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greatgod2012:
Sorry in advance bro, because I'm going to be blunt, very blunt!


Since you don't know what you want and how to go about what you want in relationships, I will say, for now, you don't need any girl.........., what you actually need now is some "growing-up"! Maybe, with a bit more grow-up, you'll know what exactly you want in a relationship and how to go about it!


Best of luck, dear!

Michellla:
What i can deduce from this post is that you're confused and don't know what you want.

Juliearth:
Gbam!! Selfish and self-centred too.

alizma:
I pray you never get that girl back because you don't deserve her.
had your mum not reject the other girl would you have remember she went through a lot for you while you were still a student and broke? would you have remember she was the one who really know who you are(because she is the one who can really tell your story)?
you are looking for her now not because you love her neither is it because you truly know her value nor appreciate her love but because your mum wants her and not any other person. I am very sure if you ever get to marry her, you will cheat on her.
guys, babes never dump your partner without concrete need for that.

Edemaya:
You are a confused man, thereby confused us with your stories. You know what? You don't know what you want! Simple

You left a relationship of 3.5 years because you found a new girl, now ur mother doesn't like the new girl, reason you want to go back to the former.

You don't actually deserve your ex. In between, how old are u?

pablo69:
i had a piece of cake,it was nice, nutricious and tasty.my friend told me the other cake i bought but returned is better so i imediately threw the one i already had with the intention of re buying the other i intended to buy. I stupidly never thought of holding the one i had and then going back to check if the other one has not been purchased by someone else. Now rate this stupidity mr op.

davidif:
Abi o. The selfishness of that post is astounding. It's as if the poster does not even have empathy or the self awareness to even realize how selfish he actually sounds right now.

Daniyemi:
Hi everyone!
So the other day I posted the dilemma I was in and thankfully some of you gave me matured advice. Here is the link to the thread : https://www.nairaland.com/3697979/love-two-girls-wants-one.

I was In love with two ladies and wanted to pick one. I eventually settled with one.


The problem is the lady I picked I took her home to show my mum and she was super shocked. (She is unaware that I and my ex had parted ways.) She rebuked me strongly and warned me not to think of bringing any girl to the house to show her if not my ex. (I understand she really like my ex).
She didn't even give any reason for rejecting the girl I brought she just didn't want to even hear us out.

I had to allow the girl go in peace. Thankfully we had not gone far in the relationship. Not like I don't love her. But I think I love my ex more. Poor me right? (Currently single).

The big problem here is my ex doesn't even talk to me, she doesn't pick my calls. If only she would come back I'd ensure that the mistakes I did that led to the breakup in the first place won't arise again (we dated for three years). She went through a lot with me when I was still a student and broke. I am comfortable and I wanna reward her.

My question now is was I right to let the girl go on account that my ex has the love of my mum? (I love her too still) The girl I introduced to my mum was always complaining of my attitude to the relationship anyway. (She was always complaining of how I don't ever stop talking about my ex).

Has anyone broken up with his/her ex and reconciled a second time with the relationship strong like it was before? If peradventure she has a boyfriend what are my chances of succeeding considering the fact that we dated for long.(more than 3 and a half years.

Should I try harder in convincing my mum to accept the girl?

Love is really complicated. I feel like just being alone forever.


Insults are welcomed as usual.

Mutuwa:


Life is too short to leave the comfort of your life in the hands of one woman..I can't envisage my parents in this era predicting or arranging who I should marry.

If you still love your ex and want her back,go get her,but if you want her just to rekindle things with your mom,then you are in trouble..

We shouldn't disrespect parents,but try to make them understand that it is we that know best the part of our body that itche.

