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Re: Am I Asking For Too Much? by Nobody: 12:41pm On Apr 09, 2017

Alero3Arubi:
I'm a female in her mid twenties.
I want to settle down but I can't seem to find someone who meets all my requirements.
But I don't want to settle for anything less.
My friends say I am asking for too much.
Here is my list.
1. He must have God.

But that's not the major dilemma.
These are:
I want to do these with my husband.
1. Rent his first flat with him.
2. Open his first mortgage account with him.
3. Build his first house with him.
4. Have his first child with him.
5. Buy his first car with him.
6. Start his first marriage with him.
... Just these
Am I asking for too much?

Honestly by the time you marry you should already have done those things yourself

Those are objects what more do you want? What about moral support or an intriguing mind ect

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Re: Am I Asking For Too Much? by UGLEEBOI: 1:00pm On Apr 09, 2017

DEAR OP,
I KNOW WHAT YOU ARE TRYING TO DO...
BUH WITH ALL DUE RESPECT, I WILL BEHAVE
LIKE I DON'T KNOW...
KIP KWAYET...
AND KONTINU OBSERVING THE THREAD..

SUCCESS IN YOUR SEARCH.

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Re: Am I Asking For Too Much? by JacksonD7: 1:05pm On Apr 09, 2017

Alero3Arubi:
In other words I'm asking for too much.

Yes you are.

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Re: Am I Asking For Too Much? by JacksonD7: 1:12pm On Apr 09, 2017

Alero3Arubi:
Why settle down to establish roots and then marry?
What are you marrying me for again kwa?
To become a trophy?

So its a crime for a man to get his feet steady before getting married, no matter how steady a man is he's still not complete without a wife. Whether the man is established or not the wife completes the Yin/Yang combination.

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Re: Am I Asking For Too Much? by braindollar(m): 1:14pm On Apr 09, 2017

Alero3Arubi:
I'm a female in her mid twenties.
I want to settle down but I can't seem to find someone who meets all my requirements.
But I don't want to settle for anything less.
My friends say I am asking for too much.
Here is my list.
1. He must have God.

But that's not the major dilemma.
These are:
I want to do these with my husband.
1. Rent his first flat with him.
2. Open his first mortgage account with him.
3. Build his first house with him.
4. Have his first child with him.
5. Buy his first car with him.
6. Start his first marriage with him.
... Just these
Am I asking for too much?

My dear i qualify then to be your husband because I don't have all those yet and looking for someone to join me when I acquire them

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Re: Am I Asking For Too Much? by Nobody: 1:18pm On Apr 09, 2017

Alero3Arubi:
Why settle down to establish roots and then marry?
What are you marrying me for again kwa?
To become a trophy?

Alero, u are not asking for too much, but what u are asking for is kind of unrealistic .
U know why? There are some young guys out there who have their own houses built by their sweat and smart planning . I know u want to partake in every bit of his life financially , so u can have a say in life ..or maybe if he bleeps up ? U can remind him , everything UV started up with him. But bae , u can only be a trophy wife , if u have nothing upstairs other than to fucvk and breed babies to a rich or poor guy.
Even if u start all these things with an extremely poor guy? And in between as both of u progresses , u can't even help to sustain such things or even make them grow into an empire , especially if he craves to have an empire ,not just a house but a mansion , not just a mortgage account but various accounts with swiss account join, not just a car but various exotic cars join..
How do u tink he will then feel about u? And if by chance he meets a smarter and wiser babe, who gives him great ideas in his already established career or biz? He may want her for keeps ,as either second wife or mistress. Because her ideas is opening more doors of contracts and financial breakthroughs to higher doors.
While at one side you are at home feelin satisfied ,UV assisted him to get his first and only house .. But babe smell the coffee , not every guy is just content with a house.
Babe ko le werk.. Too myopic.

Try and think towards this way, I need a good man I can work with and add positive vibes and creativity into his existence inshort u need a team player whom u can build foundations that will grow and expand into greatness.
That's what u need ..

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Re: Am I Asking For Too Much? by aiir2303(m): 1:50pm On Apr 09, 2017

Alero3Arubi:
Am not sure I want To marry someone who already built a house.

OK.. Then it's like you want to go in hard.*cool* tho. Hope you know what you're getting into cause it looks to me like you want to do the whole mile when most would actually prefer a head start

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Re: Am I Asking For Too Much? by Nobody: 2:03pm On Apr 09, 2017

aiir2303:
OK.. Then it's like you want to go in hard.*cool* tho. Hope you know what you're getting into cause it looks to me like you want to do the whole mile when most would actually prefer a head start

Head start?
What's head start in this context?

