sasko:


Nne oma jiri ya nwayo, Obuzi onye kwue ezi okwu panti ya efue


having said that, I'm a man with exposure and not like an average timid guys that liters on the streets, I will rather be comfortable with a wild and exposed lady than your so called virgin and crude girls


Present me a virgin and an ex prostitute I will choose the latter with the speed of lightning and save myself some dramas

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but you should not castigate her for choosing to be a virgin or ask her to languish in pain because she chose not to indulge in pre-marital sex. with your exposure, you should either proffer solution or sympathise with her rather than make it appear she made the wrong choice.
in addition virginity does not translate to crude and unrefined.
let everyone live the choice they have made.
why go for an ex prostitute lmao who has probably retired sexually.
the active prostitute would be better

Double post

FortuneTeller:
I am coming today with tears in my eyes for my little sis. She is kind, sweet, and a very nice young lady. She met a 35 year old man last year who courted her and convinced our family of his sincerity. He is a nice guy and very handsome. They went for medical tests before the marriage and were told everything was fine. They have now been married for 3 months without sex. My sis has cried to me for the past 2 weeks. She says he has tried some herbal supplements and even saw a pastor, but nothing has changed. They did not have sex before marriage, but she says she has seen him with an erection before and after the marriage. However when he is about to insert himself, he loses the stiffness. I don't know what to do. Someone from our area says he is known to visit many prostitutes. I don't believe he is seeing them now because he has been with our family for some time now and even working in the family business. As they have not consummated the marriage, we are thinking of returning the things he bought so she can be free. How can a 35 year old man be impotent?? My sister shall not suffer.

Landmark445:
Gays don't have etection in front of a naked woman. They are not aroused by a naked woman

Fool! Any man that can not get erection in front of naked woman is an impotent man not gay.

FortuneTeller:
I am coming today with tears in my eyes for my little sis. She is kind, sweet, and a very nice young lady. She met a 35 year old man last year who courted her and convinced our family of his sincerity. He is a nice guy and very handsome. They went for medical tests before the marriage and were told everything was fine. They have now been married for 3 months without sex. My sis has cried to me for the past 2 weeks. She says he has tried some herbal supplements and even saw a pastor, but nothing has changed. They did not have sex before marriage, but she says she has seen him with an erection before and after the marriage. However when he is about to insert himself, he loses the stiffness. I don't know what to do. Someone from our area says he is known to visit many prostitutes. I don't believe he is seeing them now because he has been with our family for some time now and even working in the family business. As they have not consummated the marriage, we are thinking of returning the things he bought so she can be free. How can a 35 year old man be impotent?? My sister shall not suffer.

95% of cases of impotence in men are psychological and not biological.
Since he can have an erection, his case is most likely a psychological one.

The problem is in his mind. No herb or hospital can help him. Maybe a psychologist can.

For as long as he has anxiety about his performance in bed he will continue to remain impotent.

You, your sister and your family may render him completely impotent as a result of your reaction.

Something related to sex happened in the past that has created a psychological scar in his mind that makes him anxious and doubtful about his sexual capability.For as long as he has doubt and anxiety about his performance, he will remain impotent.

The truth is this,your sister, not a hospital, or some herbs, is the only one who is in the best position to help him now.

First, she( and you and yout family) must quit the fear, worry and anxiety or at least completey hide it. The required solution is completely psychological. Each time he fails in bed, his anxiety and fear increase and thus leading to a much more higher likely hood of failing in the future.

Your sister must help him to overcome his fear and anxiety by brushing aside any failure of his as if nothing happened.Instead, she should make it a source of joint fun to them.

Apart from maintaining high hygeine, she must start to dress in sexually provocative ways and get into sex provoking talks with him or do any other thing that will boost his confidence. You sister should start acting as if he is giving her the greatest pleasure in the world when they are in bed even when he does a lousy job. She should exude with so much joy and satisfaction after each experience no.matter what happebed in bed.

She should also try to find out what his preferences and fantansies are , as it relates to sex, and try to act them out or fulfil them.(Please be careful! Don't get outside the word of God.)

The most important thing your sister must do is eliminate his fears and anxiety about performance by not allowing any of his failures to border her or him. Let her just act as if its nothing or nothing really happened.That way he will start to gradually overcome his fear and anxiety for failing in bed.If your sister does a good job of it, her husband coud get out of his impotence in a week.Thats all from me.


