GoldHorse:


Please who go confirm the brazier and the pants size?

An adage in my dialect say "U cannot use ur money to buy wind & complain dat u ain't feeling dizzy"
Off course na pörzin wey buy d brazier & pants go do d confirmatory test

hollowway44:
This can't be real o...
The one cup of groundnut cracked me up

After marriage if the man begin maltreat their daughter now dey will say I didn't sell her o..

Your sorry ass will just get divorced and u can start again, till u receive sense.

A wife beater is a wife beater. An abuser is an abuser. There are no excuses.

saccie1162:
Just impregnate the girl and they will give you for free.. This is 9ja we can always bend the rules..

only we de Yoruba's do that, Igbo's dont

jonhemma11:
I don't know how true is this but cccording Vicky,here are the marriage lists in Ubima Community in Ikwerre LGA.


Source: http://www.trezzyhelm.com/2017/04/check-out-list-of-things-required-for.html

in my own opinion, mist gja girls don't worth even a penny of this with d way they HV now turned their God giving treasure to good for sale. instead they are supposed to b d one who should pay to appreciate d man for wanting to accommodate her inspire of all

bannykel:

only we de Yoruba's do that, Igbo's dont

How did u know dat? lollz! Nobody will even reply him, na laugh we just dey laugh am with his crayfish brain, thinking he has sense.

Only very few people know dat if u impregnate an igbo man daughter and u dont go to marry her, he will confiscate the child and give the child his family name.

Atiku2019:
Marry a Kanuri

Are you Kanuri?

TonyeBarcanista:
Are you Kanuri?

how do u see the list?

FemiFimile:

how do u see the list?

Its negotiable man but ridiculous....

TonyeBarcanista:
Its negotiable man but ridiculous....

e never reach time to scrap this thing completely?

FemiFimile:


e never reach time to scrap this thing completely?

Absolutely negative.... It can only be modified

TonyeBarcanista:
Absolutely negative.... It can only be modified

wat is negative about scraping extortion? Modified in wat sense?

FemiFimile:


wat is negative about scraping extortion? Modified in wat sense?

no igbo family will agree to pay for u to marry their daughter. Dey did not agree such for their fellow igbo, it is Afonja dey will agree? It is either u save for ur wedding or prepare to face the machete wielding community youths.

TonyeBarcanista:
Absolutely negative.... It can only be modified

No modification, we are looking forward to child support, alimony and divorce settlement. Let us separate the boyz from the men.

FemiFimile:


wat is negative about scraping extortion? Modified in wat sense?

Bride price/Dowry is the ways of our ancestors... a tradition that defines us....


Modified in sense of making the items less exploitative with the mindset of fulfilling traditional requirements instead of making fortunes.

unstableaswater:




The problem is not the list but ur mentality.

If in yoruba land, the woman parents foot the bill for marriage, in igboland, u are expected to foot the bill for ur wedding and not the bride or her parents.

This culture shock is y we advice people to marry from within their tribe.

In the North they will flog u to prove that u are man enough for marriage.

Marriage cultures are customary and recognised by the constitution. Many culture around the world practice bride price, even they will ask for a certain number of cows.

If any culture is strange here, it is the yoruba culture that forces the bride and her parents to foot the bill becos of menopause.

Guy we don't do that in Yoruba culture. My sis married and her hubby foot the bills, they had their budget carefully drawn by both of them and presented it what we do is assist and as parents you can't just sit and fold hands, they also support their daughter for the best, they had an amount to rent hall as stated in the budget, my dad got them better hall and others. it's a thing of joy bro. You want them to collect loans and start paying crazy debts after wedding which will affect them both, why can't the bride parents handle guests coming around b4 d exact day of the wedding instead of asking for 20 loafs of bread, 1 basket of ground peper, 1 big family size bed, etc. haba

unstableaswater:




The problem is not the list but ur mentality.

If in yoruba land, the woman parents foot the bill for marriage, in igboland, u are expected to foot the bill for ur wedding and not the bride or her parents.

This culture shock is y we advice people to marry from within their tribe.

In the North they will flog u to prove that u are man enough for marriage.

Marriage cultures are customary and recognised by the constitution. Many culture around the world practice bride price, even they will ask for a certain number of cows.

If any culture is strange here, it is the yoruba culture that forces the bride and her parents to foot the bill becos of menopause.

Guy we don't do that in Yoruba culture. My sis married and her hubby foot the bills, they had their budget carefully drawn by both of them and presented it what we do is assist and as parents you can't just sit and fold hands, they also support their daughter for the best, they had an amount to rent hall as stated in the budget, my dad got them better hall and others. it's a thing of joy bro. You want them to collect loans and start paying crazy debts after wedding which will affect them both, why can't the bride parents handle guests coming around b4 d exact day of the wedding instead of asking for 20 loafs of bread, 1 basket of ground peper, 1 big family size bed, etc. haba

unstableaswater:


That is y I say it is ur mentality that is the problem, let me ask u as a yoruba man, if u respect and value that yoruba woman u got free?

No other tribe in Nigeria insults their women like yoruba men.

No other group of men in Nigeria are desperate to marry from outside their tribe like yoruba men, yet the marriage is free.

Yorubas need to introduce bride price as a matter of urgency.

brother take it easy with this obsession with d yorubas..av seen u on many threads ....not every moniker on NL depicts a Yoruba indigene

TonyeBarcanista:
Bride price/Dowry is the ways of our ancestors... a tradition that defines us....