Re: Am I Asking For Too Much? by Nobody: 2:08pm On Apr 09, 2017

alexialin:
Alero, u are not asking for too much, but what u are asking for is kind of unrealistic .
U know why? There are some young guys out there who have their own houses built by their sweat and smart planning . I know u want to partake in every bit of his life financially , so u can have a say in life ..or maybe if he bleeps up ? U can remind him , everything UV started up with him. But bae , u can only be a trophy wife , if u have nothing upstairs other than to fucvk and breed babies to a rich or poor guy.
Even if u start all these things with an extremely poor guy? And in between as both of u progresses , u can't even help to sustain such things or even make them grow into an empire , especially if he craves to have an empire ,not just a house but a mansion , not just a mortgage account but various accounts with swiss account join, not just a car but various exotic cars join..
How do u tink he will then feel about u? And if by chance he meets a smarter and wiser babe, who gives him great ideas in his already established career or biz? He may want her for keeps ,as either second wife or mistress. Because her ideas is opening more doors of contracts and financial breakthroughs to higher doors.
While at one side you are at home feelin satisfied ,UV assisted him to get his first and only house .. But babe smell the coffee , not every guy is just content with a house.
Babe ko le werk.. Too myopic.

Try and think towards this way, I need a good man I can work with and add positive vibes and creativity into his existence inshort u need a team player whom u can build foundations that will grow and expand into greatness.
That's what u need ..

I'm not wanting this so I can rub it in his face much later.
I just want to share those moments with him.
Want to the joy that he experiences when we cross every stage.
And yes I will still keep growing with him.
Don't intend to stay stagnant.
I just want to be his buddy from scratch, ground zero.
I don't know if you get me.
I'm not saying in essence that he mustn't have had a first job and staying in a self contained apartment ooo
But the first flat I want to be with him when he makes that decision.
As for car I am crazy about some specs and reason for needing one so I want to do that with him.
The building matter is that I've worked with construction firms almost all of my earning life and I pretty have some ideas in how best to cut cost and still get good buildings.
Plus I want to plan the house drawings and stages with him.
Am I making sense yet?

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Re: Am I Asking For Too Much? by ibietela2(m): 2:11pm On Apr 09, 2017

Alero3Arubi:
I'm a female in her mid twenties.
I want to settle down but I can't seem to find someone who meets all my requirements.
But I don't want to settle for anything less.
My friends say I am asking for too much.
Here is my list.
1. He must have God.

But that's not the major dilemma.
These are:
I want to do these with my husband.
1. Rent his first flat with him.
2. Open his first mortgage account with him.
3. Build his first house with him.
4. Have his first child with him.
5. Buy his first car with him.
6. Start his first marriage with him.
... Just these
Am I asking for too much?

Where you based?

Re: Am I Asking For Too Much? by ibietela2(m): 2:22pm On Apr 09, 2017

Your list is OK but will you co-operate when you finally find him?

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Re: Am I Asking For Too Much? by aiir2303(m): 2:24pm On Apr 09, 2017

Alero3Arubi:
Head start?
What's head start in this context?

Having everything in place. The house, cars etc

Re: Am I Asking For Too Much? by Tallesty1(m): 2:27pm On Apr 09, 2017

Alero3Arubi:
1. He must have God.

But that's not the major dilemma.
These are:
I want to do these with my husband.
1. Rent his first flat with him.
2. Open his first mortgage account with him.
3. Build his first house with him.
4. Have his first child with him.
5. Buy his first car with him.
6. Start his first marriage with him.
... Just these
Am I asking for too much?

This is crazy.

Rent HIS first flat with him.

Open HIS first account with him.

Build HIS first house with him.

Have HIS first child with him.

Buy HIS first car with him.

Start HIS first marriage with him.

Berbierklaus do you think I am missing something?

Re: Am I Asking For Too Much? by Berbierklaus(f): 2:30pm On Apr 09, 2017

Tallesty1:
This is crazy.

Rent HIS first flat with him.

Open HIS first account with him.

Build HIS first house with him.

Have HIS first child with him.

Buy HIS first car with him.

Start HIS first marriage with him.

Berbierklaus do you think I am missing something?

I'm lost here,trying to grasp what the post is about.

Maybe someone else will help get every other things with him

Re: Am I Asking For Too Much? by Tallesty1(m): 2:34pm On Apr 09, 2017

Berbierklaus:
I'm lost here,trying to grasp what the post is about.

Maybe someone else will help get every other things with him

I don't need a wife with that mindset

Re: Am I Asking For Too Much? by Berbierklaus(f): 2:34pm On Apr 09, 2017

Alero3Arubi:
I'm not wanting this so I can rub it in his face much later.
I just want to share those moments with him.
Want to the joy that he experiences when we cross every stage.
And yes I will still keep growing with him.
Don't intend to stay stagnant.
I just want to be his buddy from scratch, ground zero.
I don't know if you get me.
I'm not saying in essence that he mustn't have had a first job and staying in a self contained apartment ooo
But the first flat I want to be with him when he makes that decision.
As for car I am crazy about some specs and reason for needing one so I want to do that with him.
The building matter is that I've worked with construction firms almost all of my earning life and I pretty have some ideas in how best to cut cost and still get good buildings.
Plus I want to plan the house drawings and stages with him.
Am I making sense yet?