Seun, if you will not change my usename back ti mnairaland please delete this account.
Its an abuse of power to change my username and ban me because I citicized your site pointinh out that the most hatred and tribalism amongst Nigerians occur on it.
I respect your position as the owner of this site so you should respect my position as the creator of this account. Kindly create a DELETE MY ACCOUNT button so I can use it, if you prefer.
P.S. If you prefer to change it to any other thing apart from mnairaland the change it to EDiscovery. But you shouldn't force a username on me. If you prefer to delete my account or create a button for me to delete it myself. I had actually stopped using the account altogether.The compassion I felt for the op's sister was what made me make this post.

Treble post self

FortuneTeller:
I am coming today with tears in my eyes for my little sis. She is kind, sweet, and a very nice young lady. She met a 35 year old man last year who courted her and convinced our family of his sincerity. He is a nice guy and very handsome. They went for medical tests before the marriage and were told everything was fine. They have now been married for 3 months without sex. My sis has cried to me for the past 2 weeks. She says he has tried some herbal supplements and even saw a pastor, but nothing has changed. They did not have sex before marriage, but she says she has seen him with an erection before and after the marriage. However when he is about to insert himself, he loses the stiffness. I don't know what to do. Someone from our area says he is known to visit many prostitutes. I don't believe he is seeing them now because he has been with our family for some time now and even working in the family business. As they have not consummated the marriage, we are thinking of returning the things he bought so she can be free. How can a 35 year old man be impotent?? My sister shall not suffer.

Your sister can return things to the man and be out of the marriage anytime she chooses. However, except for domestic violence, whenever one has gone into marriage one has to say to ones conscience I have given it my all before walking away.

Provided there is openess between the couple and an acknowledgement of the existence of a problem then resolution can be explored together.

Sisters be weary cos majority will not accept that a problem exists and you alone keep running around until you give yourself high blood pressure and all you get for your effort is frustration and sometimes aggression . Mba mba.

Also it becomes easier if the man is a good man except for this comma.

Good luck.

FortuneTeller:
I am coming today with tears in my eyes for my little sis. She is kind, sweet, and a very nice young lady. She met a 35 year old man last year who courted her and convinced our family of his sincerity. He is a nice guy and very handsome. They went for medical tests before the marriage and were told everything was fine. They have now been married for 3 months without sex. My sis has cried to me for the past 2 weeks. She says he has tried some herbal supplements and even saw a pastor, but nothing has changed. They did not have sex before marriage, but she says she has seen him with an erection before and after the marriage. However when he is about to insert himself, he loses the stiffness. I don't know what to do. Someone from our area says he is known to visit many prostitutes. I don't believe he is seeing them now because he has been with our family for some time now and even working in the family business. As they have not consummated the marriage, we are thinking of returning the things he bought so she can be free. How can a 35 year old man be impotent?? My sister shall not suffer.

ON A SECOND THOUGHT , MAY BE THIS COULD BE A NEW TREND ABNORMALITY WHICH I REFER TO AS :

I . K. P. U. P. H. O. B. I .A . Or A. M .U P. H. O. B. I. A

Which occurs when a man looses phallus energy or frequency at the sight of a woman's Ikpu ( virgina) or Amu (pinnis)

this is wrongly interpreted as dieying to the victim in his subconscious . . . . . . . . .


is a state of the mind

can be solved

QUOT me and and get lost ! !

Jman06:
Your sis should find out if the dude is in the habit of regular masturbation. If so, then he has to stop as fast as possible. Some guys can masturbate several times daily and exhaust their genital muscles such that when it is time for the real action, the organ doesn't respond. The good news is that abstinence for some weeks with no sexual activities will help the organ come alive. He should also avoid consumption of much sugar and exercise often.

35yrs is too early to have that issue.

Bros I am not ashamed to say dat what u just commented about masturbation is what I am currently going through.
Thank God for d good news u also included. And please let me know if u have any further solution.

Klinee:
Foolish and senseless comment! A man is having erectile dysfunction and you are talking about gayism, what concern gay in this context? Many men both old and young ones are suffering from this erectile problem. Some men have not ever in their life gets erection but they will still brag about sleeping with different women. For your stupid mind you tag them gay, that how you guys are promoting this evil act called gay. They may not confine to anyone because they are ashamed. They run from women, that's have no girlfriend or no sex relationship. Gays are barbarians evil men that lies sexually with fellow man and they also sleep with women just like normal men.

Who is this gutter-bred idiot early Sunday morning now?

Mr man, is your brain paining you? Are you the most unfortunate in your family?

