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Re: I'm Tired Of My Marriage!!! Please Help by divinelove(m): 12:33pm On Apr 06, 2017 |
Solobenny: Yawns is she financially independent |
Re: I'm Tired Of My Marriage!!! Please Help by Nobody: 12:37pm On Apr 06, 2017 |
Jacksparr0w127: Who is this fellow? Jascksparrow more, Arsen Wenger ni, stay off my mention |
Re: I'm Tired Of My Marriage!!! Please Help by ademoladeji(m): 12:43pm On Apr 06, 2017 |
davo90tico: Why do we go to court for marriage? Why do we get certificates when getting married? Love, trust, understanding as well as flexibility should be the criteria for marriage. If anyone of the above mentioned got missing, I bet the union is destined for the SOUTH |
Re: I'm Tired Of My Marriage!!! Please Help by Ubenedictus(m): 12:47pm On Apr 06, 2017 |
Divorce him, once physical abuse sets in and isn't ending, divorce him. |
Re: I'm Tired Of My Marriage!!! Please Help by Jesusgirl92(f): 12:52pm On Apr 06, 2017 |
adorablepepple:seconded. 1 Like |
Re: I'm Tired Of My Marriage!!! Please Help by oglalasioux(m): 12:57pm On Apr 06, 2017 |
daretodiffer: A lot of girls do worse; from diabolical threats to outright hired killers. More men are railroaded into marriages by force than not. |
Re: I'm Tired Of My Marriage!!! Please Help by irririchris(m): 1:00pm On Apr 06, 2017 |
A poem for your cousin... A poem for your cousin Solobenny: 1 Like
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Re: I'm Tired Of My Marriage!!! Please Help by newspostng(m): 1:09pm On Apr 06, 2017 |
your reasons are baseless |
Re: I'm Tired Of My Marriage!!! Please Help by Nobody: 1:10pm On Apr 06, 2017 |
Pidgin2:And if I don't? You'll beat me? |
Re: I'm Tired Of My Marriage!!! Please Help by BarrElChapo(m): 1:34pm On Apr 06, 2017 |
Better divorced that be the late... walk away from an abusive man. They are a no no 1 Like |
Re: I'm Tired Of My Marriage!!! Please Help by adorablepepple(f): 1:37pm On Apr 06, 2017 |
Hemstone:Stupid imbeciile, what advice did your rotten mouth give? Goat |
Re: I'm Tired Of My Marriage!!! Please Help by Solobenny(m): 1:57pm On Apr 06, 2017 |
goingape1:lol pardon my auto-correct |
Re: I'm Tired Of My Marriage!!! Please Help by dotedote: 2:10pm On Apr 06, 2017 |
Suggesting to her what to do might be unfair without seeing the other side of the coin. One sidedness not my thing. |
Re: I'm Tired Of My Marriage!!! Please Help by Solobenny(m): 2:14pm On Apr 06, 2017 |
Originalsly: You are wise! You're are wise!!! What did I say? You are indeed wise!!! But then the male relative have according to the family's reputation called for peace , What does he do? He started making life threats, I wish I could upload screenshot of messages he sent. They were in all angles embarrassing considering the wife just lost her mother two days ago the only parent she has left . There are many heartless acts of this man that would be too confidential to relate here. In all my cousin endured to avoid her late mum having a sudden heart attack considering she's the only daughter. People are really wicked in this life. |
Re: I'm Tired Of My Marriage!!! Please Help by adisanasir(m): 2:28pm On Apr 06, 2017 |
Family palava! May God help you. The ball is in your court you can play it the way you like but remember apitation is not the antidote of headache |
Re: I'm Tired Of My Marriage!!! Please Help by Egalitarian1: 2:32pm On Apr 06, 2017 |
Was I the one that helped her make the Choice of marriage and who am I to peddle into family affair? It's high time people practised what they promise during marriage "for better, for worst, in health and in sickness, in affluence and in abject poverty till death do them part " For the husband, I pray God to grant him grace of repentance and common sense, love and peace to enable him rebuild his family. Amen! 1 Like |
Re: I'm Tired Of My Marriage!!! Please Help by xavier047: 2:42pm On Apr 06, 2017 |
daretodiffer:Kid kid kid.... not stopping to let words sink into that head of yours before you exercise your fingers only makes you look like the proverbial youth with all the knowledge in the world and can't learn from anyone.. Continue replying to every statement as you see fit..... Wise Lady |
Re: I'm Tired Of My Marriage!!! Please Help by xavier047: 3:14pm On Apr 06, 2017 |
Solobenny: This guy you funny o So the poster speaks your mind and what you and your relatives ought do abi ? So case settled, gather them relatives, speak to your In-law and in the process give him a beat down..... Yeah that should be the answer..lol tsk tsk tsk..... Is that how the better for worse phrase in the marriage lines have gone down the drain? What ever happened to the fact that these are difficulties that will happen and surely for each and everyone in this forum(married or single), such temptations though with a different face will surely surface..... but remember it is those that are steadfast with God-Given Wisdom that will weather the storm and peace will reign finally in their houses. This is my advise to you like someone earlier suggests: Advise your cousin or your sister (as the case maybe): 1. She needs to develop a metal toughness that will not allow the actions of her husband to get to her..i.e. Ignore and stay away from issues that will get her hubby behave unruly to her 2. Always i repeat Always ensure that [b]RESPECT [/b]for her hubby is not thrown away to the bin (so it will not be use against her one day) 3. Let her constantly seek wisdom in Prayer and devote her time to her kids and work (since she is a Nurse) 4. Once she starts experiencing violence, she should take her kids and leave the house ( This is lawful since it could lead to loss of her life) There are many more (good advises) contained within this forum which you yourself need wisdom to see and take home, but the main moral now is that your cousin/Sister now lives her life for her Kids and as such should be careful with the way she acts so as not create a new monster in them. As for the Man sorry i meant Child, he has no excuse to hit a woman and for such words despite the death of the In-law, i will rather reserve comments since we are all trying to help your sister with advise on her marriage Chaiii see us all wey dey give advise, we never remove the ones wey dey our ends , All same God be with you in any decision you relay to your relative |