You will have to live up with what you marry whether sweet,sour,bitter or tasteless.

alizma:
I pray you never get that girl back because you don't deserve her.
had your mum not reject the other girl would you have remember she went through a lot for you while you were still a student and broke? would you have remember she was the one who really know who you are(because she is the one who can really tell your story)?
you are looking for her now not because you love her neither is it because you truly know her value nor appreciate her love but because your mum wants her and not any other person. I am very sure if you ever get to marry her, you will cheat on her.
guys, babes never dump your partner without concrete need for that.

alizma:
I pray you never get that girl back because you don't deserve her.
had your mum not reject the other girl would you have remember she went through a lot for you while you were still a student and broke? would you have remember she was the one who really know who you are(because she is the one who can really tell your story)?
you are looking for her now not because you love her neither is it because you truly know her value nor appreciate her love but because your mum wants her and not any other person. I am very sure if you ever get to marry her, you will cheat on her.
guys, babes never dump your partner without concrete need for that.

crystalclear93:
You don't need to be a puppet..what do you truly want? This you should do its your life not your mom's and definitely not we you're asking for advice.

crystalclear93:
You don't need to be a puppet..what do you truly want? This you should do its your life not your mom's and definitely not we you're asking for advice.

Juliearth:
100 percent

ztanleechima:
So we can't ask girls... HAVE U EATEN? In Nigeria
again?
Me: Have you eaten?
Girl: Nope.. I am broke.. Don't even have food
stuff.. Right now.. I Borrowed my friend's phone
to chat with u.. No money to fix my phone.. N my school fee sef. I used It To do a business and they
cheated me.. I don't know how to get the money
back.. All my friends that I trust.. Disappointed
me.. And my body is doing me somehow.. I hate
sickness. Especially when I am broke.. And my
landlord is on my neck.. But I have raise half of my rent.. Still looking for who will help me with
half.. I hate this life.. N I don't want to disturb my
parents.. For money.. I know we not too close and
I don't want to look like I am a beggar but I really
need help now.. Anything u can send.. Will send
my account number to u now.. Or I can come for the weekend if u send t.p
Me: Chai.. Babe.. I just ask if u don chop o.. I
didn't ask what the problem of your generation
is.... No vex.. NA ME LOOK FOR TROUBLE

uruba23:
I had to pause and read your statement again,kindly tell us why you broke up with your ex,don't tell me you developed some funny feeling for the second one.Your mum might just be seeing what elders see that children don't see,even though I am not in support of her making choices for you,but you ma have said you still love your ex.Well go look for her,but be very very sure you really love her,if you know you are not compatible don't allow any sentiment affect your thought,don't get unnecessary emotional. Infact seek Baba Gods opinion shikena

greatgod2012:
Sorry in advance bro, because I'm going to be blunt, very blunt!


Since you don't know what you want and how to go about what you want in relationships, I will say, for now, you don't need any girl.........., what you actually need now is some "growing-up"! Maybe, with a bit more grow-up, you'll know what exactly you want in a relationship and how to go about it!


Best of luck, dear!

lilfreezy:

Daniyemi:
Hi everyone!
So the other day I posted the dilemma I was in and thankfully some of you gave me matured advice. Here is the link to the thread : https://www.nairaland.com/3697979/love-two-girls-wants-one.

I was In love with two ladies and wanted to pick one. I eventually settled with one.


The problem is the lady I picked I took her home to show my mum and she was super shocked. (She is unaware that I and my ex had parted ways.) She rebuked me strongly and warned me not to think of bringing any girl to the house to show her if not my ex. (I understand she really like my ex).
She didn't even give any reason for rejecting the girl I brought she just didn't want to even hear us out.

I had to allow the girl go in peace. Thankfully we had not gone far in the relationship. Not like I don't love her. But I think I love my ex more. Poor me right? (Currently single).

The big problem here is my ex doesn't even talk to me, she doesn't pick my calls. If only she would come back I'd ensure that the mistakes I did that led to the breakup in the first place won't arise again (we dated for three years). She went through a lot with me when I was still a student and broke. I am comfortable and I wanna reward her.

My question now is was I right to let the girl go on account that my ex has the love of my mum? (I love her too still) The girl I introduced to my mum was always complaining of my attitude to the relationship anyway. (She was always complaining of how I don't ever stop talking about my ex).

Has anyone broken up with his/her ex and reconciled a second time with the relationship strong like it was before? If peradventure she has a boyfriend what are my chances of succeeding considering the fact that we dated for long.(more than 3 and a half years.

Should I try harder in convincing my mum to accept the girl?

Love is really complicated. I feel like just being alone forever.


Insults are welcomed as usual.