You should have had a boyfriend right from secondary school,that way you both share every thing together grin

Not when you are old for marriage.
If you are so keen with your requirements,you can go for men who are hustling like those doing manual work,and unemployed youths

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Re: Am I Asking For Too Much? by Berbierklaus(f): 2:35pm On Apr 09, 2017

Tallesty1:
I don't need a wife with that mindset

Then don't marry one,that's where clash in beliefs happen

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Re: Am I Asking For Too Much? by Nobody: 2:52pm On Apr 09, 2017

Alero3Arubi:
I'm not wanting this so I can rub it in his face much later.
I just want to share those moments with him.
Want to the joy that he experiences when we cross every stage.
And yes I will still keep growing with him.
Don't intend to stay stagnant.
I just want to be his buddy from scratch, ground zero.
I don't know if you get me.
I'm not saying in essence that he mustn't have had a first job and staying in a self contained apartment ooo
But the first flat I want to be with him when he makes that decision.
As for car I am crazy about some specs and reason for needing one so I want to do that with him.
The building matter is that I've worked with construction firms almost all of my earning life and I pretty have some ideas in how best to cut cost and still get good buildings.
Plus I want to plan the house drawings and stages with him.
Am I making sense yet?

You are making sense .
But u can still be his Buddy , his shadow, his bestie , making his building constructions along with him , cos he wil have other buildings to erect. Even as a comfortable man , u can still add great value in his life. If and only if hes the kind of man who loves companionship and loves to share .
A guy who is comfortable or rich can be exactly all these . likewise a struggling guy..its all about the mentality of the guy .
Example. Guy am dating he's very comfortable and shares everything with me . he's very humble which is rare to find these days .
My dear ,simply open your eyes, your mind and watch carefully the character of the man u end up giving your trust and heart to.
Its very important.
Some men when they are poor or struggling they are so humble and won't hurt a fly but when they are comfortable? Their arrogance will even have so many series join. Even when d wife starts from scratch with them .
While some struggling guys are arrogant even in the poverty but soften ups when money comes .
Watch closely at his character ,Not what he has achieved .. Cos such yardstick can be misleading . am telling u.
Best of luck anyways

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Re: Am I Asking For Too Much? by Nobody: 3:09pm On Apr 09, 2017

alexialin:
You are making sense .
But u can still be his Buddy , his shadow, his bestie , making his building constructions along with him , cos he wil have other buildings to erect. Even as a comfortable man , u can still add great value in his life. If and only if hes the kind of man who loves companionship and loves to share .
A guy who is comfortable or rich can be exactly all these . likewise a struggling guy..its all about the mentality of the guy .
Example. Guy am dating he's very comfortable and shares everything with me . he's very humble which is rare to find these days .
My dear ,simply open your eyes, your mind and watch carefully the character of the man u end up giving your trust and heart to.
Its very important.
Some men when they are poor or struggling they are so humble and won't hurt a fly but when they are comfortable? Their arrogance will even have so many series join. Even when d wife starts from scratch with them .
While some struggling guys are arrogant even in the poverty but soften ups when money comes .
Watch closely at his character ,Not what he has achieved .. Cos such yardstick can be misleading . am telling u.
Best of luck anyways

Thanks.

Re: Am I Asking For Too Much? by Tallesty1(m): 3:09pm On Apr 09, 2017

Berbierklaus:
Then don't marry one,that's where clash in beliefs happen

Lols.

It cannot happen sef because I already own a couple of the things she listed and I am getting the rest before marriage.

That's BTW, my problem with her post isn't that she wants to do all those things with him but with the fact that they will both work to get them and in the end everything will be HIS own instead of THEIR own.

The reason I asked if I am missing something.

Re: Am I Asking For Too Much? by firstking01(m): 3:15pm On Apr 09, 2017

Smellymouth:
No

Your whatsapp number no dey kuku go undecided

Re: Am I Asking For Too Much? by Berbierklaus(f): 3:19pm On Apr 09, 2017

Tallesty1:
Lols.

It cannot happen sef because I already own a couple of the things she listed and I am getting the rest before marriage.

That's BTW, my problem with her post isn't that she wants to do all those things with him but with the fact that they will both work to get them and in the end everything will be HIS own instead of THEIR own.

The reason I asked if I am missing something.

And throw her out when she misbehaves grin

Wo every mallam to his kettle ojae.