Modified in sense of making the items less exploitative with the mindset of fulfilling traditional requirements instead of making fortunes.

so u are one of dem? u disappoint me.

unstableaswater:


no igbo family will agree to pay for u to marry their daughter. Dey did not agree such for their fellow igbo, it is Afonja dey will agree? It is either u save for ur wedding or prepare to face the machete wielding community youths.

who want 2 marry flat head before?

Bt shey if I use d wife do ritual stuff....just for money alone.....hope u won't shout @ me....and hope they won't arrest me.....just because of what I've paid!

FemiFimile:


so u are one of dem? u disappoint me.

i am an Ijawman not an American or Briton.

The Ubima people are clearly jokers. Rather than provide anything in that list, I'd rather marry a Caribbean lady.

N2,000 to 'open' the mother's mouth? Why don't they take her to an ENT doctor?

How about brazzier for the women? Make dem go shop for Victoria Secret.

Nonsense.

FemiFimile:


who want 2 marry flat head before?

First scrap babaloja and mamaloja from yoruba culture. It is unfair to sit at home everyday and then go to the market to collect money from traders that work very hard everyday under the sun and rain, that is wat i call extortion. In Italy u did have to be a Mafia member to do dat.

Footing the bill for ur wedding is not extortion,who did u expect to pay the expenses or will the community not eat, drink and make merry? Get off ur ass and work, babaloja!

FemiFimile:

who want 2 marry flat head before?

your people!

TonyeBarcanista:
Bride price/Dowry is the ways of our ancestors... a tradition that defines us....


Modified in sense of making the items less exploitative with the mindset of fulfilling traditional requirements instead of making fortunes.

collecting bride price isn't bad but making the whole thing outrageous like you also stated is the issue. so no bed at home, na floor dem dey sleep b4 dem pikin bring man come house? This issue make their daughters fall into the wrong hands when the real guy they love can't afford the list and their getting older and the uneducated ones are the ones hammering on that crazy list.

larrypourl:


collecting bride price isn't bad but making the whole thing outrageous like you also stated is the issue. so no bed at home, na floor dem dey sleep b4 dem pikin bring man come house? This issue make their daughters fall into the wrong hands when the real guy they love can't afford the list and their getting older and the uneducated ones are the ones hammering on that crazy list.

As Abagworo stated earlier, people they marry every day for Ubima. Stop the excuses!

As TonyeBarcanista also stated, the list is negotiable. It is done with laughter, pepper soup and Guinness or wateva u drink.

Dont worry wen u born ur own daughter, u fit throw her out to homeless and jobless men to marry, no need for wedding.

unstableaswater:


As Agbaworo stated earlier, people they marry every day for Ubima. Stop the excuses!

As TonyeBarcanista also stated, the list is negotiable. It is done with laughter, pepper soup and Guinness or wateva u drink.

Dont worry wen u born ur own daughter, u fit throw her out to homeless and jobless men to marry, no need for wedding.

You were becoming reasonable until you got to your last paragraph. I'm never gonna reply you again since you can't converse without bin aggressive. Safe bro.

larrypourl:


collecting bride price isn't bad but making the whole thing outrageous like you also stated is the issue. so no bed at home, na floor dem dey sleep b4 dem pikin bring man come house? This issue make their daughters fall into the wrong hands when the real guy they love can't afford the list and their getting older and the uneducated ones are the ones hammering on that crazy list.

Just like a poster opined, it is negotiable. If it wasn't the poor and low earners won't be getting married in our communities and villages.

larrypourl:


You were becoming reasonable until you got to your last paragraph. I'm never gonna reply you again since you can't converse without bin aggressive. Safe bro.

Really! Go through this thread and see the type of lies ur type have been spilling all over the thread. Just a little rebuttal and u are already crying.

It was always going to be an uphill struggle trying to interfere and alter other people establish customs and tradition.

It is even more difficult wen ur own yoruba culture practice Italian Mafia style of extortion and u have not condemned it.

Mr Babaloja or is it Mamaloja?

And they say marriage is most expensive in Imo state

Kaymaxine:
GLAD I MARRIED YORUBA
na prostration i use open ma own mama-in-law mouth o

Lol wat do u mean

unstableaswater:


Really! Go through this thread and see the type of lies ur type have been spilling all over the thread. Just a little rebuttal and u are already crying.

It was always going to be an uphill struggle trying to interfere and alter other people establish customs and tradition.

It is even more difficult wen ur own yoruba culture practice Italian Mafia style of extortion and u have not condemned it.

Mr Babaloja or is it Mamaloja?

Dont mind them... wen u pay them back on their own coin they will start crying

southniyikaye:
if peradventure I pay and buy everything on that list,then they have no right whatsoever on their daughter again. I can do and undo when it comes to their daughter. Infact, they should stop calling her their daughter cos she is my property already

Own ko, creator ní! If na so to get property cheap, why you never buy plots of land for Banana Island. Na full human being you want buy completely for less than 1 million Nara. Na by force to marry? If your hand no reach waka go front na. You y shoe get him size go front and find ya size.It she saves money or hits it big in future and supports you to start a business or in some other need with money bigger than what you spent on her bride price, does that mean she has bought you like her property and she can now do and undo and also force you to answer her father's name? Stingo the race course horse!