychological?

Is it due to masturbation? Is it an infection?

Because I can remember in late 2012 or early 2013. When I tried to urinate, I had and felt a sharp pain.

I happened for about 2 days and stopped by itself.

I am getting older and my mother is already reminding me about marriage. I don't think I will marry until this issue is resolved. I can't
subject any woman to emotional pain.

At some point, I thought I was gay, but I am in no way attracted to men. But I am attracted to women. I tried watch transgender porn to confirm if I was gay (since I couldn't stand real gay porn). I actually got aroused and had a mild erection. But come one, transgenders are women who just have a joystick.

I have put up my issues on a foreign site (because other people who have put up their problems on nairaland gets abused, mocked, insulted and bullied) and I was advised by the whites to see a doctor and counselor. They didn't even understand what I meant by spiritual issue. But they have been very concerned and helpful

I don't need to see any counselor because my case would confuse who ever I tell.

I have been living in frustration. No sex life and no real social life. I keep falling out with female friend because I don't make any move towards them.

I keep falling out with male friends, because they keep wondering "why this their guy no dey nack woman like them". They feel I am weird because they 100% know I am not gay and wonder why a normal guy will be avoiding women like this.

I hope my issue is resolved.

But if its not, I would live the rest of my life like this. Probabaly keep on masturbating and never get married.

It might actually be my excessive masturbation that might be the cause of this. I don't really know. Only God knows.

I am depressed. But suicide is not an option for me. God forbid.

I feel ur pain (I've been there). My advice to u n any young man out there with similar issue is: Don't Hide Your Problem, Else Your Problem Will Hide U!
Your problem is not a big deal, its a combination of: psychological, excess sugar, n probably std. First thing first: go to a lab n do a test or better still, see a doctor, he will recommend a lab test.
If infection is present treat it asap. Next, cut off sugar entirely, no soft drink, no sugar in ur tea/garri. Take bitthers (eg Ruzu or Beta bitters).
To combat d psychological problem, u can take libido boosting drug like Reyouth root (herbal with no side effect). Its not a spiritual prob, I faced same problem b4 I got married, today I am happily married wit 2 kids.
(Plz see also advice I gave d op above, cheers)

blkmum700:



don't tell me you believe in this Spiritual husband and Spiritual wife lie,How come white People don't have this Spiritual Husband and Wife?

I have been watching too much of TB Joshua channels lately.

Godchild2015:
I was just laughing while reading op write up.

I can bet with every thing in me that your husband knows his impotent. But just wickness in him that made him not to disclose to your sister.
I had dated a guy suffering from diabetic for some years, which as a result affected his manhood. Although we were into no s e x relationship, but still yet I make sure I seduce him with my woman power just to know if he was OK health wise. Guess what? this guy thing refuse to rIse. I play my prank a week later. Still got the same answer. Right there, I told him to forget sister or brother thing we are doing, that his body must raise just for .me to be assure of what am about entering oh.
When he saw the fire in my eyes, this guy had to open up to me that, he had diabetic which had affected his manhood as well. The next day he came with all the drugs and the equipment he uses to measure his sugar level. At that point I knew what was ahead if I continue with the relationship.
Honestly speaking what piss me of with this guy was why he had to hide such vital Information from me.

Although I still practice no s e x till marriage, but am not that dump not to carry out my search just the way I did previously with the other guy.

I logged in just to like your comment. There are other ways to find out his potency. You don't actually have to have sex with the guy.

sisisioge:
I have been praying for your sis since morning. Now that she has made her family issue an extended family issue and you in turn extended the issue to the whole world...we can only pray. May God give phallus of the dude stability and strength!

You re trying to imply that she was supposed to continue suffering in silence? That marriage is null and void because it was built on deceit .

When they tell you people to 'test' the engine before you buy the car you will not listen

CHARLOE:

I feel ur pain (I've been there). My advice to u n any young man out there with similar issue is: Don't Hide Your Problem, Else Your Problem Will Hide U!
Your problem is not a big deal, its a combination of: psychological, excess sugar, n probably std. First thing first: go to a lab n do a test or better still, see a doctor, he will recommend a lab test.
If infection is present treat it asap. Next, cut off sugar entirely, no soft drink, no sugar in ur tea/garri. Take bitthers (eg Ruzu or Beta bitters).
To combat d psychological problem, u can take libido boosting drug like Reyouth root (herbal with no side effect). Its not a spiritual prob, I faced same problem b4 I got married, today I am happily married wit 2 kids.
(Plz see also advice I gave d op above, cheers)

It cannot be STD because I have never had sex in my life even before the prostitute encounter. I was a virgin.

Tell your sis to give him the small but mighty blue tablet, viagra 100mg and your inlaw will be walking around with an erektion for the next 10hours.Na your sister go run self say the guy wan use preeek kill her infact she go give testimony.

FortuneTeller:
I am coming today with tears in my eyes for my little sis. She is kind, sweet, and a very nice young lady. She met a 35 year old man last year who courted her and convinced our family of his sincerity. He is a nice guy and very handsome. They went for medical tests before the marriage and were told everything was fine. They have now been married for 3 months without sex. My sis has cried to me for the past 2 weeks. She says he has tried some herbal supplements and even saw a pastor, but nothing has changed. They did not have sex before marriage, but she says she has seen him with an erection before and after the marriage. However when he is about to insert himself, he loses the stiffness. I don't know what to do. Someone from our area says he is known to visit many prostitutes. I don't believe he is seeing them now because he has been with our family for some time now and even working in the family business. As they have not consummated the marriage, we are thinking of returning the things he bought so she can be free. How can a 35 year old man be impotent?? My sister shall not suffer.

Was he financially impotent or no sex before marriage worked really well, dumb bullshit for dummies

FortuneTeller:


My dear, my husband is long and strong. There is never a dull moment in my house.

Then how come your sister is still frying weak dodo

EmilyShoton:


Hello

sorry I am seeing this late. First your sister didn't marry an impotent man. What your husband has is called "Sexual Exhaustion" which is the cause of his ED.

It has to do with his brain on porn. It happens to most men who used porn to masturbate at a very early age so their brain is twisted to porn.

It is not a permanent problem but a temporary problem and it takes the two of them to work this out.

How old is your sister? because maturity in solving this is very essential.

first if your husband is still masturbating, he should stop that and porn.

secondly, he should go 30 days pure without any sexual activity and then introduce sex unto it little by little.

3. you have to have that connection to be helpful, cuddle him, make him connect with you.

4. google on "sexual exhaustion" and both of you should go through this together she will feel better when you discover its not the end of the world or your marriage.

Her husband might not even know he had such until he decided to have a penetration with her so dont tag him a devil.

PIED (Porn Induced Erectile Dysfunction) is common among many men. Its psychological and very reversible so your sister should not freak out.

When having sex, both of them should relax and also see a doctor.

cheers

Mod,please delete every other post and leave this one.
If u love your sister and his husband,you have to show him this.
This information is worth millions of naira.

yinkslinks:
Tell ur sister to call me for action 08029140695. I 4ucck like a mad man and my diiicck erects more in pusssssy

you be fool..... some one is seeking for solution... you are here making jokes

Don't rush to draw conclusion. If a man stays without sex for a long time he becomes impotent. So many people that are Christian virgin men marry ladies that are too experienced sexually, and after marriage their wives put them under too much pressure which in turn increases the state of being impotent. If a Virgin man marries a virgin woman, they progress gradually until the man regains his potency. An understanding woman will not put a man who has not experienced sex for a long time into unnecessary pressure because it increases the problem.

Both of them should go to TB jousha for spiritual pray that my advice, try it and thank God now and later.