If you're suffering from erectile dysfunction don't you know where to go and buy agbo jedi?

Next time your 5minutes madness occurs, make sure you are tied with chain so that you don't mistakenly come and quote me with your akamu filled brain controlling your leprous fingers.

Now get the Fvck out of my freaking mentions before I throw the kitchen sink at you.

(This uncultured goat don make me sin now, today wey I manage go church, stay till the end of the Mass)

osuofia2:

I feel your pain.... but keeping it to yourself will only worsen the situation..because the more you stay off women the more your fears increases, and if you continue like this your loss of erection might become permanent which I pray it doesn't.... email me let's talk

Bro please email me or drop your mail

Thanks

The guy seems to have performance anxiety, like hes not relaxed so hes anxious and that leads him loosing his erection,patience and pre-intimacy,romance and reassurance 4rm ur sis.may get him to perform It may also be hes not sexually into ur sis either becos hes gay or ur sis is not his type. I dont think d guy is impotent,he is able totget erection but can not maintain it. A cock ring can also help him along with counselling but ur sis ought not to expose dis to d world marriage is 4 better 4 worse if he learn to trust and love her he may open up and be free 4rm his sexual anxieties and inhibitions

Ighoga898:

Bros I am not ashamed to say dat what u just commented about masturbation is what I am currently going through.
Thank God for d good news u also included. And please let me know if u have any further solution.

Just abstain from masturbation and all kinds of sexual activity for some time. feed well but avoid too much sugar. Take more of proteins {milk, egg,meat,fish,beans}, fruits and vegetables eg banana,unripe plantain etc plus exercise. You'll bounce back.

Naughtytboy:
Eya so u dey experience the same thing

Pls, avoid me. I've been doing same. You always look for ways to insult me but I've been ignoring you. Pls don't quote me again. Thanks


Cc: seun

Shossie:
please, how is it evil, do what you want to do, its your business, please don't quote me again.

Sharap and listen to instruction, stop encouraging evil for the last time. God is against sex before marriage

CHARLOE:

viagra is not d permanent solution, just temporary. He needs to treat d cause first; could be an infection, excess sugar, psychological etc

It is psychological. Which infection causes ED please? There is no indication that the man is diabetic or has any other metabolic diseases. By the way, the fact that he can attain an erection at all but loses it while attempting to penetrate rules out those other things.
It is definitely psychological. Viagra will take care of the immediate problem and once he can perform normally he will gain the confidence he needs to perform without the medication eventually.

crunchyg:

Sharap and listen to instruction, stop encouraging evil for the last time. God is against sex before marriage

You too sharrap, can't you see it was just a joke, and stop with this holier-than-thou-attitude.

Have you tried Swissgarde herbal products? If No, contact me comoli2009@gmail.com

Maybe he's doing it outside?

I can bet my life, the man is neither gay nor impotent.
So far he gets erected but looses it upon trying to penetrate his wife.

I have been through this phase before, its a case of erectile dysfunction. It can happen at anytime in a man's life, men should start taking their sexual health more seriously.

I dont drink nor smoke nor masturbate, I used to be okay with an above average libido, until I had this particular girlfriend(I wasn't in love with her), all attempt to penetrate her proved abotive. I will be rock hard during pre-intimacy but to penetrate is wahala.

Erectile dysfunction is a big problem. I remember visiting doctors and using recommended drugs for 2years without any effect.the drugs were not working because it will now become a psychological thing after attempting to have sex but it failed. One will become pessimistic that it won't work whenever intercourse wants to take place and it would eventually not work. All herbs I took didn't work because it had degenerated into a psychological issue.

My breakthrough eventually came after about 3years that I've abstained from sexual intercouse. I met a girl I was crazily in love with, we started dating. The first day she slept over at my place, I was so craving for her that I didn't remember I had ED issues, I found myself thrusting and I was so happy. Ever since then, I've been firing well even with other female after we quit the relationship. The ED issues left me with a scar though, the dick only works with a lady I'm in love with, if you like get naked in my presence, if I'm not in love with you, dick will never gain an inch.

Your brother in law's case maybe slightly different though but I can bet its the same ED issue that has degenerated into a psychological thing.

So, let your brother in law seek medical help first, advice your sister to be patient with him. She should be able to sustain pre-intimacy with him for long, even if it means giving him BJ. She should stop pressuring him too, that will not help.
Divorce is not an option, the issue can be worked on. Your sis should exercise patience.

FortuneTeller:


Hmm... I don't want to seem as if I am trying to break them but if she continues suffering, this may be the solution to her troubles. How can someone be so wicked??

