Hahaha Thank Ma

Wait the elders will soon arive to advise you.
Wait ma call one for

Cc elder firstking01

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Lol but seriously speaking it's jst a show of respect for her.

Afterall she may direct u to thank God

SIL :Mum thank ma

MIL : Thank God my son

Infact anytime u finish eating at home look for MIL and say thank ma

alfredo4u:
House, just needed candid advise, my mother Inlaw is in my place for omugo/visit.

Just this evening my wife served me my dinner and after finish eating I left the parlour to the bed room, my wife came in and said why didn't I even say thank ma to her mother.

Pls kindly advise becos I nearly took offence about it.

Whats this?..Have you not a BRAIN?

I wonder the type of home training the OP is hoping to pass on to his children.

He's one of those unenlightened clowns who had defective upbringing and give Ndigbo a bad name.

This can only happen in intertribal marriage.

alfredo4u:
House, just needed candid advise, my mother Inlaw is in my place for omugo/visit.

Just this evening my wife served me my dinner and after finish eating I left the parlour to the bed room, my wife came in and said why didn't I even say thank ma to her mother.

Pls kindly advise becos I nearly took offence about it.

If it's your own mum that came visiting, I think you will say thank Ma after eating... You can also do that to ur Mother in Law... Its a Normal thing in my Igbo land...

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Not even up for discussion. It is just normal. I pay money to buy food in eatery and will still say thank you.

I see nothing wrong with that. She's also your mother. Don't you salute your mother after eating?

Well saying thank ma sounds ridiculous. Op greet her in your language. It's more appealing and show sign of respect. Where I come from if everyone in that room is older than you, you will greet all be it you are the owner of the home. Of na 10 elders dey present at that time, you will greet all.

Op, do you also ignore your mother after eating or are you just being disrespectful because it is the mother of your " servant" aka wife?

You don't respect and honor your wife cos if you do the said respect would've been extended to her mum too. Egotistical buffoon. Making a mountain out of a little hill. Imagine the resentment in your post.

LesbianBoy:
Lalasticlala come and see o!

Nothing wey person nor go hear for this forum!

Thank ma for what exactly? If it is in their house....ehen! Imagine some little kids on this thread saying it is "normal" to greet elderly ones you see after you finish eating! Imagine! If its like that let's say OP finish eating and he wants to quickly get airtime or something down the road. Naim be say, he will have to greet every elderly man or woman he sees on the road "thank sir" and "thank ma"

OP you know what, don't eat where your mother-in-law is again. Tell your wife to serve your food in your room, that is where you want to eat!

Don't start what you cannot finish! Before you know it now, her brother who is older than you with one or two years will come visiting and after you finish eating your wife will tell you why didn't you tell him "thank sir"

Oga adult! Where were raised?

Its simple courtesy.....I even say thank you to my friends who come to my house and eat the food I prepared with my own money together.talk more my mother in law.besides courtesy costs nothing'

Yes it's right....... and am suprised that you don't know... Even if you don't want to, just say it, so peace could reign.. you are the man and you are responsible of keeping peace in the house ...

alfredo4u:
House, just needed candid advise, my mother Inlaw is in my place for omugo/visit.

Just this evening my wife served me my dinner and after finish eating I left the parlour to the bed room, my wife came in and said why didn't I even say thank ma to her mother.

Pls kindly advise becos I nearly took offence about it.

I guess you not Igbo . To the Igbo's , it is not a big deal . I do it ti today

No ooooo
It is WRONG....


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alfredo4u:
House, just needed candid advise, my mother Inlaw is in my place for omugo/visit.

Just this evening my wife served me my dinner and after finish eating I left the parlour to the bed room, my wife came in and said why didn't I even say thank ma to her mother.

Pls kindly advise becos I nearly took offence about it.

Yes! It is proper..in fact over proper dey worry am... Cos she's ur Mother Inlaw and u won't accord some respect to her.. .. Hell No! Respect is a reciprocal. Whether she was the one that prepared the meal or not, u owe her that.
Sometimes, saying thank you doesn't necessarily means the person cooked the meal, it's a culture and sign of respect. Guy u have to see her as ur own biological Mum.
Thanks.

alfredo4u:
House, just needed candid advise, my mother Inlaw is in my place for omugo/visit.

Just this evening my wife served me my dinner and after finish eating I left the parlour to the bed room, my wife came in and said why didn't I even say thank ma to her mother.

Pls kindly advise becos I nearly took offence about it.

It is called courtesy. You are damn wrong even if na you be provider. Make sure you take the correction. These basic tenets are learnt from our families, if you didn't learn this, then there may be other things you still don't know. Learn from your wife, she comes from a structured home. You are lucky to have her.

alfredo4u:
House, just needed candid advise, my mother Inlaw is in my place for omugo/visit.

Just this evening my wife served me my dinner and after finish eating I left the parlour to the bed room, my wife came in and said why didn't I even say thank ma to her mother.

Pls kindly advise becos I nearly took offence about it.

For what? Na by force to marry her daughter sef? E pain me pass you OP
This our own kinda respect don the enter fault for Naija

I don't want to join this stupid argument. Didn't your mother teach you to greet your elders after eating?

Depends on what your tradition demands. As for me....ko joor!

DONT WE HAVE TRADITION ANYMORE?

ARE SAYING ADDRESSING YOUR MOTHER OR FATHER INLAWS AS MUMMY OR DADDY IS WRONG? NOPE

THANK YOU MA OR MUMMY AFTER MEAL IF SHE WAS SITTING WITH YOU RIGHT ON THE DINNER.

LET HAVE RESPECT FOR ELDERS PLSSSSSSS

Op, your wife has little or no conflict management skill, which should be the number one characteristic every married woman should be associated with. She has forced you to open a thread this early morning because she couldn't manage a minute situation. It's situations as these that result to biases against in-laws cos I see no reason why the wife's mother should demand to be acknowledged after every meal as though its her house. Common sense should inform her that its not worth causing a rift between her daughter and husband. Op, It's also a good thing that this situation came into play because its evident from this that your wife puts her now extended family ahead of her immediate family cos she would never take your side or defend u if anything comes up.

mehnn,, I am hearing this for the first time in my life. 'thank you ma' for eating. if that's what your wife wants, maybe you should oblige her. its not part of our own custom sha...I be Yoruba girl, I marry Yoruba man, my hubby has never said thank you ma for eating and my mother has never taken offense. no big issue there sha. thank you ma for eating!!!! thank you ma for waking up sef even thank you ma for shitting

Even if the money is yours oga that word go a long way.. You even need to tell your wife thank you. It make her feel appreciated more..


Oga nah small shit Dey smell pass ooo..

Op u will get old and u will understand..

abescom:
Not even up for discussion. It is just normal. I pay money to buy food in eatery and will still say thank you.

LMAO. Not everyone got a proper home training you know?, I buy things from the stores and after paying I unconsciously say "Thank you". That word could be heavy on some lips.

lytech1:
Thanks ma...
For what?


Was the food prepared by her?

Was she the one who foot the bill of the meal?


Ayamu not understanding..

it's your type that won't last in your husband house always carrying shoulder up

If your MIL prepared the meal you could always appreciate her effort. However if your wife did, it doesn't make sense. Thanking her for what? I could only eulogize my wife for preparing a sumptuous meal after devouring it in the face of my MIL....Doing that would definitely make my MIL happy. This is not about ego. It is called TAKING CHARGE!

Champele:
I don't want to join this stupid argument. Didn't your mother teach you to greet your elders after eating?

like I just wonder how some people grew up..

This little things go a long way.. But most persons don't know..

Things we take for granted are what matters more in life..