mrjojo:
Lol, funny as this is, some years ago I was in a neighbor's house and they were eating, after they were done, the 3 kids knelt down and was thanking the parent, y'all need to see how surprised I was. I asked the eldest son why they were thanking, and he said "for eating na". Lol.
Btw they are from edo state.

Me no dey thank anybody o, except you serve me.

daretodiffer:
MIL is there to help them. Also, she is older. It won't cost him anything nor would it bring disrespect if he said ‘thanks'.

mastermaestro:
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Oliver Twist, welcome. Are you through, great interpreter of culture? Remove the spec in your eyes first, madam.

mastermaestro:
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They are known by their fruits. You even had to begin with an insult. Now everyone knows how you were raised.

sacramento1212:


@ thank you ma for waking up and shitting. Well, those in support that the OP should have said thank you to the MIL are mostly the igbos because that's how they do it there. But to me that's nonsense as it doesn't make any sense except it was the MIL that cooked or served the meal. Thanking the wife for a well prepared meal is in order or for serving him but for the MIL, that's nonsense.

UjSizzle:

If she's helping him take care of their child, saying thank you isn't bad.

But this is feeding. What's he thanking her for?

I don't understand the sentiments we carry about as Nigerians. It hasn't done us much good to begin with. Say "thank you" because it's polite but makes no sense at all.

You thank people for services rendered, not just for the sake of it. Otherwise all that show of courtesy becomes meaningless. Just like most things already are.

UjSizzle:

Read your comment out loud to yourself.
Does it sound sensible to you?


*moving on*

Acheron:

Stop casting aspersions on my person. Oh so you think you were raised better just because you say "thank you" after eating to an elder who didn't participate in no way in the cooking or how the food got to be? SMH just go abeg.

mastermaestro:


Don't just move, make sure you move on to wisdom on how warm homes are built and preserved!!!!

pocohantas:
Will you be asking this question if it were your mum?
If no? Then the question is unwarranted.


On Jan 23rd, your wife was about putting to bed
https://www.nairaland.com/3588885/tb-joshua-undoubtedly-one-gods#53065688


Jan 24th, you were already sucking your helps' boobs?
https://www.nairaland.com/3589656/wonder-why-women-hard

Troll.

mastermaestro:


Aspersions? Oh you are going defensive already after opening your remark with a general insult. I hope when your own mum visits your house, you cook for her, after both of you might have eaten, you would expect her to bow her knees to thank you. After all everything there belongs to you, right? Let me leave you to live as you have been taught.

bobcharly:
so what about lying flat on the ground to greet an elder that is not God,who doesn't feed you nor pay your bills? How necessary? You are entitled to your own opinion but don't be judgmental about things you know little about. Its not 'nonsense' to us(igbos).
Cultural differences applies bro.

koresN:
respect is not measured on the basis of your pocket.your mother in law is your senior by virtue of been your wife mum.tell her thank ma

Acheron:

You're just talking balderdash. I will not thank my mom for a food she did not participate in. The thank you only goes to my wife. My mom only get a thank you if she participated in the cooking or she assisted in serving the meals. Pls, stop abusing the word "thank you". As a poster said earlier, you only thank people for services rendered. What service has that MIL rendered that made her deserve a thank you from the husband?

Stop following religion and culture blindly. Good day.

BellaElla:


Yes it's proper.
When we were growing up, we were taught that you should thank the elderly ones in the room after eating. I still do that to anyone that is older than me when I eat. I am igbo by the way.

alfredo4u:
House, just needed candid advise, my mother Inlaw is in my place for omugo/visit.

Just this evening my wife served me my dinner and after finish eating I left the parlour to the bed room, my wife came in and said why didn't I even say thank ma to her mother.

Pls kindly advise becos I nearly took offence about it.

mastermaestro:


Where are you from, Mr Joe? It's common table manners in many Nigerian homes to thank the elderly person near you after having a meal irrespective of who financed the meal. Unless you grew apart from a home of elder folks, this isn't news! At an eatery, it's unnecessary. But in a home, it's a norm. Obedience, love and honour are the pillars of a successful home!

An obligation? Never. It's a sign of honour. This world is easy! Men make it difficult to live in!

chigoizie7:




This is akin to waking up from the wrong side of the bed and then refuses to greet anyone even ur father or refused to accept greetings from others.




It doesn't matter who brings the money, what matters is the sign of respect showed.





Let me ask u this, do u think it is right for a child to greet his or her father " good morning" or the other way round.


Good morning is like asking " HowZ ur nite? I hope u slept well". Between u and ur little child, who should be asking that question in the real context of greetings?


But it became a norm for children to greet elders, maybe Vic's of customs , same as greeting elders after eating.



Op are u seriously trying to tell me that if ur mother had visited u, that u won't greet her " thank ma" after eating? Even when she didn't foot the bills?



Over sabi de always kill us. It won't take anything out from us to say the few words.



Anyways, all man to his or her opinions

Bigsteveg:


Mr Springer, i dont know where you are from o, maybe animal kingdom?
The man is in his house, he dropped money for food, the wife cooked the food, the wife served the food, the man ate, and the wife cleared the plates. Please where does the mother in law fits to deserve a thank you?

If there is a thank you to be given, its the wife who cooked and served.