₦airaland Forum

luminouz:
N are u that thick in d ASS to keep sitting on d same bullshiiit!!!!! Seems u have suffered at d hands of such men!!! Ehyah Pele!!!! I never endorsed battering of d woman...all I said was are we sure d woman is not aggravating him in any way....or maybe he is facing some issues we dont know.....y would he just start beating after just 5 years of marriage? Something is fishy
But then u can't make ur point without resulting to insults n vile utterances.... Are u a Yoruba Muslim?

gentlemafia:
Where is ur God' nottin jst happens in d physical wit out a link in d spiritual, jst ask d. Holy spirit 2 guide u' surely dats d only surest way 4 ward oh.

opineflu:
solution is SEPARATION

goingape1:
that's the major problem we are facing in Africa!

when two independent mindset come together things will go smoothly, the man will respect himself and so likewise the woman .

2kaybiel:
is she a nag, a disobedient, a disrespective or unsubmissive woman?

The woman might have her own trouble which is not stated in this piece because it is rare for a man to make a threat of divorce without a reason even if he is a drunkard.

goingape1:
you got time talking with that psychopathic Yoruba woman!

don't let her infect you with her demented mindset!

you mostly find her in religion of peace section talking rubbish up and down!


we all know that something is wrong with her brain.

Larasisi:
obviously the man is a psychopath all she needs is to get busy with her job and have little or no reason to be hopelessly dependent on him.
God is head over him and she must be able to always take all her pains to him.He will restrain him from going all the way out to hurt her. Let her read Malachi 2 where God said he hates divorce and stand on that verse that way divorce will not be an option for her. God is alive. I know what she is going through. Be strong in the Lord.

luminouz:
N are u that thick in d ASS to keep sitting on d same bullshiiit!!!!! Seems u have suffered at d hands of such men!!! Ehyah Pele!!!! I never endorsed battering of d woman...all I said was are we sure d woman is not aggravating him in any way....or maybe he is facing some issues we dont know.....y would he just start beating after just 5 years of marriage? Something is fishy
But then u can't make ur point without resulting to insults n vile utterances.... Are u a Yoruba Muslim?

Solobenny:
Admittedly, the wife is a human being, subjected to human errors, however, from I've witnessed, she's very submissive and replies him in a low tone, apologizes when due. That said, after her mum's demise, the husband didn't show any sympathy, this drove her crazy and couldn't bear it anymore.

PaperLace:
Anybody asking if she is disrespectful is very stupid. Quote me and face my wrath. The bolts in your head are not there at all.
So, a disrespectful wife should be beaten?
What should we do to disrespectful husbands? Pray for them as usual, wear red pant and bra.

Some of you men think you're more important than technology. You think you don't have faults? Give your wives A4 paper to write your fuckups and you'll be amazed at what she's putting up with. She didn't beat or poison you.

Who trained these Dunderheads?!

PaperLace:
Anybody asking if she is disrespectful is very stupid. Quote me and face my wrath. The bolts in your head are not there at all.
So, a disrespectful wife should be beaten?
What should we do to disrespectful husbands? Pray for them as usual, wear red pant and bra.

Some of you men think you're more important than technology. You think you don't have faults? Give your wives A4 paper to write your fuckups and you'll be amazed at what she's putting up with. She didn't beat or poison you.

Who trained these Dunderheads?!

ominirajj:
Most men
Misbehave after like having 2 to 3 kid from a woman
Some Men are like hypocrites to me some men are polygamous in nature
They won't take care if the woman that is at home but be taking care of young girls around
So therefore WOMEN DO NOT RELY ON MEN

Solobenny:
Good evening wonderful Nigerians and naira landers.
Please take your time and read cause this might be a long post.
NB: Exclusively for natured and experienced minds, your comments and are expectedly welcomed.


My cousin has complains she's tired of her marriage.

She has been married for 5yrs and have four children (a set of twin girls and another boy and girl).

She has on several/most occasions been a victim of domestic violence, the husband spends most nights outside the home, comes back drunk, easily infuriated and top of it all an egoistic being.

My cousin has been enduring without telling anyone because of her ill mother(don't want her to die of heartbreak) and for the love of her kids, not forsaking the endurance based on Christianity belief.

Now her mum is gone just some days ago, pathetic as it seems the husband didn't show any sign of pity or sympathy, he started making threats of divorce accompanied with abuses calling she and her siblings "useless orphans,your sorrow just begin" and more despite the mourning state.

Now, she is clearly confused on the decision to take.

*To proceed with the divorce , noting the expenses of child rearing on a single mother. ( She's a qualified and educated Nurse)

*To seek or perhaps accept apology if who knows her husband apologizes like he always does. ( bearing in mind the level of threat, high level of domestic violence and mental distress she'll continue to undergo.)

Help her make a decision.

Thanks as you comment wisely and naturedly.

daretodiffer:
5 years is very long, some start after 20 years! If you know what you were saying you won't be mentioning 5 years like it is such a big deal!!!

Get a brain, man. Aggravation is the reason why he should beat her day in day out. It is her fault he can't control himself. She must be doing something, even if she were, the appropriate thing is to beat her, abi? What is stopping him from leaving the marriage? Biko, when a soldier aggravate you, beat him Wella sogbo!!!



I can't help insulting you, I don't like ijiiots. Don't be thick in the head,

thorpido:
God hates divorce,true.However,what does God feel about men who have murdered their spouses?
A woman should remove herself from a violent environment.