You are so daft and juvenile.
So is it only women who have the right to have body problems in a relationship?

I bet you if it was the woman having some problem, you'll be on here talking about how "the man" should "work with her to find a solution", "she is your wife, blah blah blah".

But because na man...

FortuneTeller:
I am coming today with tears in my eyes for my little sis. She is kind, sweet, and a very nice young lady. She met a 35 year old man last year who courted her and convinced our family of his sincerity. He is a nice guy and very handsome. They went for medical tests before the marriage and were told everything was fine. They have now been married for 3 months without sex. My sis has cried to me for the past 2 weeks. She says he has tried some herbal supplements and even saw a pastor, but nothing has changed. They did not have sex before marriage, but she says she has seen him with an erection before and after the marriage. However when he is about to insert himself, he loses the stiffness. I don't know what to do. Someone from our area says he is known to visit many prostitutes. I don't believe he is seeing them now because he has been with our family for some time now and even working in the family business. As they have not consummated the marriage, we are thinking of returning the things he bought so she can be free. How can a 35 year old man be impotent?? My sister shall not suffer.

Na jedijedi dey worry the guy. Can we talk abt it

LaDivva:
She should leave that marriage ASAP, he knew his problem and tricked her into such marriage. 3months of being married yet no sex, thank God she's still intact, she should just leave that marriage before that man ruins her life.

does ur big God supports divorce becos d man is impotent?

Oyind18:
Pls, avoid me. I've been doing same. You always look for ways to insult me but I've been ignoring you. Pls don't quote me again. Thanks


Cc: seun

Yea,, u have to pay for your sins

Naughtytboy:
Yea,, u have to pay for your sins

Don't quote me again, Godwin

Godchild2015:
I was just laughing while reading op write up.

I can bet with every thing in me that your husband knows his impotent. But just wickness in him that made him not to disclose to your sister.
I had dated a guy suffering from diabetic for some years, which as a result affected his manhood. Although we were into no s e x relationship, but still yet I make sure I seduce him with my woman power just to know if he was OK health wise. Guess what? this guy thing refuse to rIse. I play my prank a week later. Still got the same answer. Right there, I told him to forget sister or brother thing we are doing, that his body must raise just for .me to be assure of what am about entering oh.
When he saw the fire in my eyes, this guy had to open up to me that, he had diabetic which had affected his manhood as well. The next day he came with all the drugs and the equipment he uses to measure his sugar level. At that point I knew what was ahead if I continue with the relationship.
Honestly speaking what piss me of with this guy was why he had to hide such vital Information from me.

Although I still practice no s e x till marriage, but am not that dump not to carry out my search just the way I did previously with the other guy.

how were to seduce a man without committing fornication child of God?

nightingalee:
Lwkm ... Would I ever tire of reading your last sentence? Your sense of humor is second to none.

Thanks jare.

imma2:
so you had to bring my problems here to NL abi? Iffa must hear this

I know u before?
Or wait better still make I help u invoke obatala, Mr iffa

The problem is most likely an anxiety. Tell your sister not pressure him. She should tell him sweet words to boost his ego. Like, we are in it together, I believe you are a strong man and we going to get through this temptation and divorce is not an option for us.
The guy should also check his blood pressure to see if it normal. Otherwise it should get some treatment on it.
Diabetes is can also cause a man to lost his erection sometime. If the guy is obese, running 20 mins. 3 to 4 time in a week is advised.
The man should also try to reduces his stress level.
Anyone that can get a morning erection is not impotence.
Tell your sister to hide her frustration, it bad for the man, cause it him to lose his self-esteem. Trust me, the man go soon perform.

Jman06:
Just abstain from masturbation and all kinds of sexual activity for some time. feed well but avoid too much sugar. Take more of proteins {milk, egg,meat,fish,beans}, fruits and vegetables eg banana,unripe plantain etc plus exercise. You'll bounce back.

The foods u stated are exactly my routine diets. And I will do anything in my power to stop masturbation, plus someone also said something about unripe plantain b4.
Anyways thanks a million.

alexialin:



I know u before?
Or wait better still make I help u invoke obatala, Mr iffa

You even go as much as denying me. Mbok, invoke. Let him judge this case

imma2:
You even go as much as denying me. Mbok, invoke. Let him judge this case

Lol u no serious
Dey mbok invoke ..u hear?? Lol

Fx55:


Are you a doctor or something

Is your own manhood not working?