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Re: Am I Asking For Too Much? by Smellymouth: 3:21pm On Apr 09, 2017

firstking01:
Your whatsapp number no dey kuku go

I don abandon that line since the days of John the Baptist. grin

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Re: Am I Asking For Too Much? by Bleon99: 3:24pm On Apr 09, 2017

Alero3Arubi:
I'm a female in her mid twenties.
I want to settle down but I can't seem to find someone who meets all my requirements.
But I don't want to settle for anything less.
My friends say I am asking for too much.
Here is my list.
1. He must have God.

But that's not the major dilemma.
These are:
I want to do these with my husband.
1. Rent his first flat with him.
2. Open his first mortgage account with him.
3. Build his first house with him.
4. Have his first child with him.
5. Buy his first car with him.
6. Start his first marriage with him.
... Just these
Am I asking for too much?

this thief is completely confused. guess what? you aren't raised with a silver spoon grin

rather a plastic spoon. seriously you ain't making any sense

Re: Am I Asking For Too Much? by dilini(m): 3:29pm On Apr 09, 2017

Alero3Arubi:
I'm a female in her mid twenties.
I want to settle down but I can't seem to find someone who meets all my requirements.
But I don't want to settle for anything less.
My friends say I am asking for too much.
Here is my list.
1. He must have God.

But that's not the major dilemma.
These are:
I want to do these with my husband.
1. Rent his first flat with him.
2. Open his first mortgage account with him.
3. Build his first house with him.
4. Have his first child with him.
5. Buy his first car with him.
6. Start his first marriage with him.
... Just these
Am I asking for too much?

Let's see if I fit in...

1. I don't live in a flat yet though I have been in a 2bedroom apartment with my christian mother growing up but I live alone now
2. I don't have a mortgage account but I don't want to be paying rent after getting to 50yrs
3. I have always want to have my own house built and be living in with my small family (with wife and kids)
4. I am yet unmarried, still single and don't have a child yet
5. I don't own a car yet, it has always been my desire to own an SUV (Siena Latest model)
6. Looking for to my first marriage with you (if we could make it possible @OP)

Whatsapp - zero eight one zero one zero three zero six six nine..

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Re: Am I Asking For Too Much? by firstking01(m): 3:29pm On Apr 09, 2017

Smellymouth:
I don abandon that line since the days of John the Baptist.

The way you dey quote this our bible and their authors eh, one will begin to think weather you really be muslim grin

...Atimes you just leave my curiousity hanging....i sure say you dey once in a while enter church for delta state there tongue

Re: Am I Asking For Too Much? by dilini(m): 3:34pm On Apr 09, 2017

Alero3Arubi:
I'm a female in her mid twenties.
I want to settle down but I can't seem to find someone who meets all my requirements.
But I don't want to settle for anything less.
My friends say I am asking for too much.
Here is my list.
1. He must have God.

But that's not the major dilemma.
These are:
I want to do these with my husband.
1. Rent his first flat with him.
2. Open his first mortgage account with him.
3. Build his first house with him.
4. Have his first child with him.
5. Buy his first car with him.
6. Start his first marriage with him.
... Just these
Am I asking for too much?

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Re: Am I Asking For Too Much? by Smellymouth: 3:38pm On Apr 09, 2017

firstking01:
The way you dey quote this our bible and their authors eh, one will begin to think weather you really be muslim...Atimes you just leave my curiousity hanging....i sure say you dey once in a while enter church for delta state there

Hian! Everybody knows John the Baptist na . cheesy

As a kid, my mum forced me to attend Sunday school every Sunday.. I abandoned the whole thing abeg.. cheesy

Re: Am I Asking For Too Much? by Nobody: 3:45pm On Apr 09, 2017

Alero3Arubi:
Thanks.

Your welcome

Re: Am I Asking For Too Much? by Nobody: 3:59pm On Apr 09, 2017

Alero3Arubi:
Am not sure I want To marry someone who already built a house.

Why? What's the significance?

Re: Am I Asking For Too Much? by enshi(m): 4:03pm On Apr 09, 2017

Alero3Arubi:
I'm a female in her mid twenties.
I want to settle down but I can't seem to find someone who meets all my requirements.
But I don't want to settle for anything less.
My friends say I am asking for too much.
Here is my list.
1. He must have God.

But that's not the major dilemma.
These are:
I want to do these with my husband.
1. Rent his first flat with him.
2. Open his first mortgage account with him.
3. Build his first house with him.
4. Have his first child with him.
5. Buy his first car with him.
6. Start his first marriage with him.
... Just these
Am I asking for too much?

Am just a pm away...

Re: Am I Asking For Too Much? by firstking01(m): 4:05pm On Apr 09, 2017

Smellymouth:
Hian! Everybody knows John the Baptist na .

As a kid, my mum forced me to attend Sunday school every Sunday.. I abandoned the whole thing abeg..

Sunday school you say shocked

...there's something you are not telling me...kuku finish the story grin

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