The problem with a lot of women is that for many reasons,they see an unstable man and they still decide to marry him.

Ishilove:
Lmao!! Joseph!!!

daretodiffer:
Their fathers and mothers


A disrespectful, disobedient and unsubmissive womn should be thought a lesson. God forbid, her husband doesn't teach her a lesson when she aggravates him

Originalsly:
Bro.... some women are trapped in marriage.... and worse if they claim to be Christian but have the Pagan belief that 'God hates divorce'.No doubt, she is trapped. The abuse will only get worse.... she will continue to suffer physically but worse... mentally and emotionally. How can she raise the children in such a state? The children are witnessing... they are suffering. .. they are learning.... they are being affected. What kind of adults would they become? If you check out the husband's history... don't be surprised to find out he grew up with an abusive father... and this is what he knows best... the cycle continues. Again... she is trapped. My advice. ... and please... I have no sugar to sugar coat it... as a male relative.... you and others should not even be up in here seeking advice. You are a big part of the problem. That guy is battering your cousin because the male members of her family allow it to happen. Have a meeting with him.... since she has been a faithful and pretty much a submissive wife.... let him know the abuse has to stop immediately or there will be repercussions. Most likely... it will stop because he will now be in fear.... if it doesn't. .. then he should be given a severe beat down. You can choose to do nothing... because it is not your business... or because what other people will say.... or you don't get involved in married people business. If .....God forbid.... she is one day beaten into a pulp.... or commits suicide... you can tell the world what you could've done if you only knew it was going to come to this. Your cousin is trapped... crying for help... free her.. and her children.

Solobenny:
Good evening wonderful Nigerians and naira landers.
Please take your time and read cause this might be a long post.
NB: Exclusively for natured and experienced minds, your comments and are expectedly welcomed.


My cousin has complains she's tired of her marriage.

She has been married for 5yrs and have four children (a set of twin girls and another boy and girl).

She has on several/most occasions been a victim of domestic violence, the husband spends most nights outside the home, comes back drunk, easily infuriated and top of it all an egoistic being.

My cousin has been enduring without telling anyone because of her ill mother(don't want her to die of heartbreak) and for the love of her kids, not forsaking the endurance based on Christianity belief.

Now her mum is gone just some days ago, pathetic as it seems the husband didn't show any sign of pity or sympathy, he started making threats of divorce accompanied with abuses calling she and her siblings "useless orphans,your sorrow just begin" and more despite the mourning state.

Now, she is clearly confused on the decision to take.

*To proceed with the divorce , noting the expenses of child rearing on a single mother. ( She's a qualified and educated Nurse)

*To seek or perhaps accept apology if who knows her husband apologizes like he always does. ( bearing in mind the level of threat, high level of domestic violence and mental distress she'll continue to undergo.)

Help her make a decision.

Thanks as you comment wisely and naturedly.

Solobenny:
Good evening wonderful Nigerians and naira landers.
Please take your time and read cause this might be a long post.
NB: Exclusively for natured and experienced minds, your comments and are expectedly welcomed.


My cousin has complains she's tired of her marriage.

She has been married for 5yrs and have four children (a set of twin girls and another boy and girl).

She has on several/most occasions been a victim of domestic violence, the husband spends most nights outside the home, comes back drunk, easily infuriated and top of it all an egoistic being.

My cousin has been enduring without telling anyone because of her ill mother(don't want her to die of heartbreak) and for the love of her kids, not forsaking the endurance based on Christianity belief.

Now her mum is gone just some days ago, pathetic as it seems the husband didn't show any sign of pity or sympathy, he started making threats of divorce accompanied with abuses calling she and her siblings "useless orphans,your sorrow just begin" and more despite the mourning state.

Now, she is clearly confused on the decision to take.

*To proceed with the divorce , noting the expenses of child rearing on a single mother. ( She's a qualified and educated Nurse)

*To seek or perhaps accept apology if who knows her husband apologizes like he always does. ( bearing in mind the level of threat, high level of domestic violence and mental distress she'll continue to undergo.)

Help her make a decision.

Thanks as you comment wisely and naturedly.

confido2017:
I want to commend based on what has happened to my younger sister. My dear before you see a man opt for divorce or separation things must ve happened at the back which your sister is yet to come to terms or know.

My sister's ex hubby did same. This is after my sister had miscarriage of twins (a boy and girl). We d family members pleaded but he still insisted on separation which finally took place. Today he got married to a lady (ordained minister) in their Church which my sister was meeting to plead on her behalf. The TM was this 1st April, 2017, the white wedding will be 9th April, 2017 in the same Church.

In conclusion, I just want your sister to make up her mind for the single motherhood. For him to say dat while she's mourning, it's extreme. Though it isn't easy but is it not beta dan been dead and anoda so called step mum with maltreat her children.

The Bible is against DIVORCE but when ones life is at stake, oh men.....

Vorpal:
The only lesson such woman should be taught is a divorce. Agree or not?

cybernaut:
Bros, ur sister is a nagger. Her husband come back late at night but didn't slept outside. Ur sister has no right to insult or degrade her husband because he drunk rather she shuld ask her husband to drank any type of liquor at home her. Infact ur sister is a nagger and insultive to her husband maybe she is earning more Dan him.

daretodiffer:
Of course, what else?

goingape1:
that's what I'm still trying to understand!

you know someone is unstable, you must have seen some terrible downside during courtship and yet still go into the marriage. what make you think he will change

it is better to be single than to marry!