Re: I'm Tired Of My Marriage!!! Please Help by oodua1stson: 3:18pm On Apr 06, 2017 |
I know a very very good man who became an animal die to his wife's incessant nagging and madNess. The good man lager became a drunkard because he couldn't face the problem at home sober. He later became a womaniser. One day the man woke up an decided to live a healthy life again. To stop drinking and womanising. But 1st he had to send the woman who drive him mad away 1st Perhaps the woman is just like the one in my story. Though I'm not excusing the man or indulging him. But if the madam is truly tired she should leave 1 Like |
Re: I'm Tired Of My Marriage!!! Please Help by vickydevoka(m): 3:26pm On Apr 06, 2017 |
U mentioned egoistic #Pride. They husband must be the type dat doesn't need to be patronised or advised on bases of family issue, I think dat is wat must av transpired btw him n de wife siblings 1 Like |
Re: I'm Tired Of My Marriage!!! Please Help by refreshrate: 3:33pm On Apr 06, 2017 |
Solobenny: Find out from the man Trust me sentiments can cloud our reasoning most times You (&we) can't be taking decisions based on one side of the story. Meet with the husband hear his side then come back here tag us and then we will decide. |
Re: I'm Tired Of My Marriage!!! Please Help by Solobenny(m): 4:16pm On Apr 06, 2017 |
lazeal: The illiterate husband forbid him to work. The few months she did. He would often come to the hospital and embarrass her and eventually apologize. In a nutshell, he doesn't like working under someone, his ego blinds him |
Re: I'm Tired Of My Marriage!!! Please Help by Solobenny(m): 4:28pm On Apr 06, 2017 |
anochilar: You're a JW right? Funny thing. This is a JW couple. The wife is a reputable sis in the congregation unlike the husband who hardly attends meeting |
Re: I'm Tired Of My Marriage!!! Please Help by Frolic: 4:32pm On Apr 06, 2017 |
PaperLace:You as a woman agreed to be the loser for your husband to always be the winner the moment you confess 'I do'. Stop nagging |
Re: I'm Tired Of My Marriage!!! Please Help by lazeal: 4:35pm On Apr 06, 2017 |
Solobenny:She is better off without him. |
Re: I'm Tired Of My Marriage!!! Please Help by joshkke(m): 4:36pm On Apr 06, 2017 |
1. She should get elders from both families to speak with him, get the apology THEN provided he agrees to some sort of counseling she should stay. Counseling introduces an authority figure who can say "you are out of line". The above does not guarantee well being but if he doesn't agree to this, it's already a lost cause. Also prayer works miracles. May GOD be with her. |
Re: I'm Tired Of My Marriage!!! Please Help by Priceless200(f): 4:47pm On Apr 06, 2017 |
Go to Facebook, search FIN, (get someone who is already a member to add you to the group) and table this before them. You will receive more practical advice there. But my own humble opinion is ; once abuse, especially physical enters a marriage it hardly stops. And most times it leads to far more worst situations. Let her leave the marriage, might not be outright divorce, just a break you know. Even unmarried couples do give themselves break sometimes. Just to recalculate and revalue. |
Re: I'm Tired Of My Marriage!!! Please Help by AjiChris(f): 4:51pm On Apr 06, 2017 |
Pidgin2:EXACTLY...I PRAY IT MAKES AN IMPACT 1 Like |
Re: I'm Tired Of My Marriage!!! Please Help by greatcrown: 5:46pm On Apr 06, 2017 |
If your cousin is a Christian, let her check this site http://www.firesprings.com and follow the instructions there. |
Re: I'm Tired Of My Marriage!!! Please Help by enozy(m): 5:50pm On Apr 06, 2017 |
most family matters are more of spiritual than physical or common sense ,divorce is not an option let her always pray for him, Love and cherish him. I also encourage you and family members to pray for deliverance of your cousin and her husband. please urge her to be committed to prayer and fasting and study of God word Her husband is been Manipulated. |
Re: I'm Tired Of My Marriage!!! Please Help by Prettyenit18(f): 6:04pm On Apr 06, 2017 |
You too make sense. . I love what you wrote. I am tired of those people, can you imagine a lady once told me that if a woman is being maltreated in her husband's house and she decides to leave that she's selfish! keepingmum: |
Re: I'm Tired Of My Marriage!!! Please Help by eyinjuege: 6:46pm On Apr 06, 2017 |
Solobenny: Look, I don't know what help you want for your cousin online. The man is abusive in all ramifications. Everyone's agreed on that. He was abusive before he told your cousin he wanted a divorce, abusive when he still wanted the marriage. Now that he has told her in clear terms he wants a divorce, you can be sure the abuse will be tripled now. What you lot should be looking for is how to get immediate accommodation for your cousin, even if its a self contained apartment for now. Let her leave the place, and leave the man with his wahala. Time to double her hustle. Any assistance she can get from you guys her family members will be welcome I'm sure. 1 Like |
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